Shit this got me out here cryin in the club
TERFS do not interact
it got an update!!
iโve been squealing with joy at this for a solid fifteen minutes y'all ๐ญโค๏ธ
I saw the original and Iโm so pleased to see the update!
Another small update in the comments! Sorry for light mode lol
[ID: A collection of Reddit posts by u/takeyourmedsbro. Theyโre under r/MtF, and the first is marked as a discussion titled โTo all of you ladies, from a cis man.โ It reads:
I hope it isnโt totally out of order for me to post here, as a man I donโt want to take up your spaces so Iโll try and keep this as short as possible. Tw genital mention
I have full permission from my partner to post this and sheโs read it all. There is a misconception that the only men a straight trans women can get with, is a chaser. It is very sad that many of you feel that way, and Iโm sorry for how men treat you, but thatโs not how it has to be. I met my girlfriend when I was 15. She was living as a boy then and was 13. I used to push her around when we played football at school. I thought she was one of the lads. Time goes on, I was never that close to her and we lost touch. Next thing is I meet her again on a fine art course. I didnโt recognise her at all and with her name change and generic surname I never made the connection. I developed quite the crush, we would go on dates and Iโd sort of play them off as just hanging out with a friend. I was so giddy around her and I was terrified to tell her I liked her. One day we were going to the movies and I told myself โtoday is the day I ask her to be my girlfriend, and try to kiss herโ We ended up skipping the movie to go on a walk in the local forest. I held her hand and she squeezed mine - my heart was beating so damn fast. We finally kissed and it was like fireworks. I told her I liked her but she cut me off. She told me to stop talking because she needs to tell me something. Now in my mind Iโm panicking thinking sheโs in a relationship, but she says โl used to be a boy. I was at school with you, please donโt be mad Iโm so sorry I didnโt tell you โand then to my absolute horror she said โplease donโt hurt meโ She genuinely thought that there was a danger of me attacking her after finding out. This broke my fucking heart. I had my moment of being like wtf - mainly because Iโd known this girl for almost 10 years and hadnโt pieced the 2 people together - but then we kissed again, and then again and again and we kissed so much my face hurt by the end. That was 5 years ago and boy this has been a learning curve. Iโve only ever dated cis women before. I am 100% straight and I had to unlearn some internalized shit for maybe a day or so, until I thought what the fuck does it matter who she used to be? Damn I used to be a baby, people change. But I love her the way she is now. I love her smile I love her eyes I love her body her curves her hands her hair and you know what? I love her penis too. I love it because itโs hers. and it gives her pleasure, and there isnโt anything wrong with it. I donโt have a fetish. I just fell in love with a woman and that means I fell in love with the whole package. Iโm planning to propose to her on new years eve. I want to spend the rest of my life with her. I want to raise kids with her and I want her to lose all of these insecurities. Just because you canโt carry them, doesnโt mean you wonโt be the mother of my children. There is hope, youโre not broken or unlovable or nothing but a kink. Youโre a powerful woman.
