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i think we should bring this back (with some amendments ofc) if we ever needed an "internet etiquette" for the younger generations, now is the moment to remind them. purity culture kills fandom
as well as the three laws of fandom:
Don't Like, Don't Read (DL;DR), Your Kink is not My Kink And That's OK (YKINMKATO) and Ship and Let Ship
watched the episode of severance last night where ms huang has to sacrifice her ringtoss game… i’ve got my own little ringtoss game at work and i would be so sad if i had to destroy it
like this thing is so entertaining when you’re trapped in office hell i could never give it up
it’s got my works logo on the back too lmao
this stupid dream I had
saw a video abt how the “toxic boy mom” thing is just emotional incest/enmeshment and i was like yeah correct. then i looked at the comments and it was all ppl blaming the sons??? mocking them, saying they should just get over it, saying no woman should ever date them, that if their mom is like that then it’s their fault for “allowing” it and like. y’all i do not know how else to explain that a parent abusing their child (bc that’s what emotional incest is) is not the child’s fault. if you realize your partner is a victim of enmeshment/emotional incest, you should handle it the same way you would with any other abuse victim, with care and tact and offers of support. not mockery and blame. jesus christ.
“he lets her walk all over him, he always has to ask her permission to make important life decisions, she always asks really invasive questions and he just answers her like it’s normal, he doesn’t set boundaries with her so she just does whatever she wants, she threatened to hurt herself if he didn’t give her attention and he just gave in immediately”
do u not see how this is textbook signs of abuse. is that not glaringly obvious.
I mean, obviously don't blame children for being abused - but like at a certain point, as an adult, you are responsible for yourself and your own life and even if it's not your fault for being abused, it is your responsibility to set boundaries and cut off abusers. Like, you can be as supportive as you want, but if the adult man doesn't agree to end or distance himself from an abusive relationship, then what can you do? That's ultimately his responsibility as an adult.
“at a certain point you’re responsible for your own life […] it is your responsibility to set boundaries and cut off abusers”
you really do not know how abuse works, and also this is victim blaming 101.
“you can be as supportive as you want but if the adult man doesn’t agree to end or distance himself from an abusive relationship, what can you do?”
not a lot, which should be sad. it should make you sad to see that a person is being abused and isn’t able to leave yet because they are still heavily conditioned by their abuser to not see the abuse. also if we actually treated these types of abusive relationships as abusive and interacted with victims as victims then i guarantee you more men would cut off their abusive mothers.
and this shit is what i’m talking abt. bc this is not a reaction most people who consider themselves to be progressive and anti-abuse would have if the victim was a woman — not bc victims who are women are inherently treated better, but bc patriarchal norms still heavily affect the way we treat abuse victims. women are weaker and therefore when they’re victims they need more help, they need someone to protect them. when men are victims, it’s their own failure for not being strong and masculine enough to protect themselves. when the truth is that regardless of gender, victims of abuse are vulnerable and need to be treated with kindness and patience. bc if you infantilize or mock someone who’s being abused, it’s just going to further entrench them in the abuse.
what if i *remembers that making suicide jokes is not conducive with my goal of improving the wellbeing of myself and everyone around me* transform into an oyster
Polyamory isn't about sticking it to the people staring. It's not about parents' acceptance. It's not about cheating or sneaking around. It's not even about the sex, not that that's not a bonus.
It's about reminding each other to take our meds. It's about breaking bread with metamours. It's about sharing special interests on long car rides. It's about learning about your lovers' love for their partners.
It's about retying her dress while our gf melts at the sweetness. It's about the way they both helped me stay ambulatory. It's about tag team compliments. It's about the way that little girl excitedly looked between the three of us, her eyes fixing on each of our clasped hands.
It's about support, and love, and living.
This may be controversial but I think polyamory should be in tv shows and video games. I think there’s so many unexplored dynamics for romcom relationships and we simply deserve these kinds of stories.
Published in “Transvestia” magazine #38 (April 1966). I think original art could be by Bob Tupper.
not sure if anyone’s added this info here but because I wanted to know more I checked and….
Every issue of transvestia magazine, which ran from the 60’s through to the 80’s is available through the uVic archives. It was a groundbreaking publication for the crossdressing and later the transgender community. Check it out.
This is a list of things you can try when you're experiencing strong homicidal ideation.
Feel free to suggest more coping strategies! The ones here are compiled from things I've done myself, and things I've had recommended to me by other people. It's meant to be comprehensive, and to give you an idea of things to try when you're struggling, or if some methods aren't working.
Ordered roughly from most gentle to most violent.
Death of the author: Treating the author’s stated interpretation of their own work as merely one opinion among many, rather than the authoritative Word of God.
Disappearance of the author: Treating the context and circumstances of the work’s authorship as entirely irrelevant with respect to its interpretation, as though the work had popped into existence fully formed just moments ago.
Taxidermy of the author: Working backwards from a particular interpretation of the work to draw conclusions about what the context and circumstances of its authorship must have been.
Undeath of the author: Holding the author personally responsible for every possible reading of their work, even ones they could not reasonably have anticipated at the time of its authorship.
Frankenstein’s Monster of the author: Drawing conclusions about authorial intent based on elements that are present only in subsequent adaptations by other authors.
Weekend at Bernie’s of the author: Insisting that the author would personally endorse your interpretation of the work if they happened to be present.
I thought this was going to be a joke, but these are all very real things you see people do.
I’m never more serious than when I’m joking.
meows at you loud as fuck. meows at you loud as fuck again
anyways tl;dr on that last post it’s like we’ve reached a point where in popular culture the ancient Greeks are remembered for their mythology and literature (and maybe Athenian democracy) while the Romans are remembered for their patriarchal imperialism, despite the fact that both cultures did plenty of both. and the consequence is that we’ve ended up with a bizarre quasi-gender binary where Greek stuff is for people who like mythology and literature and Roman stuff is for people who like patriarchal imperialism
@finelythreadedsky hopefully ok to reblog with your comments because this is literally exactly it!!
[Image IDs: Tumblr replies from finelyThreadedSky reading: you're So right and this was on really blatant display with the meme about men thinking about the roman empire a year or so back
and i also think it connects to the way [ancient] history as an academic discipline straddles social sciences and humanities
like rome gets classed as history and social science, and greece gets classed as literature and humanities. and those are not ungendered categories. /End IDs]
