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@think-queer / think-queer.tumblr.com

✩Any Pronouns except She/Her, He/Him, or It/It's ✩Please read pinned post before following✩ I block TERFs, SWERFs, Transmeds, Exclusionists, and Gatekeepers✩ Ask box is open, anon is off✩
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Please Note:

If I have reblogged a post that you did not to be shared or tagged a post of yours in a way that bothers you then please let me know. I will almost certainly be more than willing to delete it.

Please Read Before Following:

You may call me Think-Queer or TQ/ThinkQ for short or if you're uncomfortable with the word queer.➀

Replies and asks will come from @thinkqueer since this is a sideblog.➂

I am a Queer, Neurodivergent, Trans, Disabled, Mid 20's, Dyslexic, Unaligned Enby➁

I block people who I feel are unable or unwilling to engage in conversation without breaking my boundaries or being blatantly disrespectful. If I've blocked you it doesn't mean that you've "won" an argument, it just means I don't want to engage with you any longer.

I also block people preemptively. If I’ve seen you sharing bigoted beliefs or engaging in harassment then I will block you without interacting. There are plenty of resources that you can use to educate yourself, I see no reason to engage with hateful people.

I am fine with NSFW accounts following me, but if your blog is nothing but porn I will assume you’re a bot and block you.

I'm comfortable with any pronouns except she/her, he/him, or it/it's. If you use she/he/it pronouns for me repeatedly or in a manner that seems purposeful then I'll probably block you. It isn't triggering, it's just a sign that you don't have any respect for me and I have no interest in engaging with someone like that.

I am very strongly against false or baseless accusations of pedophilia. For more information please see this post.

For more information about this blog:

★Numbers correlate to paragraphs with more information on the boundaries page. I didn’t want to make this pinned post too long so I moved extra information to that page.

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luetta

op's tags are too important to leave off

Rough transcription of my reactions to this:

"WHAT THE FUoh it's art WAIT, THAT'S ART? HOLY SHIT THAT IS GOOD and the political themes are great"

...I reblogged this before but uh didn´t know it was art WOW

it's the ™ that really makes the slogan

Having existed while homeless, I can tell you it wouldn't be a stretch for me to have encountered that sign and have it be meant with 100% of the evil sincerity that is the only valid interpretation of the intent behind the message. I just needed a place to sleep and it was always a dice roll whether we'd be run off just for existing in public, at night, bothering nobody.

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Periodic rent-lowering-gunshots:

  1. Fiction is not reality.
  2. You can enjoy things in fiction that would be awful in the real world. Like playing a murderhobo in a game! In the real world, being or supporting a murderer-thief would be pretty damn awful, while in the game it's just good fun. Same with anything else you choose to do with the pixels on the screen, like kinks that don't affect anyone real, so they're okay in fiction, but would be pretty damn bad in real life.
  3. No one else is responsible for your online experience. They are required not to harass you, but they are not and never will be obligated to not post about ships, kinks, or tropes you dislike just to avoid you seeing them. It's up to you to blacklist words or phrases, block tags, or even block users as needed to avoid seeing content that upsets you.
  4. No one can force you to read anything against your consent. Any content you don't like seeing can be instantly avoided by closing out of the offending post/fic.
  5. You are not owed an online experience free of discomfort.
  6. Nothing that happens in your imagination can ever make you a bad person. Words you write or read about fictional characters will never make you a bad person.
  7. The claim that media consumption influences real-life behavior is intellectually dishonest and serves only to excuse the behavior of real offenders.
  8. Fiction is a safe way to explore horrifying or confusing concepts. Therapists agree that fiction, even (or especially) about taboo topics is a good coping mechanism, especially, but not exclusively, for trauma survivors. Fiction is to adults what play therapy is to children. This doesn't stop being true if the work in question is of a sexual nature.
  9. Sex isn't an inherently worse or better motivation than anything else. A work written to create feelings of arousal isn't dirty, shameful, or in any way less pure than works written to entertain, provoke moral questions, or for other reasons. And worth noting is that multiple purposes can exist in the same story, especially fanfiction.
  10. You aren't entitled to an explanation for why someone reads, writes, or otherwise enjoys certain works, kinks, tropes, ships, etc.
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I was discussing the incident mentioned later in this piece with my wife yesterday and I saw another post by someone earlier doing something mentioned in here and I'm finally going to say something about it.

There is a serious problem in leftist spaces, especially online, especially on Tumblr, when it comes to language.

The way people are expected to speak just to even enter these spaces is incredibly complex, to the point of being outright hostile to those who haven’t already spent time in them. And it’s not just newcomers; people who have important things to say, people speaking from lived experiences, people who don’t have English as a first language but still deserve to be heard, are constantly talked down to or even pushed out entirely for not using the "right" words.

