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@captainfoxus / captainfoxus.tumblr.com

haeli. 24. Indonesia. she/her. med. Just an average bi greysexual/demisexual running a blog. minors please don't see my blog. TERFS pls say you are one so i can BLOCK. i'm filling this blog with uncertain theme of contents which i have no idea what to choose, but i hope you enjoy your dive anyways. currently obsessed about multiple fandoms, The Worst Witch, Wicked, Sherlock, dr. who, Transformers, Galactik Football, and more. possibly the laziest blogger ever. well, thanks for reading this long bio btw! (roblox : maliveplay)

4. If the car pulls up to you run in the opposite direction.

5. Walk with your keys in your hands and keep a key between each finger

6. If they put you in the trunk kick out the headlights

7. If you get lost find a woman with a child. Never ask a man for help (this one was drilled)

That scream fire piece of advice is literally life saving

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ghostspaceships

8. Watch your shadows and reflections, especially if someone is walking behind you. A split second notice is better than none and will help you.

Yes this last one really saves lives y'all I do it all the time

girls have to learn to view the world like international intelligence agents just to be safe walking down the street. smh.

guys pls pls pls reblog and girls pls pls pls be safe out there. terrifying and so sad that we have to worry about this on a daily basis

(Iโ€™m an enby, but, frankly, this is helpful for anyone.)

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queerwitched

- always tell someone where youre at and an approx time when youll be back

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witcheshaven

Add text replacement words in your phone if possible. Something short and memorable that you can send quickly to people in moments of emergencies.

E.g.

I f ing hate that we need to reblog this, people suck, but this will save lives.

DO NOT SCROLL PAST

Being female fucking sucks but yes this shit is important for everyone

Also, do not walk close to walls. It will be easier for someone so walk past you and push you against it or corner you.

If your gut is telling you to cross the street or change your path, do it. Donโ€™t risk it. Your body knows.

If you can, buy a large umbrella and walk holding it. Studies say that predators are less likely to attempt an attack on someone that could fight back. Keys around your knuckles is fine but youโ€™ll need to get very close to do damage. Umbrellas are more precise.

Avoid wearing headphones if you are alone on an empty street. Look aware.

Again: Stay. Away. From. Walls.

Entering an uber alone? Call your father (or anyone you trust) and say โ€œhey dad! Yep, Iโ€™m almost there, Iโ€™m sending you the route.โ€ outloud. Then proceed to send them the route so they can follow the uber drive. This will most likely intimidate the predator.

If you see someone in an uncomfortable or possibly dangerous situation, walk up to them and say โ€œBetty, oh my god, I havenโ€™t seen you in so long!โ€. If she gets slightly confused, you can whisper and let her know youโ€™re trying to help and that she should follow along. Walk together to another station or away from where you are. The man will most likely not follow. I have done this one 2 times and can be very helpful.

If you are unsure she needs help, you can pass her a note saying something like โ€œhey, I noticed this man beside you is making you uncomfortable. If youโ€™d like help, fake a sneeze right now and I will come up to you and pretend we are friends.โ€ This is a long note, but its an example. Be discrete. If she follows along, proceed with the previous tip. This is helpful when youโ€™re in a crowded train and you notice harassment.

Help your sisters. Trust them. Trust yourself. Be safe.

If you ever feel unsafe or need help, anyone is welcome to run upto me and ask me for help! Iโ€™ll go all mama bear and keep you safe!!!

I made this google doc covering 14 different self defense tips and tricks. it was made on January 15th, 2020 so it was before I decided Iโ€™d come back to tumblr jhjshdbjfh.

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return-of-foreverr

EVERY TIME I SEE THIS I REBLOG BECAUSE THIS IS SUPER IMPORTANT!!!!!

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booksartandpoetryy

i fucking hate this world. anyways R E B L O G

Just saw a video explaining why putting a key between each finger is more likely to hurt you than them (the keys will just get pushed back into your knuckles). A better way to hold them is to get your longest key and just clench your hand around it, like youโ€™re making a fist. Thatโ€™ll give you a lot more force and means you can use them in more scenarios (if someone grabs you from behind, you can use the key this way)

Not only for girls and women but also for boys and men.

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youre-deadangel

i feel obligated to reblog this.

