Facing Your Fears: Approaching People

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Carolyn Chandler is User Experience Director at Eight Bit Studios and the co-
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When working on a project, have you ever felt that you and the rest of
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not unusual — especially in complex projects or with brand new
products. Phrases like “We think people will use this feature because
of X” or “We believe user group Y will switch to this product” become
part of the early deliberation on what to develop and how to prioritize.
When working on a project, have you ever felt that you and the
rest of the team were making a lot of decisions based on
assumptions? Having to make choices with limited
information is not unusual — especially in complex projects or
with brand new products.

Phrases like “We think people will use this feature because of X” or
“We believe user group Y will switch to this product” become part of
the early deliberation on what to develop and how to prioritize. At
some point, though, these phrases start to feel like pure guesses and
the ground under your feet feels shaky. What can you do about it?

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help your whole team build a solid foundation for product strategy
and design: that is, approaching potential users for research, such as
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Such research is an important aspect of user-centered design. It
helps you build products that are rooted in a deep understanding of
the target audience. Among other benefits, interviewing potential
users helps you achieve the following:
 more precisely define who the target audience is (and isn’t),
 face and challenge your assumptions,
 uncover unmet needs,
 discover the behaviors and attitudes of potential users firsthand.
You can conduct informal yet valuable user research yourself with
practice and with guidance from great sources like Steve
Portigal’s Interviewing Users and Steve Krug’s Rocket Surgery Made
Easy. One thing that stops a lot of people from trying their hand at
research isn’t just lack of experience, but a fear of approaching
people and asking for their time. This obstacle is greater than many
would care to admit.

The Difficulty Of “Face To Face” #

I was teaching an experience design class in high school when it really
hit me. Students were engaged in the design process until they were
told that they had to request interviews from strangers. The anxiety
levels went through the roof! A look of shock covered their faces.
Shortly after, two of the students asked to receive a failing grade on
the activity rather than have to face strangers (a request that was not
granted)!

This was no longer a case of time, opportunities, resources or

priorities. The interviews were a part of the class and were considered
essential. The students were presented with a clear set of expectations,
provided with aid in planning and writing questions, and taken to the
location (a college) to conduct the interviews.

When all of the usual obstacles were removed, what was laid bare? A
strong fear of approaching strangers, made even stronger by the fact
that so many interactions nowadays are done online, rather than face
 to face. Ask someone to create an online survey and they’re all over it
— ask that same person to pose those same questions to a stranger
face to face and they’ll freeze up.

One might assume that the problem afflicts only those in high school,
but such a deep-seated reaction is felt by many working adults who
are suddenly responsible for requesting something from strangers —
even when the thing being requested is a relatively low commitment,
like 10 minutes for an interview.

Are you at the point in a project when you would benefit from insights
gained from face-to-face discussions with potential users but find
yourself blocked by a fear of asking? Read on for techniques to help
you approach people for research, the first step to gaining the
knowledge you need.

“I’m Afraid I’ll Be Bothering People.” #

I’m sure you’ve been approached by a stranger at one time or another.
The negative occasions stand out the most, when you were annoyed
or felt guilty because you didn’t want to say no to a request for money
or personal information or a signature.

When a stranger approaches, the person being approached has

several concerns at once:

 “Who is this person?”

 “Are they trying to scam me?”
 “Are they going to ask me for money?”
 “Are they going to ask me to sign something that I don’t agree with?”
 “Am I going to have to figure out how to get rid of them?”
 “How long is this going to take?”
Your memories of being approached could make you uncomfortable if
you’re the one approaching others.

The good news is that approaching people for interviews can be a lot
easier than requesting a donation. If you make it clear quickly that
their time is voluntary and that you won’t ask for anything they don’t
want to give, then you’ll generally get a positive response. After all,
you’re not asking people for money, just for their time and attention.
Time is valuable, but its value varies according to the person’s
situation at that moment — and you can do certain things to
communicate the value of agreeing to your request.

INCREASE THE VALUE OF PARTICIPATION #

Interview requests are accepted when participation is perceived to be
as or more valuable than what the person is doing at the time. People
calculate that value in their heads when you ask for their time.

People
calculate that value in their heads when you ask for their time. (Large
version)
 Below are some of the factors that can swing the calculation in your
favor.

FIND THE RIGHT TIME #

If someone is in a rush to get somewhere, then making your research
seem more valuable than their desire to get to their destination will
probably be difficult. Someone who is walking briskly, looking tense
and not making eye contact is not the ideal candidate.

