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It's not just to have a "do over" that doesn't involve the original cast, it's to cut them out of the royalties. Literally the entire point is to make sure all the money made by Harry Potter goes to transphobes or people willing to work with transphobes.

If you watch it, you are supporting bigotry, hate, and oppression. That's just objective reality. All for a story that you probably have already seen in movie and book form.

There's people in the notes saying they're going to watch it anyway, and you know, I understand how you can start feeling so burned out and numb from the world that it may feel too hard to avoid things that will give you a little immediate relief in some way in order to avoid the long-term impact of funding these things.

But. If you can't bring yourself to avoid watching it, you better at least fucking pirate it.

FYI, Rowling posted this today. She is actively queerphobic, do not support this project in anyway.

I know that this was a foundational thing for so many people. I was one of them. Without Harry Potter, I probably wouldn't be the person I am today.

If you're thinking about watching this anyway because you feel all that nostalgia: It's time to grow up. It's time to move on.

Don't even hate watch it. Make it fail.

It is the easiest thing ever to simply not do anything.

you know how people say that cats and dogs don’t feel love the way humans do but it’s like. “oh they don’t love you they just associate you with warmth and safety and seek out your company and being near you and spending time with you makes them feel comfortable and secure” bro if that’s not love then what the FUCK do you think love is???

love is real because my kitty cat seeks me out for warmth and safety and also so do my friends on account of the fact that i love them

It’s also just bullshit in general. The Human - Animal bond has been studied extensively and results in similar biological responses across animal groups and humans.

Not only do your dogs and cats love you, but your parrots love you. Your mice love you. Your lizards love you. Your ants love you. Your spider loves you.

Turns out bonding is just something we animals (humans included, bc we’re not fundamentally different from other animals as such statements op is referring to imply) like to do when we can afford to do it.

Fucking THANK you

This is the #1 thing that people ask or say when they learn I have a tortoise- "oh, but does he actually love you?"

Look buddy. Maybe you have some specific definition of love that'll exclude anything other than human, or mammalian love.

But he recognizes me specifically, and when he sees me, he scoots his shelled butt out of his hut and cranes his neck up for little head scratches and maybe a dandelion leaf as a treat, and when he's out on the floor or on the field with me he likes the huddle on my shoes or under my legs and circle around them before going on his next adventure to nom a lil clover sprig

He associates me with warmth and safety and food and that good feeling on his skin he gets when I touch him gently. And whatever that manifests as in his little reptilian brain is some form of love.

Sometimes i feel like younger queer kids are getting a bit to bold with openly talking to people they don’t know In The Context Of:

More than once i have had a younger/same age queer person come up to me in public settings and say something about “finding other gays” or clearly clocking me as nonbinary and I’m like :)))))))) hey buddy I’m here with my conservative parents can you fucking not out me :))))))))

Just say you like my outfit or hair and move on, fuck even tell me you like my shoelaces. Don’t call me gay and limp your wrist at me when you don’t even know me? Especially when there’s a bunch of ppl around?

i was out with my ex once when three *very* young queer kids, like thirteen years old, came up to us and asked us “are you guys, you know…” and did the limp wrist thing at us. one of them loudly exclaimed that it was so cool to meet other queer people in real life. this was in public in an unbelievably conservative area - we didn’t even feel safe holding hands because we were surrounded by Mormons. we got lucky that day, but I’m begging y’all to remember that the world doesn’t work like the internet. other queers are real fuckin people. don’t do this shit. OP is right; tell me you like my jacket, or my patches, or the rainbow spokes on my wheelchair, but don’t out either of us!

This used to be standard operating procedure not even ten years ago: NEVER OUT OTHER QUEERS, even if they’re supposedly already out. Never assume that it’s okay to let third parties know that so-and-so is queer. Ever. You never know when you’ve found the one uncle with the heart condition that they can’t bear to risk telling, or the one neighbor who’s just threatening enough that they don’t mention it around, or even the grandma that they haven’t gotten around to mentioning it to yet. You might have just ruined a very important milestone for someone, or you could have put them at actual risk of harm.