The second post is titled โUpdate from the cis guy that proposed.โ It reads:
Hey ladies. Iโve been asked by a few of you to share an update. Here is my previous post: https://www.reddit.com/r/MtF/comments/e95hgx/to_all_of_you_ladies_from_a_cis_man/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
And here is your official soppy post warning - bewareโฆ
Soooo on exactly 00:00 new years (ok I was probably out by a couple minutes but I did try to time it) I proposed to my beautiful girlfriend (who also happens to be trans, hence why Iโm posting on here) and she said YES
I donโt know if I can fully articulate how happy I am. I wanted to keep it lowkey and between the 2 of us so she didnโt feel any pressure, so I cooked her favourite meal ever (I would have liked to cook something fancy and elegant but honestly she would much rather eat spaghetti bolognese with garlic bread and then a loaded ice cream sundae for dessert ANY day of the week) we ate, played board games and did a competition to see who could make the best vehicle out of old egg cartons and toilet roll tubes. Then we decided to make cupcakes which were fucking vile because we forgot to add the sugar of all things. Not typical romantic evening but I felt all the love and when I dropped down on one knee she just wept. I didnโt even know I had a yes at first because she was crying so much. I actually got really scared Iโd freaked her out so I stood up and hugged her and said Iโm sorry and she finally told me yes yes yes and explained that she was crying because it was always beyond her wildest dreams as a youngster that she would ever be able to be a wife. This is not something I can relate to, but I think I do understand, as best as i can as a cis man. We literally just held each other for a bit before we both realized she hadnโt seen the ring yet! Iโm not a wealthy guy at all so I was afraid she would be disappointed in my grandmothers wedding ring as her engagement ring (I will buy her a new ring for the wedding) but I did want her to have it as my grandmother always told me she wanted my future wife to wear it. Luck was on my side though people because the ring made her cry all over again, happy tears, because she said it made her feel like the fairytale she told herself as a child has finally come true. I think there maybe was something affirming about the fact that this ring was left from my grandma for me to give to the woman I want to spend my life with.
Ok I donโt want to bore you all to death with the ins and outs but I havenโt stopped smiling since she said yes. The fiancee (I love saying that, so exciting) has been obsessively wedding planning which is mighty convenient for me considering I have no clue on how to organize a wedding. Itโs like the child in her has come out to play and its very endearing. She missed out on all the typical girly activities as a child so sheโs making up for lost time. She ALREADY has a scrapbook for the wedding and sheโs already browsing dresses!
Iโm sorry for being all cliche and cringey. I know its insufferable to many and I do understand. I just feel drunk in love, and i did want to update and not leave people hanging! Other than my mother, my family does not know she is trans, because frankly itโs none of their business and my fiancee hasnโt wanted to open up to them about that part of her life. She confided in my mother because my mother knows a transgender boy and so it came up in conversation. As far as the rest of my family are concerned, itโs totally irrelevant to them and they will only ever know if she chooses to tell them. So I was wondering if incorporating rainbows anywhere in the theme at all would be too obviously lgbt pride themed? Or can I get away with some rainbow tokens and such just as a discreet acknowledgement of how far sheโs come? Obviously I donโt want people to think of this wedding as anything other than what it is, a straight marriage between a man and a woman, so are rainbows risky? Iโm just so damn proud of her and want to show that in some way. I was thinking of wearing rainbow cufflinks or something? Anyway sorry for the damn essay but I hope the new year goes well for you lovely ladies and sorry for being a cringe lord. I just canโt believe Iโve found my queen
in MtF by takeurmedsbro
Third is another post, which reads:
Also we have decided that on the big day, I will wear pink cufflinks and she will wear either blue eye makeup or a flower, and then the theme will be that classic white sorta theme. The colours of the trans flag, thanks to your suggestions. Like so subtle that only me and her will know it means anything at all. Hopefully that will work out tastefully but we also like the pink/blue/white elements of the cake idea. I showed her some of these comments and god damn it you lok she is now exploring sooo many more ideas and concepts, I didnt think she would expand past the scrapbook, but we now have a wedding โmood boardโ of all thingsโฆ takes up half the wall in our room. I proposed only 3 days ago! I love her enthusiasm but Iโm finding it hard to rate all the dresses she shows me, when I cant tell the difference between any of themโฆ a white dress is a white dress, but she says thatโs typical male bullshit and sheโs probably right there. But she can wear a bin bag to our wedding and still look perfect so Iโm not worried about which compliments her body more, but then I do want her to put a dress on and have that feeling of โthis is my dressโ and I have the feeling that could be a long processโฆ anyway, the kindness means everything x. End ID]
Happy Pride
This post has 10 sets of parentheses and 2 sets of brackets.
This. THIS is why I donโt put Cishet DNI in my bio btw
normally I donโt read super long posts like that but god damn. that was beautiful
they both did<3