can we reintroduce “disturbing” back into the popular lexicon in place of most uses of “traumatizing”

*flirting with an older man* when i was born you had already attempted suicide once

finally someone says something kind of titillating

did it work

Happy International Asexuality Day!!! 🖤🩶🤍💜

time to get a delicious tea drink from my favorite crone, boba yaga

then I will go to an exercise class led by my favorite instructor, baba yoga

Love some miserable Elon in the morning

it’s even more miserable than I thought

first they made it mandatory to log in everywhere. create an account to download your free template Log in to access resource give us your email nowwwww. Now the humble password is being killed too. open your magic email link! type your 6 digit code that we texted you because we required your email and your phone number! we’re gonna call you and whisper a code sweetly in your ear so you can log in to your account. yes it has a password but you cant use that anymore. okay? poob is gonna call you. now poob is just gonna call you.

in times like these at least i have the character

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*LOUD THUNDEROUS APPLAUSE*

We just knew.

As a reminder, this is what she looks like:

Also I hope everyone knows that Miette was fostered before she was adopted, and her foster mom loved that little kitten so much and always hoped she’d gone to a good home. this tweet got so popular that she recognized Miette and reached out to her current mom, and was able to share previously unseen baby pictures

You mean, she saw Miette was kicked like the football and did nothing to help put Mother in jail for a thousand years? I am appalled.

her!!!

Baby Miette!!!

Babe wake up new Miette lore just dropped

IT’S MIETTE!!!!

it's been a year so i feel more comfortable talking about it..

when you're atheist and you lose someone, religious people don't really know how to interact with you. it's fine, we have different worldviews.

'He's in a better place, now.'

Sorry auntie, but I don't believe that. I believe that his brain stopped working at 5h55pm on december 11th 2022, and that's it. Nothing after that.

It makes grief very difficult, because not believing in god or the afterlife also means accepting that you will never, ever see that person again. That's it. The end. Nada mas.

But, back to the aunties and other faceless people gravitating in the grey blurry waters of your awareness.

They tell you 'He's with god now' and you tell them 'Yeah I don't believe that' and.

they. get. annoyed.

Here I am, gutted open, the worst day of my life, barely holding myself together, and they! Get annoyed that I won't smile and entertain their point of view!

Another faceless person tried to heal me with cristals. She also got annoyed when I told her I didn't believe in that.

I usually don't really mind religious people. It's fine, we have different worldviews. I think I'm right but so do they. As long as they're good people, I don't judge them for their faith.

I'll even be grateful for them trying to console me. I get that you're trying to give me strength and love. Thank you.

But I'm going to be true to myself, yes even when I'm mad with shock and grief. And I still can't believe they got annoyed that I didn't play along to placate them, on the worst day of my life.

(I wanted to share because I've never heard anyone talk about atheism and grief, and the loneliness that comes out of it.)

I have not lost anyone recently, but I purchased this book some time ago and found it helpful: Comforting Thoughts about Death that Have Nothing to Do with God.

Because as you say, there's very little discussion of how to think about death and handle grief as an atheist, when you don't have the comfort of thinking they're in an afterlife, they're just gone.

Please folks, whatever your own beliefs are, when you are comforting someone, you must align with *their* views and beliefs. You're religious and they're atheist? Maybe talk about how their loved one isn't suffering anymore, or remind your friend that they have a community around them who will support them as they grieve. You're atheist and they're religious? Go for that "they're in a better place" language, or that God is with them in their grief.

This is not a time that's about you. It's about the person that's grieving and you need to use the language that will connect with them! If you're not sure what to say, just tell them you're there for them and be present with them.

I hope nobody minds me adding a very specific example to this. I actually wrote into the website Ask A Manager about this, because the behavior was from my coworker. I'll make it a lot shorter here.

I have a coworker who I became friendly with who started taking "Tiktok psychic classes" in order to become a medium. This led to her giving me psychic readings against my fucking will. When I lost my grandmother, she was immediately sending me bullshit like "Oma is with your mom now, she loves you and she's proud of you". And then when my brand new puppy tragically choked to death, she was telling me (this was again within like 24 hours of the loss) that he was "with Oma and your mom", and started telling me about how Oma thinks he's funny and entertaining, and they're playing together. Explicit details of the spirit of my dead dog playing with my dead family members.

I told her to stop multiple times - she had initially asked if I wanted "messages" from my mom and I told her no. Then she continued with this shit. Luckily she finally stopped, but I really felt like my grief was being co-opted so that an insecure friendless person who was wasting all her money to train her "psychic gifts" (while not paying her bills and telling me some were going to COLLECTIONS) could feel more important and better about herself.

I'm an atheist and this coworker wasn't operating under "standard religion" (IE any mention of God or whatever), so I just thought I'd add that people can be awful to you from many directions. Lol. It was insane and made me feel like shit and it was terrible DO NOT DO THIS TO PEOPLE IN ANY WAY!

for everyone asking for what article this is i actually went back and found it again and you'll never guess who it's about