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she/her | late twenties | white | multiply disabled | TMA butch lesbian | minors please don't follow | occasionally N/S/F/W

keep avoiding this bc i am just so TIRED of it. i don’t want to ask, i just want to be stable. but we only have one full time job supporting the household; my wife is still subsisting on freelance work, and in the meantime any slightly elevated need dips into rent savings.

we had to pay a deductible to replace my wife’s phone which she needs for work and safety, and our (borrowed) car needs some basic repairs before it becomes unrepairable. doing so means we won’t have enough money for rent, or we won’t have anything left for groceries or other necessities like bills and cat food. it’s short notice but i’m hoping we can get some help.

looking to raise $400 minimum by 4/5. ANYTHING helps. could you start by sharing this?

cash n vnmo: torkz428

pypl: torkz

$0/400

only raised $25 so far and this has a time limit!!! can anyone start us off with another $25 dono??? pay links added above!

$25/400

just got my final estimate for my car and all told, these unplanned expenses will take $350 from my rent savings, meaning my estimate was right on the money.

PLEASE help me make up this deficit, the slumlords running our complex are constantly trying evict people. we can’t afford to be late. can anyone match our most recent dono of $10???

$35/400

almost at our first $100, thank you!!! can anyone send $25 to take us there??? this is an easy goal, thirty people with $11 can make it happen!!!

$65/400

did you know that you can just not say something if you're white. you can just not talk. its okay. you dont have to write a paragraph worth of tags justifying why the reason you don't like rap 'isn't racist'. you dont have to apologize for being white. you can just not say anything and save yourself the humiliation. its alright. please take your hands off the keyboard

Cory Booker has been talking in the senate for over 20 hours now

He’s not filibustering. He’s protesting the current administration.

For those of you from outside the US or those of you who didn’t pay attention in government class, in the US senate there’s really no limit to the amount of time a senator can speak. So sometimes if they don’t want a bill to pass they just. Don’t stop talking. To hopefully get past the deadline to vote on a bill. This is called filibustering.

Senator Cory Booker isn’t doing that. He’s disrupting “the normal business of the United States Senate for as long as I am physically able”. Just in protest. This doesn’t usually happen.

He’s less than 20 minutes away from breaking the record of the longest speech given on the senate floor

Cory Booker has officially broken Strom Thurmond’s record for longest speech on the senate floor and he’s still going

For those of you wondering what he’s been talking about this whole time, his staff wrote down a bunch of stuff for him to read like stories from people across the political spectrum opposed to what the administration is doing. He’s also been telling personal anecdotes about meeting important civil rights leaders and other democratic senators have been pausing him for “questions” but the questions have been as long as a small speech and have both served the purpose of giving him a second to sit down and updating him on the news that he’s been missing while he’s been talking.

He has yielded the floor at 25 hrs and 4 mins. His eyes are so wide they look like they’re going to bug out of his skull so I don’t blame him for stopping. He said to go out and get in some good trouble.

Addition for those unaware: Cory Booker is black. Strom Thurmond set the previous record about 70 years ago in protest of civil rights. Booker spent much of the time I was watching talking about the importance of working together for the people and the idea that it's not "left versus right but right versus wrong."

The new record speech is on the right side of history.

on the other end the copyright argument against ai art is just so bad. I hate how that's the most common one people use, like I'm sorry but an interpretation of copyright law that classifies images made with generative ai as "plagiarism" or "theft" would be a worst-case scenario for everyone except the walt disney corporation

arguments against ai art that are defensible positions:

  • the output usually does not look good and I want to stop seeing it
  • the ways in which the output can be "off" are often unsettling in a way that causes some people mental distress
  • a lot of ai art services charge money to access open-source software, so none of that money goes to the original developers who made the code their service is using
  • a lot of ai art services prioritize the output looking "nice" over the output actually matching what the user asked for, making them really hard to use for actually generating art
  • most ai art services are web-based things that run on one big centralized server that processes all the user requests, but this is really wasteful when anyone with a decent gaming pc could just run the software themself without contributing to how much water that central server needs for cooling
  • freelance artists and stock photographers don't make a lot of money so it's unethical to make a service that automates their jobs (the problem is capitalism)
  • if someone theoretically spends a long time prompt engineering to try to get it to generate a specific idea they have and can't get it to work and then they decide to commission a freelance artist instead, they might try to communicate their idea to the artist in the same way they used for the image generative ai, which for the freelance artist would be just about the most annoying possible client they could ever have to deal with

arguments against ai art that I regularly see people make:

  • art is supposed to be hard to create so the concept of a thing that generates images based on a simple prompt is inherently bad no matter what
  • ai art is bad for the environment (this is technically true, but it's also not a great argument. all internet-based services are bad for the environment to some extent. it is bad how much water big tech companies spend, but they were already doing that. this isn't a problem specific to ai art.)
  • it's unethical to download images from the internet without the copyright holders' permission (image generative ai models do not and cannot redistribute their training data. if they're made correctly it is not possible to extract any specific training image from the model, only images that look similar to images across the whole dataset. that's the whole point of the training process)
  • it's "theft" to make an image in an art style "owned" by someone else (imagine if this was actually a law. now imagine what a company like disney would do in this scenario. how would this turn out for small independent artists?)
  • recombining small pieces of individual images from the internet to make a new image is not sufficiently transformative and should be considered copyright infringement (this is not how ai image generation works, but even if it was this really should not be considered copyright infringement. you don't want youtube poops to be made illegal, do you?)

I don't really care if it's legally theft to take the work of an artist and then turn that into a "style" for your generative AI without the permission of said artist. Be it because they are dead or because they didn't consent. I just think it's a very depressing and gross thing to see. Especially as many artists struggle to make a living. And yeah the root cause is capitalism, but that doesn't exactly absolve AI from being the latest tool that capital is using to trample artists.

well. I do care if it's legally theft or not. it's important that it isn't. making an ai model of someone's art style without their permission is weird but it's not like, stealing. there isn't a thing that the artist had before that they now do not have. even though that can be an unethical thing to do, it's not "theft" in any meaningful sense

Fucking wild to be teaching about Rosa Parks at the same time as a trans woman in Florida does an act of civil disobedience to use a women's restroom in the state capitol

As far as I know, she is the first woman arrested bc of this law. The law requires that the trans person be warned to leave the bathroom by a state official, and then if they stay they are guilty of trespassing after a warning.

So like, me, my gf, others just piss and nobody asks or tells, but this young woman sent a statement about the law to over 100 FL lawmakers so they would know she was coming, the cops were ready for her, she brought a reporter and went in anyway and spent the night in a men's jail. She is out on bail, and is hoping this will inspire change of the law. But if found guilty, and the law is upheld as constitutional, then she could spend up to 60 days in a mens county jail.

(remaking because my post lost r/traction)

Okay so my roommate has now threatened multiple times to stop paying rent and tell the landlord there's people living here who aren't on the lease as well as several other behaviours that have made her increasingly impossible to live with she's the only one who's actually on the lease and I think it's time for me to gtfo. Trying to get rent paid and help the remaining people trying to live there keep the lights on. I dont really know where I can go but I'm crashing at a friend's place rn. Asking for $600 to help remaining roommates out and square away bills and whatnot. Anything helps.

Cashapp: lilove99

Venmo: thelmaelizabeth99

PayPal: thelmaelizabeth99

($70/600)

($90/600)

Please help if you can I've started moving my stuff into a friend's attic because my current roommates have started being really agro to me and really want me to move out because they've found someone they want to take my room to but I still haven't found a place. The situation is really bad, I don't know these people very well but they've been acting really fucking weird and going in my room. I'm pretty convinced one of them ruined my PC too

($90/600)

Tbh I just really need to buy cigarettes today. I'm so exhausted, couch surfing is really getting to me and I just want to go smoke. Please like that would honestly make so much of a difference

($300/600) thank you so much

I've officially been forced out of the best home I've ever known, the new roommates out all my stuff outside without telling me even tho the plan was to stay another month. Had to have a pretty heated confrontation between my friends and them. I'm staying in a friend's attic now. Would still appreciate any help

So I'm halfway through Gideon the Ninth and how come nobody has told me about Dulcinea?? She's so good, you'd think people would go bonkers over her

Ngl ive had Gideon the ninth in my to read pile on my kindle app for months and this post is what inspired me to finally open it now

......well now I'm curious.

My friend send me this and i couldn't help but think of this post

we sharing the pain we've put people through?