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notaserialkiller

I hate that we need these things, but this is so so so important, it can literally save someoneโ€™s life

How to tell if your drink has been spiked:

1. The colour of it has changed

2. Itโ€™s become cloudy-looking

3. There more bubbles in it than should be

4. The ice in it sinks

If you are being followed, go to somewhere with high security like a jewellery store or a bar, if you can, and say whatโ€™s happening (the jewellery store and bar are best shots because theyโ€™re the most likely ones to believe you, the bar for obvious reasons and the jewellery store because thereโ€™s not likely to be a huge presence of toxic masculinity so youโ€™ll be believed)

I hate it so much that i have to reblog this and that we still need this, but itโ€™s so important!! Please everyone (yes also boys/men/enbys/genderfluids/everyone) stay safe out there!!

but I was never taught these things.

The first time I was groped, I was 10 years old. Do you feel sick yet? 10 years. What kind of fucker gropes a 10 y/o?

All I have learnt is to use my elbow or knee or fist or just duck and avoid contact. This post helped a lot, thanks.

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sanktanazyalenskyofthestorm

It was the english teacher at my old school tho I did broke his nose and stabbed his stomach with a pen so

Also carry pointie / sharp or that which has a edge, it helps a lot, yk, just stab

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ranboo-my-beloved1

-if youโ€™re walking alone w/ headphones in, either have one earbud out at all times or have the music/podcast/audiobook/whatever youโ€™re listening to on low and always listen for footsteps or other noises coming from behind you

-If there is a strange looking man in front of your building who doesnโ€™t live there, walk around the block until he leaves so he canโ€™t figure out that you live there and so he canโ€™t kidnap you

-if a man is groping you against your will, go for the balls. always go for the balls. Itโ€™ll 1) hurt like hell, and 2) shock him to the point where you can probably run away and get help.

- carry pepper spray or some other type of weapon

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maribridgerton

As this site is full of readers,

1: if youโ€™re reading a book with a large number of pages, you know, those BIG ONES, or with the hard cover, donโ€™t leave it at home and never bring outside. Iโ€™m not saying to bring it everywhere, but if you are going to any possible dangerous places alone, bring them, in a purse or even by hand (to show it to everyone). Believe me, if you hit someone with it, it will hurt them!!

2: hairspray works just like pepper spray

3: if your being attacked, and you donโ€™t have any pointed objects, neither training, put your fingers on the predators eyes and press it. With all your strength, it will leave them blind or disabled. Use it only if your life is in risk!

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5: the iPhones have a great setting that if you press it will call police, send them photos of your back and front cameras and send a message to the contacts you select saying your in danger; press 5times the โ€œturn offโ€ button and it will appear -sometimes you have to activate it before-

6:

Iโ€™m so happy to share these tips.

Donโ€™t ignore pls it might save your of someone elseโ€™s life

I didnโ€™t fucking know any of this.

Keep Small sharp objects like safety pins on you all the time. Especially, when navigating huge crowds. Many b**** think crowds are a great opportunity to grope people. Stab those gropy fingers with a pin.

UM GUYS. I JUST NOTICED A CRAZY ISSUE W THE TUMBLR UPDATE.

YOU CAN SEE THE ICONS OF ANONS SOMETIMES.

The way I was able to recognize several anons in one of my inboxes bc of this error. Oh my god. Guys. This isnโ€™t supposed to happen.

Weighing in to say:

YES, I SEE THIS ON MOBILE. HOWEVER I DO **NOT** THINK IT'S SHOWING THE ANON'S REAL IDENTITY.

The profile pictures I see next to anon asks are profile pictures that belong to other, non-anon asks in my ask box also. Some info

  • there are 14 asks in my inbox from the last ~5 days
  • 9 anons, 5 logged in users
  • ALL 14 show pfps, including the 9 anons
  • ALL THE SHOWN PROFILE PICTURES BELONG TO THE 5 LOGGED IN USERS

I think the bug is the inbox INCORRECTLY attributing anons to neighboring, logged-in asks.

Which is still a bad bug! Considering it makes it look like a long-time follower of mine sent me a spam ask.

And is worse if, say, one of these was anon hate.

But it's NOT the anon's real identity. It's a neighboring ask asker's identity

So if you have anon hate in your inbox that looks like it's attributed to your dear friend, who sends you lovely asks all the time, it was Not them.

CONFIRMED THE BUG IS INCORRECT ATTRIBUTION.

