112 04 7FireYourBoss PDF
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112 04 7FireYourBoss PDF
FIR E
YOUR BOSS.
(An Invitation to Unravel
What the World Has
Taught You About
Your Work, Your Career
and Your Future)
Aaron McHugh
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You have the power to transform your workplace experience solely based on your interpretations
and reactions. Tomorrow, when you return to your office, you can have a brand new job and
a new arrangement for your future. But only if you are willing to recalibrate what you believe.
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This is a manifesto.
A coup dtat.
A sudden illegal overthrow.
I am inviting you to unravel what the world has taught you about your work,
your career, and your future.
I may end up being the lonely guy holding a goldfish with no one following me. But, like Jerry,
Im willing to run the risk. Ive lived too long following the rules and expecting the outcome
to match the promises.
It hasnt worked.
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lets roll.
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Once I could name and describe this arrangement I could begin to navigate and craft a new
arrangement. I stopped thinking and acting like an indentured servant and I started being
a skilled craftsman instead.
Like the indentured servant, most employees take on the goals of the crownthe company and
the customersas their priority instead of their own goals. Creating great products and building
great companies are wonderful ways to invest in a career, but at what expense? Too often the
objectives of the kingdomthe companybecome the only mission. What you want, what you
need, or what you value is rarely included in the companys quarterly objectives.
How frequently have you been asked in your quarterly or annual review?
How is the company treating you?
What can the company do for you?
How can the company help make you a more content, enthusiastic, invigorated,
challenged contributor?
Isnt it true that fear is the driving force behind our compliance? If we hold conflicting views with
our company or leadership, if we desire more than what is offered in the trade, we fear the
consequences of standing up for what we desire and believe.
By cashing my check every two weeks, I was agreeing with the terms of my employment even
though I wasnt externally condoning or agreeing with those terms.
I had to take ownership of my participation in the dysfunctional system.
I could no longer blame or point fingers.
I had to become a part of the solution or stop cashing the checks.
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Too much energy is consumed with interpreting our leaderships appreciation and acknowledgement of our contribution.
Do your dinner table conversations with your spouse get chewed up with workplace drama?
What your boss said
1. Stop doing your work for your boss. Your idea is not good or bad as a result of the feedback you receive. If you believe you have a great idea, a worthy project, or a good decision,
then go for it! Do it because you believe in it and because it is the right thing to do.
2. Assume the best. No news is good news. Start heading down the path you believe you should
follow and assume the best outcome, assume everyone is supportive, and assume you are
going to be successful. If someone in authority has a problem with it, they will tell you so.
3. Consider the source. If you consistently receive negative feedback from the same person(s)
every time, consider that their negativity might be their own personal problem. It took me
a long time to realize that consensus building and democracy is really great most of the time.
Some people will never be supportive or helpful. That is just the way they choose to be, and
that is OK. Dont let their negativity stop you from doing your own great work.
4. Own your mistakes. If you make a mistake, say so. Own your shortcomings, missteps, bad
judgment calls, etc. Most everyone is appreciative and understanding when you say, I made
a mistake. I am sorry.
5. Your boss isnt getting what he needs either. Yep. Your boss desires the same validation
and acknowledgement that you do. And more than likely if he is not giving it to you, well,
he isnt getting it from his boss, either.
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I had spent so many years attempting to gain the appreciation and confidence of my leaders
that I was exhausted.
The truth is, it was like playing a baseball game with one eye on the game and one eye on my
boss in the bleachers. As a result, I was never fully in the game because I was more worried
about whether or not I was being seen for the great plays I was making.
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Now Ive learned to offer my best work every day and get my head into the game instead
of spending so much time wondering what the commentators are saying.
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For the last 15 years, however, youve only experienced down markets. You follow the advertised
best practices, contributing your faithful (x)% every month, but you know that your retirement
plan is not the golden handcuff it once was.
