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Every single anti- bi/pan-lesbian post i make goes the same way.
I go "hey lesbians dont experience attraction to men actually."
And some fucknut goes "thats exclusionary!! Lesbians can fuck men!!"
And i go "so thats rape culture. Youre advocating for lesbian corrective rape"
And they go "you dont respect diverse genders/sexualities!!"
And i go "i dont care what people call themselves, feel free to make up new labels, but lesbianism does not include attraction to men"
And the circle back around to "youre being exclusionary!! And a terf!!"
And i go "excluding is not inherently morally bad. Including is not inherently morally good. Also, im only talking about not being attracted to men, why do you think i mean "trans women" when i say men"
Then they go "well theres a long history of lesbians fucking men! Dont deny history!"
And i go "those lesbians were bisexual women who fought hard to have their own label and identity. You are being biphobic by erasing their struggles. Additionally, something having history doesnt absolve it of any crime"
And sometimes theyll go "but men fucking lesbians is a kink! You cant kinkshame!"
And ill go "something being a kink does not automatically mean it can't be criticized. Are pedophilia and beastiality a kink? Are they something that should be allowed? Kinks are not some magical, untouchable item that can do no harm in any situation."
And they'll go back to "some people just have open or fluid genders/sexualities! You cant box us in!"
And i go "sure. And you cant tell me how open or closed my sexuality is. You cant redefine a sexuality for all lesbians just because you want to. A sexuality is not more morally correct when open, and not more morally condemnable when closed. Aren't you against political lesbianism? How is political fluidity any better? (fluidity just for the sake of being more Politically Correct)"
And they go "but youre being mean!! Youre being loud and mean and your tone is bad"
And i go "well im a sexual assault survivor advocating against sexual assault of lesbians. My tone is probably indicative of how strongly i feel about this issue. Plus, its fucked up to ask an oppressed class to try and get the boot off their neck as prettily and quietly as possible."
And then they devolve into calling me a transphobe-terf mean scary fat lesbian who doesn't care about other people. All over me saying "lesbians do not fuck men".