Love For Lesbians

Vampire party. Found this one in my older art folders.

the elevation of kink and sex into a pure untouchable Good that cannot be criticised is, in fact, not a good thing! kink is - if you'll forgive me - a breeding ground for indulging socially-programmed stereotypes; assigning dark-skinned characters dominant roles by default, and worse, assigning them animalistic, predatory, or forceful roles, diminishing their need for intimacy and care, placing them at the bottom of the rung in terms of sensitivity, receptiveness, and vulnerability, remains racist even if it's in the context of sex and sexuality, and speaks to the way you view and relate to people of colour. it's not a difficult concept to grasp.

#tbf there's a habit esp on the internet of elevating marginalized groups/practices to make them seem flawless and above criticism#kink vintage queer cultures polyamory marginalized religions etc#ppl on this website either think they're completely evil/the acceptable butt of tasteless jokes#or completely good and above any kind of criticism#when like no. something can be marginalized and realistically flawed at the same time#<- PREV YOU NEVER MISS ‼️‼️‼️‼️#amazing take babygirl

understanding that there a lot of tme people out there who are totally fine with "trans women are women" as long as its some nebulous meaningless statement that simply implies you respect trans womens internal sense of self

but as soon as you say that trans women fundamentally ARE women, live as women, exist in community as women, and simply arent cisgender... ohh then we've got a problem! thats suspicious and possible terfy

something that I've noticed over the past decade or so with regards to queer spaces is that the takeaway from "trans women are women" is that "anyone can be anything", like we're all using our own personal and customizable definitions instead of just being who we say we are. It's almost like, in order to live in a world where trans women can actually be women, that world has to have a flexible definition of woman, and thus, every other queer identity and every analysis of oppression must be entirely personal too. It's this deeply transmisogynistic undercurrent that's fueled some of the most solipsistic and borderline libertarian discourse I've seen on this site, which almost always gets swept under the rug as mere 'infighting', if it even gets criticized at all.

As a trans lesbian, it's been infuriating.

we're in the middle of another round of surging fascism and y'all want pats on the back for beating it to incest porn shut the fuck up

#a lot of people on this website take conservatives at their word for everything#which is how you get a bunch of fuckass idiots who think that conservatives TOTALLY hate incest and rape and paedophilia#and it's revolutionary to be into that shit and reactionary to be against it#meanwhile using your brain for half a second reveals that those things are tools of the patriarchy and many reactionaries' fantasies

"Being against incest and rape is a PURITAN thing" I have bad news for these people about what patriarchal nuclear family dynamics that use sex as a means of control lead to

terminally online schizo rant incoming. “puriteen” is just what Epic Bacon Faillennials call little girls who are negatively responding to or critiquing the hegemonic culture of sex. as someone in this age group, i rebuke this part of my culture. the “sex positivity” mindset has simply entrenched male supremacy, rape culture, and the sexual subordination of women, because it flattens, obfuscates, and ignores how exploitation and abuse occurs. younger women and girls are contending with the fact that the predominant model of “consent” and “choice” are insufficient tools to assess sexual violence, and these concepts have been used to endorse said violence. liberal feminism has done nothing but condition women and girls into complying with male supremacy by eroticizing both women’s oppression and male power, and more and more people are unraveling this to the chagrin of the Epic Bacon demographic that pioneered this toothless ideology. “ruthless criticism of all that exists, ruthless both in the sense of not being afraid of the results it arrives at and in the sense of being just as little afraid of conflict with the powers that be”—leftists happily apply this marxist concept to everything except what makes them orgasm. curious and revealing, indeed.

thus, the “puriteens” insult is an attempt to shame girls back into compliance, to be silent about the terms by which men have sexual access to women, a grim reality they see play out on a daily basis both online and off. both the left and the right agree that patriarchy is compatible with the world they want to build or maintain, and as a result, the feminist insistence on the abolition of patriarchy is the most radical, most revolutionary demand on earth. women’s allies and enemies want them to remain in chains. hell, many women want to be in chains. unfortunately, your friends lied to you when they said patriarchy is right wing. it transcends the political compass as no one can imagine a world without it. leftists only oppose capitalism and wage labor and slavery and racism and queerphobia and imperialism and ableism and war and the prison industrial complex because these systems of exploitation victimize men. men are humans, women are not, so they find misogyny permissible. things are much worse than you think, milady.

and as a result of all this, leftists are not beyond calling women and girls sexually dysfunctional, crazy, or not sufficiently fucked enough for opposing their own sexual subordination. something is wrong with you if you can identify, even through millions of layers of progressive-sounding obfuscation and gaslighting, women’s sexual subordination. men who complain about having less sexual access to women are coddled, catered to, thought to be victims of a “loneliness epidemic” that can only be solved by women’s submission or else they can’t help but engage in femicide, while the women who oppose said submission are called “puritans,” prudes, hysterical, underfucked, fascists and insane. i can’t count the number of times i’ve said that actual puritans were not even anti-sex—they supported men’s sexual dominance over women. the insult is ahistorical, but its function is to cast feminist critique of sex as wrong by likening it to being right wing. the right obviously isn’t anti-sex either, nor do they take kindly to feminism. all of that is to say, “puriteen” is primarily a misogynistic silencing tactic.

under the strict regime of heterosexuality, women and girls will be cast as mentally ill if they have class consciousness. having class consciousness as a woman renders you the ultimate enemy that must be neutralized, because we can’t have women opposing their duty as property. if women became human beings, that would just upend the earth, destroying the foundations of society, which is exactly what I and my brand of girlypops desire. girls who are called “puriteens” may make analytical errors, as we all do, but they are met with so much hostility because they actually do attempt to criticize all that exists, including the sexual cultural that is objectively organized through male supremacy, and they do attempt to commit the one transgression that eclipses all other transgressions—believing that women are human. to that i say, godspeed, puriteens, become even woker, shake the table, do not be silenced by these geriatric gooners and their 50 gigabytes of furry inflation porn. critical support to all puriteens of the world.

in a society that still tells women that it is their duty to prioritize men, male feelings, male perspective, etc, yes it is in fact still radical to say that it's ok for women to go "no fuck that actually"

"but what about-" i guarantee whatever marginalized demographic you're about to concern troll about has an equivalent tradition of feminist thought arguing the exact same thing

I've been accused of thinking men are ontologically evil a couple of times, and to be clear, I would never absolve shitty dudes of responsibility like that. Men who are evil have the opportunity to choose otherwise.

