official aromantic posts

not to be insane on main but: I wish there was more discussion/understanding/whatever around like. aroallos (like me!) who want the sex/physical affection to be a PART of the friendship. like fwb but the benefits are baked into the friendship. part of this friendship is we make out just like how trading fanfic recs is a part of it. UNFORTUNATELY for so many ppl that description is what a ROMANTIC relationship is and UNFORTUNATELY having that situation framed as romantic makes me want to die and throw up💕

anyways @ the other aros who are in the same or similar boat as me I feel u or wagever

i hate it when shippers and fandoms are like "friends to lovers" "friends don't look at each other like that" "he doesn't realize he's in love with his best friend"

I'm thinking about hilson right now (which is very extremely queerplatonic to me) but there are so many other examples of this

how do you know you’re not attracted to a specific gender? i thought maybe an aro pov can help.

i think im a lesbian, but im still unsure if i am attracted to men or not, so how do i know if what im feeling is not romantic attraction, especially since you apparently can feel romantic attraction and not want to date?

Wanting children as an aromantic is so hard cause like, who am I supposed to have children with?? There's adoption, but I've heard it's hard to do that and a long wait, plus i do want a baby. I'm too young currently anyways but I'll want children in the next decade or so, sooo idk. There are so many people in this generation who don't want kids why do I gotta be the one that does 😭

hey 👋 wanna shout out to the kids. I’m 31 and aro, and after all my teen years and some of my 20s thinking I’d never have the relationship type(s) I wanted, or have people close without them wanting romance from me, I managed to break the grip those thoughts (lies) had on me.

I have a fleet of glorious friends who love as much and as platonically as I love them. I’m poly and I have a cluster of qprs that know me, adore me, are sometimes romantically attracted to me, but do not like me “in spite of” my lack of that attraction. my relationships, platonic and sexual, are long lasting and strong and with fantastic, supportive people who want to understand me.

it happened for me. these people are out there, and aren’t too hard to find once you stop accepting less for yourself. especially if you’re young and aro and feel like it’s dire - feel what you need to, but it will get better. the world can be harsh but you can surround you with people who adore you no matter how you’re wired.

stay frosty ✌️ 🤍🩶💚🖤

Do i count as demiromantic if the person i was attracted to wasn't a close friend before and due to intense contact i developed a bond within like 2 months? it's not a narrative you see a lot it's usually "been friends with them for years whoops i have a crush". due to trauma my brain latched on to people who were remotely nice to me before but i realised that wasn't romantic attraction because the true wanting to merge my life with someone else's and wanting to hug/cuddle a lot (it's part of romo attraction for me). i only ever had romantic attraction for one person where the bond was like actually mutual rather than just from my side .

also wanted to share aro joy

been in a QPR for a minute now and it's just so great. it's so great to not feel pressured to say "I love you". it's so great to feel so passionately about someone but not feel like i have to push it into this faux romantic ideal. it's so great having a best friend with fun bonus features for lack of better description

Hey, I've been questioning if I'm aromantic for a while. The only problem is that I've had a crush on someone for a couple months and did a lot of typical "crush stuff" around them (like trying to be close to them and being joke-flirty and whatnot) because i thought that's what you're supposed to do. After that wore off, though, I realized I never really wanted to be in love with her, per se, and just enjoyed her presence as a person, so from that point I was pretty sure about it.

I tried introducing the idea to a few friends afterwards, but most of them said that I just "haven't met the right person" yet. And since I'm definitely not asexual, they believe that it's "It’s entirely impossible to say someone CANT feel something" and "Just doesn’t seem right to say “I don’t feel attraction” when you obviously could" (direct quotes).

So I guess the question is can I be valid as an aroallo if I've crushed on someone before?

Being arospec is so weird sometimes. yeah i have romantic feelings for my partners. I am at least 80% sure of this. Yes my feelings for my best friends are very similar id never imagine dating them though. Yes its been only very few people ive ever had romantic feelings for. Yes they had to have them first (or be involved with them first.) My relationship with romantic attration is so weird and varied my best bet is to just go. Oh yeah okay. Sure. I still find it Weird and Scary.

*juggling two balls with one saying “I love being aro I’m so cool for that like I’m so free from the constraints of society with that” and another that is saying “I hate how lonely aromanticism is because even with the community it won’t stop me from feeling isolated from the alloromantic society I’m stuck in and can’t escape because there’s no place I will ever be free from it’s influence”*

I don't exactly belong here as I only used to think I was Aromatic and it's actually like extremely quite the opposite but like

I have to say like the aro community is super nice(excluding the toxic people) and that it was nice being in it when I was