Transactiona L Analysis Theory: Presented by Prof. Vijay Kumar V M
Transactiona L Analysis Theory: Presented by Prof. Vijay Kumar V M
Transactiona L Analysis Theory: Presented by Prof. Vijay Kumar V M
L ANALYSIS
THEORY
Emily here does not operate her thinking as an Adult, displays behaviors learned in
her childhood to make things go her way. Let’s understand the complexity of human
behavior by knowing the PAC model.
a) The Parent Ego-State is about the behaviors and feelings that were
copied from your parents or from your early caregivers.
In the case of Emily, she would probably be copying her dominant behavior
Parent Ego and using it without consideration towards her partner.
State: Parents, when in their role, are quite critical in their behavior towards the
child. They give us a set of instructions which may often sound like -
“Don’t do this…”
“Always do this…”
“Be this…”
“Stop doing this…”
b) Adult Ego-State:
When a person is in the Adult Ego-State, he/she displays behaviors that are
directly related to the here-and-now situation.
A person in the Adult Ego-State is often straightforward in their
approach, is interested in the conversation without being judgmental, and
will know how to use logic in conflicting situations.
A person in this Ego-State tends to question different sides to a situation such
as the what and why, where, and know what he/she sees versus what opinions
they hold.
c) Child Ego-State : A person in this Ego-State displays behaviors, feelings or may think about
situations while being influenced by their thoughts as replayed in childhood.
Emily’s sulking would be influenced by her Child Ego-State wherein her reaction is influenced by
emotions that are driven through past behavior.
A person in this Ego-State may display rebellion, delight, whining, sulking, panic, fear, or even a lot of
laughter.
A person is never consciously aware of their Ego-States. Every person re-experiences a part of the
Parent Ego-State or the Child Ego-State to base their communication in the present situation.
Definition of Ego-States by
Eric Berne:
Ego-States: A consistent pattern of feeling and experience directly related to a
corresponding consistent pattern of behavior.
2. Life Positions
Eric Berne highlighted that a person’s life and its results are pre-decided based
on the first 5 years of a person’s life.
Life Positions is thus an interesting theory that brings attention to our
psychological patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving. Our decisions are
based on the responses we receive from parents or parental figures. These form
convictions about the self and the world.
Life Positions
Life Positions are not permanent and can be altered through counseling or
therapy, helping a person free themselves from self-limiting beliefs to
embrace a new life story for themselves.
The Life Convictions formed are as follows:
I am OK
I’m not OK
You’re OK
You’re not OK
4 Life Positions
Berne combined these to form 4 Life Positions as follows:
a) I’m Ok, you’re Ok
This is often defined as a winning Life Script. Here, a child is comfortable with self and the world.
He/she knows they are lovable and will grow up to trust others, have long-lasting meaningful
relationships. They have a good attitude and give and receive trust.
b) I’m not Ok, you’re Ok
A child here often considers themselves on the losing end. They firmly believe in this and create life
stories that bring more misery. An individual feels the need to please others while feeling victimized.
They often show more support to other people’s strength instead of their own.
c) I’m Ok, you’re not Ok
An infant grows up thinking he/she is above the others. Such a child becomes an adult focused on his
own ‘wants’ while stepping over others. This adult may tend to project their problems on others, and
play the blame-game. A person like this always makes others feel inferior while feeling ‘okay’ about
themselves.
d) I’m not OK, you’re not OK
When a child decides this Life Position, the child has an internal struggle with self and the world as well. They end
up creating a life of misery while not believing in self and taking decisions that put them in the spot of being a victim. A
person feels frustrated and hopeless. Such a person may withdraw or even injure themselves.
The Philosophy of Transactional Analysis mentions:
People are OK.
Everyone has the capacity to think.
People decide their own destiny, and these decisions can be changed
3) Life Scripts
Transactional Analysis outlines each person has already written their life story or a script based on many
things such as the Life Positions. Berne highlights that this begins from the day one is born.
Every individual has a beginning, a middle and an end - just the script you’d notice in a movie. Here,
you are the Director and the scriptwriter, and you define your ending without your conscious
knowledge.
A child observes and prepares this Life Plan based on external influences as well as what happens
internally.
A parent gives messages to a child such as, “The world is not safe.” A child grows up thinking,
It’s important to note how two children may interpret the same messages through their own
understanding.
A person may decide, “I am a loser” after being put down frequently by his class teacher.
4) Transactions and Strokes
If you’ve felt like a victim in life and find yourself saying, “Why does this happen to me?,” welcome to
the psychological Games that we play with ourselves and the world. Transactional Analysis outlines a
collection of Games that people play. These are often out of unconscious behavior.
Games are defined as an ongoing series of ulterior transactions that lead to a predictable outcome.
For example, a person may think he is not good at communication.
Let’s take the common game “Yes, But”. This is where one person has a problem and another person is
invited to solve it. Everything the other person suggests is rejected with a “Yes, I could do that, but..
(insert reason for not doing that)”
Examples of Games People Play:
I’m only trying to help you - a person offers help but desires to control behavior.
Blemish - a person finds faults in people. The actual game is to create a distraction from self and avoid
looking at one’s own mistakes.
Courtroom - a person proves how often they are right while others are wrong. They seek support and
sympathy from people.
Poor me- a person often displays themselves as completely helpless. They want to seek sympathy.
Watch this video: https://youtu.be/J_HCF1Tnwy8
How does Transactional Analysis help an individual?
Goal of
Transactional Understand Understand own behavior, modify patterns
Analysis
Theory
Examine Examine own thoughts, behaviors, actions