Yes of course! I enjoy answering questions, and talking about my politics. Unfortunately, I am not a talented writer, or really a smart person in general. I just get anxious that sometimes I’m not doing justice to my point because I’m not articulate. I also have dyslexia and more often then not mess up on words and spelling which is quite embarrassing. I appreciate you understanding my viewpoints are coming from a good place. I fear on here people view me as a bitch because of my strong opinions, and sometimes radical takes. Honestly it’s something I struggle with a lot. Sometimes I feel bad for my mutuals that they have to interact with someone who can come off so bitchy. I hope everyone understands my points are not coming from hate, I genuinely just am saying what I believe to be right, due to lived experiences, and things I’ve read about. Not saying my takes are wrong, obviously. I am a nice girl, I just have strong opinions.

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I don’t disagree with the fact women want these things. They do. But just because women WANT something doesn’t mean it’s healthy to endure.

No! Fun fact, my profile does not say Matthew’s favorite whore, it says Matthew’s favorite TUMBLR whore. Meaning I’m a whore for tumblr… meaning I use tumblr a lot lol. Just like if someone says “I’m a whore for cake” it’s saying they just love cake…. Yk? It’s not degrading myself.

Also just because someone’s been called a whore/slut in a derogatory way and wants to reclaim that by being called that in a sexual way.. doesn’t mean it’s healthy!

Hiiiii I’m going to try my best to explain this, sorry if it’s not good 😭

I think there are some things that are inevitable in a relationship, like dom and sub aspects. I think naturally as a relationship progresses, roles will fall, those roles being someone who is slightly more dominant and someone who is slightly more submissive. Power dynamics aren’t necessarily harmful, the harm comes in when one person has SO much power over another, like the ability to hit, hurt, and degrade their partner.

I also feel that praise is a natural thing in relationships that manifests outside of a sexual aspect. Saying stuff like “I’m proud of you” “good job” aren’t things that are unusual to hear in any type of relationship. So if hypothetically I enjoy praise outside of a sexual aspect, I’ll enjoy it in a sexual one too.

I think the idea that aftercare, check in, and consent, occur only in the bdsm community is so incredibly harmful. Any type of sexual activity should include all of those things. People don’t only need aftercare after having sex with bdsm dynamics, people need aftercare after having any type of sexual activity. Same with check in and consent. I think this is an issue where people feel as if it’s unnecessary if you’re not doing anything extreme. It’s ALWAYS necessary.

While I understand bdsm does not only include kinks where people put their hands on each other, there are still harmful kinks that don’t include anything hands on. Like degradation. Imo, your partner should never ever refer to you as anything degrading you’re already in such a vulnerable position adding on these degrading words is just dangerous. If you keep hearing it over and over and over again it’s literally psychology that you will soon start to believe it. Also…. Why is your partner okay degrading you???? If my partner EVER called me a bitch or a slut or a whore or a cunt it’s DONE. Even if they’re remotely comfortable saying it… it’s done.

Sure, not ALL kinks are harmful. But most bdsm kinks are. Therefore it would be disingenuous of me to say I’m okay with bdsm or I’m pro bdsm because I’m not. At all. I don’t care if it’s consensual, or theres aftercare after. It’s wrong and dangerous to me. I’ve said this 10000000 times I don’t blame people for wanting these types of kinks, I mostly blame porn and men for conditioning women into enjoying these things.