Also… stop freaking assuming. If you don’t see a pride flag on them, please don’t just assume. You can’t tell ANYTHING about a person’s gender or partner preferences by what they’re wearing on any given day, what their hair looks like, or whether or not they’re using makeup. You legit cannot, and you look like a jerk when you try.

this is even more important now that Trump is in power.

some people will be choosing to live in the closet and it is not your job to pressure them one way or the other.

protect your lgbtq siblings - honor their choices - and never talk to cops, collaborators, and snitches.

Younger queer people have grown up in a better world, but we’re in a time of backsliding right now. Do NOT out other queer people. Also, I’m not gonna tell you how to present yourselves in public………..but please, I am begging you to re-evaluate HOW safe you are in the current climate.

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To anyone who follows me, I don't care about nor trust Colossal Biosciences anymore (The people behind the "Wooly Mice"). They have proven themselves to be headline-chasing grifters after this latest stunt. They are claiming to have de-extincted *Aenocyon dirus*, aka the Dire Wolf, by editing just 20 genes from the the DNA of a Grey Wolf (*Canis lupus*) to make this thing:

If it wasn't clear from their scientific names, Grey Wolves and Dire Wolves aren't remotely related to one another aside from being Canids, despite what pop culture like Game of Thrones would have you believe. If they did look like each other, it would have had to be via convergent evolution, as they only shared a common ancestor over 5 million years ago.

This distinction, however, isn't found in the publicized articles about this so-called resurrected Dire Wolf and makes their claim that they brought the Dire Wolf back by simply editing *20* genes from the genome of a Grey Wolf laughable. A Dire Wolf would have shared more in common genetically with a Maned Wolf (*Chrysocyon brachyurus*) or Bush Dog (*Speothos venaticus*) than it would with a Grey Wolf.

Bottom line, don't fall for whatever this company is trying to tell you. If the Dire Wolf were to be brought back, it wouldn't be via something like this, and certainly wouldn't *look* like this. If you want an idea as to how a real Dire Wolf would look like in life, here is some fantastic paleoart by artist Mauricio Antón:

Addendum: I seem to have partially miscalculated Dire Wolf genetics. They were not closer to Maned Wolves or Bush Dogs, but they were still not closely related to Grey Wolves. They were basal members of Canini, related to canids like Jackals (genus Lupulella) but distinct from them. I am sorry for this misinformation in my attempt to correct other misinformation. My main point, however, is still correct.

Yeah, I saw this and my immediate thought was "these people don't know what they're doing". My second thought was, "these people know what they're doing is a scam". Either way, I've always been very suspicious of Colossal's, well, colossal claims, and now it's clear they're full of shit

the best way i can think to describe the experience of reading moby dick is you’re in line at the dmv and this guy behind you very loudly says “well who HASN’T had a gay experience” and then proceeds to tell you every detail about his life in between anecdotes about how great sperm is and how ropes work and sometimes he’ll say the most poetic shit you’ve ever heard in your life and them jump RIGHT back into explaining how a whale is a fish because 1) it swims in water and you’re still only like halfway through the dmv line

In addition to content warnings like violence, sexual themes, etc, I would lowkey appreciate it if media in general and podcasts in particular would warn for the use of sirens and/or doorbells - not for my own triggers, but so I know whether or not my dog will potentially be set off by whatever I have playing over the speakers

This post brought to you by Sadie going Defcon 1 at fake sirens in a podcast tonight, scaring the piss out of me and abruptly bringing up memories of Blitz doing the same when anyone rang a doorbell in whatever TV show we were watching at the time

Happy International Asexuality Day, Black Asexuals! 🖤🩶🤍💜

Yasmin Benoit helped to co-found this day in 2021 to celebrate the asexual identity and ace experiences. I have to be honest and say given recent events I'm not in the celebrating mood, but I'm still gonna try to boost Black asexuality today just like every other day. Creating Black ace spaces and content is important because we're the only ones who can. Just like Yasmin, we have to create the Black ace representation that we want and need. We are the representation. Don't be afraid to take up space and speak your truth. Don't shrink yourself to make mainstream bigger ace spaces more comfortable. Don't feel like you have to downplay or 'fix' your Blackness for anybody ace or not. And most importantly, have a great day!

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Of fucking course Terfamort also started attacking asexual people, and on international asexuality day no less. What a vile human being.

