Could really go for some platonic bedsharing and cuddling featuring The Characters on this fine Tuesday

My number one advice for people struggling with low self-esteem — from someone who struggles with it themself — is don’t project that onto other people.

If someone compliments you, you might believe they’re wrong, but they believe it and you have to accept that. Same goes if someone says they love you, you can believe that’s a stupid thing to do, but don’t deny that they do.

Believing that everyone around you hates you is an easy habit to fall into because it validates your own self-hatred. Confirmation bias drives you to keep picking and choosing the beliefs, thoughts, and observations that will reinforce your self-hate. You shouldn’t do this for two reasons.

1) it makes crawling out of your self-hate a far steeper climb. You know all that miserable confirmation you’ve been wringing out of others for years? Yeah, you gotta get over all of it now, and then also rebuild all of the relationships you’ve torpedoed in the meanwhile.

2) it’s just not fair. Doing this is unkind to the people around you, from strangers to loved ones. You are robbing them of the right to their own opinions. Instead of letting them be their own person who is allowed to disagree with you, you have turned them into a prop to function in your system of self-hatred. That’s not logical, fair, kind, or right.

If you can’t be better for yourself (and god, if that isn’t the curse of self-hatred) be better for others. You can do it, I promise. Overcoming self-hatred is a slow process, but it’s worth it, and it will make you a better and more vibrant person.

mac, about to pull the funniest prank of his life:

Rating: Teen And Up Audiences Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply Characters: Jack Dalton (MacGyver TV 2016), Riley Davis, Angus MacGyver (MacGyver TV 2016), Matilda “Matty” Webber Additional Tags: Worried Jack Dalton (MacGyver TV 2016), Hurt Angus Macgyver (Macgyver TV 2016), Worried Riley Davis, Emotional Hurt/Comfort, POV Jack Dalton (MacGyver TV 2016), Hospitalization Summary:

Matty sends Mac and Riley on a mission by themselves while she and Jack supervise from the war room. When Mac is injured, Jack is angry that the team was separated.

ーーーーー 📎 ーーーーー

Mac’s scream was seared into Jack’s memory forever.  He stepped forward, reaching for the wall of monitors like he could reach through time and space, grab his partner, and stop his fall.  

If Mac were standing in the war room with Jack and Matty, he’d be mentally calculating the variables to determine the distance and severity of the fall.  The scream felt like it lasted an eternity and was still ringing in Jack’s ears, but he was sure it was only for a second.  Maybe two.  Definitely not more than three.  

Jack closed his eyes and waited for the impact, but all that came was a fizzle and pop as Mac’s comm went dead.  

“Riley, report,” Matty demanded.

Her voice was unexpected, and Jack jumped at the sound.  His eyes popped open, and he stared at the monitors, but they didn’t have a live sat feed of the area.  The monitors only displayed images relevant to the mission and a map from the previous day.

“How did this happen?” Jack muttered under his breath.  The two younger members of his team were sent out on this mission by themselves.  It was supposed to be an easy op at a nerd conference.  They just needed to separate one evil villain scientist from his laptop, and consequently the formula for a deadly bioweapon, and they’d be home in time for supper.  

Instead, Mac wound up dangling from a third-floor balcony at their hotel while avoiding the scientist, who’d returned to his room unexpectedly.  One second, he had a death grip on the railing, arguing with Jack about the lethality of nerve agents, and the next, he was screaming.

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Please call this recession the Trump Slump.

We need to put Trump's name on this.

if ever anything I wrote were to ever go viral, let it be this. Let everyone talk about the Trump Slump. I want to hear this term in the news.

okay but if you ever see a male creative who had a string of great work and then everything else he did was dogshit, go to the "personal life" part of his wikipedia and look at his relationships. you'll either find a major tragedy he didn't recover from (completely understandable) or, more likely, there was a woman in his life doing uncredited shit editing his stuff or contributing generally and she's not there anymore.

