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Dedication

This book is dedicated to each of you who are seeking peace of mind and
the gift of joy which intrinsically belongs to you by virtue of your Be-ing.

Acknowledgments

To my dear, departed Father ... for his gentle nature and his unconditional
love and acceptance of me.

To my precious Mother for giving me the courage to look for the answers
and the faith in myself necessary to keep going.

To my cherished husband, Delmont, for his role in working through many

of my feelings ... for his love and support, and for his patience.

To our beautiful children, Dan, Rhonda, Gina, and Boyd; our daughters-in-
law, Wendee and Sandy, and our sons-in-law, Scott and Thomas, for being
the caring people they are, and for humoring me during the years spent
searching for these truths and this understanding.

To Carolyn Lybbert, my eternal gratitude for sharing the original "Script"

with me at such a crucial time in my life, and for always being there at the
beginning, when I was processing, resolving, and healing so many of my
feelings.

To my friend, Margot Bingham, for introducing me to Carolyn, and for her

contribution as we learned about feelings, thoughts, and emotions, and how
they impact our lives.

To Joyce Davis, for allowing me the use of her computer and her home
while writing the original manuscript; for her untold hours and untiring
efforts in the editing and word processing of this book. For her hospitality,
for feeding me, and for all the other exhausting "extra miles" she went
while working on this project. Without her, this book would not be. I cannot
thank her enough!
To Don Davis, Joyce's husband, for sharing his home, his computer and
sacrificing countless hours with his wife in order for this book to come
about. (And, to Joyce's family—thanks for sharing her.)

To Marlene Yardley, for her love, support, encouragement and friendship.

For her belief in me and the importance of disseminating this

Acknowledgments

information. For the selfless sharing of her time in assisting me with ever so
many things in order for this book to be completed.

And to the unnamed others who responded to my call and picked up the
pieces during the completion stages of this book ... my deepest gratitude.

To Nancy Peterson for her patience and unending effort in helping

conceptualize the book cover. And ... for being such a great sounding board.

To the many doctors and therapists who have experienced the value of the
information contained herein and chosen to have this book available in their
offices. Thank you for recommending it to your colleagues, patients, and
clients.

To the countless people who have put the principles of this book to the test
these several years, and validated the power of the "tool" in it's ability to
change lives. You have taught me much! Your e-mail, phone calls, and
letters are very much appreciated.

Further, and most importantly, to God the Father, for allowing me the
particular "pain" I needed on my life's journey to cause me to go inward for
solutions. This journey has taught me, and continues to teach me, deeper
understanding and greater love; bringing me more happiness and joy than I
could ever have experienced any other way. I rejoice in His love for you
and me, and praise His name forever!

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Introduction

Everywhere I turn, people from all walks of life are experiencing what
seems to be insurmountable challenges in their lives. Those who are striving
to alleviate the pain created by these challenges have undoubtedly searched
for relief. Many have found or are finding help to minimize the pain they
are experiencing as they continue to add knowledge and understanding to
assist them on their journey through life.

Yes, I too, have had my share of challenges. In 1984, however, I was given
the gift of a wonderful "tool" that began instantly to impact my life in a
very positive manner. Those family members, friends and clients who have
had benefit of this "tool" and who have used it on a consistent basis have
also made significant alterations in their lives.

I would be the last one to tell you or lead you to believe that this "tool" will
solve all your problems, or that you won't need to know anything else after
you learn to use this "tool"— the journey is on-going. I only know that by
using this "tool" I have been able to alleviate about 90% of the negativity
and erroneous programming in my life, the result of which has brought me
the sweet gifts of serenity, love, contentment, peace, and joy. I am
compelled to share it with you. This "tool" has the potential of revealing
you to yourself, IF . . . you are prepared to be accountable for your feelings,
your thoughts, and your beliefs.

My sincere intent is that you will have a strong desire and the motivation to
incorporate this "tool" into your life and come to a better understanding of
who you really are.

May your journey be as exciting and fulfilling as mine. May you be able to
alleviate those significant negative feelings, thoughts, and beliefs in your
life that have caused or are causing you to experience pain of any kind.

Chapter 1

The Language of Feelings

Of all the languages in the world, the most difficult language to
communicate is the language of feelings. One of our greatest challenges as
human beings is to effectively communicate with other people what we
truly feel. Perhaps the most significant and consequential challenge we
face, however, is acquiring the ability to communicate congruently with
ourselves.

Have you ever felt as if there was a time bomb inside you ready to explode
at any second, yet you were unable to identify the source of this feeling?
Have you experienced one day where an ordinary task was easy and then
the next day it was an impossible, gigantic mountain to climb?