Indeed, the Ford Motor Companys pension plan model vanished with our grandparents generation. And the promise of the stock market producing wild amounts of wealth with which we can
travel the world and eat caviar does not seem to be panning out, either.
The belief that your companys retirement plan will provide a guaranteed path to financial security
is not anything you should count on. Instead, you should accept that you will be working for
more years than the thirty-something presenter promised in that meeting.
Lets not feel obligated to stick it out with any one company for our entire career. The good
news is that when the pension plan vanished, employees received greater freedom of choice.
We can make career decisions largely independent of a company retirement plan.
Since most of us wont end up in early retirement, we should certainly make sure our work
is fulfilling.
You are going to be at it for a while and there is no payoff for hanging on to one
company. You are free to choose where to invest your skills and talents.
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Fifteen years later, I am still working. And most of those college sophomores who received
venture capital investments are working again, as well.
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The nugget of wisdom I learned here is that while big home runs and wild amounts of sudden
wealth do happen, the odds of them happening are generally slim. Instead, the tortoise
approach (long and slow) is likely a more reliable and predictable one than that of the hare
(quick and filled with shortcuts).
I am content to faithfully save money every month and I try not to pay too much attention to
my portfolio performance. Simultaneously, I am always looking for interesting new innovations
that make a compelling business solution.
I dont have a reliable pension plan and I dont foresee a huge amount of money falling from the
sky any time soon, so Ive settled into the idea that Im going to be working for a while.
All the more reason to make sure I am enjoying what I am doing.
Weaving throughout the story is the sustaining power of hope. In one of my favorite scenes,
Red cautions Andy hope can drive a man insane. Andys brilliant rebuttal is that hope is
the best of things. As part of Reds investment in Andys survival, he arranges to trade for a
poster of Rita Hayworth and Andy hangs the symbolic gift on the wall of his prison cell.
We later discover that the Hollywood-hottie poster covers the hole where Andy has been digging
through the concrete wall every night, planning for his escape. Each morning, he discards
the progress of his work through the holes in his trouser pockets as he walks the yard with
the other inmates.
Bit by bit the concrete fragments of the wall are dismantled and distributed into the prison yard.
Freedom does not come for Andy in an instant; rather, it comes over years of him choosing
to pursue the hope of something better for himself.
A year ago, I hung a large, framed picture of Andy Dufresne and Red in my office at work.
Each man is in his prison jumpsuit with his prison ID embroidered across his chest.
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I have to imagine that Andy Dufresnes years in Shawshank were less difficult than they would
have been because he knew that each day he made a little progress in redefining the
hold the place had on him.
The honest truth is that I have worked in some really difficult work environments. I will spare
you the stories, but I can promise you that symbols like Red and Andy helped offer me hope
in a very needed way.
You would think that most work places would not tolerate an employee hanging a poster
of two inmates in his office; nobody even noticed.
But when I looked at it, I knew I was digging out.
DEPEND ON YOURSELF
Starting today, you will envision, strategize, and plan how you will begin providing for yourself.
Imagine a life in which you rely on yourself. A life in which you live into your best reality
your best self.
You do not need to be an entrepreneur to depend on yourself. You can still have a regular W-2 job
with full-time benefits and maintain the belief that your future is under your own leadership.
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So often we transfer the direction of our futures onto our company or our boss. I am suggesting
that you hire yourself for the role of Director of Success and Happiness. By holding yourself
accountable for your own future, you will experience a much greater level of responsibility as
well as greater satisfaction in the outcome.
Repeat after me:
I am the Director of Success and Happiness of my life.
I am the CEO of My Life, Inc.
I am the chairman of the board for my future.
I hope it is clear that I am not telling you to pour hot coffee in your bosss lap on Monday as
you waive the bird on your way out the door.
Rather, I am advocating for a massive shift in the core of your belief system.
You must understand: your career disappointments, your failures, and your missed promotions
are not their fault.