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Despite the temporary cessation of fire, I am still living in the tent because I found my house a pile of rubble 💔💔 You can imagine spending your whole life in a tent that does not protect from the cold of winter or the heat of summer

I am now about to give birth to my third child in the tent in the extreme cold and I fear he will die. Please help me 🙏🙏 Yesterday my tent was severely damaged by the wind and rain. Please help me rebuild my house and remove the rubble

Also, my husband still needs a lot of treatment and medicines that I cannot buy due to their high price💔. He also needs to travel to get an eye transplant and treat the nerves in his left hand😭. Please, I need your help and donation urgently Conditions are still very difficult in Gaza and there are no signs of a safe, warm life💔

Please donate what you can
Be hope and support us Please 🙏🙏

(remaking because my post lost r/traction)

Okay so my roommate has now threatened multiple times to stop paying rent and tell the landlord there's people living here who aren't on the lease as well as several other behaviours that have made her increasingly impossible to live with she's the only one who's actually on the lease and I think it's time for me to gtfo. Trying to get rent paid and help the remaining people trying to live there keep the lights on. I dont really know where I can go but I'm crashing at a friend's place rn. Asking for $600 to help remaining roommates out and square away bills and whatnot. Anything helps.

Cashapp: lilove99

Venmo: thelmaelizabeth99

PayPal: thelmaelizabeth99

($70/600)

($90/600)

Please help if you can I've started moving my stuff into a friend's attic because my current roommates have started being really agro to me and really want me to move out because they've found someone they want to take my room to but I still haven't found a place. The situation is really bad, I don't know these people very well but they've been acting really fucking weird and going in my room. I'm pretty convinced one of them ruined my PC too

($90/600)

Tbh I just really need to buy cigarettes today. I'm so exhausted, couch surfing is really getting to me and I just want to go smoke. Please like that would honestly make so much of a difference

($300/600) thank you so much

I've officially been forced out of the best home I've ever known, the new roommates out all my stuff outside without telling me even tho the plan was to stay another month. Had to have a pretty heated confrontation between my friends and them. I'm staying in a friend's attic now. Would still appreciate any help

Vatted by association

🚨Urgent humanitarian appeal 🚨

Please don't ignore🙏🙏🇵🇸

Despite the temporary cessation of fire, I am still living in the tent because I found my house a pile of rubble 💔💔 You can imagine spending your whole life in a tent that does not protect from the cold of winter or the heat of summer

I am now about to give birth to my third child in the tent in the extreme cold and I fear he will die. Please help me 🙏🙏 Yesterday my tent was severely damaged by the wind and rain. Please help me rebuild my house and remove the rubble

Also, my husband still needs a lot of treatment and medicines that I cannot buy due to their high price💔. He also needs to travel to get an eye transplant and treat the nerves in his left hand😭. Please, I need your help and donation urgently Conditions are still very difficult in Gaza and there are no signs of a safe, warm life💔

Please donate what you can
Be hope and support us Please 🙏🙏
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i stumbled upon your ask answers about attachment theory and your criticisms on polysecure, and it made me reconsider how i think about attachment theory. do you know where i can look for further readings about it? i wanna recontextualize how i think about bpd because your view on attachment theory made me reconsider how i think about it too. even in the most progressive spaces i can find, bpd is still mostly seen as a fault in individual and even if it's in a nonjudgmental manner that also understand people not wanting to seek professional care because of the stigma and all, there's still this vibe of how the bpd person's fp (favorite person) attachment is unhealthy and should be worked on to be healthier (even if not in therapy because some do acknowledge therapy can bring harm).

i still don't know how to think about this but this is kinda making me think whether i actually still think of my own bpd in a far more individual and self blaming lens than i thought when maybe it's better seen with bigger context, taking into account societal-wide circumstances and norms etc etc

You are in luck, because I have some writing about being BPD to almost this effect:

It's attachment trauma. And the strategies of BPDers to form connections are only viewed as pathological by others because of their own prior assumptions and values, and because a strategy that might have worked when one was a helpless child trapped in a nuclear family don't necessarily map so well onto adult friendships or romantic relationships. I would highly recommend Bruce Cohen's chapter on BPD in his book Psychiatric Hegemony. In the Polysecure piece that I wrote, I also have some links to more modern research on attachment theory that points to attachment being a far more responsive, flexible phenomenon that reflects the particulars of the situation and the specific relationship dynamic -- sometimes when you feel insecure and anxious, it's just because that relationship IS insecure!

I hope you find some meaningful stuff to chew on here.

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