Have you ever had the feeling of being two (or more) separate individuals
or of being someone totally different than yourself—wondering who the
REAL you was or where the real you had gone?

Perhaps for some unexplainable reason you have been touchy or agitated
for longer periods of time than you would like—maybe even unleashing
verbiage or exhibiting behavior that was unworthy of you.

Have you ever had the feeling that you were two enemies (or more) who
were constantly fighting each other—as if there was a war going on inside
you? Or perhaps you've experienced sleeplessness night after night for no
apparent reason.

Have you ever felt that no one understood you? Or, even, and perhaps
worse, that you didn't understand yourself? What causes these disquieting
moments—these uncomfortable feelings and this internal conflict?

If you recognize yourself in the above examples or have experienced

similar frustrations, I would suggest to you the possibility that you could be
suffering from unresolved, repressed and suppressed negative feelings you
thought you had taken care of—feelings you thought were dead and gone.
What you may not realize is that when negative feelings are not resolved as
they occur, these feelings remain very much alive in your physical energy
field (body) and these feelings affect each day of your life. In other words,
unresolved "FEELINGS BURIED ALIVE, NEVER DIE!"
These buried feelings are very real. They are energies in and of themselves.
They are alive, living, and constantly affecting you. These buried feelings
have a personality, and these feelings that have been buried alive will, of
necessity, have to manifest themselves sooner or later.

Somehow, somewhere, in some aspect of your life the effect of these

negative feelings WILL be realized. They will make themselves known
when you least expect it. These buried feelings may suddenly— after
smoldering or fermenting for who knows how long—become apparent in
your physical well-being. How? Through dis-ease. Or, the effects of these
buried feelings could be exhibited in your relationships. Perhaps these
feelings will become evident in your mental, emotional or financial well-
being. Take your pick ... one or all!

Often, however, we do not get to "pick or choose" which feelings will

manifest in our life. Nor do we consciously choose how or when they will
manifest. Suffice it to say, these feelings trigger our everyday, minute to
minute choices and behavior whether we recognize it or not. Feelings that
we have buried and are completely unaware of are what

create the challenges, the uneasiness, the dis-ease, the pain and the crises
situations in our lives.

Thus, it is possible to experience one or more of these negative states at the

same time, whether in our relationships, our physical, our financial, or the
mental/emotional areas of our life. In other words, DISEASE in any form is
the natural consequence of unresolved negative feelings that have
seemingly been forgotten, ignored or buried.

According to Prevention Magazine:

It is estimated that 90 percent of all physical problems have psychological

roots. That may sound like a gross exaggeration. In fact, it's probably a
conservative estimate. A growing body of evidence indicates that virtually
every ill that can befall the body—from acne to arthritis, headaches to heart
disease, cold sores to cancer—is influenced, for better or worse, by our
emotions. (Quoted from The Complete Guide To Your Emotions And Your
Health p.563 by Emrika Padus and the editors of Prevention magazine.)
This subject is, and has been the focus of research projects, human behavior
studies, TV programs, and many books. Much emphasis has been placed on
this topic in recent months and years.

The world population is looking for answers to the whys of varied problems
and negative experiences. People look to their peers, to professionals, to
educators, to education, to religious authority, to books, or to self-awareness
seminars for answers. What are they seeking? What is the bottom line?
Observation from my counseling experience is that most people have a deep
desire, and are searching, for peace of mind and the ability to truly love and
be loved unconditionally.

It seems that part of us—our Higher Intelligence—is crying out to be

liberated from untold years of suppression and denial. What is more, this
cry for liberation comes from every corner of the globe. The cry comes
seeking relief from pain, hate, anger, fear, war, suffering, hurt,

sickness, resentment, loneliness, depression, failure, misery, prejudice, guilt

and many other undesirable conditions that afflict mankind today.

The decade of the 80's established an impetus for bringing the physical
body back into order and balance. One has only to consider the explosion
that work-out books and tapes initiated during the 80's to recognize the
impact of that new awareness—the need for physical fitness and well-being.
And the impetus continues.

In the 90's self-examination of feelings and emotions began receiving a

focus that is contributing to an emotional cleansing and healing of major
proportions. At long last, humankind's willingness to retreat from denial, to
own the source of their problems, accept responsibility for them and
become accountable for the feelings and thoughts which created them, is
establishing an energy that is opening the channels for bringing the inner
peace people are so desperately seeking.