Of course they have a part to play in your story, but ultimately, you are responsible for your own
successes and your failures. Lets not shift blame around. Lets understand the leadership we
have in our own life. We permitted our companies to have this access to us. We have even invited
it by the way we have adhered to the unwritten contract.
Starting today, take responsibility for your future success.
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For too many years I believed that I needed my boss or company to provide me great opportunities, great projects, promotions, etc. Without those invitations or advancements, I would sulk
in my lack of fulfillment.
When I made the shift to truly take ownership of my life, my happiness, my circumstances,
my fulfillment, my creativity, my time, (and the list keeps going), I stopped feeling helpless.
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In my experience most people are not interested in actually changing their circumstances
because it may cost them something, though because you are reading this I assume you are
not like most people.
Start doing the job you wish you had. Youll be surprised how happy everyone will be.
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Ill start it
Risk it
Create it
Build it
Dream it
Plan it
Design it
After
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Or at least there will not be enough of them in a row for you to feel like the time is perfect.
Remind yourself that life is short and precious and living the life you desire starts today.
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But by some miracle, they choose to quiet the voice that offers all of those excuses and get
their run in anyway.
The truth is, all of our lists of excuses are really just us choosing something we feel is easier,
safer, or more comfortable.
Its easier to say
There are plenty of better athletes than me.
There are plenty of more creative people than me.
There are plenty of more successful people than me.
But I propose to be who I am and I work faithfully not to delay the life I want to live.
Find a way to piece together the small fragments of your day to invest in the things you long for.
It is the only way you will ever actually have the life, career, relationships and health that you
dream about.
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LETS DO AN E XERCISE
Check each box that you agree with.
o Youve lived under an unwritten contract that makes you feel helpless and frustrated.
o Your plan was to wait out the next forty years until you can start living the life you really want.
o Based on the current performance of your retirement savings plan, you are going to be
working for a long time.
o You have been waiting on other people to give you permission to do great work.
o Your boss really isnt the biggest part of your problem.
Youre fired.
KEEP GOING!
Keep looking in the mirror, and fire your company.
Fire your team.
Fire your employees.
Fire your customers.
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If I had actually said out loud what I desired or was supposedly needing from him, I would have
been the one being fired.
Luckily, I never said it out loud.
Instead, I liberated us both on the same day.
We both became free to operate under a new arrangement.
I was no longer the indentured servant and no longer resented him for it.
I was no longer signing the unwritten contract and being frustrated about my compliance with it.
He no longer had to listen to my speeches about how he should change the way things were.
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I was no longer watching my 401K performance and being frustrated that I was not going to
be able to retire early like those magazine covers advertised I would.
I no longer worried about whether or not I got a pat on the back and I wasnt waiting around
for his permission to start creating and innovating.
THE RESULT
He loved what I started offering, the leadership I started providing, and, ironically, he was more
appreciative of me. In the end, we ended up in a partnership arrangement.
I had a new job and I didnt have to quit my job to get it.
GUESS WHAT ?
He never knew what changed.
Wait until he reads this and finds out that
I fired him.
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My hope is that the mission statement you are reading gives you permission to walk down the
less-traveled path. I invite you to do your best work, pursue happiness despite circumstances,
and take back the ownership of your future.
I dont believe that a person needs to be an entrepreneur in order to experience this kind
of liberation and freedom. In fact, for a lot of people the risks of entrepreneurship would
outweigh the rewards.
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But everyone needs the liberation, freedom and confidence that firing his or her boss
will produce.
You really are more powerful than you know.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR | As a graduate of Baylor University, Aaron holds a B.A. in Speech Communica-
tions. In 1994, he started his career in Sales & Marketing. Recently he resigned from a software division
that he helped start. He is happily married for 19 years and has three children. Aaron is passionate
about work-life balance. He is as driven in business as he is in his athletic adventures as a competitive
runner, triathlete, fly fisherman and mountaineer. For more information, you can visit his blog where
he offers both blog writings and Podcasts on Work, Life and Play.
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