Avatar

SERENE.

@chumpmagump / chumpmagump.tumblr.com

Aus.Light worker. Yogi. Therapist. Ocean enthusiast. Buddhist centered. Human bean.
Avatar
Reblogged

I’m feeling so burnt right now, but i can’t cry? Listening to the XX I thought would help me cry but not even that. I have to finish an assignment thats due Thursday, and then start another two thats due in a few weeks.  Again, I have work twice a week, and I’m not liking the work.. It is good experience and great pay though. I’ve realised my goal is to go into private practice providing counselling/ other services as a SW, but my dream is counselling. I don’t think i fit the stereotypical hospital SW role and thats fine. I’ll be happy to wrap that placement up this week and back to early intervention I goooo. I was there a lot for my friends today… sometimes i feel they can’t be there for me though. Andres definetely is and a few other friends that are outside of my typical friendship group have been great though.  Everyone’s having a hard time in my cohort, we all just need a good cocktail and cake. 

Now i gotta make lunch for tomorrow and dinner tonight, and do this dang assignment. No wonder i feel so dead when it comes to sleep time. 

We did it!!! We became a counsellor!!!

A breathe of exhale

Alone

Escaped

You made it

You’re so strong

You’re safe now

You’re so independent

Good for you!

A breathe of inhale

It is not -

He is safe

He truly cares so much for you

He’s taking care of this today

There is no yelling

There is no rage

Sip a bit more air

tight throat

dry air

It’s not our birthright or fair

To be living in a world where

We exhale

In relief

Celebrate

for our mothers and sisters survival story release

Where the greatest love story is the one of divorce and return to the self

Instead of collective loving peace

This blog is really about me coming back to myself, again and again and again. It’s a living breathing space where I can just be myself with permission to also just not be the greatest to the outside world.

Feeling very shattered over friendships this autumn season. It feels the expectation people have on me I am falling short of. Some is valid and I legitimately can be very poor at communication and showing affection. And other expectations feel forced and like others expect more from me because of the previous dynamic within the friendship/ maybe I had more capacity then and I don’t now etc.

There’s no proper rule book on how to navigate friendships and my first instance when there’s some kind of rupture is to distance myself very far from that person. Because it’s far too painful to address for some time. I need to reflect and consider my own actions of causing ahimsa and theirs too.

It can also feel like I’m being punished for certain social behaviours people expect from me and when they blow up at me or I have no warning about a behaviour I was doing for a while, I feel a lot of shame. I don’t like upsetting people, it places massive amounts of shame into my body and takes me back to being abused as a child. So any time I hurt someone I feel the same way I did when I was small. It sucks, because ultimately it’s a normal human experience to screw up. And it’s exhausting to have to sit with that level of shame. Probably exhausts the people around me too knowing how sensitive I am maybe. I don’t know. I think most people close to me don’t witness that experience I have. Maybe it’s not as known.

Anyway. There’s no point to this post. Just 6am reflection.

Avatar
Reblogged

Help my Son " Ezzdeen "

🌟 Our campaign is vetted by

🇵🇸 @/gazavetters List at #291

I want you to know that my ezzdeen is "ADHD" and very picky in his food, and now he is suffering from huge weight loss, because the crazy expensive prices for the food ,so that we can't afford to buy what he accepts, without you ezz will not regain his health.

We needs your support more than ever, the daily costs of living, the expensive treatments, I hope that through your support I can reach safety with my family.

Started to remember what it’s like to be alive and in awe of the world today.

It’s been a long time since I’ve been back in Melbourne. But it feels good to come back as a very strong career driven and independent single woman.

I’ve been feeling very under the weather physically for the past week, wondering if my mono has been reactivated.

I’ve been seeing a lot of patients & took some time this week to just breathe before I complete my yoga teacher training intensive next week.

Feels good to be here with Jason. Such a supportive, empathic and insightful friend. Really love and adore him.

Even when I’m feeling very run down I still do a lot. To try and be there for my patients, my friends and family, myself. To regulate, to rest, and to try and resist the urge to do more. Which can be very hard and I can fall short of many times.

I’m very proud of the person I am today. And that person who set foot on Melbourne many years ago. She’s proud too.

I saw some snippet of a callout post for an autistic trans woman where they list social faux pas she committed, and I think we allistic people should all feel 100x more ashamed of not telling people in the moment how we feel about what they're doing. I think its extremely evil and cruel to not only lie to an autistic person and blame them for it but also to feel justified shaming them for your behavior. And it's currently the social norm to do that

Everytime we as allistic people sit and force a smile or sigh and act subtly grumpy or otherwise lie to an autistic person's face about how we feel about what they did it is in fact Our Fault that we are enduring whatever the autistic person is daring to try and share with us. You can literally say something out loud directly. The literal structure of our social existence will always traumatize autistic people unless you can give a fuck enough to consider it isn't their fault that you didn't communicate with them

Even I couldn't understand this until my wife was in tears because I had internalized the idea that it was her fault that people were uncomfortable in a conversation where no one told her they were uncomfortable and blamed her for it. Allistic people punish autistic people for so many Percieved slights, or even decide together afterward what exactly the slight was and then make their collective judgment behind the autistic persons back. Not only do we get the benefit of communicating nonverbally through obtuse social cues the autistic person can't parce, we then get to say that we weren't going behind their back because we all did those social cues they are too disabled to understand Right in front of them. No, what you did was choose to suppress your feelings and then reap the social benefits of being in on the discomfort.

99% sure this is about my callout and id like to say if people started apologizing to me for this shit right now it'd be too late. you gave me open questions i didn't know were commands, you interpreted my open questions as commands and judged me for feeling entitled to such a thing in the first place. everyone in the car laughed at my plot outline, man, you said the story was good.

This is really helpful to read. Especially because I struggle to call people out for anything which is a trauma submit response. So my ultimate fear is telling someone and they fire back at me and get defensive. I usually then break down and sob and feel disgusting and punished.

But you’re right. It does the other person detriment too when I don’t say anything. And typically I’ve found autistic people actually really appreciate the feedback and are not as defensive as neurotypicals.

You are using an unsupported browser and things might not work as intended. Please make sure you're using the latest version of Chrome, Firefox, Safari, or Edge.