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do you sometimes tend to react out of anger or emotion but then later wish you would have handled things differently?
well, thankfully knowing the difference between reacting vs. responding can help you, not just in heated situations but in all situations and conversations. it'll show that you're a person of elegance, thoughtfulness, and maturity. so, here's an explanation of both and a guide on how to apply this to your life effectively:
·˚ ༘ "When you react, you let others control you. When you respond, you are in control." - Bohdi Sanders ·˚ ༘
REACTING:
ᡣ𐭩 reacting is instant and often driven by emotion, it's like a reflex. reactions don't involve much thought, like snapping at someone when you're upset. reacting tends to lead to escalated situations which leads to unintended consequences.
so next time you're stuck in traffic or there's a long line at the store you really wanted to buy something from, pause and acknowledge your emotions. say to yourself "this is not in my control but i will do what is in my control". and this could involve calmly finding a new route to take to avoid heavy traffic or just deciding to order online from that desired store. think logically! 😊
RESPONDING:
ᡣ𐭩 responding, on the other hand, involves pausing, assessing and choosing the logic/right course of action. it shows that you are secure within yourself and thoughtful. RESPONDING = UNDERSTANDING
so next time someone criticizes you or you get into a disagreement, always PAUSE FIRST, acknowledge that whoever is criticizing you is coming from a place of anger and insecurity, then calmly respond by saying "i'm sorry that you are frustrated, could you explain your concerns further?" and go from there. a simple understanding goes a long way. it doesn't only help the situation but it leaves you with a good self conscious.
another great way of responding is to simply walk away!
choosing to respond empowers growth, strengthens connection and helps you to stand out in a world full of overly sensitive people. remember, every situation is an opportunity to practice this skill and grow. happy living and au revoir!😊
No one is watching you as much as you think they are. No one cares if you're biking alone, playing basketball by yourself, or sitting by a river with a blanket and a book. What actually matters is how those things make you feel. Do they bring you peace? Do they make you happy? That’s what counts. Not some random stranger’s opinion that won’t even last ten seconds. think again
If you are feeling good about yourself or situation and then your mood suddenly shifts leaving you feeling insecure, unsure, etc. try to remind yourself that nothing has truly changed but your perception. Your cute outfit did not suddenly become horrid. Your delicious meal did not tranform into a terrible one. Your peers perception of you has not radically transformed over a social misstep. Everything we experience is put through it through our mental filter, and that can convince us that everyone else sees us with the judgement we have for ourselves. Be kind to yourself.
Since I'm therapist-posting recently:
Legitimately self-compassion is the biggest mental health life hack of all time. I'm NOT talking about self-esteem. You do NOT have to like yourself one bit. You don't have to believe that you're a good person who deserves good things. You just have to believe that you're a person who deserves the things all people deserve.
You can't get from "I'm the Worst" to "I'm a worthy and lovable person" without passing through "I'm just a regular fuckup like everybody else."
Try it on. If you're really addicted to being mean to yourself, you can start by framing it as I'm Not Special. Embrace being a regular fuckup like everybody else.
i have been so excited to make this post cuz i've been nerding out about fragrances a LOT lately and i've rly just wanted an excuse to yap about it, SO this is everything that i know currently about fragrance…💬🎀
THE STRUCTURE OF FRAGRANCE ;
ok so before we start layering lets understand the STRUCTURE of fragrance. its important to know the structure of a fragrance so that if u want to create ur own scent, you can reference the information. ALSO super helpful if ur into combining scents and layering them like i am. so a fragrance is composed three layers (notes) theres the
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🥨 🍩 ✦ 2 week mental rewiring: Alignment with your dream-self ✦
— ⭐️ What to consider before starting:
Please align yourself with the BEST version of you. Don’t use this week to fuel any warped vision of what you THINK your dream-self should look like. Take time to explore the depths of yourself and understand what is making you THINK you should be a certain way. What would TRULY benefit you, what would make you happy in the long run, are you doing this because of other people? do you KNOW YOURSELF? This is the time to throw away any unhealthy thinking and replace them with something BETTER!
— 🍰 S.S.R Rules:
★ Only listen to music that supports your dream life (raps/sings about wealth or affirming beauty)
★ No depressing or sad music!