This gets even worse when you factor in how often new terms are coined in English, and then people are shamed for not immediately knowing or using them.

I saw someone reblog their own post saying something like, "I know for a fact more than half of y’all didn’t understand a fucking word I said here."

And honestly? That stuck with me, because yeah, I’ve felt that before. Not because I don’t value critical thinking! because I absolutely do! I just made a post on that too! but because so many of these posts are written in a way that makes them Functionally Inaccessible to anyone who doesn’t already have the right background knowledge. And at a certain point, if you actually want your words to have an impact, if you actually want to create meaningful change, then you’re going to have to accept some things:

  1. People will not always use perfect language.

2. People will not always know the exact terminology you personally prefer they use when engaging in discourse.

3. Dismissing or attacking people for how they say something, instead of engaging with what they’re saying, is actively harmful.

And more than that, if you genuinely want people to understand and engage with the things you’re talking about, especially people who don’t speak English as a first language, especially people without access to higher education, especially people who don’t even know where to begin when it comes to self-education (because yes, that is a skill that has to be taught) then you are going to have to be the one to adjust sometimes. You are going to have to let people say things imperfectly. You are going to have to take a step back and engage with the message rather than just the words being used to express it.

One of the experiences that made me realize that I, as a non-native English speaker, was not welcome in Tumblr leftist spaces was when I spoke about real-life oppression I had experienced. I left one word out of my post, a word which honestly, was not even important when talking about an incident that had Happened To Me, not theory, not hypotheticals or any what-ifs of oppression, a story, a story about something that happened to me.

And because of that, people sat in a Discord server, picking apart my words, accusing me of awful things, and then came into my askbox throwing jargon and buzzwords I’d never even heard before, then got mad at me for being frustrated that this was happening.

Think about that. People who are directly impacted by oppression are being pushed out of spaces meant to discuss it because the way they speak doesn’t conform to certain expectations. That is not justice. That is not solidarity. That is not progress.

There is a fundamental disconnect here between theory and praxis. Ironically so many of you do not know what praxis is, because most of you engage with a lot of theory, and not a lot of praxis, you use the word praxis a lot, but, ironically, you have no idea what it means.

{to put my money where my mouth is, it means Doing Something, in the simplest possible terms}

In theory, leftist spaces should be accessible. They should be places where people can speak openly about their experiences, learn from each other, and work toward meaningful change. But in practice? There’s a gatekeeping of language so intense that many people, particularly those who are marginalized in ways beyond just their political beliefs, are outright excluded.

And this is something I need people to sit with: The assumption that the "right" language is easy to learn, or that anyone who doesn’t use it is being willfully ignorant, is an inherently privileged stance. Knowing where to find information, how to process it, and how to integrate new terminology into your vocabulary is a skill that is largely tied to education. Having the time to engage with leftist literature and theory, to stay up-to-date on every new term that gets introduced, is also a privilege. And the fact that so many people refuse to acknowledge this, that they expect perfect articulation from everyone, regardless of background, and punish those who don’t measure up, is a huge problem.

Worse still, the same people who act as gatekeepers of this language often fail to communicate their ideas in a way that is accessible at all.

This doesn’t mean that complex ideas should never be discussed. It doesn’t mean that people shouldn’t strive for accuracy in their language. But it does mean that if your goal is to educate, if your goal is to spread awareness, if your goal is to help people understand and join the movement, if your goal is to engage with fellow oppressed people, then you have a responsibility to meet people where they are. You have a responsibility to make your language understandable.

Because if people can’t even process what you’re saying, then what’s the fucking point?

And before anyone says, "Well, people should put in the effort to learn!" Let me make something very clear: They do.

People who are new to leftist spaces, or who are coming in from different linguistic and cultural backgrounds, are often trying their best to engage. They are listening, they are learning, they are processing. But if the response to every mistake, every slightly off phrasing, every unfamiliarity with a new term, is immediate hostility,

or even if it's just 'hey I see you're sharing a personal moment, but can you change your language to make me, personally, more comfortable with you discussing your oppression?' then you’re not teaching.

You’re just making sure only the people who already think and speak exactly like you get to stay in the room.

Your language, your terminology, your theory? none of it means anything if you can’t make it accessible to the people who actually need it. And it means nothing if you use it to Exclude rather than Include.