*celebrates Ace Day harder*

*covers myself with an ace flag so maybe I turn invisible*

Like I'm not going to lie, this scares me. I still remember 2016 Tumblr, okay? And I know how much influence this lady has.

Yeah, it's... not great. I'm not even active on Twitter anymore, I just keep the app on my phone so I don't have to deal with links opening the browser version, but seeing that first thing genuinely was giving me flashbacks to some of the shit that happened on this site a decade ago.

The sudden wave of terror was the strongest emotion I've felt in a while.

Honestly, the lady just really hates her readers. Hates all the people who bought her books. Hates them all so, so much. Not sure why, maybe she read too many Dramione fanfics, or saw too many people suggesting better endings than she could write.

Anyways, I'm not too worried about her bothering aces, myself. Unlike with the trans kids she targets, there's probably not much she can do to us.

You weren't in the ace community circa 2015-2016, were you?

Hm. I was not active in the ace community around then. But I have identified as ace since 2003 or so, when I first heard the term on go-gaia.

Like, there's more than one reason why I dislike the BBC Sherlock series (and ugh that House episode, why is it that the Sherlock Holmeses of media acknowledge and disparage us at the same time), but I'm certainly not worried about Gatiss causing me injury the way that I'm worried about JKR stopping trans people from being treated as humans.

if you didn't watch how viciously the ace community was driven underground on this site, I kind of don't think you've got any room to be making this kind of what aboutism argument

yeah trans kids are in active danger. if JKR decides that she wants to target the ace kids next, they'll be in active danger too. Don't know why you're trying to gotcha about it.

I *was* here for the "discourse" but let's call it what it was.

A hate campaign. Intended to drive a wedge between groups in the LGBT+ community, which asexuality is explicitly and inherently a part of, no question, no arguments, no debates. It scared a lot of us, hurt a lot of us. Aces were threatened with and sexually assaulted. Over time, it seems a decent chunk of the community pulled their heads out of their asses once the primary bad actors realized they had a better, easier target (trans people). Don't whatabout to the threats on trans people as if they won't come for us, too. They ALREADY tried to, and *will* try again. I was literally threatened both offline and online for just visibly ID'ing as ace. Bigots will attack and do real injury to anyone and *everyone* they consider different. The trans hate just sells better on mainstream media. For now.

You see the way asshole bigots are trying to get the cis members of the LGBT+ community to turn on our trans siblings? That whole "LGB" movement? They tried that with the ace community, too, and now JK is preparing to lead the effort on it again, *because she's a Neo-Nazi now.* She hates trans people so much that she aligned herself with Neo-Nazis that want to take away all of our rights, including those of all women, cis, trans, straight, gay, white, PoC, all of us.

Don't let her win. The point of the LGBT+ community is to accept people that are different from the heteronormative, cisnormative, amatonormative, and allonormative expectations of how our society is structured. The best way to beat her and bigots like her? Don't let her or anyone else drive us apart.

I think another issue so many ace people have issues with is that no one ever really reckoned with the widespread hate campaign. And it was widespread. I have at least one friend who was threatened with being shot if they showed up to pride as an ace person.

And yet, when it finally died down, no one like. Acknowledged what had happened. They just all turned on the next target (trans people, so it's super fun to be both) and people just sort of forgot about the vitriol and hate they sent to so many people. People just went "wow that was a wild time" if they even remember it.

The ace community is not like it once was. It has never recovered. It used to be a lot sillier and more joyful, and a lot of the ace people I know now are a lot more jaded and angry. And we have a right to be.

The aphobia always been there seething under the surface because no one ever even recognized it. It was never fixed. It just quieted down for a while, and JKR is poking at a bubble of poison again.

Look, I'm ace. I'm also not cis. And this acknowledgement by this woman of ace people has my blood running cold.

Gosh yeah that's also a great point. There was this massive hate campaign that they had the audacity to call "discourse" ("I'm just asking questions") and then everyone else just... collectively memory holed it. No apologies, not even an acknowledgement that it happened other than the ace community pointing it out any time someone wonders what happened. I'm pretty sure half of my blocklist is aphobes (the other half is mostly transphobes and bots) because I developed such a kneejerk block reaction to anyone I saw being aphobic.