★ No social media (only allowing youtube and tumblr + standard messaging apps. Although screen time should be somewhat limited.)
★ Only listen to subliminals (with positive affs) , affs tapes, self improvement content creators, positive advice or meditation/sleep related videos
We are completely filtering out all negativity and reseting our minds!
— 🧁What do you during these 2 weeks?:
★ Script different aspects of your dream life, your desires, ANYTHING! Repetition is key until you believe it whole heartedly.
★ Give gratitude whenever and wherever possible. Keep track of it in a journal or in notes app!
★ Always affirm positive affirmations whenever you can and even in doubt. Repeat them to yourself in the mirror in the morning and at night.
★ Act towards your goals as your dream self. Faith and Work is key.
★ Exercise, move your body, make healthier food choices (don’t obsess over plain heathy food make yummy protein filled meals for example), keep up with your appearance (making sure you look your best whenever you can!) and hygiene, stay hydrated and do the things you know will help you mentally/physically in the long term.
★ set small rewards for completing a set amount of days if it helps you to continue on.
— 🥮 You can always extend the week!
Requirement: 1 week minimum
The goal is to rewire your brain so you naturally make healthier choices that are more aligned with your dream-self. Preferably it probably should be done up to a month, but for easing yourself into it, starting small is always okay!
— 🍪 You can always restart if you mess up.
If you mess up one day it’s okay you can restart again the next day. Keep track of how many times you mess up though, you have to have some form of discipline.
Let me know when you start and how it goes!
“Keep on going with your silly dream.” - Laufey
1. Plan outfits for certain days.
2. Experiment with new hairstyles.
3. Paint your nails.
4. Write a poem.
5. Make a playlists full of your favorite songs.
6. Do some form of exercise.
7. Draw, paint, or journal based on how your feeling.
8. Have a dance party.
9. Study/learn a new language.
10. Find recipes you want to try and write them down.
11. Solve word searches, puzzles, or a crossword puzzle.
12. Clean your room.
13. Write down places you want to visit in the future.
14. Read a book.
15. Watch your comfort movie or show.
16. Do a at home facial. (Cleansing, facial steam, face mask, moisturizer, and gua sha or hand facial massage)
17. Make goals for the next month.
18. Write yourself a love letter to open when you feel sad in the future.
19. Go on a walk.
20. Make your dream wishlist on Pinterest (or write it down)
21. Give yourself a lymphatic drainage body massage.
22. Do some stretches.
23. Write a fiction story on google docs or paper.
24. Put hair rollers in for a heatless blowout.
25. Get fake (or real) flowers and make a flower crown.
26. Come up with your own workout routine.
“Life is prettier than it may seem.” - Laufey
Remember to keep believing in yourself and stay pretty 💗
Xoxo, Arielleslipgloss 💋🎀
✶: approaching people, especially today, can be difficult due to insecurities, lack of social interaction, anxiety, or whatever other fears one could have when it comes to this topic.
CONVERSATION STARTERS
✶: not knowing what to say is typically a big reason we don't approach people. starting up conversation may seem difficult depending on the person you are trying to talk to. my biggest tips are to either find something you both find interest in, talk about everyday topic (school, hobbies, music, etc), or starting off with a compliment. here's some conversation starter examples!!
✶- "I love your shirt, where's it from?" (starting off with a compliment often helps you give off more of a friendly approach that may make it easier for them to talk to you. asking questions often leads to more conversation!!)
✶- (classmate) "the test was more challenging than I thought, how'd it go for you?" (finding common things to conversate over gives you both a flow for conversation. you could also change this around for a workspace or another setting)
MINDSET
✶-cultivating a new mindset could definitely play a huge part on how you interact or approach people. we often feel self conscious about things like out appearance, our mannerisms, etcetera, when it comes to talking to new people.
✶- believe it or not, 90% of the time, the people we talk to don't even know the tiny things you're beating yourself up over. so changing your mindset could make a huge difference when it comes to approaching others.
✶- for example: instead of having the mindset of "they're looking at my hair because it looks bad", instead, think "they're looking at my hair because my hair looks extra good today" (this may take a little bit of delusion 😉)