People everywhere are questioning, seeking, and striving to understand

what makes them tick. They want to find the cause of their suffering, their
pain, and their problems. They also want to learn how to alleviate these
problems and heal themselves. Perhaps what we have not comprehended
before, is that our experiences in life are actually our own state of mind
being projected outward. When we have a state of mind that indicates inner
peace, joy, love and well-being—then peace, joy, love and well-being is
what we naturally project outward and, consequently, these positive states
of mind bring us positive experiences.

On the contrary, when our state of mind is one that is occupied with fears,
doubts, troubles and concerns—then fears, doubts, troubles and concerns
are what we naturally project outward. Consequently, we will experience
that which we fear, doubt, are troubled by and concerned with as our reality.

Put another way:

Whatever we choose to focus our attention on will automatically multiply in

our lives. If our attention is on our troubles or

the injustice of the past, they will become our trials of the present also. If
instead our minds are focused on the blessings we have received or the love
of God, family and fellowman, these will grow stronger. (Bring Forth Your
Light, Frederick W. Babbel)

Most of us recognize that we are not just a piece of flesh. We are at least
five-dimensional. By this I mean: spiritual, emotional, mental, physical, and
social. And, in order to be in tune or in balance and work in harmony and
realize fulfillment, these five dimensions serve us much more efficiently
and effectively if they are attended to equally.

In our younger years, many of us were taught to shut off or close down the
emotional facet of our Be-ing. We were programmed to deny feelings, to
bury them. If our feelings were hurt or we didn't like something the way it
was, we were taught to "forget it;" "ignore it;" "it doesn't matter;" "don't
think about it;" or "be quiet and it might go away."

Well, guess what? "It"—those feelings—didn't go away! Denying them

didn't make them disappear. Those feelings were repressed, suppressed,
stuffed, or buried. However, that doesn't mean they went away. On the
contrary, they registered somewhere inside us. And the less-than-desirable
circumstances we may find ourselves in today, in any aspect of our life, are
the manifestation of those so-called buried feelings.

Those feelings did not leave. Just because we buried them alive doesn't
mean they are dead. Those feelings are NOT dead unless they are resolved.
They remain the source of our unresolved conflicts. Subconsciously, they
are not forgotten nor will they be forgotten. Those feelings from long ago
have been and are still being registered at and in the cellular level of our
Being. They are the feelings which govern our thought patterns, our beliefs,
and our attitudes. Those feelings determine our emotional reactions and our
experiences in life. They are unconscious, hidden and have been denied.
Nevertheless, they are a definite part of our intra-cellular and subconscious
programming. The experiences we are having in our lives today are the
effects caused by those

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unresolved feelings we denied; those feelings we stuffed and then buried

alive! The problem is, once again, THOSE FEELINGS DID NOT DIE!

The purpose of this book is to share with you how to return to, or perhaps
attain for the first time in your life, the forgiveness, peace, love, joy,
success, happiness and tranquility you are desiring and seeking.

The principles contained in this book will aid you in re-focusing your life
and eliminating negative feelings, beliefs or states of mind you are or have
been harboring, protecting and nurturing. In turn, this will allow you a
much more fulfilling, self-validating (positive) day-to-day existence than
you may have previously experienced and enjoyed.

Using the principles and the tool contained in this book on a daily basis
enhances your ability to bring the physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and
social aspects of your Be-ing into alignment and balance. This alignment
then provides the internal environment that makes it possible for you to
achieve an inner harmony and peace—contributing greatly to any desirable
changes you wish to make.

Your life can realize a cohesiveness it has never known.

How do we accomplish this?

Let us open the eyes of our eyes so that we can see.

Let us open the ears of our ears so that we can hear.

Let us open the heart of our hearts so that we can listen and

hearken to truth and light.

First, it is imperative that we learn to identify negative feelings and

thoughts. This is necessary before we can avoid or resolve them. It doesn't
take long for this to become automatic, and we are able to be happier, more
cheerful, more appreciative and more caring much of the time. "We can
dispel discord among those around us by becoming conduits [of] peace and
love." (Bring Forth Your Light, Frederick W. Babbel)

As words and their meanings are crucial to a clear communication of the

material contained in this book, it is vitally important that you

have a clear and correct concept of the following four words as they are
used in this book: (Taken from Webster's 1828 American Dictionary of the
English Language, and The Reader's Digest Great Encyclopedia
Dictionary.)

Feelings

1. To perceive or to be aware of through thought, bodily or emotional

reactions, instinct, etc.

2. To produce an indicated overall condition, impression, or reaction.

3. An impression produced upon a person; having sensation.

4. Marked by or indicating emotion.

Thoughts

1. That which the mind thinks.

2. The act or process of using the mind actively and deliberately.

3. The product of thinking; an idea, concept, judgment, etc.

4. Inward reasoning; the workings of conscience.

Emotions

1. A strong surge of feeling marked by an impulse to outward expressions,

and often accompanied by complex bodily reactions; any strong feeling as
love, hate, or joy.

