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“I don’t get it, do trans men want to be treated like men (read: like cis men) or not? We treat them like men and they complain, but if we treated them like women they would also complain. I don’t get it!”

How’s about not treating different genders of people differently solely because of their gender?

Why do you treat men and women differently?

Is that not the exact cis patriarchy we’re trying to do away with?

I want to be treated like a person

the pumpkin spice must flow

Sonic approves

genuinely will never be done thinking about the fact that my ex constantly tried to convince me it was a "misogynistic trope" for a man to complain about his spouse, regardless of the nature of the complaint, how it was expressed, or whether or not it was true. and somehow I spent years calmly trying to explain that yes, it would be a misogynistic trope for me to call you a bitch because you asked me to help with the dishes, but it was not a misogynistic trope for me to say you were being an asshole when you yelled at me for four hours over the texture of a cheesecake

it's also?? not a trope?? if you're real people??

see that's the thing. I eventually realised that they judged literally everything through the lens of "what does it represent politically for people of our respective social categories to have this interaction". I'm genuinely not sure that in 6 years together they ever processed the idea that we were real people. it was like being a fanfic character somehow married to your own reader who was taking their first feminist literature class

so this has reminded me of the fact that at some point a couple years into our marriage, my ex retconned their memory of our relationship and became convinced that when we were first dating we had "addressed the power imbalance that existed between us because of our age difference". and they were then angry because I was "no longer willing to engage in conversations like that". and I was like, we absolutely did not do that because that would have been insane. when we met you were a 25-year-old grad student and I was a 30-year-old grad student. if you had said you wanted to "address that power imbalance" I would have asked how many different things you were high on

The "The Personal Is Political" to "Emotionally Abusing Your Partner Is Praxis if they're more privileged than you" Pipeline (entire length shown)

i think the anon got deleted (?) but y'all should check out Jude Doyle's new essay

"Being treated like an enemy and a traitor because we had the temerity to survive is seemingly one of the core transmasculine experiences.

...Trans men are literally dying in the closet, just to prove to you how good they are, how not-toxic and not-sexist and not-selfish they are, how committed they are to "changing womanhood from the inside," how much they care about you and about women and about feminism – they're dying, and they're still trying to keep you comfortable, and you can't be bothered to care about them for one brief second. Take that thought home, sit with it, eat with it, let it sing you to sleep. What does that tell you about who you are?"

Damn.

....damn indeed.

If you are genuinely shocked that "transandrobros" heavily agree with this article you also agree with, I highly recommend actually engaging in the discussion around anti-transmasculinity rather than assuming its all about hating trans women because someone told you so.

Literally everything in these quotes—analyzing trans men's experiencs through an intersectional feminist lens that centers us, seeing us as a uniquely targeted group under patriarchy as opposed to "basically cis women" or "basically cis men"—is a cornerstone of transandrophobia theory. That's why there are so many people tagging it "transandrophobia." This is what we've all been talking about the whole time. Very much including the part about how this ideology also harms trans women.

this what im going thru rn. if anyone gaf

I am a 27 year old electrical engineer who works in a little secret lab in the middle of buttfuck Egypt. For one two month period, the office supply order changed from normal erasers to these, and I will not lie - every time I thought I was alone, I would sneak one out of my desk and eat it. They looked delicious. Tasted mid, but the appearance was so stunning that my brain just kept thinking, surely, the rest were a fluke, but THIS TIME it will taste like fruit and sugar.

Anyway, eventually the order stopped, and I was very worried that somehow, they’d found out that I was eating their erasers. So I kind of casually brought it up to my manager that I was sad that they swapped the erasers out, and he was like “yeah, but I kept eating them so they couldn’t stay.”

i want to live

relevant unfortunately

I suspect somewhere along the line we collectively decided internet safety meant only avoiding sexual predators & that's one of the reasons cults and hate groups can thrive online

A holistic internet safety curriculum would be maybe 10% avoiding and dealing with sexually predatory behaviors, 40% mental health skill teaching focused on self-regulation and self-esteem, and 50% How To Spot And Avoid Manipulation (anti-scam, anti-cult, anti-misinfo, anti-advertising, etc). Hell, most of the skills you use to steer clear of harmful groups also help protect against sexual predators online!

Phil Davies

"The Egret was in shadow and the background was in full sun"

Title: The Prophecies Begin Graphic Novel 2

Type: Pages / Panels

Country: North America

Characters: Fireheart / Firestar, Brindleface, Cinderpelt, Frostfur, Sandstorm, Dustpelt, Blackstar, Boulder, Brokenstar, Clawface

Artist: Natalie Riess and Sara Goetter

Source: PDF

"parents rights" folk are some of the most insidiously evil slimeballs imaginable but everyone gives them a pass because of some delusional cultural belief that there's an inherent nobility in popping some poor bastard into the world that gives one carte blanche to treat them like property for a decade or two