Thanks @thepatchycat for being a test subject. As you can see the icon being attributed to this ask is NOT the patchy cat

The pictured icon belongs to @watchingforcomets who sent me a nice ask about nail polish yesterday which I have not yet answered!

nothing scarier than being a fan of a fic and then becoming mutuals with the author. like hi shakespeare. big fan of your fake dating au

Apologies in advance but I have to get serious here for a minute about the subject of "being intimidated by fanfic authors." This is more con-oriented than Tumblr-oriented but the sentiments are applicable to both.

It makes me so upset whenever I think of all the times I went to a con and couldn't seem to find anyone to talk to. After being on a few panels where I made jokes about the joys of writing about dicks and butts, I would walk around, and it just seemed like folks were all doing their own thing, not inviting me to join them. I would always think, Oh, story checks out, everyone is put off because I'm a weird freak, it's just like in high school. Then I'd go back to my hotel room and wonder what I spent all this money for, coming here to be lonely.

Then, in the days after the con, I would see posts from other con-goers, or receive messages: "omg berlynn i was too shy to say hello at the con but i just want you to know that your fics mean everything to me and you're so amazing."

I really do appreciate those kind words, but...it would have been cool to actually hang out with you, you know?

One time I had the opportunity to chat with with a trio of folks who were the guests of honor at this con because they were screening their gorgeous and charming fan film, and they confessed to me that the day before, they had walked into a room, seen that I was there, and walked out because they were too intimidated at the very idea of being in the room with me. (So I sat alone and silent in that room for 20 more minutes.)

The thing is, even if I was the most popular fanfic writer in the history of the world, connecting with other fans and forming friendships is the only compensation I get. I don't eat better because you liked my fic. I don't get a swag bag worth $5,000 when I check into my hotel room at a con because I wrote that one omegaverse fic that everyone read. I do what I do and I write what I write because I want to be part of a community of fans.

But I should note that all is not loneliness and misery for Berlynn. I have had some of the greatest moments of my life making connections with people who actually did speak to me at cons. Sometimes it was just a hug and a few happy tears, sometimes it was deep philosophical discussions about writing dicks and butts while sitting on the floor of a party suite at two in the morning...but several of my IRL friends are people who were not afraid to just reach out to me after a panel, or say hello at the bar.

Here's how it might go when you connect with your favorite fanfic author: One of my closest friends is someone who was a big fan of my work, introduced to me by a mutual friend. Sitting across from me at a restaurant not too long after our introduction, this person had to point out to me that, whilst gesticulating exuberantly over my meal, I had gotten some macaroni and cheese on my sleeve. After that, they were not so starstruck anymore, and now we live in the same building, which makes it easy for us to hang out and giggle over old TV shows together a couple times a week.

Probably there are fanfic writers who don't want to be bothered, who don't want to be messaged, who aren't in it for the social connection...but they are not the ones following you on social media. They're not the ones with their inboxes open, anonymous messages on. And they're not the ones strolling through the common areas at cons looking for an empty seat at a table.

Hey iโ€™m a fashion design student so i have tons and tons of pdfs and docs with basic sewing techniques, pattern how-tos, and resources for fabric and trims. Iโ€™ve compiled it all into a shareable folder for anyone who wants to look into sewing and making their own clothing. Iโ€™ll be adding to this folder whenever i come across new resources

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plussizedandrogyny

Updated just now with new hand sewing resources (mainly buttonholes) and textbook pdfs on fashion history, fashion illustration, and thinking through designs!

OP I owe you my life

OP you are the greatest person currently in my life. You beautiful, thoughtful creature.

โ€ผ๏ธโ€ผ๏ธWe will die at any momentโ€ผ๏ธโ€ผ๏ธ

The war has returned after 15 months of death and genocide. We have never rested. We are losing people every day, most of them children and women... The bombing is everywhere. Our children are afraid...The sound is frightening.๐Ÿ˜ญ

There is no food, no drink, no medicine, the crossing is closed and everything is expensive.

โ€ผ๏ธWe don't want to die. Please donate and help us so we can buy food and medicine for my mother and save ourselves from death. Just donate. ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ˜ž๐Ÿซ‚โ€ผ๏ธ

i'm gonna be honest i don't get why they say everypony instead of everybody in mlp. it's not like the word everybody is human-specific. the ponies have bodies. the word everypony, however, is pony-specific in a world where ponies are not the only people in their society, which means it would be more accurate and inclusive to use everybody instead of everypony. it all makes no sense to me

maybe they all hate spike..?

The Brony to alt-right pipeline is starting to make a little more sense now.

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