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can anyone venmo this broke ass trans chick like 10 or 15 bucks to grab some food? no snap until next week and ive scraped this place dry, ill send you a few stickers or something also 💜 v3ŋm0 is punkyrooster if you wanna help with the peanut butter fund 💜

Honestly, it's really painful to constantly see just how much the cis gay male community excludes gay trans men. How it's so normal that even guys who are inclusive of trans men don't realize how many aren't, like, it's just never occured to them.

This is very true

I’m also going to mention: if they’re only inclusive of gay trans men if they’re bottoms, they’re not actually inclusive. Gay trans men tops exist and excluding them based on the fact that they’re trans and won’t take the position you think they should is still exclusionary. Also if they only let in gay trans men after they’ve had bottom surgery, they’re still exclusionary.

Too many cis gay men gatekeep trans men from their spaces entirely so other ways gay trans men are kept out may come across as more accepting. They’re not really.

tbh i've had the opposite experience(not saying the previous is false, more of a "they hate us all regardless" thing) where being a bottom, especially without bottom surgery, gets you treated like a fetishist who wants to turn them straight or being treated like you have rabies. i was even once told that if a gay man wanted to top me, he'd have his gay card revoked and told me to get a strap. i've pretty much gotten this sentiment everywhere ive gone in places for gay men, so much so that i tend to not even try anymore. they're not inclusive of any of us, top or bottom.

edit: realizing i misread the first sentence as "they're only inclusive of gay trans men if they're bottoms, so they're not actually inclusive". my bad. i want to reframe my addition as just describing my experiences for not being accepted because i'm not a top, like i have to "make up" for the fact i'm ftm and be one, to add on.

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Every time I see this quote I realize how poor even very smart people are at looking at the long game and at assessing these things in context.

One of my favourite illustrations of this was in a First Aid class. The instructor was a working paramedic. He asked, “Who here knows the stats on CPR? What percentage of people are saved by CPR outside a hospital?”

I happen to know but I’m trying not to be a TOTAL know it all in this class so I wait. And people guess 50% and he says, “Lower,” and 20% and so forth and eventually I sort of half put up my hand and I guess I had The Face because he eventually looked at me and said, “You know, don’t you.”

“My mom’s a doc,” I said. He gave me a “so say it” gesture and I said, “Four to ten percent depending on your sources.”

Everyone else looked surprised and horrified.

And the paramedic said, “We’re gonna talk a bit about some details of those figures* but first I want to talk about just this: when do you do CPR?”

The class dutifully replies: when someone is unconscious, not breathing, and has no pulse.

“What do we call someone who is unconscious, not breathing, and has no pulse?”

The class tries to figure out what the trick question is so I jump over the long pause and say, “A corpse.”

“Right,” says the paramedic. “Someone who isn’t breathing and has no heartbeat is dead. So what I’m telling you is that with this technique you have a 4-10% chance of raising the dead.”

So no, artists did not stop the Vietnam War from happening with the sheer Power of Art. The forces driving that military intervention were huge, had generations of momentum and are actually pretty damn complicated.

But if you think the mass rejection of the war was as meaningless as a soufflé - well.

Try sitting here for ten seconds and imagining where we’d be if the entire intellectual and artistic drive of the culture had been FOR the war. If everyone thought it was a GREAT IDEA.

What the whole world would look like.

Four-to-ten percent means that ninety to ninety-six percent of the time - more than nine times out of ten - CPR will do nothing, but that one time you’ll be in the company of someone worshipped as an incarnate god.

If you think the artists and performers attacking and showing up people like Donald Trump is meaningless try imagining a version of the world wherein they weren’t there.

(*if you’re curious: those stats count EVERY reported case of CPR, while the effectiveness of it is extremely time-related. With those who have had continuous CPR from the SECOND they went down, the number is actually above 80%. It drops hugely every 30 seconds from then on. When you count ALL cases you count cases where the person has already been down several minutes but a bystander still starts CPR, which affects the stats)

That Vonnegut quote brings this particular moment to mind:

Yes, it’s just a pie. Yes, the pie itself doesn’t do much direct damage in the grand scheme of things. But the pie is resistance, and resistance inspires resistance. Resistance inspires survival. Throwing pies sometimes starts a movement. Throwing pies sometimes saves lives.

And of course, we haven’t spoken about the inherent morality of throwing pies at oppressors in a world where oppressors have outlawed pie throwing. At the very least, pie throwing is a reminder to the oppressors that no matter how much money they have, no matter how much power they have, there are still some people, some moments they can’t control.

I’d rather go out throwing pies than just rolling over and accepting that pie throwing isn’t going to solve anything. Yeah, the pie throwing doesn’t immediately solve the problem, but it doesn’t have to because it’s just a starting point. So throw the damn pie.

So throw the damn pie

to speak for john oliver specifically, his comments section on youtube alone has tons of people who have become deradicalized from the alt right or who have shown his videos to family members who were deradicalized. you can claim that he doesn't go far enough, that all of this doesn't matter, but it mattered to that one person whose mother stopped going to alt right rallies. it mattered to that one person who realized how deep they were in it and was horrified at themselves.

just like how his predecessor, jon stewart, helped deradicalize me and helped me see what i was being indoctrinated with. this whole thing is very firebombing walmart-y.

“I’m having my son in 2 months and I’m jealous of how cute baby girl clothes are” you can put your newborn son in a little strawberry print romper, I swear. he won’t mind. he won’t develop a complex over it, I promise.

It’s so interesting how heavily gendered baby clothes are an extremely modern phenomenon like even in the midcentury period baby clothes were often the same cut and color for baby boys and baby girls but now you can’t put your son in a pink romper and you have to use baby glue to affix a flower to your daughter’s head so everyone knows she’s a little girl.

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