2. Any agitation of mind or excitement of sensibility.

3. A moving of the mind or soul.

Beliefs

1. Acceptance of the truth or actuality of anything without certain proof;

mental conviction.

2. That which is believed; something held to be true or valid. BELIEF

denotes acceptance with or without proof or strong emotional feelings.

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Allow yourself to flow with these words. There is such a fine line of
distinction between the definition of FEELINGS and EMOTIONS that it
may be easy to become confused.

Let me give you a simple illustration of how I use these two words: If you
became very angry at someone but held the anger inside— this is a
FEELING. However, if you became angry and let yourself explode, either
verbally or physically, the feeling of anger would then be manifesting itself
as an EMOTION. In other words, the EMOTION is the outward expression
or reaction of the FEELING. Or . . . the EMOTION is the result of an
intense feeling and a thought coming together.
BELIEFS are established in our psyche as a result of the conclusions we
unknowingly establish from the experiences our feelings and thoughts bring
to us.

Chapter 2

Energy Vibrations

In this exciting, magnificent, electro-magnetic Universe of ours, everything

found in, on, under and above the Universe has an energy vibration.
Literally EVERYTHING has unique energy! Anything that is "matter" has
energy vibrations. When energy is discussed, however, most people think of
energy in relation to our bodies, such as "I ran out of energy before the day
was half over." Or, they relate energy to an energy crisis—gas, gasoline, oil,
fuel or electricity.

These are definite sources of energy, but not energy in the true sense of the
word. Real energy is an unknown force. It is used by each of us every day
of our existence, and yet we still don't know exactly what it is. We can't see
it. We can't smell it, taste it, hear it, or hold it in our hands. We do
experience manifestations of it everyday in many ways, although it is still a
mystery to the majority of the population. Light is energy, water is energy
and electricity is energy. But, how do we explain it?

Energy is a force that takes many forms and can be manifested in many
ways. Rocks have energy. Likewise, trees, plants, soil and insects have
energy. The carpet on your floor has an energy. So does the material in your
sofa, the wood your piano is made of, and the ivory keys. The glass in
windows has energy vibrations as well as the brick in the fireplace, the
frame around the painting and the paint in the painting.

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The food you eat, the clothes you wear, your hair, your nails, your glands,
and your organs all have energy. Everything about you is energy. Most
importantly though, for the purposes of this book, it is imperative to
understand that your FEELINGS and your THOUGHTS are energy. Your
feelings and your thoughts are matter. And, according to what physics has
taught us, matter cannot be destroyed. The form of matter CAN be altered,
but matter itself is indestructible.

Scientist and author, Edward W. Russell postulates the actuality of thought-

fields. In the book, Vibrations, we are told that a thought is an independent
force all it's own . . . that it can produce effects which form a field.

So, if thoughts are matter and have their own thought-field, why can't they
be destroyed? Because thought consists of atoms and atoms are composed
of tiny amounts of pure energy—waves of energy solidified or frozen into
the non-movement recognized as matter. Matter is a form of energy that is
in very slow or stopped motion (or frequency).

Therefore, thought as matter is impossible to destroy. Feelings as energy, or

matter, are also impossible to destroy. Nevertheless, MATTER CAN BE
ALTERED. Consequently, the energy of feelings and of thoughts can be
changed. If the feeling or the thought is negative matter (energy) it can be
changed to positive matter (energy).

What criteria determines whether a feeling or a thought is negative? When

the energy of a particular feeling or thought obscures the truth of our Be-
ing, obscures our perfect blueprint, negativity is created. According to Dr.
Deepak Chopra, we all come here with a perfect blueprint, with a memory
of perfection.

Negative energy of any kind covers over this memory of perfection to some
degree and slowly obscures the truth of our Be-ing. As the negativity
mounts in our Be-ing, little by little our memory of perfection becomes
shrouded and obscured. Consequently, our negativity creates a false-Self.

Energy Vibrations //

If you wonder at the power of feelings and thoughts as an energy, the

following information can assist you in comprehending it's ever present
vibrational influence. Scientists used to believe that energy traveled at the
rate of 186,000 miles per second. They have recently discovered, however,
that it travels 700 times faster!! Thought being energy, therefore, means that
thought travels at the same speed, which is 130,200,000 miles per second.
Energy moves in pulses—like waves. The crest is the pulse of energy and
the trough is the pause. How close together the waves are is called
frequencies—how frequently the waves occur. This range of frequencies is
called the electro-magnetic spectrum. What we see, feel and experience
materially is but a tiny part of the entire electro-magnetic spectrum. Beyond
this range lies the largest part of the spectrum, heretofore immeasurable and
undetectable. Here lies the frequency rates of gravity, magnetism, and
thought itself!

