having signature jewlery that u always wear is very important i can’t explain it

Start looking at arguing with someone as a privilege because it really says that they’re important enough to you that you’re willing to take it there. That they’re worth you raising your cortisol, wrecking your nervous system, getting emotional over etc. It shows you care enough to invest your time and energy into them despite all these reasons that negatively affect you. Not everyone earns that kind of attention & honestly, not every situation is worth the emotional energy. Communication is very powerful and in a healthy dynamic, arguments aren’t always necessary, especially not frequent ones

Fatemaxxing by believing in myself

we all signed up for the human experience but forgot it came with customer support

brb I’m going to cleanse my energy and remember that things will fall into place at the right time and what I need right now is to build myself up into best version of myself

People pleasers + selfish people

People pleasers tend to attract selfish people because their tendencies create the perfect dynamic for someone who is self centered or even emotionally manipulative. Selfish people thrive in relationships where they can take without much effort in return and people pleasers unintentionally reinforce this dynamic by not setting strong boundaries

At the same time, people pleasers also gravitate toward selfish individuals because they subconsciously seek validation from those who are hardest to please. It becomes a toxic cycle—one where the pleaser keeps trying to "earn" love, approval, or recognition from someone who prioritizes themselves above all else

Selfish people measure their morality based on their own feelings, rather than how they actually treat others. They can dismiss your needs, hurt you and still believe they’re a good person—simply because they felt bad for a moment or never intended harm

They think that if they feel guilty, they must be a good person. They think that if they didn't mean to hurt you, that you shouldn't be upset and if they are upset about their actions.. you need to comfort them

At the same time, they’ll also justify the moments when they are intentionally selfish or hurtful, excusing their actions instead of taking accountability

The reality is that they only care when their own emotions are affected. If they actually valued you, they’d care about the impact of their actions, not just their own guilt or discomfort. A good person takes responsibility and makes an effort to change—not just feel sorry for themselves

It’s exhausting dealing with someone who prioritizes their own emotional comfort over your actual well being. That’s why boundaries are key. If they only care when they feel bad, but not when you are hurt, they’re not as good as they think they are

People pleasers need to recognize one sided relationships and stop giving to those who only take. Setting boundaries isn’t selfish, it’s necessary. When you learn to protect your energy, you’ll stop attracting people who drain you and start surrounding yourself with those who truly value you

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My dad raised me to not depend on people, but still expect things from them. This shifts the brain from hyper independence to healthy discernment. Hyper independence is a trauma response. What’s healthier is self sufficiency with connection—knowing you can stand alone but don’t have to. It’s about expecting reciprocity from others and being willing to remove those who don’t meet that standard