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| Lauren | 26 | She/They |

hey. hey hey. you should be dancing. and i dont mean that performance shit. you need to have music you can step to, or sway to, or thrash to, or stumble around to. i cannot tell you how important as an anxious and disabled trans woman that getting to dance behind closed doors is. it makes me feel like i know my body more and understand how it moves (especially with fat redistribution) and i literally am not good at all im actually very bad. but when a good song comes on and im feeling it and im feeling bad or good i can move for a while and make my body carry the spirit of the music, putting it into conversation with the amazing art i'm consuming, making my body art. also its fun and its really important to jump around and play because then youll be able to keep doing it when youre older

Me: Iโ€™m going to start only eating when Iโ€™m hungry. That way I wonโ€™t snack all day long and I can enjoy proper meals when I actually need them instead :)

Me 22hrs after my last solid food: wait fuck I forgot about the ADHD

My ADHD when I leave snacks out in the open: oh look a snack. oh, look, a snack. oh a snack. oh look

My ADHD when I put all the snacks away in the cupboard: Iโ€™ve never heard of food in my entire life.

This might suck to hear, but if you're a people pleaser that is motivated by praise and avoids disagreements, you are easy to manipulate.

When I was in therapy after surviving years of domestic violence, my therapist had to tell me that my personality was primed for abuse and we needed to work on that so I would be better equipped to see the red flags and respond appropriately in the future.

I'm still working on this, and it's been 8 years. If you tell someone how you want to be treated, what behaviors you don't tolerate in your life, what you're looking for in that relationship, and they react negatively, don't compromise yourself. Just move on.

This one's for all the praise-kink girlies: differentiate, self-actualize, stay sexy

This resonated with more people than I thought, so here are some phrases to practice when you would normally default to people pleasing:

  • I'm not comfortable with that.
  • I'd rather not, but thank you for the offer!
  • You're welcome to disagree, but that's not something I'm okay with.
  • No.
  • It's personal, and I'd prefer to keep it private.
  • That doesn't work for me. How about x
  • I respect your opinion, but I'd rather do it my way.
  • That is behavior that I don't tolerate.
  • To each their own.
  • I'm not looking for feedback right now, but if I'm looking for input later, I'll let you know.
  • Oh, I'm not sure I agree; I thought x
  • When you did/said x, I wasn't okay with that.
  • I don't accept your apology.
  • I can accept your apology once you've addressed the problem.
  • Hey, could you help me with x?
  • I need to stop.
  • I need some time to myself.

Just remember, your thoughts, feelings, and opinions are what make you unique, and you can change your mind later, so don't be afraid to say them out loud. Work through things. Don't dodge them.

in light of skype finally shutting down [#estonian loss] dont understand why broader emojis never incorporated the skype emo emoji. it is one of the most crucial emojis in the world and the only way to access it is being shut the fuck down.this world is so cruel to its endangered species.

reading the wiki for the american psycho movie every single thing itโ€™s saying about christian bale has me in tears โ€ฆโ€ฆ.. he literally wanted the role so bad he got that buff in two weeks, rejected every other offer for 9 months while the producers tried to get dicaprio to be patrick bateman bc bale knew dicaprio would chicken out, went to dinner with the director and the guy who wrote the novel IN CHARACTER apparently scaring the shit out of the novelist, took the role for $50k, and then made all his costars think he was a giant freak bc he never fucking broke character, and APARENTLY LITERALLY HAS CONTROL OVER HIS SWEAT GLANDS AND USED THIS IN THE BUSINESS CARD SCENE

ok thanks for the info wiki

It brings me comfort that, for a brief moment, Jared Leto genuinely believed Christian Bale was going to kill him with an axe

yo mr white can you sign my permission slip so i can go to the aquarium bitch

jesse. you need money to enter jesse.

yo mr white can i have $5 to go to the aquarium it's for school bitch

jesse. do you want some money for the gift shop jesse.

yeah mr white. can i have money to get lunch there too please. bitch

of course jesse. bring me back a cuttlefish plush jesse

you got it mr white

thank you jesse

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