Student Workbook PDF
Student Workbook PDF
Student Workbook PDF
Rev. 06/09/2011
An Emotional Intelligence (EQ) course to develop your ability to Identify, understand and more effectively
work with negative and challenging people and their behaviours.
You can use non-business situations just as valuably as those with a business context. At this
time, only answer the question of how often you find yourself performing that behavior in the
“Pre” column. Use the following scale of 1-7.
1 2 3 4 5 6 7
Never Sometimes Always
Question Pre Post
1 How often do you find yourself focused on your agenda rather than that of others?
How often should you be focused on your agenda rather than that of others?
3 How often do you specifically try to access new ideas and thoughts from others?
How often should you specifically try to access new ideas and thoughts from others?
4 How often do you look for the signs of buy-in to a new initiative?
How often should you look for the signs of buy-in to a new initiative?
How often should you direct others towards goal directed work?
9 How often do you remain calm when presented with different points of view?
How often should you remain calm when presented with different points of view?
10 How often do you advance the attitude of dealing with others as equals?
How often should you advance the attitude of dealing with others as equals?
Between communication and the results we achieve is an invisible social system. This
system is very complex and your emotional intelligence (EQ) guides you. Your EQ allows
you through intuition to not think about this social system. The goal of this program is
to get you to think more about the social system to further develop your EQ.
A higher emotional intelligence is associated with your ability to handle your automatic
response (putting your own emotions aside or knowingly using them) and to use your
understanding of other people‟s emotions to achieve better results.
• Wherever you see this icon, write down your thoughts and emotions as you use
vLeader
• Wherever you see this icon, make sure you have emailed your coach with real
world reflections
• Use the workbook as a guide to efficiently use your time and optimize your
learning. The help icon will give you tips to accomplishing your goal.
Using this workbook is an important way for you to reflect upon what you are doing.
For anybody taking this course for credit or a certificate of completion, you must
complete this workbook.
This learning is not designed to be incremental; if you are unsure what you are
learning, ask your instructor or coach@simulearn.net.
Self–paced Introduction
Install vLeader
• Make sure your computer meets the minimum requirements: Windows XP, Vista
or 7.
• Select the option “Install vLeader” and follow the on screen prompts. The
installation will take approximately 5 minutes
Need technical help? Go to:
• http://www.simulearn.net/LeadershipSupport/supportfaq.html
• Or e-mail your questions to www.simulearn.net/hesk20
Click on the “Launch vLeader” icon on your desktop and review the “Leadership
Fundamentals” section. This exercise will take approximately 20 minutes
Put on headphones, if appropriate
Installed vLeader
Read the articles “The New Core of Leadership” and
“Using Leadership to Implement Leadership”
Watched the vLeader Orientation Video
A Communication Framework
Let‟s start by looking at how we communicate. In the real world there are many ways to
express ourselves and we have a lot of the control (higher EQ means more control).
Communication can always be represented as a level of support or opposition towards
people and ideas. Leadership involves the skill of knowing how and when to
communicate in order to get the best results.
Idea
Look at the following quotations and circle the area on either the personal or idea
opinion bar which best describes the opinion used.
Personal Idea
Keep going you’re on a roll
How could this pragmatic way of thinking about communication help you in real life?
Reflection
In your real world, when have you “red-clicked” a person in the last week? Who was the
person, and what was the situation? What was the impact on your power (influence and
popularity), tension, ideas and work?
In your real world, when have you “green-clicked” a person in the last week? Who was
the person, and what was the situation? What was the impact on your power (influence
and popularity), tension, ideas and work?
In your real world, when have you “red-clicked” an idea in the last week? What was the
idea, and what was the situation? What was the impact on your power (influence and
popularity), tension, ideas and work?
In your real world, when have you “green-clicked” an idea in the last week? What was
the idea, and what was the situation? What was the impact on your power (influence and
popularity), tension, ideas and work?
In your real world, when have you chosen to be silent in the last week? Why? What was
the impact on your power (influence and popularity), tension, ideas and work?
The dialog in vLeader may not be realistic for your style of communication. It is meant to focus you
on the fact that how you communicate impacts a social system which impacts what results we get.
Practice exploring and using this framework to develop experience rapidly.
Idea
Why do you need to adjust tension?
Given the % of your dialog turns for Scenario One, were you passive, active, or
dominating? Check your style below:
Passive/Delegating (less than 30%)
Active/Participative (30% to 65%)
Dominating/Directive ( greater than 65%)
What do you think these two scores convey about your leadership style during this play?
