Existing

"What did you do, Oynon?"

Hmmm......

ghorkhonsk very competent medical staff

also some extra stuff i just draw them aimlessly

Not to venerate the halcyon and bygone days of yore, but it used to be that declaring that girls are too fragile and delicate to ever possibly compete with the boys or ever be as good as them at anything was rightly denounced as the kind of raging sexisim that made you sound like the flatly written villain of a teenybopper movie.

By the way, I really hope people here are aware of Cory Booker delivering a 25-hour filibuster blasting everything wrong with today's republicans, because he broke the record previously set by Strom Thurmond when he argued against the Civil Rights Act.

A black man just erased the record of a racist white man.

So many Americans seem to think that there is no society, and morality is literal magic. Like, people don't make choices based on a complex interlocking web of desires and institutions and material conditions. The world is good guys and bad guys. Deviance is a literal magical poison that disrupts the fabric of reality. If enough young women dye their hair blue, the crops will fail.

just kind of wild to me that ppl will see something that says “hey trying to ban trans ppl from the military is bad bc it’s a blatant attempt to codify the legal exclusion of trans ppl into the law of the land in the us” and go “clearly this person is deepthroating an automatic rifle and is sobbing and shitting and crying bc they can’t join the military. psh. shitlib.”

quick reminder that everything russia’s doing to ukraine isn’t new. there were 170 governmental bans on ukrainian language in the last 150 years. most of ukrainian writers from the basic school literature curriculum were murdered or oppressed for speaking out for ukraine. an average person doesn’t have to know executed renaissance or slovo house or the ems ukaz or forced russification or literally hundreds of similar precedents, but please do note that this all was a thing long before putin

Holodomor was recognized as genocide by the very man who coined the term „genocide” - a Polish-Jewish lawyer Rafał Lemkin. Born in 1900 Lemkin was alive to observe both holodomor and holocaust and this is what he had to say about the former:

- Soviet genocide in the Ukraine by Raphael Lemkin

Not that I believe the commenter above is interested in broadening their horizons or having a good faith conversation, but the rest of you should know. Recognizing holodomor does not in any way diminish the suffering of persecuted Jewish people.

do u guys realize that u sound like conservatives. “discrimination is fine if it’s against my political rivals” do u hear urselves.

WHAT IF WE WERE STUCK IN A TIME LOOP AND WE REALIZED WE ARE GOING TO DIE BUT IT’S OK BECAUSE MAYBE WE’LL GET IT RIGHT NEXT TIME AND SURVIVE (we won’t. it will always end like this)

This will probably anger jumblr (I can't believe its called that) but with passover coming up, I learned having celiacs goes against the faith lmfao. I can't digest oats either which is required?? Idk how anyone can defend that, straight up ableism.

I'm glad i'm not religious, rather just be a part of my culture my own way. I like being a heretic🔥🔥🔥

So fun fact, Judaism prioritizes you staying alive and well. If you can't eat matzo for whatever reason, you don't eat matzo. It's that simple. If a religious Jew was in this situation they'd consult a rabbi on what to do instead, but it's literally only required if you have the capacity to do so. Which you wouldn't, so it is literally required instead that you don't eat it to avoid putting your life at risk. Because that would be bad and goes against the Jewish value of saving a life above pretty much anything else.

I would appreciate it if you would learn about what the Jewish laws like this actually are, and what the customs are regarding them, before you start publicly criticizing them and spread false information on what Judaism supports.

Based on your 2nd, 10th, and 18th most recent emojis, how will your weekend go?

saw a video abt how the “toxic boy mom” thing is just emotional incest/enmeshment and i was like yeah correct. then i looked at the comments and it was all ppl blaming the sons??? mocking them, saying they should just get over it, saying no woman should ever date them, that if their mom is like that then it’s their fault for “allowing” it and like. y’all i do not know how else to explain that a parent abusing their child (bc that’s what emotional incest is) is not the child’s fault. if you realize your partner is a victim of enmeshment/emotional incest, you should handle it the same way you would with any other abuse victim, with care and tact and offers of support. not mockery and blame. jesus christ.

“he lets her walk all over him, he always has to ask her permission to make important life decisions, she always asks really invasive questions and he just answers her like it’s normal, he doesn’t set boundaries with her so she just does whatever she wants, she threatened to hurt herself if he didn’t give her attention and he just gave in immediately”

do u not see how this is textbook signs of abuse. is that not glaringly obvious.