All elements of the earth have different energies. Some have energy
vibrations whose frequencies are very close together and some have energy
vibrations whose frequencies are very broad or far apart. In any given
matter, the closer together the vibrational frequencies, the higher the
vibration and the closer that matter is to its energy Source. Or, putting it
another way, the more positive the energy of any given matter, the closer
the frequencies, and thus, the closer that matter is to its Source. Likewise,
the more broad the frequencies of any given matter, the further that energy
is from its Source. In other words, the more negative the energy of any
given matter, the wider the frequencies, and the further that matter (energy)
is from its Source. (See illustration on the following page.)

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A very vivid and profound illustration of the power of feeling and thought
frequencies was told by Dr. W. Jerome Stowell. Here is his story:

I was almost a devout atheist, I did not believe that God was any more than
a conglomeration of everyone's mind put together, and the good that was
there, that was God as far as I was concerned. As for the real, all-powerful
God existing and loving us all, with power over everything, I did not
believe that.

Then one day I had an experience that really set me thinking. I was in a
large pathological laboratory where we were attempting to find the wave
length of the brain. We found a channel of wave lengths, and that channel
has a mach room (unit of measure) in it wherein the different wave lengths
of each individuals brain are further separated in identity more clearly than
are the finger prints of each individual's hand. This is a

point we should remember: God can actually keep in heaven a record of our
thoughts as individuals just as the FBI can keep a record of our fingerprints
in Washington, D.C.

We wanted to make an experiment to discover what took place in the brain

at the moment of transition from life to death. We chose first a lady whose
family had sent her to a mental institution but who had been discharged.
The doctors could find nothing wrong with her other than the fact she had
cancer of the brain. This affected the balance of her body only. As far as her
alertness of mind was concerned and in every other way, she was
exceptionally brilliant. We knew she was on the verge of death and she was
informed, in this research hospital, that she was going to die.

We arranged a tiny pick-up in her room to ascertain what would take place
in the transition of her brain from life to death. We also put a very small
microphone, about the size of a shilling, in the room so that we could hear
what she said, if she had anything to say.

Five of us hardened scientists—perhaps I was the hardest of the group—

were in an adjoining room with our instruments prepared to register and
record what transpired. Our device had a needle pointing to "0" in the center
of the scale. To the right the scale was calibrated to 500 points positive, to
the left the scale was calibrated to 500 points negative. We previously had
recorded on this identical instrument the power used by a fifty-kilowatt
broadcasting station in sending a message around the world. The needle
then registered 9 points of the positive side.

As the last moments of this woman's life arrived, she began to pray and
praise the Lord. She asked the Lord to be merciful unto those who had
despitefully used her, then she reaffirmed her faith in God, telling Him she
knew He was the only power, and the only living power. He always had
been and always would be. She praised God and thanked Him for His
power and

for her knowledge of His reality. She told Him how much she loved Him.

We scientists had been so engrossed with this woman's prayer that we had
forgotten our experiment. We looked at each other and saw tears streaming
down scientific faces.

Suddenly we heard a clicking sound on our forgotten instrument. We looked

and the needle was registering a positive 500, desperately trying to go
higher only to bounce against the 500 positive post in its attempt!

By actual instrumentation we had recorded that the brain of a woman alone

and dying in communication with God had registered more than 55 times
the power used by a fifty-kilowatt broadcasting station sending a message
around the world.

After this we decided to try a case very unlike the first one. We chose a man
lying in the research hospital stricken with a deadly social disease. His brain
had become atrophied to the very point of death. He was practically a
maniac.

After we had set up our instruments, we arranged for one of the nurses to
antagonize the man. Through her wiles, she attracted his interest in her, and
then suddenly told him she did not want to have anything more to do with
him. He began to verbally abuse her, and the needle began to register on the
negative side. Then he cursed her and took the name of God in vain. The
needle then clicked back and forth against the 500 negative post.
By actual instrumentation we had registered what happened to the brain
when that brain broke one of God's Ten Commandments, "Thou shalt not
take the name of the Lord thy God in vain."

We had established by instrumentation the positive power of God and the

negative power of the adversary. We had found that beneficial truth is
positive, and non-beneficial things covered by the "Thou shalt nots" of the
Ten Commandments are negative.

If we scientists can record these things, I believe with all my heart that the
Lord God can keep a record of our thoughts.

