if you have OCD that moralistic post it not about you. keep scrolling. i love you

yeah even the one that gave you that sinking terror and has you planning your penance behavior and going through your whole life trying to identify when you did whatever it said about prejudice or abuse or whatever. it's not about you they don't know you and they certainly don't care about you

sometimes I wonder how y'all are obsessed with specific characters and I'm like "why them" but then I remember that sometimes its literally not your choice you just look at them wrong and all of a sudden they're taking up your every thought forever

to quote someone who was a genius on bluesky:

the best fanfic is the one the author had fun writing actually.

the second best is the one the author used to work through some issues.

Guy: “So what does X mental illness feel like?”

Me: “Feels like shit, bro.”

Guy: “Hmmm. I don’t think so”

Cool so like what if I hit you with a rock. What would that feel like hypothetically

I once had a licensed professional medical doctor tell me to my face within 7 minutes of meeting me that I didn’t have depression because truly depressed people don’t use metaphors.

The metaphor I used was, “I know that all these little day to day things shouldn’t be this hard- taking a shower, eating, getting out of bed- but it feels like everything I try to do, everywhere I go, I’m dragging a king-sized mattress around with me.”

So like. I guess expanding on the idea, don’t just mean “don’t tell me it’s not bad”. I kind of also wanna say, “you asked me how it felt and I fucking told you, so maybe listen to what I say when you ask instead of picking apart how I said it or how it fits within your idea of what it might be like in theory”

crazy how there's collectively maybe a dozen they/them characters in pieces of media that anyone talks about and if you go to look up things about them in queer fandom spaces then you'll still see them getting misgendered a good 60% of the time

"I'm so bad at keeping plants alive, I killed a succelent :((" LISTEN TO ME!! SUCCULENTS ARE HARD MODE PLANTS!!! YOU SET YOUR DIFFICULTY TO NIGHTMARE MODE ON YOUR FIRST TRY AND WONDERED WHY IT KEPT DYING!!!

Succulents are hard mode because they WANT dry soil. You have to be extremely scheduled about when you water them and how much you give them, and then on top of that, they don't tell you ANYTHING!!! The way you know you aren't killing it is if you don't wake up to a dead cactus one day, that's literally all you get.

If you want easy plants for your first time, get tropical plants. The big, luscious green tropical ferns and bamboo trees and monsteras and peace lilies. "But they're so intimidating!" Theyre dramatic crybabies. If you don't know when to water your plants, they'll tell you by drooping everything and acting like they're already dead. You give them water and they perk right back up within the hour. You water them when the soil feels dry to you and they're thirsty mfers, extremely difficult to overwater unless you're actively trying to drown them. Give em a mist every few days and they'll slurp it right up. All purpose fertilizer works great on them, no need to get intimidated by all the labels and numbers on the shelf of the garden center.

Cacti are hardy but they don't tell you shit and if you give them one drop of water extra they drown and die. If you give them the wrong fertilizer numbers they choke and die. If you also forget to water them for one (1) day off their schedule they dehydrate and die. The reason you think you suck at plants is because you chose the hardest one on the shelf. Get a fern or a bamboo tree instead

This website is too mobile focused these days. Reblog and tell me what your desktop/laptop background is.

Girl help people in the notes are calling me rich and privileged for owning a computer.

Guys if your definition of wealth is "owning a computer" then I'm sorry but you're not ready for the revolution. Listen, when the lord of the land makes his subjects stand in the open rain, their enemy is not the man who wore a hat.

another fire ass line from a random ass tumblr post lets go

i will never, and i mean this, Ever buy a video game for 80 american dollars. this is a core part of my being. i will not be moved from this position

"ooh ahhh inflation" i wasn't paying full price then either; i learned about emulators and indie games like 20 years ago. Never Pay More Than [adjust this quote for inflation] For A Computer Game

shoe/clothing size you check in the store, but it's evidence that they haven't taken their child shoe/clothing shopping recently if they aren't in the right ballpark.

how are you going to 'love and provide' for your child if you don't know their likes/dislikes and basic safety information? You don't love your child if you don't know anything about them. Providing for them doesn't just mean money it means making sure they are safe, healthy, and secure.

And going to add that with all of these, it's not that you necessarily have to have a specific, one-word answer, but that you should have *some* thought process behind it indicating on-going attention to your child. Maybe you don't know your child's shoe size because they're growing so much, or because shoe brands all have different sizing systems, but you know how to check what your child's current shoe-size is. Maybe you're not sure who their pediatrician is because health insurance is a nightmare, but you know the doctors who've treated them before and have an idea of who you would go to if they needed treatment now. You might not know who is your child's best friend, but you should know about at least some of their friends. (Willingness to cooperate in areas you are less familiar with can also be a major contributing factor in how custody agreements shake out. My parents' divorce was messy af, but my mom's willingness to defer to my dad on my education and my dad's willingness to defer to my mom on my health played a huge role in making sure they both remained a major part of my life. They didn't have to know everything, but they did have to know who they would go to for those specific things -- even if that meant the person they hated most at the time. Putting their love for their child over their hate for the ex-partner was a statement, in and of itself, to the custody court.)

shoutout to everyone who wants to infodump but cant string together coherent thoughts to form sentences and instead just look at you like this

always scary when mutuals change urls

"ah shit, did i do something to make them block me... what do you think, handsome stranger who i'm randomly following?"

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Yes this is the only thing that all of our family thought about it. Everyday we ask ourselves  if we going to live anymore or not .  Everyday in this cruel war we imagine one of us dead and feeling so sad about what will happen next day.

Now after the war all the building are destroyed here and there is no life around us please we need to evacuate 🙏🥺

Please help my kids and my family to evacuate from here. Gaza now is not for human being living we need you support to stand with 18 members of the family to travel to another place that could find some peace and start new life without wars.  We live in many wars and we are so tired. 

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Note for Kestrelflight's design: The yellow can be changed to white if there's a need for simplification :)

Some Frostpaw drawings I did on animal jam classic that I forgot to post!!

people who don’t wear glasses will never understand the absolute humiliation of dropping your glasses under your bed or in a dark area and feeling around on all fours muttering “my glasses…. where are my glasses” like fucking Velma Dinkley and thinking to yourself BOY WOULD THIS BE A LOT EASIER IF I COUKD FUCKING SEE