I mean, obviously don't blame children for being abused - but like at a certain point, as an adult, you are responsible for yourself and your own life and even if it's not your fault for being abused, it is your responsibility to set boundaries and cut off abusers. Like, you can be as supportive as you want, but if the adult man doesn't agree to end or distance himself from an abusive relationship, then what can you do? That's ultimately his responsibility as an adult.

“at a certain point you’re responsible for your own life […] it is your responsibility to set boundaries and cut off abusers”

you really do not know how abuse works, and also this is victim blaming 101.

“you can be as supportive as you want but if the adult man doesn’t agree to end or distance himself from an abusive relationship, what can you do?”

not a lot, which should be sad. it should make you sad to see that a person is being abused and isn’t able to leave yet because they are still heavily conditioned by their abuser to not see the abuse. also if we actually treated these types of abusive relationships as abusive and interacted with victims as victims then i guarantee you more men would cut off their abusive mothers.

and this shit is what i’m talking abt. bc this is not a reaction most people who consider themselves to be progressive and anti-abuse would have if the victim was a woman — not bc victims who are women are inherently treated better, but bc patriarchal norms still heavily affect the way we treat abuse victims. women are weaker and therefore when they’re victims they need more help, they need someone to protect them. when men are victims, it’s their own failure for not being strong and masculine enough to protect themselves. when the truth is that regardless of gender, victims of abuse are vulnerable and need to be treated with kindness and patience. bc if you infantilize or mock someone who’s being abused, it’s just going to further entrench them in the abuse.

y'all wanna know when I got the "and how is your behavior contributing to this continued enmeshment?" Talk from my therapist?

First, let me emphasize, it was a talk my therapist had with me. Not a random stranger, not someone who didn't intimately know the conditions of my life at that time.

Now, when did my therapist have this talk with me? When I was already well aware that what I had gone through was abuse, I was healing from it, and I was actively trying to go no-contact but couldn't let myself fully disengage because of guilt that my abusers put there.

When the LITERAL ONLY THING KEEPING ME IN CONTACT was having not hit the block button yet. That's when. Not when my abusers were a part of my day-to-day life, not when I was financially entangled with them, not when I still needed them for some things, not when I didn't have a stable non-abusive support network. After ALL of that groundwork was done, that's when the question became "how are you keeping this going?"

And it was such a gentle question. And it was said with such care and genuine concern for my wellbeing. And if it had been said ANY earlier, it would have injured me. It would have pushed me back towards my abusers, or towards finding brand new abusers. It would have proved, to the parts of me that were taught to believe it, that I deserved to be treated that way.

The hell of it is, I am ultimately responsible for how I get treated, because I am the only one who can make me leave a situation I don't want to be in anymore. That is my power. The hell of it is, that same phrase, that's used to keep abuse victims right where they are! "If you don't like the way you're treated, why are you still here?" (Followed by any number of 'reasons' proposed for why leaving isn't an option and also how the victim is being treated isn't that bad)

Moving from victim to survivor is NOT fucking simple, and it's so easy to leave one abusive situation and fall right into another because you don't have the skills to survive outside of one. I still find myself falling into the habits of being abused, of acting like I am not a free human being, because that was ingrained into me for years as the only way to avoid punishment and have my needs be even slightly met. It's not that simple, and enmeshing parents should be the focus of our ire when we are talking about dysfunctional parent-child relationships, even and especially when it is mother-son, since our society just, TELLS mothers who are emotionally dissatisfied by their relationships with their peers that there is ONE (1) man who will never leave you or hurt you and that man is your son. Absolutely not. Those moms need to fix their shit, get a divorce, and join a knitting club and LEAVE THEIR SONS AND THEIR ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS THE HELL ALONE.

Do find it weird when people think cis manhood and masculinity is the only true real manhood and masculinity and act like every trans man wants to look and be like a cis man.

Only reason why I’d ever go stealth and present myself as a cis man is for safety. In every other situation I’m open about the fact I’m trans. How I define my own masculinity and manhood. Cis men don’t define manhood and masculinity.

And when you don’t want to be a hypermasculine perfectly identical to a cis man they get mad. They don’t just define manhood by cis men, they violently enforce that definition.

I say I’m questioning if I will ever get top surgery , and before I can even start to explain that my reason is because of the price and the time I need to take off to heal is unrealistic for me in my situation, I’m attacked because the idea that I’m still a man but don’t conform to their idea to manhood is just so horrible to them.