I'm honestly somewhat jaded to ace hate at this point; a sad statement, but it's true. I follow Yasmin Benoit on socials and her comments are always full of dipshits showing their ignorance (which has a lot of Venn diagram overlap with misogynoir but that's a TED talk for another day). So I saw her quote tweet JKR, and at first I didn't think anything of it - she's good at tanking the trolls while still getting her message across.

Then I saw who she quote tweeted, and my stomach absolutely dropped to my shoes.

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Of fucking course Terfamort also started attacking asexual people, and on international asexuality day no less. What a vile human being.

*celebrates Ace Day harder*

*covers myself with an ace flag so maybe I turn invisible*

Like I'm not going to lie, this scares me. I still remember 2016 Tumblr, okay? And I know how much influence this lady has.

Yeah, it's... not great. I'm not even active on Twitter anymore, I just keep the app on my phone so I don't have to deal with links opening the browser version, but seeing that first thing genuinely was giving me flashbacks to some of the shit that happened on this site a decade ago.

The sudden wave of terror was the strongest emotion I've felt in a while.

Honestly, the lady just really hates her readers. Hates all the people who bought her books. Hates them all so, so much. Not sure why, maybe she read too many Dramione fanfics, or saw too many people suggesting better endings than she could write.

Anyways, I'm not too worried about her bothering aces, myself. Unlike with the trans kids she targets, there's probably not much she can do to us.

You weren't in the ace community circa 2015-2016, were you?

Hm. I was not active in the ace community around then. But I have identified as ace since 2003 or so, when I first heard the term on go-gaia.

Like, there's more than one reason why I dislike the BBC Sherlock series (and ugh that House episode, why is it that the Sherlock Holmeses of media acknowledge and disparage us at the same time), but I'm certainly not worried about Gatiss causing me injury the way that I'm worried about JKR stopping trans people from being treated as humans.

if you didn't watch how viciously the ace community was driven underground on this site, I kind of don't think you've got any room to be making this kind of what aboutism argument

yeah trans kids are in active danger. if JKR decides that she wants to target the ace kids next, they'll be in active danger too. Don't know why you're trying to gotcha about it.

I *was* here for the "discourse" but let's call it what it was.

A hate campaign. Intended to drive a wedge between groups in the LGBT+ community, which asexuality is explicitly and inherently a part of, no question, no arguments, no debates. It scared a lot of us, hurt a lot of us. Aces were threatened with and sexually assaulted. Over time, it seems a decent chunk of the community pulled their heads out of their asses once the primary bad actors realized they had a better, easier target (trans people). Don't whatabout to the threats on trans people as if they won't come for us, too. They ALREADY tried to, and *will* try again. I was literally threatened both offline and online for just visibly ID'ing as ace. Bigots will attack and do real injury to anyone and *everyone* they consider different. The trans hate just sells better on mainstream media. For now.

You see the way asshole bigots are trying to get the cis members of the LGBT+ community to turn on our trans siblings? That whole "LGB" movement? They tried that with the ace community, too, and now JK is preparing to lead the effort on it again, *because she's a Neo-Nazi now.* She hates trans people so much that she aligned herself with Neo-Nazis that want to take away all of our rights, including those of all women, cis, trans, straight, gay, white, PoC, all of us.

Don't let her win. The point of the LGBT+ community is to accept people that are different from the heteronormative, cisnormative, amatonormative, and allonormative expectations of how our society is structured. The best way to beat her and bigots like her? Don't let her or anyone else drive us apart.

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Of fucking course Terfamort also started attacking asexual people, and on international asexuality day no less. What a vile human being.

*celebrates Ace Day harder*

*covers myself with an ace flag so maybe I turn invisible*

Like I'm not going to lie, this scares me. I still remember 2016 Tumblr, okay? And I know how much influence this lady has.

Yeah, it's... not great. I'm not even active on Twitter anymore, I just keep the app on my phone so I don't have to deal with links opening the browser version, but seeing that first thing genuinely was giving me flashbacks to some of the shit that happened on this site a decade ago.

The sudden wave of terror was the strongest emotion I've felt in a while.

Honestly, the lady just really hates her readers. Hates all the people who bought her books. Hates them all so, so much. Not sure why, maybe she read too many Dramione fanfics, or saw too many people suggesting better endings than she could write.

Anyways, I'm not too worried about her bothering aces, myself. Unlike with the trans kids she targets, there's probably not much she can do to us.