To help self-diagnose your performance after each scenario and to better understand the
feedback screens, view
• http://www.simulearn.net/metrics.html
What challenging or negative behaviors did you see in this scenario and
how did you deal with them?
Do you know anyone like Oli in your workplace? What motivates or de-motivates this type
of person? What can you try differently when interacting with your real-world “Oli”? How
can you lower tension, build rapport, increase your influence in this type of situation?
Have you ever felt like “Oli?” How could you have changed your own behavior?
What Kind of Leadership Style Did You Use in Scenario One?
Team Coffee
Get Nortic Cards Computer Set Up Do Filing Today Look for Apartment Finish Meeting
Break
Financial
+20 +25 -15 0 -10
Performance
Customer +20
+25 +10 +5 -5
Satisfaction
How does the social system impact getting the best business results? How do the business
results impact the social system?
You need a Total Score of 70 or higher, with a You need a Business Results Score of 90 or
scenario length (in dialog turns) between 40 and Higher
70, and where your dialog percentage is between
30 to 80%.
You need a Total Score of 90+ in Advance mode, with a scenario length (in dialog
turns) less than 80, and where your dialog percentage is 40% or less.
How many times did you play this scenario in PRACTICE and ADVANCE modes?
If less than 8, practice a few more times.
Given the % of your dialog turns for Scenario Two, were you passive, active, or
dominating?
Passive/Delegating (less than 30%)
Active/Participative (31% to 65%)
Dominating/Directive (greater than 65%)
What do you think these two scores convey about your leadership style during this play?
To help self-diagnose your performance after each scenario, review this link:
• http://www.simulearn.net/metrics.html
Your Goal – to monitor, direct and influence the conversation and improve the
outcome.
Fix Environment
Use Automation
Raise Retention
Crisis Looming
Finish Meeting
Coffee Shop
Fix Morale
to 65%
Financial +15 +5 -5 +15 -5 +15
-5
Performance
Customer 0 0
+15 -5 -10 0 +25
Satisfaction
Employee
+10 0 -5 +10 +5 +10 -10
Morale
Incompatible Ideas
Supported by?
Non-Verbal
Verbal
Body Language
You need a Total Score of 60 or higher, with a You Need a Business Results Score of 90 or
scenario length (in dialog turns) between 50 and Higher
75, and where your dialog percentage is between
30 to 65%
You need a Total Score of 90+ in Advance mode, with less than 80 dialog turns, and
where your dialog percentage is 40% or less. HINT: You might want to use non-
verbal communications to help you (see bottom of page 20).
How many times did you play this scenario in PRACTICE and ADVANCE modes?
If less than 8, practice a few more times.
Support “Crisis Looming” idea only when Oli and Rosa are not in conflict
Build influence and the group’s opinion and then strongly introduce
“Raise Retention to 65%”
However:
Real scenarios do include the opinions, behaviors, agendas and strategies in vLeader
Real characters are affected by the ideas and people involved in the discussion
Real conversations are supporting, opposing, and neutral comments towards people and ideas
negative positive
You will learn to rise above the specifics of the conversation, whether it be verbal or written, and recognize what ideas
are being discussed, what opinion each person has of the ideas and each other. The more you focus on reactions,
interactions, and behaviors, the more strategically and effectively you will be thinking.
Mission
What was the most important idea(s) to pass in this scenario?
What trade-offs did you have to make to get that idea passed?
Awareness
What is the relationship like between Oli and Rosa?
What effect does that have on the most important idea(s) you identified above?
Execution
If you have not completed four of the Scenario Two goals, play this scenario at least once more to
effectively execute this strategic approach to Scenario Two. Use the PAUSE button frequently to give
yourself time to assess the best place to click to execute that strategy.
Helpful Hint – if the virtual meeting feels confrontational or a struggle to keep on task (constantly
switching ideas and trying to finish the meeting) something is out of alignment with Power, Tension,
Ideas or Work strategies. Try a different approach to optimize your personal influence, the group‟s
opinion of you, generate new ideas and moderate tension levels to lead others to the Best Results.
What have you discovered about the style of leadership you most often
use?
Given the total number of dialog turns, was it a short or long scenario?
Short Scenario (less than 40 turns)
Medium Scenario (41 to 70 turns)
Long Scenario (71+ turns)
Given the % of your dialog turns for Scenario Three, were you passive, active, or
dominating?
Passive/Delegating (0% to 30%)
Active/Participative (31% to 70%)
Dominating/Directive (greater than 70%)
What do you think these two scores convey about your leadership style during this play?
Remember that you are no longer the person with the highest authority. How
does this affect how you interact? How should it affect you when you interact?
