Professional Sleep Paralysis Demon

It genuinely bothers me how almost nobody wants to talk about or acknowledge how disturbingly normalized it is to mock, devalue, and appearance-shame nonbinary folks online.

I hate being told it’s wrong for me to identify under the trans umbrella because I “don’t belong there”. I hate being misgendered and accused of “faking” and “attention-whoring” because I’m not androgynous and don’t feel dysphoric about my breasts. I hate being called a “theyfab” and having that term used to discredit me. I hate being told to censor my self-expression so I “don’t look like a stereotype”. I hate my preferred pronouns never being used because it/its is too “weird”. I hate being laughed at the very second I bring up neopronouns and xenogenders. I hate being subject to jokes about my chosen name. I hate having every single aspect of my identity and expression laughed at and mocked constantly because y’all hold such a fucked-up stereotype of nonbinary people as these 2016-esque SJW keyboard warrior caricatures and I hate watching people online giggling away at “Arson (they/star/bun) in the Discord groupchat” memes because cringe culture never died to them, they just chose a more “acceptable” target to project it onto.

Why am I suddenly getting hate comments from profiles who do nothing but repost pictures of topless women

yknow kinda something special about the fact that i got a cut on my left hand ring finger while working on someone’s christmas present. that’s gonna leave a scar. every time i look at my ringfinger i’ll be reminded of it. the “wedding band” finger… kinda more intimate than marriage…

but also OUUUUUCCCCCHHHHHHHIIIIEEEEE

cut myself on the same finger while trying to cut a bagel…. idk how to romanticize this one guys

you have to fuck the bagel now

i have to fuck the bagel.

do y'all remember when they found all that tf art in Osamu Tezuka's drawer post-mortem because I think about it often

anyway keep chasing your bliss and draw weird shit, god knows we need that right now

With April Fool's day approaching, here are some basic prank guidelines if you want to be sure your prank isn't going too far and actually being a jerk instead of being funny:

In general, a good rule of thumb for a good prank is that both the prankster and the prankee should be laughing and amused after the prank is completed and revealed. If the prank ends in only the prankster laughing and feeling amused while the prankee is upset / distressed / angry after the fact, I would personally categorize this more as bullying than pranking.

Please feel free to add on if anyone can thank of other guidelines for April Fool's pranks.

The main mantra of pranks: “Confuse, Don’t Abuse”. Good pranks should be reversible (meaning there’s no long-term or permanent damage to property), light in subject matter (no pranks about death, injury, divorce, abuse, etc), and amusing to both parties. The worst your prank should amount to is a minor inconvenience.

Hide rubber ducks all over the place for your prankee to find. Stuff socks into the toes of their shoes so they think they outgrew them overnight. Turn everything in their room upside-down. Only talk to them in Simlish until they catch on. Gift-wrap all the food in the fridge. Replace all their framed photos with pictures of cat memes. Swap out the shirt they left out to wear with the world’s ugliest sweater you got at the thrift store. Fill their bathroom with balloons. Cover the sensor on the underside of their computer mouse. Move all the furniture one inch to the left.

Pranks don’t have to hurt to be funny.

I love that different characters pronounce “ena” differently, because both ways are valid; peace and love. If you say eena you’re wrong but you’re valid ♡

Seeing shit that completely rewrites recent online trans history makes me so frustrated because I was there!!!!!!

Like what do you mean "theyfab was coined by frustrated transfems to express their frustration with transmisogynist nonbinary people"???? I was literally getting called a transtrender theyfab by 4channers as a 15 year old in 2013 because I was a feminine nonbinary kid with a dyed undercut??? In 2016 I was a shithead 18 year old that hated itself and was calling other trans people transtrender theyfabs to try and validate myself????????

It's literally a term born out of misogyny and the idea that feminine nonbinary people who were afab are faking being trans???????????

I didn't escape the depths of 2010's transmedicalism in my early 20's and start dedicating my time towards trying to repair the damage I and others caused just for y'all to completely rewrite that history to try and justify your own hatred of other trans people 😭

And even IF that was the case, THAT DOESN’T FUCKING MAKE IT OKAY. THAT DOESN’T MAKE THE TERM ANY LESS BLATANTLY BIGOTED.

