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I wonder how many gay people are actually transgender & dont know it because people thing being transgender is transitioning when it’s literally just not being cis.

like I had a friend tell me last night “all my life I wanted to be a girl. even to this day, like if someone told me I could transition & look like you or *insert another trans woman idk* I would do it in a heartbeat” and when I was like omg ur transgender he was surprised? like he was like wait just wanting to be a girl makes me transgender even if I dont do anything about it? and like its harder to pinpoint non binary people but if u have a desire be a different gender ur transgender. transitioning is a choice but being transgender is not.

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jasminethegothbunny

“One of the symptoms of being a girl is wanting to be a girl.” Don’t remember where I heard that but the quote is my life.

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cowboyslovingboys

This is one of the posts I can explicitly pinpoint as helping me realize that I might not be cis. The biggest symptom of being trans is wanting to not be your gender. It can also be dysphoria, it can also be euphoria, it can also be presentation, but wanting to be something else is all you really need.

Confirmed. How to know you’re agender: You don’t want to be anything else. You look at the options for gender and gender presentation and decide to go back to bed

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aceofsquiddles

Bold of you to assume I got out of bed

Nah but seriously thanks for the insight

So, if I look at gender and say “this is some bullshit and I want no part of it”, I guess that makes me agender?

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mother-entropy

if that’s how you wanna identify, yeah.

feeling anything mentioned in this post doesn’t mean you have to identify as trans, but feeling anything in this post is literally all that’s necessary to identify as trans if you want to.

fuck gatekeepers forever.

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furryanarchistsnufkin

👏if👏you👏don't👏feel👏cis👏you're👏possibly👏not👏cis👏

i mean this is literally what jvn said

This is one of those things where you can go 25+ years of your life not realising that actually no not everyone secretly wishes they were some mashup of male and female and that you are, in fact, genderfluid as fuck.

You can want to be the other gender.

You can want to be another gender.

You can want to divorce all connection to the gender you were born into.

You can want to keep it as an origin point that shapes your journey.

You can want to be more than one gender at once.

You can want to be more than one gender, at different times.

You can want to be no gender.

You can want to be sort of in between genders.

You can want to be both genders.

You can want to be rid of gendered body parts you already have.

You can want to keep gendered body parts while also being another gender.

You can want to be rid of them but not want the side effects of excising them.

You can feel dysphoria at being shaped like/viewed as/treated like a gender you don’t want.

You can feel euphoria at being shaped like/viewed as/treated like a gender you do want.

You can change your mind or adjust your goals or refine your wishes.

You can be stationary and fixed in your identity.

You can be fluid and changing.

You can be extremely gendered in your presentation.

You can be not very gendered in your presentation.

You can be androgynous.

You can be a little of both.

You can be a lot of both.

If gender is a line you can cross, as the words trans (across/on the other side of) and cis (here/on the same side of) indicate, you can cross it in any way you like, including dancing on top of it.

Be happy.

Be you.

This is an extremely affirming post.

Bless tumblr for posts like this, because even though I’m older than a lot of people here this stuff still applies, in a way moreso because it’s stuff that I never had the opportunity to process in my actual childhood. So I’m processing it now. And this shit really helps, so thanks.

zukka ripped through the terminally online gay community in 2020 like polio ripped through small town america in the early 20th century like it was incredibly serious

okay I'm going to post something that I don't really post about - Music!

It's about the Grammys , I know, everyone is probably tired of hearing opinions on it and my opinion might be unpopular but I will say it nonetheless.

I liked the Cowboy Carter album and it makes sense to me that it won album of the year.

The cultural significance of this album and the long history behind it, not only just Beyonce's history and her family's history, but the album addressed the country genre's history as well. And I do believe that Beyonce is one of this generation's top vocalists and performers.

The album itself is so lovingly put together and it tells a story. I'm not usually a country fan, but I enjoyed this album. Some of the songs on the album are on my playlists.

Also on Cowboy Carter, Beyonce pushes at the boundaries of what the genre could be. Which is also part of the reason why I think it won album of the year.

While to be fair to Billie Eilish, Sabrina Carpenter, Chappell Roan, and Taylor Swift - I'm not sure how good their albums were because I did not listen to them. I've heard the singles and hit songs, but I did go through the albums. But as someone who heavily fucks with Charli xcx, I understand why she didn't win album of the year for brat (even though it was my album of the year).

And I can't really put in an opinion of whether or not Billie was snubbed because while I listened to the hits from her album, I don't know the effort and story behind the album. But she has won several Grammys in the past for her other albums so idk. I've been told it's a great album.

Anyway those are my thoughts, I do understand why people are confused but if you look into the collective history and cultural significance of the Cowboy Carter album, I think it's a good reason why it won album of the year.

"i just had a crazy dream...buddy?"

"he's not coming back."

"but i need him back."

"he wasn't meant for this place, you couldn't have kept him. and he couldn't have kept you."

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