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The goldrain

@inmyheadandonmymind / inmyheadandonmymind.tumblr.com

Poetry, rants, and thoughts of a 20-something
me talking to my little cousins: subtle feminist propaganda
me in my english essays: subtle feminist propaganda
me walking down the street: subtle feminist propaganda also

Man caves. What exactly are you hiding from?

My Renaissance lit professor brought up a good point about “man caves” last semester and the whole concept of men having a special designated space to escape. And it’s really interesting, cause he called it out as what it is. It’s an appropriation of victimhood by men made to believe that marriage and family are these things weighing down on their happiness. And it’s so true. Cause like… Do yall hear the way some men talk about marriage or even domestic situations with women in general. Married men like to put off that they are somehow miserable with wives and families when actual studies show that married men in society fare better than married women. Depression rates are higher in married women than in married men. And married men make more money & get more promotions than single men. On the flip side married women & women who have children are likely to not get promoted or make as much money as their single and/or childless counter parts. And I guess the reason for that is because corporate America knows that family dynamics have not changed on the grand scale and that women still mostly, even with a partner, do most of the child rearing and domestic duties.

So, again, my question for the man cavers: What exactly are you hiding from?

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pussy-and-pizzza-x

Wow….just wow smh

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tothedirigible

I love this.

This is seriously understating the case. Being married increases male happiness and LIFE EXPECTANCY and does the reverse to women.

Women aren’t just more depressed than men: marriage MAKES women more stressed and less successful and shortens their life expectancy. Marriage MAKES men LESS stressed and MORE successful and INCREASES their life expectancy.

TBH, the man is probably hiding from the infamous “second shift” - all the unpaid labor women do and the responsibilities they’ve been conditioned from birth to take on while men have been conditioned to aspire to eternal childhood.

my feminist rage literally fuels me I was struggling to open a new pickle jar and my dad said “give it to me I’m a man” and I looked him dead in the eye and suddenly opened the jar without a problem I’m like the feminist hulk

informal poll

“fuck boys get money” means:

a) Forget boys, accrue wealth instead

b) Have sex with boys and get money for it

c) Fuck Boys—ie, boys who fuck—are paid well

d) Argh!! Boys are paid well

e) Shoot, boys sure understand money

God bless punctuation and the English language

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nolan-gerard-funk-deactivated20

“I lived without out a computer and cell phone when I was your age.”

yeah well YOUR parents lived without a microwave and the polio vaccine but I don’t see you giving that up

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fan-spocking-tastic

breaking news: parents have seen this post and in retaliation have begun to give up polio and other vaccines

Sometimes you meet someone, and it’s so clear that the two of you, on some level belong together. As lovers, or as friends, or as family, or as something entirely different. You just work, whether you understand one another or you’re in love or you’re partners in crime. You meet these people throughout your life, out of nowhere, under the strangest circumstances, and they help you feel alive. I don’t know if that makes me believe in coincidence, or fate, or sheer blind luck, but it definitely makes me believe in something.

(via rejoyces)

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pettyrevenge

I was at the post office one day when an elderly lady in front of me asked for a single stamp. Obviously considering this a waste of her time, the woman behind the counter makes a snorting noise, rips off a stamp and flicks it across the counter where it lands on the floor. She doesn’t apologise or offer the lady another stamp. The old lady considers for a second, picks up the stamp and leaves her 50 cent piece on the floor in its place. She says a cheery “Thank you!” and walks out, and the woman behind the counter has to walk around to pick up the money. It made me smile for the rest of the day. 

she guessed my favorite color first try..

but between me and u……. i didnt even have a favorite color until she yelled out yellow!! she was hella excited n smiling like a little kid. so i told her she was right and i havent seen yellow the same since, its in everything. i could probably live in it now. 

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khiroshige-deactivated20221210

“We live in a world where losing your phone is more dramatic than losing your virginity”

Um ok but I don’t recall my virginity having 16 GB of memory with all my contacts, music, photos, calendars, and apps or costing over $200.

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glowcloud

my phone is an expensive and important material object and not a useless social construct put in place to shame and commodify women

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slutdust

Plus I remember where I lost my virginity.

morning routine.png

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starlordloki

why is there an american flag just chillin on the wall there is that normal

Yes they are in every classroom in America

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fluffbuttcas

no.

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forgottentrenchcoats

do…do other countries not put their flags in all their classrooms??

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tracyalexander

Why would we put up a flag in a classroom? Are people afraid the children would forget which country they are in?

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stormingtheivory

My favorite thing about the multicultural nature of Tumblr is watching people from other countries learn that America is much, much worse than they ever dreamed.

And when you choose a life partner, you’re choosing a lot of things, including your parenting partner and someone who will deeply influence your children, your eating companion for about 20,000 meals, your travel companion for about 100 vacations, your primary leisure time and retirement friend, your career therapist, and someone whose day you’ll hear about 18,000 times. Intense shit.
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