Approach people who appear to be one or more of the following:

 Between tasks. If you’re asking about a particular activity, go to areas

where people tend to be finishing up that activity, and talk to them as
soon as they’re done with it. You’ll get a fresh perspective on the
whole experience, and they likely won’t be in a rush to get to their
next activity. For example, if you want to interview runners, wander the
finish line of a race. Look for runners who are cooling down and
checking out their swag but not yet heading home.
 Bored. Waiting in line, waiting for a bus or waiting for an elevator — if
someone seems to be idly swiping their phone or staring off into
space, they might actually welcome a distraction.
 Procrastinating. Some activities take a long time. The human brain
needs a change of focus every now and then, and your research could
be just the thing. If your target audience is students, visit a study area.
When a student comes up for air, ask for some time. They might need
the mental break!
Regardless of whom you approach, give them an idea of how long
the interview will take (about 10 minutes, for example), so that they
can do the mental math of calculating the value of saying yes.

BE AWARE OF BODY LANGUAGE #

As mentioned, pay attention to the candidate’s body language. Do
they seem tense? Are they frowning at their phone? Are they power-
walking? They might be late for a meeting, so the timing would be
wrong. Someone gazing around or strolling casually is a better bet.
People on phones are a bit harder to read because many check their
phone when bored or procrastinating — still, their facial expression
might tell you whether they’re open to being interrupted for
something more interesting.

Your own body language is important, too. Planting yourself in the

middle of a person’s path and facing them squarely will come off as
aggressive, likely triggering a negative reaction. They might feel like
they’d have a hard time getting rid of you if they’re not comfortable
with your request.

Being aware of your own body language and the body langauge of
others is important.
Approach within clear view, but from the side. Also, try angling your
body slightly away from the person. You want to seem engaged but
also make them feel like they could end the conversation if desired.
This will give them a greater sense of control and increase the
likelihood that they’ll give you those precious seconds you need to
make your request.

FOSTERING INTEREST #
The feeling one gets from participating in research can be rewarding
in itself. Interest is one positive feeling that leads people to say yes to
research, which you can emphasize when approaching strangers.

Mention early on that you’re conducting research, which makes

clear that you’re not asking for money and tends to generate interest.

Being approached to participate in research is fairly unusual for most

people. The fact that you’re conducting a study might inspire a healthy
curiosity. People will often be curious about what topic is being
researched, what kinds of questions might be asked, and what they
might find out about themselves in answering. The prevalence of
quizzes and personality tests online is a good indication of this
interest; those researchers are gathering data from the tests, but many
of the respondents feel like they are learning about themselves (and
potentially others) by considering the questions being asked.
 People will
often be curious about what topic is being researched, and what they
might find out about themselves in answering. (Image: Personal DNA)
(View large version)
The person might not be expecting to learn whether they’re a
“benevolent inventor” or an ENFP by the end of the interview, but they
might still find your questions interesting to consider.

Will the interviewees be shown something that others don’t have

access to yet, like a new product or campaign? If so, bring that up
quickly. It really boosts curiosity!
Furthermore, people might be flattered that you’re interested in their
thoughts and opinion. Build on that! If there’s a reason you
approached that person, share it. If you’re interviewing people about
healthy food choices near a health food store and you stop someone
who has just purchased something at the store, you could mention
that their interest in health is one reason you approached them. Stick
to obvious observations — you don’t want to come across as creepy!

FOSTERING GOODWILL #
Donating to a cause feels good, and volunteering time for research is
no different. If your efforts are for a worthy result, like making texting
easier for the elderly, share that benefit.

Another magic phrase? “I’m a student.” If you are, say so quickly to

allay the person’s suspicion about your motive. Your effort on the path
of learning will appeal to their goodwill.

If you’re not a student and your topic doesn’t sound particularly

socially relevant, people might still be willing to help out if they
connect with you. If you’re friendly and enthusiastic about the topic,
then they’re more likely to say yes.

To keep the goodwill flowing, express your gratitude for their time and
thoughts. Let them know before and after the interview that their time
will have a great impact on the success of the research.

OFFER INCENTIVES #
This one might seem the most obvious: You can increase the value of
participation by offering an incentive. A $10 or $20 gift card from a
popular vendor like Amazon or Starbucks can incline someone to
accept a 15 to 30 minute interview. As the inconvenience to the
participant increases, so should the incentive — whether that
inconvenience is the length of the interview, the location or the time
of day.