Do you think the vibrational frequencies of the positive feelings, thoughts

and words of the sick woman in this story drew her closer to her Source?
Likewise, that the vibrational frequencies of the negative feelings, thoughts
and words of the sick man repelled him from his divine Source?

What is meant by Source? Source is what or who you consider to be your

Source . . . your Divine Source . . . whether that is God, Universal
Intelligence, Universal Mind, Buddha, Mohammed or whomever or
whatever you look to as a higher power or Supreme Being.

Most people have a reference as to their Infinite Source. And the majority
of us, either consciously or subconsciously, have a longing to be able to
better understand and eventually identify with that Source, if at all possible.
The closer your individual collective vibrational frequencies are, the more
in tune or in harmony you are going to be with your Source. The more in
harmony you are, the closer you will draw to your Source. The closer you
are to your Source, the more peace of mind you will experience; the more
joy you will feel; the greater your capacity to love; and the more content
you will be.

It would be interesting and revealing if someone were to take a poll to

ascertain how many people truly experience the above characteristics of
well be-ing on an on-going, continuing basis NOW in their lives. I seriously
doubt we would find a very large percentage of the population that does.
How did we get so far away? What happened to distance us from our
Source? Most of us are struggling daily just to maintain the status-quo, let
alone narrow the gap between us and our Source. Has the collective fear,
anger, hate, pride, greed, blame, hurt, bitterness, discontent, judgment,
misery, sadness, hopelessness, and unhappiness in the world

today helped contribute to the conditions in which we presently find

ourselves?

In the process of becoming civilized it seems man has repelled himself

further and further away from that which creates positive vibrations—the
vibrations with the more desirable, closer frequencies. In our quest for
comfort, success, riches and gain we seem to have strayed far away from
positive vibrations. Even though good intentions motivate most people,
there is an increased inability to create and enjoy qualities of well be-ing in
our lives—qualities which establish vibrations with the closer frequencies
—on a permanent basis.

In an effort to fill our basic needs for love, acceptance and recognition,
unfortunately we get caught up in what society seems to foster— the frame
or game of seeing who can get the most, do the best and have the biggest.
Anything to get gain seems to be a general rule with much of the human
race today. Consequently, many themes on television, MTV, in movies,
literature, magazines, and music appeal to our more base, sordid and
depraved qualities.

If we add to all the items heretofore listed, liquor, tobacco and drugs, there
is a further compounding of negative vibrational energy. This is all in
consequence of the evils and designs which exist in the hearts of conspiring
men in our time. These men do not care who has to suffer, or who dies ...
just as long as their objectives are met. "Anything to get gain," is the motto.
And, the gain is called greed or power.

The theme continues: Anything to excite or satisfy my senses. Anything to

satisfy my appetites. ANYTHING GOES! regardless of what it is. So, in
accordance with natural laws, the disregard of others welfare (the "anything
to get gain" syndrome) is contributing to the negativity which permeates
our society today, and it is taking its toll on the human family.
Michael Wickett, in his audio tape program, It's All Within Your Reach,
Building Positive Self Concepts, states that:

Energy Vibrations \j

The Law of Control is an essential law in understanding how we function.

Many psychologists, if not most psychologists today, have come to the
conclusion that the degree of control that we feel we have is in direct
proportion to the amount of mental health that we have.

The Law of Control simply says that we feel good about ourselves to the
exact degree to which we feel we are in control of our own life. And that we
feel bad about ourselves when we feel out of harmony with ourselves to the
exact degree to which we feel we are controlled by outer circumstances, by
other people—by things beyond our control.

Psychologists call this the difference between an internal locus (place) of

control—a feeling that we're steering our own lives, and an external locus
of control—a feeling that someone else is controlling our lives and taking
us where they want us to go.

Control begins, first of all, with our feelings—what we feel, and what we
feel controls our thoughts—what we think, and that leads to how we
perform—to our actions. BUT ALL CONTROL BEGINS WITH TAKING
CONTROL OF THE FEELINGS WE HOLD IN OUR HEART, because
these feelings determine the thoughts we hold in our conscious mind.

The vast majority of us live our lives by the Law of Accident, that is, by
failing to plan we are planning to fail. We have no goals beyond the short
term. We make no plans. Consequently, we don't really feel we are in
control of our own destiny. We just hope that somehow things will work
out.

Mr. Wickett believes that one of the major reasons we have so much
negativity, disharmony, unhappiness, misery and skepticism in our society
is that most people feel like "bump cars" in a carnival. They go off in one
direction or another, depending upon the next incident that happens to them.
And, of course, people who live by the Law of Accident have no sense of
control or mental well-being.

