when i say my gender changes to the tune of the bit i mean a man’s gotta do what a man’s gotta do and if he can’t then god forbid women do anything

jokerkind specibus ass

But you still recognized that as a Homestuck reference.

What were YOU doing at the devil's sacrament?

i googled the words & got results from the homestuck wiki. that’s not attending the devil’s sacrament that’s investigating suspicious noises in the woods by lanternlight

God forbid women do anything

(Note: the difference between guilt and shame is that ‘guilt’ focuses on specific acts or behaviors, while ‘shame’ involves the overall sense of self.)

Pitts ; Can we talk about fish for a moment?

Knox; Of course we can

Pitts; They think they're better than me

Knox; How dare they

we need more content of the poets just like hanging out. like more of them ALL being friends and branching outside of the main duos. like yk what what if i wanna see todd and knox having a good time together huh

forbidden neil the rat photos

Happy Neil banging out the tunes day

it's absolutely quintessential to have friends that do not care about your wip pile. keep these ideas and prompts coming, besties. i can't carry the ring for you, but i can carry all these fucking ideas.

me on the other hand, I could totally carry the ring, not writing prompts though

No one give the ring to tumblr user all4horsemen, this can only end in disaster (global or personal)! You have been warned!

no no no I could totally carry the ring it's fineeee

I repeat. Do NOT!

it's fine, Sammie can come along too!

Keep my wife out of your shenanigans!! Send prompts and be quiet!

I literally did alreadyyyuhhhh

it's absolutely quintessential to have friends that do not care about your wip pile. keep these ideas and prompts coming, besties. i can't carry the ring for you, but i can carry all these fucking ideas.

me on the other hand, I could totally carry the ring, not writing prompts though

No one give the ring to tumblr user all4horsemen, this can only end in disaster (global or personal)! You have been warned!

no no no I could totally carry the ring it's fineeee

I repeat. Do NOT!

it's fine, Sammie can come along too!

it's absolutely quintessential to have friends that do not care about your wip pile. keep these ideas and prompts coming, besties. i can't carry the ring for you, but i can carry all these fucking ideas.

me on the other hand, I could totally carry the ring, not writing prompts though

No one give the ring to tumblr user all4horsemen, this can only end in disaster (global or personal)! You have been warned!

no no no I could totally carry the ring it's fineeee

it's absolutely quintessential to have friends that do not care about your wip pile. keep these ideas and prompts coming, besties. i can't carry the ring for you, but i can carry all these fucking ideas.

me on the other hand, I could totally carry the ring, not writing prompts though

I want to squish him ouh...

the original got flagged with no way to appeal it when every contributor is deactivated but I will never let this post die. it's monday and we are getting on it cunts

being a man or being masculine is inherently neutral

being a woman or being feminine is inherently neutral

dont play into any narrative that frames men/masculinity as inherently bad and women/femininity as inherently good, this is radfem rhetoric

dont play into any narrative that frames men/masculinity as inherently good and women/femininity as inherently bad, this is religious extremism

y'all know that whole left-brained/right-brained thing is fake right? and the "brain fully develops at age 25" thing? and the "we only use 10% of our brains" thing? yeah they're all complete horseshit please yell at anyone who says them

Also the male and female brain too

Source

Source

...*sigh*

*taps mic*

One of the most important things to unpack and unlearn when you’re part of a white supremacy saturated society (i.e. the global north) and especially if you were raised in an intensified form of it (evangelicism, right wing politics, explicit racism) is the urge to punish and take revenge.

It manifests in our lives all the time and it is inherently destructive. It makes relationships and interactions adversarial for no good reason. It undermines cooperation and good civic order. It worsens some types of crime. It creates trauma, especially in children.

Imagine approaching unexpected or unacceptable behavior from a perspective of "how can this be stopped, and prevented" instead of "you’re going to regret this!”

Imagine dealing with a problem or conflict from the perspective of “how can this be solved in a way that is just and restorative” instead of “the people who caused this are going to pay.”

How much would that change you? How much would that have changed for you?

Please.

OP: Imagine approaching unexpected or unacceptable behavior from a perspective of "how can this be stopped, and prevented" instead of "you’re going to regret this!” [emphasis mine]

Punishment enthusiasts in the notes: "so you're saying we should never stop anyone from doing bad things? and we should just sing Kum Ba Ya until they stop being mean? you're an idiot and you should be punished, probably"

contemplate, for a moment, that you just might be able to stop someone from harming people while also taking care to minimize the harm you do to them

and if you don't think you should have to worry about that: why not?

I teach Intro to Psych, and I’m lecturing on operant conditioning next week. I always tell my students this story:

When I took this class, lo these many years ago, I remember thinking, if punishment doesn’t work very well on animals (because it doesn’t), why does it work on humans? Specifically at the time I was thinking about spanking kids, which I had grown up with as normal parenting behavior in the 80s, but also punishment in general.

And it wasn’t until years later that I realized that the answer is - IT DOESN’T. And research absolutely backs that up.

Punishment is one of the least effective ways of changing behavior in humans, too! The behavior change you do sometimes get is people trying to avoid punishment, but that doesn’t mean stopping the behavior you punished - it often means just finding ways to do it that are less likely to get you caught. Lying, hiding things, being sneakier about it. And that’s when you get any change at all.

Spanking, of course, has whole other issues - namely that it turns out children learn by watching others, not simple conditioning, so spanking them makes them more likely to be violent themselves.

Look, the behaviorists were wrong in that they thought conditioning was the be-all end-all of learning, when in fact life and psychology are far, far more complicated and messy than that - but even they knew that punishment isn’t nearly as effective as rewards. (Neither is as effective as addressing the underlying motivation behind the behavior, which they wanted to ignore entirely, but even they knew this much.)

If you’re telling yourself that your desire to punish people is rooted in wanting to change their behavior, please accept what decades of science has told us: IT DOESN’T.