You weren't in the ace community circa 2015-2016, were you?

Hm. I was not active in the ace community around then. But I have identified as ace since 2003 or so, when I first heard the term on go-gaia.

Like, there's more than one reason why I dislike the BBC Sherlock series (and ugh that House episode, why is it that the Sherlock Holmeses of media acknowledge and disparage us at the same time), but I'm certainly not worried about Gatiss causing me injury the way that I'm worried about JKR stopping trans people from being treated as humans.

if you didn't watch how viciously the ace community was driven underground on this site, I kind of don't think you've got any room to be making this kind of what aboutism argument

yeah trans kids are in active danger. if JKR decides that she wants to target the ace kids next, they'll be in active danger too. Don't know why you're trying to gotcha about it.

I don't speak up about my ace-ness often outside of tags, but honestly?

If I had had any good feeling left about this woman and her series, I'd have lost it after receiving this highly unwelcome news.

I never got harassed when attacking aces was trendy on Tumblr. I was lucky. I know I was. Aside from one incident I am still reluctant to mention outside of tags or DMs on here, I have flown beneath the radars of the small-minded on here.

Lady Radfem targeting us does not bode well.

What @kintatsujo and @themaginitechronicles said. If you weren't active in the community at the time, or didn't follow anyone who was, you really don't know how bad it was. People were sent hate mail and death threats. Our tags were flooded with gore and explicit material. The community was honestly fractured, and a lot of people lowkey went back in the closet, at least on here. Hell, people outside the ace community/in the larger queer community were catching strays just for supporting us. You know Thomas Sanders? Vine celebrity and darling of a large portion of the younger queer community? People openly harassed and tried to cancel him just for speaking up in support of aces.

If you know how much danger the trans community is in when JKR points her vitriol and her sycophants at them, it shouldn't take too much extrapolating to understand that her doing the same thing to the ace community puts us in the crosshairs as well.

How to Handle Having TOO MUCH To Do

So let’s say you’re in the same boat I am (this is a running theme, have you noticed?) and you’ve just got, like, SO MUCH STUFF that HAS to get done YESTERDAY or you will DIE (or fail/get fired/mope). Everything needs to be done yesterday, you’re sick, and for whatever reason you are focusing on the least important stuff first. What to do!

Take a deep breath, because this is a boot camp in prioritization.

  • Make a 3 by 4 grid. Make it pretty big. The line above your top row goes like this: Due YESTERDAY - due TOMORROW - due LATER. Along the side, write: Takes 5 min - Takes 30 min - Takes hours - Takes DAYS.
  • Divide ALL your tasks into one of these squares, based on how much work you still have to do. A thank you note for a present you received two weeks ago? That takes 5 minutes and was due YESTERDAY. Put it in that square. A five page paper that’s due tomorrow? That takes an hour/hours, place it appropriately. Tomorrow’s speech you just need to rehearse? Half an hour, due TOMORROW. Do the same for ALL of your tasks
  • Your priority goes like this:
  • 5 minutes due YESTERDAY
  • 5 minutes due TOMORROW
  • Half-hour due YESTERDAY
  • Half-hour due TOMORROW
  • Hours due YESTERDAY
  • Hours due TOMORROW
  • 5 minutes due LATER
  • Half-hour due LATER
  • Hours due LATER
  • DAYS due YESTERDAY
  • DAYS due TOMORROW
  • DAYS due LATER
  • At this point you just go down the list in each section. If something feels especially urgent, for whatever reason - a certain professor is hounding you, you’re especially worried about that speech, whatever - you can bump that up to the top of the entire list. However, going through the list like this is what I find most efficient.
  • Some people do like to save the 5 minute tasks for kind of a break between longer-running tasks. If that’s what you want to try, go for it! You’re the one studying here.

So that’s how to prioritize. Now, how to actually do shit? That’s where the 20/10 method comes in. It’s simple: do stuff like a stuff-doing FIEND for 20 minutes, then take a ten minute break and do whatever you want. Repeat ad infinitum. It’s how I’ve gotten through my to do list, concussed and everything.

You’ve got this. Get a drink and start - we can do our stuff together!

I call this The Fuckit Square btw, because if you get on a roll you can say ‘fuckit’ and finish another item on the list

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