Your Friendly Neighborhood Lu

"i want more media with zero drama, no tension, and zero problematic characters and i am not joking"

Great! Here are my recommendations:

The Dragon thinks it's a pretty good deal!

I ASKED LUNA TO SEND ME TO A RANDOM DREAM ADRESS

OH FUCK

I’m losing my mind

it's not actually that much of a bother

i find it really concerning that conservative rhetoric has invaded '''progressive''' spaces so deeply that now empathy is considered a manipulation tactic.

i walk a fine line between “i’m asexual and i hate how much the world revolves around sex” and “sex is way too stigmatized and people should be able to be more open about it if they want to”

I think these are two sides of the coin called "sex should not be such a big deal"

Scrolled past this agakn and just can't get over how much I love it. We need to make things beautiful again and this is such a wonderful example. The beadwork on the wires of a utitarian object, contrasted with the grey concrete.

they call me an undercover agent. the way i’m. under the covers :) cozy in bed :)

they call me a sleeper agent the way i. well. i shan’t say.

she thought evolution was for ONE DAY ONLY! she mad as hell!

throwing it back woeful style

Bees informing the hive that one of their own has fallen

In The Strange Case, straight up Jekylling it and by it. Haha.. let's just say my Hyde.

If you can't cope with the reality of having been wrong, done something wrong, or hurt someone without melting down or having a crisis, you're not safe for anyone to be around, btw. Fucking up is an inevitability of being alive. You literally need need to learn to handle situations in which your actions caused someone else to be hurt, because this is never going to be a thing that just stops happening. Being able to just be wrong, or misinformed, or ignorant, or straight up the one who committed an unforced error to others' detriment while maintaining at least a thin veneer of decorum and reasonability is not optional.

You're not owed forgiveness by others, but you need to learn how to forgive yourself for running afoul of your own value system, otherwise you will render yourself incapable of internalizing when you actually have, thus rendering the value system itself utterly useless at guiding your behaviors, and rendering you effectively devoid of one, besides "I'm never wrong, I'm never the bad guy," I guess. And I'm sure you don't need me to explain how that can only go horrifically, catastrophically wrong.

The 102 of this lesson is that, sometimes, the right thing to do will mean hurting someone's feelings. Sometimes, doing the right thing means saying something that can't be said without upsetting someone, even someone you care about, and/or making them feel bad about themselves. Things like setting boundaries can mean having upsetting, uncomfortable, or otherwise unpleasant conversations, and you need to be able to have those conversations, otherwise you are lacking a skillset necessary to, among other things, meaningfully give consent.

You can't go through life without hurting anyone. It's just not possible. Not only are mistakes inevitable, but sometimes, the correct or necessary actions will unavoidably create conflict. Sometimes it's not gonna get to be a mistake. Sometimes, the option that means you don't have to directly hurt someone is wrong. And so you need to know how to navigate a situation in which you have caused hurt, because not every kindness is nice, and not every necessity is kind.

I'm sorry. But it's kinder to tell a hurtful truth when it is necessary than to tell a pretty lie in its stead.

You need to be able to take Ls with dignity and composure otherwise you will, inexorably, become tar pit. Whether that means being willing to make compromises, to change your mind even if you've invested your energy into something, or just willing to walk into something unpleasant but necessary, you have to be able to be the one who just needs to change or look bad sometimes.

Otherwise you become unable to handle one too many inevitabilities of life and having relationships with other people, and in such a way where, essentially, you will not allow yourself to be wrong. This way of thinking is how abusers get made, and I'm really not kidding. You must be willing to be wrong without also disposing of your responsibility to do better. You need to hold both at the same time and you need to let it hurt until it doesn't anymore because it is not optional.

Sorry. Some things about being alive and healthy just aren't easy or pleasant. But they are still necessary. This is one of those things.

The weather is not a toy