Wickett states:

Opposed to the Law of Accident is what we call the Law of Cause and
Effect. The Law of Cause and Effect is really the basic Law of the
Universe. It is the reason that everything happens. And, the Law of Cause
and Effect simply says this: that for every effect in our lives, there is a
specific cause. If we do not like the effects that we are enjoying (or not
enjoying) in our life, it is up to us to identify the causes, and change the
causes. That, irrespective of whether or not we know what the causes are,
there is a reason for everything that happens. There is in fact, no such thing
as an accident. EVERYTHING THAT HAPPENS IN OUR LIFE
HAPPENS BY LAW AND NOT BY CHANCE! It is our primary duty to
understand the laws that control our destinies. By understanding the Laws
we can control the causes and change the effects to anything that we want.

You will recognize immediately that the Law of Cause and Effect is
completely consistent with the Law of Control, because if we can identify
the causes, we can control the effects and therefore control what happens to
us in our lives. And people who live happy, fully functioning, harmonious
lives are people who live by the Law of Control and understand the Law of
Cause and Effect in their lives.

FEELINGS are CAUSES & CONDITIONS are EFFECTS.

Our feelings are always the primary causes of the conditions or effects in
our lives. Our lives are initially controlled by our feelings, which, in turn,
create our thoughts. Everything we are today is the sum total of all the
feelings we have had to this moment. If we wish our lives to be different in
the future it is necessary to change our feelings, which then changes our
thinking, in the present. By so doing, we change the direction of our lives!

Energy Vibrations /9

Another author puts it this way:

In all the universe there can be no such things as luck or fate; every action,
every thought is governed by law. Behind every bit of good fortune lie the
causes that we ourselves have sometime, somewhere set in motion. Behind
all ill fortune we will find the energy, we ourselves, have generated. Every
cause must have a certain definite effect, there is no dodging the results, we
reap what we sow with exact mathematical precision. (Venice Bloodworth,
Key to Yourself)

Any undesirable condition we find ourselves in today is telling us that

natural laws have caught up with us and we are witnessing this Law of
Cause and Effect reigning supreme on our parade. Our intelligence knows
when we are not in harmony with the Laws of the Universe. We can only
compromise for so long before the evidence is clearly obvious that natural
laws have not been observed.

Breaking natural laws causes disharmony. The problems and challenges

people are experiencing in their lives everywhere—as well as the
undesirable conditions or events we may be experiencing in our own life—
is a very clear indication that natural laws have been and are being, not only
broken, but desecrated. Then let's combine all the factors of imbalance in
our inharmonious environment with the individual negative feelings,
thoughts, and emotions we have been burying—or were compelled to bury
in order to survive. Could it be possible that the problems of disharmony
and imbalance are further compounded? This disharmony has brought about
a definite fragmentation of individuals, as well as families, cities, and
nations. And the wide scale fragmentation it has created is the unfortunate
effect all these collective negative energy vibrations are having on human
lives on a global basis today.

Another sad commentary that results from breaking natural laws is the gross
personal imbalance it causes, which subsequently undermines

an individual's ability to have or maintain peace of mind and a continual

sense of well-Be-ing.

When we, as individuals, decelerate or halt this fragmentation by fixing—

making a shift or changing the energies in ourselves—we can experience
the harmony and balance that we are seeking, which is a natural by-product
of our shift. At this point, OUR shift will have positive and far reaching
effects, not only on us, but in the lives of everyone around us.

"So, what is it that needs fixing?" Our feelings and our thoughts are what
determined where we are today. If what is happening to us now, both
physically and emotionally, is undesirable, our feelings and our thoughts are
what need fixing.

Many people have a difficult time identifying their feelings and their
thoughts. (This was my problem, also.) Too many of us have not been
taught—or perhaps not allowed—to be cognizant of what's going on inside
our mind or our body. Perhaps, due to overwhelming pain or abuse, our
early conditioning kept us from being consciously aware of our feelings and
thoughts. Consequently, it's impossible for us to be sensitive or mindful of
them today. Or, we could simply be so accustomed to turning our pain and
hurt over to something (i.e. drugs/food) or someone else to fix, that our
ability to be consciously aware of what is taking place inside ourselves has
turned off. It's usually for these reasons we haven't been schooled in how to
resolve our feelings for ourselves. Sadly, the majority of the human family's
consciousness is either fragmented or missing entirely. Dr. Deepak Chopra
tells us in his book, Quantum Healing, "When consciousness is fragmented,
it starts a war in the mind-body system."