The incentive doesn’t have to be monetary. Be creative in what you

offer. It could be access to a service that most people don’t have or a
fun gadget that’s related to your topic (like a pedometer if the topic is
health).

Offering an incentive can be useful, but don’t let it turn into a crutch.
The point is to get comfortable with approaching people; associating a
cost with that adds pressure that you don’t need. Learning to request
participation without an incentive — and learning to increase the
perceived value of participation without one — will take the cost out
of the equation. Nevertheless, if you’re conducting formal research
with a specific audience for a lengthy period of time, offering an
incentive is definitely a best practice.

“I’m Afraid Of Rejection.” #

Rejection is people’s number one fear when approaching strangers.
Hearing no has always been difficult, whether it’s a polite no or an
angry no followed by a rant. Either way, it stings. Your response to that
sting, though, is what matters. How do you explain the rejection to
yourself, and does your explanation help or hurt you?

Martin Seligman, one of the originators of positive psychology,

conducted a study in the ’70s that gives insight into the types of
mindsets that make people feel helpless. Seligman found that those
who exhibit long-term “learned helplessness” tend to view negative
events as being personal, pervasive and permanent. In other words, if
a person is rejected, they might rationalize that the rejection is a result
of their own failing, that everyone else is likely to reject them as well,
and that they can do nothing to lessen the likelihood of rejection.
Your mindset is important. (Image: Leathers Milligan)
When you prepare to approach someone, consider instead that, if they
say no, they aren’t really rejecting you, but rather rejecting your
request. It’s not personal. Maybe they’re in the middle of something,
or maybe they’re just not in the mood to talk. The rejection is fleeting,
and the next person might be perfectly happy to participate.

Even knowing this, your first attempt will be the most difficult. Think of
it like jumping into a pool: The initial shock is certain, but you’ll quickly
get used to the water and will be swimming in no time!

TURN IT INTO A GAME #

When my brother was in college, he had a friend — let’s call him Bob
— who had been single for a long time. Bob wanted to develop his
ability to approach a woman and strike up a conversation, but he
constantly froze up because of his fear of rejection.

One night at a lively bar, the two of them decided to make a game of
it. If an approach led to a conversation — fantastic! He got 1 point. If
the approach led to rejection, he still got 1 point for making the
attempt. This turned failure into a small win and encouraged Bob to
try and try again. The person with the most points at the end of the
night won a free drink from the other. This shifted the focus and value
onto the attempt, not the result.

Try this technique with someone who also wants to practice

approaching people for research. Award a point for each approach,
and reward the winner. Choose a prize that you both value but that
doesn’t outweigh the good feeling of a successful approach. Not that
you want to be turned down, but it helps to have a reward for
plucking up the courage to try.

VARIATION: FOOTBALL RULES #

If you find the incentive to approach is still not enough, award a field
goal (3 points) for every unsuccessful approach and a touchdown (7
points) for each successful one. Because interviews take time, the
person who is trailing in points could pull ahead even if they’re mostly
getting rejections.

“Only Extroverts Are Good At This.” #

Google tells us that an introvert is “a shy, reticent and typically self-
centered person.” Not a pretty picture! (An extrovert is defined as “an
outgoing, overtly expressive person” — a more positive description, at
least in the US).

Introversion has been erroneously associated with characteristics like

being “bad with people” or being unsuccessful in approaching others.

In psychology, the field that gave us the terms “introvert” and

“extrovert” (thanks to Carl Jung), the definitions are fairly different. The
focus is on how people recharge their energy. Introverts tend to
recharge by spending time with their own thoughts and feelings;
extroverts recharge with external stimulation, such as time with friends
or adventures in new destinations.

Jung stated that, “There is no such thing as a pure introvert or

extrovert. Such a person would be in the lunatic asylum.” We all fall
somewhere along the continuum. It turns out that some of the most
fantastic researchers out there fall almost in the middle (called
“ambiverts”). They balance an extrovert’s drive to interact others with
an introvert’s skill in observation and reflection.

Daniel Pink explores this in his book To Sell is Human, which

summarizes a variety of studies that find no link between high
extroversion and major success in sales. (Pink defines sales as
“persuading, convincing and influencing others to give up something
they’ve got in exchange for what we’ve got” — a broad definition that
could include asking someone to give up their time to participate in
research.)

