i do not ghost purposely i just have no idea what to say ever

and i have no concept of passage of time

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51. Destiny fact: all guardians have worked at least one retail job in their past lives and that's why theyre the traveler's strongest soldiers

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alcoholism is a problem in the lgbt community yes but there's something weird and mentally disconnecting about trying to say that's because there's too many gay nightclubs or whatever instead of the reality that being lgbt is just genuinely oppressive and will push people to maladaptive coping mechanisms. like did we forget that people become alcoholics for a multitude of more reasons than because they went to a club once

alcoholic dyke here and i think a lot of nuance has been lost in this conversation.

i've been here for all of it (i don't know if you have, OP, so forgive me if this sounds condescending at all) and i pretty much watched it happen and was annoyed and upset the whole time, 'cause you are fundamentally correct--being marginalized is a hell all its own, that is the root of why we have higher death and addiction and suicide and mental illness rates. i don't think anyone was ever insinuating otherwise, at least not anywhere i've seen it.

but from what i saw on this website & other online spaces vaguely adjacent, it went like this:

2. young queerfolk, alcoholics, disabled queers (with both physical & sensory sensitivities), and many other groups that fell in agreement with this for their own personal reasons added onto the sentiment. at the time (over a decade ago, give or take?) it was not the norm to have many other options besides 1. bar/nightclub or 2. GSA, if you were lucky enough to have one at your school/university.

3. of these groups that showed support for this sentiment were sex-repulsed asexual people who felt uncomfortable with the sexual nature & unspoken pressure to 'hook up' at gay bars & night clubs.

4. around 2014, exclusionists on this website decided that it was trendy to violently abuse asexuals & aromantics for clout. every single thing the aroace community did on tumblr was met with meangirl backlash at best and relentless vitriol at worst. this more or less destroyed the aroace community and it has still not recovered to this day.

5. one of the most potent forms of propaganda leveled at the ace community was malicious reframing of sex-repulsion as a concept. the sex-repulsed ace is, obviously, just minding their own business and living their truth--but exclusionists intentionally framed them as virulent, homophobic prudes who went around telling the ~real~ queers where they were and were not allowed to have their Gross Faggot Sex, etc etc.

6. one of the most effective ways they propagandized this was by out-of-context circulation of posts like the one i posted above.

(and, occasionally, actual psy-ops where users would pretend to be asexuals and intentionally post cringey, anti-sex, anti-kink, homophobic nonsense and of course the 'no internet skepticism skills' website believed it)

7. posts like this stopped being read in good faith. seeing a post like the above, tumblr users before the ace discourse instilled brainrot in half this website would see it and think "yeah! it would be awesome if we had more options." after the ace discourse, the reaction a lot of those same people would have would be more like "i cannot believe the cringey aces on this website are still acting like gay bars and night clubs are depraved sex dens full of rambunctious horny dykes. they don't even know how homophobic they are."

8. miraculously, eventually, the ace discourse freaks all either 1. moved onto bi/pan lesbians (and so far are doing a pretty shit job) or 2. were run off the site/out of communities because people unpacked shit and realized they were on the wrong side of things.

9. arguments in defense of the original point came back out of the woodwork. "now that the ace discourse has died down, can we please fucking get back to rallying for more queer spaces other than bars and clubs? the autistics, the mobility aid users, the children and teenagers, the sex-repulsed asexuals, and the alcoholics deserve options for community too."

10. presumably, these posts are circulating now, because they make good points.

i don't think any queer alcoholic is going to genuinely say that gay bars are the reason we have a higher alcoholism rate. we have that because society wants us dead and you have to find a way to survive knowing that. but 1. the alcohol companies know that and intentionally prey on us, see them setting up their rainbow floats at pride every year and 2. the lack of sober queer spaces makes it hard, often nigh impossible to stay clean and sober. it's hard enough to stay clean and sober as a cishet, alcoholics bleed friends like fucking crazy when we make the choice to stay sober or even just cut back. 12 step programs are largely bunk, but repeated studies have shown that the reason they work on accident is because they are a social space where addicts can find community without the pressure to use.