Alan
Herman
Will
You / Corey
Rosa
Oli
Complete the following idea sheet to determine which ideas are best for Business
Results (plan your work)
To help self-diagnose your performance after each scenario, review this link:
• http://www.simulearn.net/metrics.html
Call
Rosa on Minutes on Cut Will's Sales Finish
Center Go to Party
Sales Call Website Expenses Retreat Meeting
Work
Financial
+20 +5 +5 0 +5 -10
Performance
Customer
+30 +10 -5 0 -5 +5
Satisfaction
Employee
Morale +20 +15 -10 +5 -10 +10
Complete Idea?
Y/N
Incompatible Ideas
Supported by
which Characters?
You need a Total Score of 60 or higher, with a You need a Business Results Score of 90 or
scenario length (in dialog turns) between 50 and Higher
75, and where your dialog percentage is between
30 to 65%
You need a Total Score of 90+ in Advance mode, with a scenario length (in dialog
turns) less than 80, and where your dialog percentage is 40% or less.
How many times did you play this scenario in PRACTICE and ADVANCE modes?
If less than 8, practice a few more times.
vLeader Tips
Use the right mouse button instead of the left mouse button to introduce an idea, and you
will introduce it “negatively,” bringing it up without investing your personal influence
Remember that your business score is impacted only by the ideas completely passed
What challenging behaviors did you see in this scenario? How did you
effectively deal with them?
Write in the space below observations about what does and does not work in this scenario
for discussion with your group:
Mission:
What was the most important idea(s) to pass in this scenario?
What trade-offs did you have to make to get that idea passed?
Awareness
Who has formal authority in this scenario?
Execution
Play this scenario at least one more time to effectively execute this strategic approach to Scenario
Three. Use the PAUSE button frequently to give yourself time to assess the best place to click to
execute that strategy
Complete the following idea sheet to determine which ideas are best for Business
Results
Keep HR Policies
Networks
Eliminate Vendor
Combine Sales
Senior Meeting
Finish Meeting
Consolidate IT
Keep Vendors
Financial
Performance +20 +10 +10 +5 -5 -5 -5 -10
Customer
Satisfaction -5 0 +10 -5 +15 0 +20 0
Employee Morale
-5 -10 +15 -5 +15 +10 0 +10
Complete Idea?
Y/N Yes
Incompatible
Ideas
Supported by?
You need a Business Results Score of 90 or You need a Total Score of 90 or higher
higher without the conversation (use less than immediately after a previous Business Results
40% of dialog turns) Score of 90 or higher
How many times did you play this scenario in PRACTICE and ADVANCE modes?
If less than 6, practice more.
Tactics: Introduce and support “Consolidate IT” and “More Client Contact”. Write down as
many different places you can click to execute this
Tactics: Support Herman and Will when they are tense by clicking in their green zone
Write down as many different places you can click to execute this.
Tactic: Do not let either “Senior Meeting” or “Fire Nortic Vendors” pass. Write down as
many different paces you can click to execute this.
What challenging behaviors did you witness in this scenario? How did
you deal with them?
You are now ready for the next webinar or class discussion.
Complete the following idea sheet to determine which ideas are best for Business
Results
Downplay to Press
Move to States
Finish Meeting
Best Product
Best Service
Do Nothing
Customer
-10 +10 +15 -10 +5 +5 +25 +25 +20
Satisfaction
Incompatible
Ideas
Supported by?
You need to get all of the ideas on the table Complete the scenario within 85 total dialog turns
How many times did you play this scenario in PRACTICE and ADVANCE modes?
If less than 8, practice more.
The last scenario is mostly about bringing the group together and lowering tension to help
the group generate new ideas. Forcing the discussion of “Do Nothing” can lower the
group‟s tension considerably, but do not let it be completed. Everyone in the room will be
annoyed at you for focusing on it, but part of being a leader is doing the right thing, even
when it is unpopular.
Try using the right click on the idea of "Do Nothing" to introduce it negatively
Do not introduce any „revealed‟ ideas until all ideas are „revealed‟ to you
Consider whether you need power (influence and alignment) in this scenario
Perhaps they were immobilized by high stress or fear; perhaps they were unable to
generate new ideas; perhaps people were more worried about keeping the blame from
themselves
Describe what you have done across the entire vLeader program
What have you learned about styles, power (personal influence, group‟s opinion)
tension, ideas, the right work, and balanced business results? Did you play the
same situations from different approaches? Did you apply a communication
framework of supporting and opposing people and ideas? Did you learn about
and respond to how your communication affects the social system? Did you apply
a thought process around business results?
Are you now ready to try using what you have been practicing in the simulator in
your real world situations?