There is no
link between high extroversion and major success in sales. (Large
version)
In fact, in the studies Pink cites, such as one by Adam Grant of the
University of Pennsylvania, the highly extroverted — who tend to talk
too much and listen too little — performed only slightly better than
the highly introverted. Who did the best by far? The ambiverts, who
balanced a drive to connect with an ability to observe and inspect.

Ambiverts are
good sellers because they balance a drive to connect with an ability to
observe and inspect. (Large version)
If you consider yourself an introvert, then you’re probably relieved to
hear that you don’t have to swing to the other side of the scale to be
successful in interviews. You can use your skill in observation to pay
attention to the environment and identify people to approach. You
might need to tap into your extroverted side to approach someone,
but once the conversation begins, you can call on your skill in
observing and listening intently. With practice, this introverted quality
will become an important part of the process that leads to the payoff:
generating important insights.

Let’s explore a few techniques to ease gently into the ambiversion

zone, exercising your interviewing muscles!
PRACTICE PLAYFULLY #
Practice your requests with a friendly audience and in a comfortable
location to make the experience more playful and less stressful.
Learning and playing go together!

Set challenges for yourself that expand your skills but that don’t
have serious consequences. Instead of waiting for an intense, highly
visible project at work to make your first attempt at approaching
people, give yourself a short interview challenge. Pick a friendly
location and choose a topic of research that would be of interest to
most interview candidates and whose results you would not formally
present.

Can you think of a local restaurant or cafeteria? Try interviewing its

employees about their experience with the lunchtime rush to identify
ways to better manage lines (of course, wait until after the rush to
approach them). Taking a taxi? Interview the cab driver about their use
of technology and how it has changed in the last three years. Do this
as though you were conducting research for a real project (for
example, ask to interview them, rather than launching right into your
questions).

Here are two introductions you can practice:

“Excuse me! I’m a student, and today I’m conducting research on

ways to improve transportation information for commuters.
Hearing about your experience would be really valuable. Do you
have 10 minutes to answer some questions?”
"Hi! We’re conducting some research today. Would you like to be
interviewed on your lunchtime eating habits? It’ll take about 10
minutes, and your thoughts will help us improve the availability of
nutritional information."
 MAKE IT MEANINGFUL #
Whether you’re interviewing for practice or for work, tap into the
aspects of the topic that make it deeply meaningful and personal to
you. Genuine enthusiasm for a topic is hard to fake and will override
fear to a large extent.

Remember the high-school students who were so afraid of

approaching people? The class ended up going through the research
process a second time with different topics. Instead of being told to
interview college students about financial planning, students picked
their own topics, like helping other students complete their
homework, eating healthier meals and handling peer pressure.

The class picked students to interview, a mixture of friends and

strangers. Because they were passionate about the topics (and had
practiced once already), the second round of requests was much
easier.

Likewise, consider practicing with more than one round of interviews:

 Round 1. Choose a topic that you know will be of interest to the

people you’re interviewing.
 Round 2. Choose a topic that you’re passionate about. (Try to be
objective, though!)
 Round 3. Take on a challenge for a product or project with support
from other team members. (See the section below, “Pair Up
Personalities,” for an example.)
If you’re on a team that wants even more practice, you could take
turns suggesting practice challenges for each other. The more you
practice, the easier it gets — promise!
 PAIR UP PERSONALITIES #
If you consider yourself an introvert, pair up with someone who
considers themselves an extrovert, and play to each other’s strengths
for the first few interviews.

Using your observational skill, you could identify candidates to

interview, and the extrovert could approach the first three people.

After the first three or four approaches, take a break and share your
techniques with each other. You could share your insight from
observing the environment and suggest tips on which people in which
location might be best to approach. The extrovert could share tips on
conversation openers that seem to be working well. When you’re both
comfortable, switch roles to exercise the other’s skills.

This method situates you as mentors to each other, bringing you both
closer to the middle of the introversion-extroversion scale.

Go Face To Face #
Now that you’ve learned some techniques to get started, don’t let
another week go by without trying one of them out! A good first step?
Think of topics that you’re passionate about, the ones that are
intriguing enough to propel you forward. You’ll find that the skills you
develop will give you confidence to pursue the answers you need,
leading you to better experiences for yourself and others.

RESOURCES #

 AdventuresXD has sample challenges that you can work with.

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