so if cishets struggle that hard, we struggle much harder. and, yes, the lack of sober queer spaces is a huge part of that. back in 2014, we addicts on tumblr were largely laughed out of every room we entered, every point of discourse we tried to spur on. i got a multitude of pretty violent threats on here back then for talking openly about intoxication culture and how addiction was a disability. and that was before the ace discourse ramped up.

so i think probably what's happening is queer addicts are finally feeling emboldened again to discuss this and perhaps some nuance is being lost in the many, MANY layers of telephone over the years. perhaps some of them are remembering the shitty discourse and how they were swept under the rug and persecuted as homophobes/apologists because they, for their own reasons, dared to share similar opinions with asexuals in 2014.

no, going to a gay bar doesn't turn queers into alkies, but it sure as shit is a lot easier to not die of alcohol poisoning at age 27 when you have the choice to walk into a social club or a cafe instead of a bar.

We used to have queer bookstores. Amazon killed them just like it killed the big-box bookstores. (The big-box bookstores did not kill the indie queer bookstores, because indie stores carried different books that Waldenbooks and Borders. Those might have a queer books section, but it wouldn't be more than one part of a shelf.) Amazon had no particular intent to shut down indie bookstores - they were targeting the big box market much more than that, and it took a while for Amazon to carry the full range of indie books - but eventually, they did, and all the small bookstores suffered a big hit.

Bookstores were never a substitute for actual community centers or bars; you're not supposed to visit a bookstore for a few hours and chat with friends and maybe buy something and maybe not. But they were one more social hub removed by capitalist forces - not just "no more bookstore to browse and maybe chat quietly with another patron or the store clerk about what books you might like," but no author signings, no book-release parties, no used-book swap events that were more openly social.

Alcoholism is not caused by bars, but it can be exacerbated by bars being the only social venue available.

The general loss of Third Places has hurt marginalized communities even more than the mainstream, because we are less welcome in Second Places (workplace, school, etc.), and many - especially among queer and disabled folk - are even less welcome in their First Place (home).

Young people are disproportionately affected because Third Places they don't have to pay to get into or stay in, that they're allowed in at all, even, are fewer. It's an interesting point that those same restrictions make things harder on people struggling with alcoholism, but that does make sense, and IMNSHO if a solution can accommodate multiple needs well, it's all the better.

Personally, I'm in the disabled/sensory issues/don't much drink anyway camp on that front, so I was never into the club/bar scene in the first place, and have watched as my beloved bookshops and cafes have disappeared over the years with dismay and grief.

Maybe one solution could be for local libraries to have designated queer gathering days - extend that academic setting GSA to a more general audience - but I'm sure that will be difficult in some places, even so for the same reason GSAs aren't a functional option everywhere.

So... yeah. We definitely need more options again and still and now.

or 3, moved on to trans men

It's also a real frustrating problem with the networking. I would estimate that at least half of the queer conference meetup nights and other places where you can meet other queer folks in your field have happened specifically at a local bar. Because that's where the queer spaces are, don't you know? So the only place I have to meet and make connections with other queer people in my industry is a crowded dark place where I can't hear anyone. Great.

(I also lived through all that and can pretty well attest that @musashi has it accurate, except that I do have to note that ace exclusionist movements were festering merrily along as early as 2011, which I know because I was in the middle of it enough to have developed panic attacks and literal PTSD about interacting with queer spaces about it by 2012. My intuition about the timelines people will often confidently cite (and which rarely agree) is that what is actually happening is that the ideas and discourse would sweep through immediate social networks at random while ricocheting around the larger metacommunity of a platform. So people recollect the times at which they saw a lot of the discourse before enough of their own communities were tired of it that it stopped appearing on feeds, and not the times when the same shit was getting slung outside of the spaces they happened to have been looking.

This was an especially easy mistake to make, of course, because spamming tags focused on asexuality or aromanticism with porn or insulting images was a pretty common tactic. Apart from being really irritating, that served to disrupt blog networking mechanisms attuned to topic rather than relational connections: you couldn't find the conversation without the discourse easily at all.

Anyway, you see the same radfem creeps popping up to police bi/pan women in queer spaces and throw fits about trans folks of all stripes back and forth the entire time. Literally one of my formative experiences as a little baby queer listening to my elders talking was listening to, particularly, bi and pan women and nonbinary folks talking about their own experiences of attempts at exclusion, and you can find that going back plenty farther than my puny memory. )