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If you really cared about how to prevent abuse you would dedicate yourself to sex education rather than censoring fanfiction (which isn't going to happen btw).

fuck. you.

yeah let’s just ignore real qualified therapists telling trauma victims they can cope without harm via fiction. everyone listen to some random dipshit on pinterest because the TOTALLY know more than anyone with years of education and experience

Oh, yikes! I'm a "real" victim and what triggers me far more is people who don't believe victims they dislike.

Fandom Problem #7397:

I don't like the direction fandom or social media "culture" is going with all the casual death and injury threats. It's a bit upsetting to see "I'll break your kneecaps" or "I'll kill you" everywhere in the context of even liking a few posts ("like spamming"), or accidentally reblogging something from someone with a well-hidden DNI that you happen to be on. Maybe it's because I'm just getting old but I don't like it. The language is getting too commonplace.

from the bottom of my heart: just because something makes you uncomfortable doesn't mean it shouldn't be allowed to exist

"So this is how liberty dies... With thunderous applause."

Fandom Problem #7108:

Some fandoms baffle me when i find out they have antis

Like you are in the scream fandom and have a favorite ghostface

How are you an anti?1

Like one post will be "i love x as a Ghostface, they are so brutal and evil"

Then 3 posts later complaining about some incest shipblike what??

photos from personal ads in the transgender issue of tv epic, november, 1995.

I think my most controversial xenogender / neopronoun take is that you absolutely have every right to use neopronouns and emoji pronouns and any manner of things like that but you also need to be understanding of people who might not understand it even after an explanation or might default to they / them.

If you exclusively use neos but they're willing to meet you half way and use they, I genuinely don't believe it's transphobic. Especially when you get into the more confusing ones that involve nouns or emojis, like pup / pupself. People who aren't familiar with neos, people who struggle with English to begin with, people who might not have English as their first language, etc.

You can explain it if you desire, but they may or may not understand even after that, and I think people need to learn to distinguish malicious intent from genuine confusion, wariness of doing it wrong / being offensive, or even just plain neutrality.

Hey, OP. What?

I agree that there's a major difference between misgendering someone by accident and doing it intentionally, but there's no "willing to meet you halfway." Either you're correctly gendering someone or you're misgendering them. There's no meeting somebody halfway and trans people are completely allowed to be upset that they're being repeatedly misgendered.

I'm not really saying they can't be upset, but I feel like too many people are willing to put "active transphobia" and "they're trying, even if they aren't quite hitting what they should be" on the same level. It's wildly more fucked up, in my eyes, if they're actively using gendered pronouns, but they / them is more neutral ground to me and shows that while they may be struggling with the concept at least they're putting effort in?

This is especially a problem in folks who already struggle with English to begin with, and I do feel like seeing it as "it's either this or that" with no in between overlooks a LOT of grey areas. English might not be their first language, they may have a learning deficiency, etc. At least they/them is wildly used and a relatively safe territory

I understand the difference between active transphobia and accidentally misgendering, but a lot of the finer details here are incorrect.

Not when you know someone's pronouns and know they are not they/them. Using they/them for a person who does not use those pronouns is still misgendering.

I think my most controversial xenogender / neopronoun take is that you absolutely have every right to use neopronouns and emoji pronouns and any manner of things like that but you also need to be understanding of people who might not understand it even after an explanation or might default to they / them.

If you exclusively use neos but they're willing to meet you half way and use they, I genuinely don't believe it's transphobic. Especially when you get into the more confusing ones that involve nouns or emojis, like pup / pupself. People who aren't familiar with neos, people who struggle with English to begin with, people who might not have English as their first language, etc.

You can explain it if you desire, but they may or may not understand even after that, and I think people need to learn to distinguish malicious intent from genuine confusion, wariness of doing it wrong / being offensive, or even just plain neutrality.

Hey, OP. What?

I agree that there's a major difference between misgendering someone by accident and doing it intentionally, but there's no "willing to meet you halfway." Either you're correctly gendering someone or you're misgendering them. There's no meeting somebody halfway and trans people are completely allowed to be upset that they're being repeatedly misgendered.

not to be radical or whatever, but i think that maybe calling women and queer people “pedophiles” for fanfiction is actually not the activism you think it is

Fandom Problem #7878:

While I understand why somebody would want to make their OCs suffer, shouldn’t they learn something from that, at least?

if you are pro-censorship, you are not my ally. Not in feminism, not in queerness, not in anti-racism. Bad actors aren't going to just censor the things you don't like; they won't stop. Sure, they'll sweep over the explicit incest and pedophilia, but then, just like the fancop teenagers have, they will start stretching those definitions to include everything that they dislike. Calling queer people pedophiles is a textbook example of queer oppression; you don't think conservatives are gonna use that as an excuse to burn books about trans joy and wlw/mlm experiences? Because they will.

If you are pro-censorship, you are not my ally.

Antis say shipping some ships is ilegal. But you know what's actually illegal? Cyberbullying and leading someone to suicide.