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Hi okay. these inane callouts are never going to stop until people realise that weird kinks, fetishes, and porn are completely fucking neutral and aren't newsworthy in the least. people are gonna have weird sexual power fantasies. it has happened for all of human history and it will continue to do so. role-playing abuse with another consenting adult, fantasising about it, jerking off about it. none of this does harm to anybody on an inherent level.
"People use this kink to abuse-" abusers are in literally every community everywhere. if you think you can spot an abuser by spotting a kinkster, you're severely lacking in critical thinking. yes, there are abusive people doing abuse and calling it "kink". there are also abusive people doing abuse and calling it "sex" or "romance" or "friendship" or "parenting" or "teaching" or "doing my job" or any fucking other number of things. kink is not a unique vector for abuse.
if you think CNC/rape play is literal rape, then you yourself do not understand consent, and I do not trust you. if you think ageplay is an excuse for a dom to act out latent pedophilic urges on an unwitting (yet adult) victim, you do not understand consent, and I do not trust you. if you think petplay is the same as bestiality you're just fucking stupid.
we are out here saying "all the people involved in this dynamic are fully informed and want it and enthusiastically consent and we're having a really genuinely great time feeling very fulfilled and having fun" meanwhile you motherfuckers sit there crying how you "can't consent" to violence or whatever.
if you do not care about someone's ability to say yes, can you really care about their ability to say no?
so no. I don't, and I never will care what someone has been posting about on their porn twitter, or saying in private messages to their friends, or what porn they've been jacking it to, if the only real people involved have been consenting adults. and if they weren't? what the fuck is your callout post on tumblr.com going to do?