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being poor is so mind numbingly boring. you can't afford hobbies, leisure activities, games, books, music, transportation for going to places, some people can't afford internet or a phone. entertainment is seen as a complete and total luxury, but what people don't realize is that people need to be entertained.

there is nothing left to do for fun that's completely free. parks are tiny and meant for dogs, mostly, they're unsanitary as hell because there's mostly just dog waste everywhere. getting to the park costs money. kids and adults alike cannot just go "play outside". adults aren't even allowed to "play," we gawk at adults who stop to play with bugs or look at small animals. adults aren't allowed to play pretend it's seen as weird. kids don't have anywhere to go- they're considered "loitering" or an annoyance if they hang around anywhere for too long. not everyone can go to bars.

it is necessary for our mental health to have things to keep ourselves entertained with. people often get caught up on a poor person having one nice thing for themselves, but after a while, that 1 nice thing gets boring, too. people need variety. we need stimulation. we need input. we need to experience the world, too

i was told by my own therapist and case worker that people need entertainment and happiness to survive. humans are not wired to suffer 24/7, no one has to earn entertainment. if you think i'm pulling things out of my ass, i'm not. multiple mental health professionals in my own life have confirmed that people need to have fun or their health will suffer. mental health is connected to physical health. you know nothing if you think this is factually inaccurate.

poor people shouldn't be relegated to boredom and never experiencing life and what the world has to afford. the entirety of entertainment should not be paywalled. people should not have to pay entry for every single event in their area, or try to find free events and struggle to pay for the transportation. it's not good for your mental health.

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You really really can’t tell who’s non binary just by looking at them. A lot of non binary folks, myself and several members of my family included, just live as a binary gender out in public because it’s easier or because we don’t care.

I’m a non binary trans man, my brother is a non binary person who lives as a cis man for convenience. Do you think the people at Home Depot can tell that when we show up with our cis dad to look at lumber? No. They can’t. They just see three men in old ratty jackets arguing over which length of board they said they were gonna buy because they all remember something slightly different.

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The shear idiocy of this move. Making a space that big 1 or even 2 states. Absolutely insane. Thinking that annexing a bunch of metric using Labor Party members raised under universal Healthcare will do anything but spread all of those beliefs. Pissing off Europe. And the rest of the world, really. Does he think you guys won't burn down the Whitehouse again?

But then... burning down his resorts might destroy more state documents.

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hi, a lot of you need a perspective reset

  • the average human lifespan globally is 70+ years
  • taking the threshold of adulthood as 18, you are likely to spend at least 52 years as a fully grown adult
  • at the age of 30 you have lived less than one quarter of your adult life (12/52 years)
  • 'middle age' is typically considered to be between 45-65
  • it is extremely common to switch careers, start new relationships, emigrate, go to college for the first or second time, or make other life-changing decisions in middle age
  • it's wild that I even have to spell it out, but older adults (60+) still have social lives and hobbies and interests.
  • you can still date when you get old. you can still fuck. you can still learn new skills, be fashionable, be competitive. you can still gossip, you can still travel, you can still read. you can still transition. you can still come out.
  • young doesn't mean peaked. you're inexperienced in your 20s! you're still learning and practicing! you're developing social skills and muscle memory that will last decades!
  • there are a million things to do in the world, and they don't vanish overnight because an imaginary number gets too big
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depsidase

The face-eating panther feast continues.

But seriously, if somebody says this in front of you? Don't point and laugh. Don't say "PATHERS ATE YOUR FACE" or "SERVES YA RIGHT YOU MAGA PIECE OF SHIT" or "BOO FUCKING HOO"

Instead, express sympathy.

Agree with them that yeah, what happened absolutely sucks. And yeah, it appears he maybe lied to get your vote? Politicians lie all the time, and it's a shame he took advantage of you this time.

Remember: deradicalized, ex-cult members are some of the angriest people on earth, and we need that anger. Because we need everybody we can get if we're gonna beat these fascist assholes.

exactly. these people were consistently duped and the moment they stop denying that to themselves, they will want to fight back. not all of these maga weirdos are nazis or white supremacists or culty evangelists. many of them are just low information voters who got tricked by expensive rhetoric that was specifically designed to trick them.

Remember, people won’t leave a cult if people spit on them as soon as they step out of it. Sometimes the hardest part of being a good activist (or person) is showing compassion to those whom are most “undeserving” of it. Solidarity is our greatest weapon, and sowing spite is a quick and cheap way to break it.

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Casual intersexism is the entries for "SAFAB" and "SAMAB" across all LGBTQI wikis reading as "self-assigned [fe/male] at birth" and intersex erasure is when it never mentions surgical, saying it is "a term is most often used by intersex people, however it is not exclusive to them" without mentioning WHY it's most often used by intersex individuals (both are exclusive and coined by intersex individuals FOR intersex individuals)