A better world is possible, and preventing it from being built is a group effort with a large number of knowing, willing participants. Morally that's worse than if they couldn't help it, actually.

I have seen men choose to talk in crass and dehumanizing terms about the women they profess to love, even when themselves uncomfortable with the language, simply for the approval of male peers.

They're not innately evil. They exist in a social, cultural, and legal context that demands misogyny from them, that frequently enables misogynistic violence free of consequence, and the rewards for doing so are just tantalizing enough that most never unpack their beliefs about "women's place" in the world, never bother to think about the consequences of their actions and words, never consider that the humanity they take for granted is something they often refuse to extend those placed below their sex-caste.

It would be so simple if men were just innately evil, because then we could just act with that as a constant of our world. Instead, we exist in this matrix of engendering violence, of discipline and humiliation, where our most intimate relations are tainted by the moral cowardice of people who'd rather be a Man than be empathetic to the struggles of the Womanized.

That's worse.

the 'you can do whatever you want forever' queer theorist blogger when what a lesbian/trans woman wants is to be a lesbian and a woman forever:

men are so whiny and sensitive about this oh my god. do you not hear how misogynistic entitled and lesbophobic this is and also just what a huge loser you sound like. "lesbians hate us because we're MEN and not sexy butch lesbians" Well yeah.. obviously.. even cis men can usually put it together that lesbians probably love lesbians more than men, so why are you so confused? you expecting some sort of special pussy treatment? No one wishes you would become a butch lesbian, you are thinking quite highly of yourself though aren't you

it makes me sad the way cis women are so terrified of and disgusted by their own body hair. and i'm not talking "i have to shave for sensory reasons" i mean i keep seeing videos of women using hair identifier spray on their faces and hands so they can shave the tiniest barely-there bits of peach fuzz that came free with their bodies. hair that serves a purpose and that purpose is cleanliness and protection. i mean when i was in elementary school girls who had barely hit puberty were talking about shaving their arms. i mean full-grown adult women who will have a breakdown if they see two days of stubble on their legs/crotch/ jaw/pits because god forbid you don't look like a perfect plastic barbie doll. god forbid your body that keeps you alive comes with hair that may not be soft and glossy and photogenic. some women are so afraid of having any hair apart from their head and eyebrows that they've uno reversed themselves into six different kinds of gender dysphoria that they can't recognize as such because they're convinced that this unnatural state of highly-groomed capital-informed beauty is how women have always been. you're so scared of looking "gross" or "ugly" or "mannish" that you can't even look at your body in the mirror and recognize what it is. sister you are an ape. why are you so determined to deny your nature.

my aunt was a member of the lesbian avengers in the late 90s and her chapter had it's own zine and i took some pictures of a few pages

my personal favorite is the letter template which i honestly might make copies of

i think it's very cool that this group (or at least this chapter) was openly trans-inclusive especially in the 90s when TERF rhetoric was extremely prevalent

normal is when the girl with a penis is in your porn. woke is when the girl with a penis is in your coffee shop.

Everyone who has responded to this, either here on bluesky, with some variation on "And [something else] is when a girl with a penis [does some sexual act, usually to the commenter]" please read this again. please apply critical thinking. what is the point being made here? do you not get it? somehow?

here’s a challenge for some of you: address your failures in upholding members of our community without immediately jumping to sexualizing them and fetishizing them

if you hear “you people can’t even handle thinking about a lesbian” and immmediately reply “i’d like to handle a lesbian” stop it

if you hear “you guys aren’t supporting trans women” and reply “yes i do i looooove sucking girlcock on trans goth mommies” stop it

if you hear “stop being fatphobic” and reply “omg fat ppl are soooo much more fun to fuck than skinny ppl” stop it

if you hear “listen to black people” and make any sort of fetishistic horseshit comment i won’t even type out fucking stop it

learn to grapple with issues you may be a part of without using sexualization as an escape from culpability

everything that women do that isn't explicitly for men can be construed as being mean to men.

there's this expectation that everything women do and experience and desire must be in relation to men, and so if they do or experience or desire something that doesn't benefit or flatter men, this misogynist logic goes that it must be deliberately done to neglect or insult men.

the idea that women are independent human beings is just so completely absent from possibility.

lesbians must experience attraction and form relationships with other human beings on this earth just because they hate men..

trans women must only want access to basic bodily autonomy to trick men..

woman seeking divorce must want legal freedom from a man to punish him..

can anyone just consider that women are human beings who have experiences and exist in a social world and desire autonomy over their bodies and lives? no? is that too mean? is that man-hating?

It would be great if the "lesbians are valid for not wanting men" posts ever took off as much as the "lesbians can fuck men!!!! Lesbians should give men a chance!!!" posts. Wonder why that doesn't happen

Op kinda ate y’all.

"I'm just a girl", "girl math", "girl dinner", "divine feminine energy", "bimbocore", "clean girl", "girl's girl", "girlfriend brain" SHUT UPPP!!! SHUTT THE FUCKKKK UPPPPPP !!!!