Is there a word for the feeling of having to compensate for being fat? I so often feel - and I know I'm not the only one - that since I'm fat, I can't afford any other breeches of conventional appeal, and I have to pull out all the stops to convince the world that I'm not repulsive, actually. I must be well-dressed and smell nice all the time, have smooth and flawless skin, have beautiful hair and chic makeup, not to mention a wonderful, confident personality.
And I don't! I often leave the house in something sloppy and comfortable. I happen to sweat sometimes. I don't like to wear makeup a lot. My skin is pale, easily irritated and flushed, dry in places, purple and green veins showing everywhere, celulite, dark body hair, stretch marks - it has most of the things you never see in media. I'm bad at styling my hair. I'm shy and awkward and difficult to talk to if I don't know you super well.
Those are all normal human things, but I feel like by having the audacity to be fat, I have forfeited my rights to any other so-called imperfections.