The last few weeks I keep coming back to one of the big points Richard Reeves and Hawley and anyone else arguing that we really need to help these poor men likes to trot out: that fewer men are going college. They just hold it up as both a reason things are bad for men and proof that things are bad for men and never really bother supporting either point. All that statistic really tells us is exactly what it is- fewer men than women are attending college- but it doesn’t on its own tell us anything about the state of things for men. Is it bad? How is it bad? Why is it happening? There’s lots of implying that boys are so disadvantaged that they can’t or aren’t going to college and also that men are so disadvantaged because they didn’t go to college but we don’t actually know that’s true because they don’t actually make a strong case for that (or, usually, any case at all). Maybe it is true; maybe if boys had more support, then more of them would go to college and if more of them went to college then more men would be successful (whatever that means) but they don’t do the work to support that thesis. Instead, they rely on an underlying belief that college is a net good for all- or at least men- and a) the only reason you wouldn’t go to college is because you couldn’t for some reason and b) not going to college is inherently a negative. It’s a thought that underlies a lot of arguments but what if it’s not true? I mean, it might be and I guess it feels true but, again, they don’t bother to make solid arguments in support of that thesis either.
A lot of these arguments they’re making feel true and feel connected but that doesn’t make it true. You can’t just put two facts near each other and make it true that they’re connected to one another and certainly not connected in the way you want people to believe they are. Maybe “boys aren’t getting the support they need” and “young men aren’t going to college” and “men aren’t as ‘successful’ as they were in the past” isn’t a cause and effect string but a list of symptoms of the same problem of a flailing economy, poor support for education and a warped sense of what it means to be manly. Or maybe it goes the other direction- men aren’t achieving the same success in adulthood as their fathers so their sons aren’t going to college because they see it didn’t help their dads and boys aren’t getting support in grade school because they’re not pursuing a college track? Neither of those theses are supported here either but they’re at least as solid as putting three facts in a row and saying “see?! see how hard it is for us?! see how we suffer?”