Some of y’all are WAY too fucking comfortable excusing blatant bigotry as long as it comes out of a (hypothetical or not) minority’s mouth. Bigotry only exists to you when it’s a cishet white abled man, but when a member of your own community says some unhinged shit, you give them a pass.

Be fucking for real.

What the fuck is this??????????

Folks: you CANNOT censor trigger tags. When you block a tag, it doesn't block other "spellings" of it. Writing it as "r@pe" or "r4p3" means that someone who has "tw rape" as a blocked tag will still see that post because you didn't wanna say the word rape. You are hurting people. Do not censor words, because people do not have those filtered out.

And honestly if you can't even write the word rape to protect other people then you probably aren't old/mature enough to discuss the topic.

If y’all somehow needed evidence that this shit actually hurts people, allow me to bring up the few solid months last year where I relapsed into an eating disorder because I kept getting posts recommended that tagged these obscure-ass censor terms and codewords and completely fucking bypassed the trigger tags I already had blocked. I couldn’t even fucking anticipate any of it because they just kept appearing so I had to repeatedly tag-block over and over and over again, sometimes with multiple “spellings” of the same tag.

If you wanna trigger-tag your ana diary or whatever, TAG ANA DIARY. If you wanna trigger-tag rape, TAG RAPE. If you wanna tag ANY POSSIBLE GODDAMN TRIGGER, TYPE THAT SHIT OUT IN FULL.

i do think there should be more stories and shows and stuff about guys falling in love with butch women actually, i think that’d be a good thing. and not ‘this is as butch as twitter can handle’, i mean butch as can fucking be without apology, and making those boys weak in the knees about it. i think it’s great actually to have f/m romances that exist to break gender norms, too. i think it sucks that the only mainstream het romances that exist are either about women who are already feminine or with women who are just a little too scarily masculine and have to be fixed into being girlier. that’s shit.

it’s not like. taking away from queer people if you let “the straights” have some genderfuckery in their romance, too. that’s good, actually, the blurring of gender roles and performance and getting better understandings of your own sexuality is good for everyone. and it’s really fucking weird if you think that mainstream “het” romances shouldn’t feature women who are “too masculine” because that’s only allowed for queer people, somehow.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, gatekeeping and hostility toward cishet folks isn’t “proving a point” or “giving them a taste of their own medicine”, it’s just really goddamn mean.

We talk so much about equal rights not being like a pie in the sense that more for us doesn’t mean less for others, so why can’t we reciprocate that? We preach about how being queer isn’t a choice we consciously make and the pains of being hated for a factor we can’t control, so why do we think it’s cute and funny to be needlessly hostile toward cishet folks for the crime of existing?

Why is it suddenly okay to enforce an unfair binary, restrict representation in media, and mock, shame, and belittle others when it’s us who are doing it?

more people remember zendaya is meechee than the actual name of the film she was in

how quick we are to forget that Common is Stonekeeper

gina rodriguez is kolka btw. if you even care

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from the bottom of my heart: just because something makes you uncomfortable doesn't mean it shouldn't be allowed to exist

Hello, tumblr user. Before you is a tumblr post asking you to name a female fictional character. You have unlimited time to tag a female character, NOT a male one.

Begin.

im sorry but when you grow up and interact with people irl youre gonna have friends where you dont fw their tastes. sometimes youre gonna meet someone chill whos also a hazbin hotel fan or have a really nice coworker that likes taylor swift and youre gonna need to mind your business and shut the fuck up or youre gonna be real lonely

Also, and I say this with kindness and grace, not everybody is going to be as chronically online as you are.

Some people prefer extremely limited social media use, only stick to their own circle of family and friends, or just don’t use it at all. Even if somebody you know irl is into something that you consider “problematic”, you can’t always fault them for not being aware of the internet discourse around it, even when it comes to things you may see as “common knowledge” (actual example, I had a friend who had genuinely never heard of BOTDF and almost got into their music before I explained why that was a bad idea). Chances are that these people just aren’t on the sides of the internet that you are, and that’s no reason to treat them as if they’re willfully ignorant or malicious.