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almost time for an adventure

@almostabi / almostabi.tumblr.com

I go on adventures sometimes. Right now I'm ex-expating it up. Hopefully grad school is in the future.
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I WILL bring this up again. You will give yourself a huge leg-up by learning basic skills. Look up free YouTube tutorials, see if your library has training classes, take a computer literacy class if you can fit it into your class schedule.

You will do so much better at a job if you can use just the basic functions of Excel, Word, and Outlook. Interested in coding? Learn it! Everyone telling you that AI is going to get rid of the need to know how to do HTML is a damn liar. Take a step back to figure out what you don't know, pick the first thing on the list, and go learn it. It will be worth it!

Five more castles he built, each larger and stronger than the last, only to see them smashed asunder when the gale winds came howling up Shipbreaker Bay, driving great walls of water before them. His lords pleaded with him to build inland; his priests told him he must placate the gods by giving Elenei back to the sea; even his smallfolk begged him to relent. Durran would have none of it. A seventh castle he raised, most massive of all. [...] Though the angry gods threw storm after storm against it, the seventh castle stood defiant, and Durran Godsgrief and fair Elenei dwelt there together until the end of their days.

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reblog to give your headache to elon musk instead

I’d just like to point out the growth in this post has mostly coincided with elon’s public spiral downward and I’d like to think we’re all a small part of that

bro can’t think because he’s just got a rager of a migraine 24/7

like to charge reblog to cast

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Fucking wild to be teaching about Rosa Parks at the same time as a trans woman in Florida does an act of civil disobedience to use a women's restroom in the state capitol

As far as I know, she is the first woman arrested bc of this law. The law requires that the trans person be warned to leave the bathroom by a state official, and then if they stay they are guilty of trespassing after a warning.

So like, me, my gf, others just piss and nobody asks or tells, but this young woman sent a statement about the law to over 100 FL lawmakers so they would know she was coming, the cops were ready for her, she brought a reporter and went in anyway and spent the night in a men's jail. She is out on bail, and is hoping this will inspire change of the law. But if found guilty, and the law is upheld as constitutional, then she could spend up to 60 days in a mens county jail.

I think it's important to know that this woman is a devout Catholic and is performing this act of civil disobedience as a profound act of faith (which I deeply respect, as someone whose Judaism vibes on the same wavelength). She brought a rosary with her and was planning on praying the rosary in the restroom after washing her hands if she was able to do so.

I also think it's important to know that she said in her letter that she knows that if she's sent to a men's prison that it is very likely that she will be raped.

one of my favorite star wars headcanons is that anakin and obi-wan's sparring matches always draw huge crowds at the temple. they stop there for a while when they're on leave from the war and anakin inevitably is like obi-wan we HAVE to practice or else we'll get rusty, especially you because you're so OLD. and obi-wan takes the bait so easily he's like oh we'll see about THAT. smash cut to them fighting in one of the practice rooms, and the younglings are losing their minds because it's The Hero With No Fear vs. The Negotiator which is basically their version of the UFC since they're not allowed to go anywhere and have never seen actual live sports. it gets to the point where the other masters get all huffy and have to shoo everyone back to their classes.

15 year old monk whispering "do i lust for men?" and then flipping to a random page in the bible to see what it says = medieval equivalent of modern "am i gay quiz"

bibliomancy is alive and well in the 21st century. St Augustine rolling in his grave.

me: *trying to take my socks off but they keep getting stuck on my heel* oh fuck. goddamnit.

the extractor fan in a bathroom in Norway that has an intrinsic link to my spirit: *momentarily whirs louder*

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there's a delicate balance between "seeing something on my dash so often i end up caring about it unexpectedly" and "seeing something on my dash so often that it gets added to the blocked list with extreme prejudice"

Is there a word for the feeling of having to compensate for being fat? I so often feel - and I know I'm not the only one - that since I'm fat, I can't afford any other breeches of conventional appeal, and I have to pull out all the stops to convince the world that I'm not repulsive, actually. I must be well-dressed and smell nice all the time, have smooth and flawless skin, have beautiful hair and chic makeup, not to mention a wonderful, confident personality.

And I don't! I often leave the house in something sloppy and comfortable. I happen to sweat sometimes. I don't like to wear makeup a lot. My skin is pale, easily irritated and flushed, dry in places, purple and green veins showing everywhere, celulite, dark body hair, stretch marks - it has most of the things you never see in media. I'm bad at styling my hair. I'm shy and awkward and difficult to talk to if I don't know you super well.

Those are all normal human things, but I feel like by having the audacity to be fat, I have forfeited my rights to any other so-called imperfections.

NO NO WAIT YOU ACTUALLY PUT IT INTO WORDS

I’ve always had the “okay I’m fat so I have to be as perfect as possible in every other way” so I’m always worried about my breath. I always check after eating if there’s something in my teeth. I always put on lots of deodorant and shower more often than my partner. I don’t let myself make too many jokes about my other imperfections even when they don’t hurt me and go over well with peers. I’m not willing to play a DND character who isn’t also self-conscious and trying to put her best foot forward because otherwise I’m roleplaying a character who doesn’t have good manners. It doesn’t end there either, I could keep going.

It’s just strange because I kind of thought I was alone in this.

The word you're looking for is "overperformance." Sometimes people use "hypervigilance" or "hyperperformance." It's all basically the same thing:

Trying to scream, as loud as we possibly can, I AM NOT YOUR VILE STEREOTYPE I AM A HUMAN BEING I AM WORTH BEING TREATED WITH DIGNITY AND RESPECT

And it's only ever demanded by others, I might add, and honestly, most of them don't even bother listening in the first place.

As an older fat femme with let me tell you LOTS OF THERAPY I will say that once I got my head on straight to no longer perform "I feel that I am less-than" I caught a lot less flak.

I did also teach high school and middle school both full-time and as a substitute teacher, for many years. And Those kids will eat you ALIVE if you're not a) really good at acting like you're okay with yourself or b) actually okay with yourself.

Very occasionally I still get some weird fatphobic bullshit. But because I actively expect AND TRAINED MYSELF TO BELIEVE that I Belong In This World, the shit flinging has mostly stopped.

Tell me, what is it you plan to do
with your one wild and precious life?
—Mary Oliver
But I got something going now. A friend. And I don't wanna mess it up. Maybe that's what I was like for you.
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do you ever just suddenly feel the weight of more years of exhaustion than you’ve been alive

i regret to inform you that this was george h.w. bush, 1988

One of the fun things about reading DTWOF today is that you’ll be trundling along, knowing these comics are from the 1980s, and then *WHAM* 9/11 is in one of the comics, and you become that gif from the film where the dude go age fast.

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