Intersex people: hello we are using CASAB (Coerecively/correctivly Assigned Sex At Birth) to differentiate sex assignment involving IGM & other medical abuse because it's important to talk about.
Perisex trans people: um all gender assignment is coercive so we will use this too for everyone
Intersex people: we will use SASAB (Surgically Assigned Sex At Birth) to talk about IGM then.
Perisex trans people: actually that means self-assigned sex at birth and its for us to identify as a different AGAB.
Intersex people: ok fine we will just specify when we are talking about IGM with a whole ass sentence about it every time. We will use RGAB (Reassigned Gender After Birth) to talk about when our sex assignment is forcefully changed later in life though. Can we have that?
Perisex trans people: no actually that is for when people get legal sex changes so we can use it too when we get our documents changed on purpose.
Intersex people:
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“kids spend too much time on their devices” well what else are they supposed to do? there’s no corner shops with pinball machines in them on every corner anymore. there’s no malls or stores in small towns for teens to hang out in without being suspected of shoplifting or kicked out for loitering. sidewalks are too broken for them to ride their bikes and there’s no bike lane in the street to make it safe for them. i just don’t understand where they expect these kids to go when they keep taking places away from them. and yes having no safe public places for them is what leads a lot of teens into addiction if they end up at a place where people aren’t truly looking out for them.

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I think people mean well when they insist that America isn't a Christian country but it just obfuscates the situation and makes it more difficult for minorities to frame their experiences. America is a fundamentally, structurally, ideologically Christian country from top to bottom. It's exhausting, it's suffocating, and it's the truth. Nearly all political forces, pop culture phenomena, and major life philosophies here are either built on Christianity or propped up as subverting Christianity in a way that is, of course, still entirely about Christianity. Leftwing movements here that are ostensibly hostile to Christianity still ultimately structure their worldviews around their own versions of salvation, rapture, original sin, eternal judgement, heaven, and hell. Most people here fail to see Christianity all around them, influencing every facet of American life, for the same reason that a fish can't see water.

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hextrans

Wanted to make a post about what's going on in turkey but I'm so fucking tired

Please reblog this. They unlawfully stopped showing the live feeds and ordered all news channels to stop filming

The difference between actual university repression (bad) abd deporting hamas terrorists on student visas (good)

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treat black queers kindly and love us. that's all.

and don't add any stupid shit derailing this, this is about black queers only. make your own damn post.

please if you're going to reblog this, please reblog this addition so people get the memo along with:

listen to our voices and make us feel safe and comforted.

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artpigeons

"ohh 00s diet culture isn't back because of ozempic, you're overreacting"

idk i keep seeing previously size-inclusive brands remove plus-sized versions of their clothes from their catalogues entirely, even lines specifically aimed at bigger sizes are cutting their size range down and chopping the bigger ones. i keep seeing mean skinny tiktokers get famous because they said something rude about fat people. when i ask my doctor about weight loss (which my country's gender treatment clinic requires before i can access even preliminary talks about hrt), i'm immediately offered drugs about it - drugs which, according to the doctor, we don't know the long-term effects of. but surely! surely it can't be worse than being fat!

like why are people acting surprised? we've made being extremely wealthy the aspirational aesthetic to strive for, made 'being skinny and having a lot of time and money to stay beautiful' a not only viable but lucrative carreer for people, and then released a drug that is wildly expensive and will make people thin.

of course people are gonna make being thin the ultimate status symbol again - it more than ever before signals wealth and leisure-time.

like, do you think it's a coincidence that people are back to constantly spouting 'nothing tastes as good as skinny feels' again? and pretending being fat is a matter of lacking self-control around cake or whatever? as if people haven't spent decades trying to get these fucks to understand that actually healthy produce and the time to maintain your body are extreme luxuries in our society?

anyway my broke fat ass can't find pants i like and can afford because the size-inclusive lines i'd have shopped at previously have axed anything over a size xl

and like. i'm not even that fat. what the fuck do people bigger than me do. it's really heinous right now for fat peeps.

Some really good points from the tags:

  • skinny was never 'out'. absolutely correct. as long as we live in a society where being skinny can be used to signify status, it'll be extremely fashionable to be skinny. however, there have been fashion waves of being 'thicc', getting bbls, etc - manufactured 'perfect' hourglass type figures. i'm not saying those things have made the world any easier for fat people, but while skinny has never been out, it was briefly also in to have other bodytypes.
  • it seems to be more the big push of ultra conservative culture than ozempic. imo it's just both. like, notice how all this weird-ass body policing concerns women. demanding women look a certain way is the most conservative-ass shit in the world. i could write thousands of words about how conservative sensibilities have infiltrated mainstream culture through social media (esp tiktok) trends in recent years, but i'll save that for another time. my point is, i think conservative culture and the availability (and status by way of the price tag) of ozempic have cooperated to create an especially hellish time
  • isn't ozempic for diabetics? it sure is! it's diabetes medication! for people who need it to live! but you know. it makes you not feel hunger, so of course people were gonna use it to starve themselves to death get that sommer bod or whatever the fuck
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