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Majestic, in a beady-eyed, homely way

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Stumpy. Any pronouns. Adult. This is my main. I'm also poisionheadcrabsalesman.  It's mostly the mountain goats and random stuff here. Let me know if you need something tagged. Please be normal. No Racists, Terfs, Exclusionists, etc

I was feeling really really bad on Monday. this soup and Fellowship of the Rings made me feel a lot better.

A Strong and Powerful Soup

ingredients:

  • 1lb "Italian sausage" (the kind that comes in a block on a styrofoam pad)
  • 1 yellow onion, chopped
  • 3 cloves of garlic, minced
  • 2 big carrots, chopped into maybe 1/4" cubes (you know, soup size)
  • 3 yellow potatoes, chopped same size as the carrots
  • 1 bunch kale
  • 1 can fire roasted diced tomatoes
  • herbs de provence (lots, I didn't measure)
  • 1 tbsp balsamic vinegar
  • 1/2 tsp pomegranate molasses
  • 1 cup white wine
  • veggie stock

brown the sausage in a dutch ovenuntil you don't see any red. add onions, carrots, potatoes, and some salt. once the bottom of the pot is getting brown, deglaze with a cup of white wine. scrape the browned bits off the bottom. add in tomatoes, herbs, and some more salt. add enough veggie stock to cover and simmer for 30 minutes.

while the soup is simmering, tear the kale leaves into about 1.5" squares (no need to be precise). after 30 minutes, add the kale and garlic into the soup (they'll reduce in size pretty rapidly).

right before serving, add in the balsamic vinegar and pomegranate molasses if you have it.

my bestie and I created this recipe during a period when the homies were withering and we were often called upon to make a ton of food to cheer up several miserable people with very little warning. and brother, it fuckin works

i love how we pick up habits and phrases and songs from people we love and it sticks with us for so long it becomes a piece of us making us a museum of all the people we've ever loved

ALL ABOARD FOR THE MASTER EIJI FAN CLUB

inspired by this post. Immaculate, @aye-of-newt

Best father and son-daughter-stupid-lost-boy duo. that’s her Dad of Steel your honor.

[ID: Blue Eye Samurai fanart of Eiji and Mizu. Eiji is smiling and wearing a shirt that says "I'm not the step father, I'm the father that stepped up." Mizu smiles and does a thumbs-up. End ID]

when did it become a 9 hour work day? i can't think of the last job i had that didn't require 9-6 or 10-7 work hours. yes there's an hour paid lunch in the middle but that used to be included in your 9-5. why are we all just okay with this? why have we forsaken dolly parton?

i already think the 40 hour work week is bullshit and now they've tacked on 5 extra hours and are just hoping no one notices? they're stealing the time straight out of our lives, is anyone else pissed???

the thing about being nonbinary is that you really do start to forget that other people have such strict walls around what is and isn’t allowed for genders. i thought we all agreed that we made that up. could you climb out of the cave real quick and feel the sunshine for a minute.

The evolution of (trans) man.

(Well, this one, anyway.)

  • Age 9: "Tomboy"
  • Age 15: Strictly enforced femininity
  • Age 30: Hitting the mental limits of being closeted all his life and about to crash HARD
  • Age 47: Fifteen years now since starting transition. Far more good days than bad, no regrets.

The world may be full of uncertainty and danger, but I resolve to continue to find joy in who I am. Be joyful to be kind to yourself and be joyful to spite the bastards who would tear us apart.

My tip for trying to compartmentalize your emotions or desires is to realize when you're using hyperbolic shorthand for an actually realistic desire. I know realizing even that can be difficult sometimes but let me demonstrate

"I wish I was popular" -> I want to be noticed and engaged with, and I need reassurance and the feeling of connection

"I wanna delete my blog and ghost my friends" -> I want to act out in a visible way that expresses how frustrated I am / I feel overwhelmed with connections and need time to cool off

"I wanna do something reckless/dangerous" -> I feel trapped in obligations and am buckling under stress, I need a sufficient outlet and more freedom to exist in peace

Obviously there may be different kinds of feelings or needs under your particular impulses, these are just some fairly common examples of what you could be feeling. The harder part is trying to figure out what it is that causes this impulse, and even harder might be if you don't have control over the situation, and are unable to have your needs met. It's not always your fault if you're feeling bad, but realizing where it stems from can help you seek out new paths to relieve it. This is something I've learnt working in therapy.

The toddler in your heart has valid needs. But it is a toddler and will scream and cry about it. Learn to sit by until it's done and then ask if it wants a juice box or a hug

window shopping and day dreaming about having an office when I come across DIVORCE cards and start losing it

Two job-hunting resources that changed my life:

This cover letter post on askamanger.com. A job interview guide written by Alison Green, who runs askamanager.

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Shout-out to @ms-demeanor for putting these on my dash again, I’d like to add this exceptional interview question “answer guide” that explains traps and “the best” way to answer over 64 common questions. I don’t know who to attribute it to, but here it is: PDF from tri valley one-stop career center.

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Hey some of these answer templates helped J get an offer letter from her dream job; strongly recommend you read them if you’re job hunting

This is a great resource! I’m an interviewer (UK) and I would like to add my top tips.

1. Never be afraid to ask for a moment to collect your thoughts before answering a question. I want your true answer, I don’t want you to blurt out something on the spur of the moment and then worry about it later.

2. Try to ask a memorable question. When I got hired for my current position, one of the questions I asked was about the mental health support and practices at the company. Once I had been hired, they told me that they’d never had that question before and it made me stick in their mind - plus mental health support is something that’s very important to me.

3. Brag! Please brag about your accomplishments! I want to know about the things you’ve done and I have no way of knowing them unless you tell me. I need to know what you can bring to my team. Interviews are NOT the time to be modest or reticent. If you’ve done something relevant/ important/interesting, say it! This will also make you more memorable, even if it’s not directly relevant to the job. Tell me about your hobbies and show me your dedication to learning. The last question I always ask my interviewees is “is there anything you want to brag about that we’ve not already discussed?” (or some variation on the wording) because I know people will be reticent.

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