I told a friend about this phenomenon in literature and he called me weeks later like, I remembered what you said about women doing uncredited work when tim burton came up. he made a string of bangers then everything else just was nowhere near as good. the timeline matches perfectly to when he was with this german visual artist (lena gieseke). he's done some good work in collaboration, but if things were dug into I suspect we would find she did a lot more than people realise.

so yeah whenever you look around like wow women didn't work in history, or, women aren't auteurs, or, there just aren't as many great female writers - societal reasons for that aside, half the time they absolutely did.

simongerman600

i was going to say ‘i have no idea what to do with this information’ but then i realized its a handy guide to generate fake words that sound english

“What to do with this information”: kick ass at hangman

Also useful for simple codebreaking and decoding an unhashed simple letter cypher.

the rocky wastes…

i’ve started replacing “i want to die” with “i feel overwhelmed” in my internal monologue, which is usually more accurate and more productive

ive been working on replacing ‘im so stupid’ with ‘im so silly’ and it has the same effect!

“I can’t do this” -> This will be a challenge for me, it’s normal to feel intimidated

“I hate this” -> This is a tough situation to handle and I’m doing my best

“I hate myself” -> I’m struggling with low self esteem right now, I need to support myself as I would a friend

“I can’t believe I forgot again” -> It’s tough to balance so many things, maybe I need to let go of some of them

“They’re not going to like me” -> I don’t have to perform for anyone, my personality is valid and loveable just as is

The list could go on and on…

Redirecting the “blame” from yourself and recognizing that you are a human suffering through normal, difficult human experiences is important. Support yourself like you’d support any of your close friends if they said these things.

I can’t tell you how delighted I am to see Actual Scripted Examples!

I’ve known I need to modify my self-talk like this for three+ years, and I’ve been trying for that long, but I never know what to replace it with. So the examples are super incredibly helpful, thank you so much. ~<333

My revolutionary phrase has been “I am not having fun right now.” Because instead of exaggerating/catastrophizing, I usually go in the opposite direction: every time I think “I can’t take this,” the logician in my brain reminds me that *technically* I can, and so it’s not a problem. I’m capable of withstanding a hell of a lot, so waiting until I hit “I actually literally cannot take this for one more single second” is generally not the best idea. But reframing to “I am not having fun with this” has let me modify or straight up quit uncomfortable things much sooner, because it doesn’t have to be that bad for me to acknowledge that I’m not having fun anymore, and once I acknowledge that it’s easier to give myself permission to make a change!

DID YOU KNOW the deep space nine writers tried to make a kira/dukat romance arc and the only reason we did not have to endure that is because nana visitor heroically put a stop to it by yelling at the producers. everyone say thank you nana visitor

I remember violently shuddering at the thought when I heard about this. Thank god Nana Visitor put her foot down about it.

Wahh anyone got any good whump scenarios bouncing around their head that they'd like to share with the class?

Broken ribs leading to pneumonia.

So many great injury and illness things, at the same time :)

And so many tender caretaking opportunities for all of the above.

the self-indulgent fanfiction will continue until morale improves

The self-indulgent fanficiton will also continue after morale improves, just with better morale.

the real true purpose of having a brain is to think about fictional characters

1.06 Who Are You? (this is also @impossiblepluto‘s fault)

MacGyver (1985) || The Legend of the Holy Rose

WAIT that’s what that means?? 😭😭

everyone always has a dni for proshippers I thought it was something freaky or fucked up 😭😭

Yeah. Antis like to claim that the "pro" means "problematic", but nope. "Pro" (for) is simply the opposite of "anti" (against), and all that "proship" really means is "Let everyone ship what they want, everyone mind their own business".

Listening to antis about what proshipping means is like listening to incels tell you what feminism means.

whumpee in caretaker’s clothes <3

whumpee’s own clothes are wet or dirty from whatever whump they had to go through, and caretaker gives them the only dry shirt they have. it’s a bit too big for whumpee but it’s caretaker’s, and it feels so nice

caretaker finds whumpee out in the cold, hupothermic, shaking, unable to warm up. they wrap whumpee tight in their coat or jacket, hoping to make it back to a safe place before it’s too late, begging whumpee to stay awake

whumpee’s in a really bad state of mind but there’s no one to comfort them. when caretaker finally comes, they find whumpee wearing their sweater, which feels almost as safe and cozy as their arms