You may be asking, "So, what do I do about it?" Your first challenge will be
to get in touch with your external and internal dialogue. That is, what you
are saying out loud and what you are saying to yourself. What you say—out
loud and silently—leads you to what you are thinking inside your head.
This then leads you to what you are feeling

inside. One way to help yourself become more aware is to be sensitive to

what is happening around you. Take yourself outside any situation and just
be an observer ... as if you were sitting in the audience and witnessing a
play, with you as one of the actors. The "Doing Something About It"
formula:

1) Listen to your words—to your outer talk. By doing this you are training
your Self for taking the next step, which is:
2) Listening to and hearing what you are saying to your Self—your self-
talk. You then discover the passageway to your

3) Thoughts. By recognizing your thoughts you can begin tracing them back
to

4) Feelings, which initially triggered the thoughts in the first place.

(See pages 39-45 in Healing Feelings . . . From Your Heart for a more in
depth explanation.)

Many people ask me how they can begin to label their feelings; how they
can become aware. My suggestion to them is to pay attention from every
angle of their existence (seeing, hearing, smelling, sensing, feeling, even
tasting) to what is going on in every situation they find themselves. Here
are some simple examples: Have you ever walked into a room where two
people have been engaged in a heated argument you didn't even hear? You
can definitely feel that those negative vibes (vibrations) are still alive,
resonating and bouncing around. "The air (vibes) was so thick you could
have cut it with a knife." Notice the look on each person's face; the body
language; your feelings; your thoughts; the awkward moments when
everyone is at a loss for words; other people's reactions; what is said; how
surface or how deep the conversation is. etc.

If you've ever been in love or been around two people who are in love, you
can definitely feel those kinds of vibrations, too. There is a

connective energy between these two people that is expressed through non-
verbal body language inspired and motivated by the feelings which emanate
from their hearts. How do they look at each other? How are other people
acting by being around them? What are you feeling just being in their
presence? In other words, what are you seeing, what are you hearing, what
are you sensing, what are you feeling, what are you thinking?

Have you ever had someone say something to you that cut you to the quick?
I'm sure most people have had this experience. WE know when our feelings
have been hurt, whether the person who made the cutting remark does or
not. Think about it . . . our FEELINGS have been hurt. What caused them to
be hurt? Where do these feelings come from in the first place; and why
would one person be hurt and another person not, in the same set of
circumstances? What makes the difference? Where do these feelings begin?

Chapter 3

Where Feelings Begin

Where DO feelings begin? Many of our feelings were established before we

were born. We entered this realm with some of them. We were sensitive to
the feelings our parents were experiencing during our gestation period.
These feelings often caused us to establish incorrect perceptions and beliefs
at the time they were being experienced. How is this possible? The
following information is from a collection of articles published in the 80's.

Until recently scientists believed that the infant was a virtual blank and,
following Freud's dictum, that only at two or three years of age could
personality begin to form. Gradually, however, over the last fifty years
investigators have begun to break through the ignorance, preconceptions,
and lack of data surrounding the prenatal and infant states to reveal a very
different picture of these early stages of life. This emerging view gives a
broader perspective on human consciousness and the intimate connections
among human beings, as well as new insights into the meaning and
responsibilities of parenthood.

Recent research on infants shows that even at birth the child has mastered
many sophisticated physical and psychological skills. It is increasingly clear
that the infant develops these skills in the prenatal period. In The Secret
Life of the Unborn Child,

Dr. Thomas Verny tells us that the unborn child is not 'the passive, mindless
creature of the traditional pediatrics texts.

'We now know that the unborn child is an aware, reacting human being who
from the sixth month on (and perhaps even earlier) leads an active
emotional life. Along with this startling finding we have made these
discoveries:
The fetus can see, hear, experience, taste and, on a primitive level, even
learn inutero.... Most importantly, he can feel— not with an adult's
sophistication, but feel nonetheless.' (Mysteries of Pre-natal Consciousness,
by Sarah Belle Dougherty, Sunrise Magazine, February/March 1990).

The article discusses the unborn's development and his sensitivity to light at
the sixteenth week of pregnancy. By the fourth month the unborn baby has
developed his basic reflexes which allow facial expressions. By the fifth or
sixth month the unborn is as sensitive to touch as a newborn.

From the 24th week on he hears all the time—listening to the noises in his
mother's body, and to voices, music, etc. Between 28 to 34 weeks his brain's
neural circuits are as advanced as a new bom's and the cerebral cortex is
mature enough to support consciousness; a few weeks later brain waves . . .
become distinct. Thus, throughout the third trimester he is equipped with
most of the physiological capability of a newborn.

Even more intriguing is evidence of the impact of the mother's and father's
attitudes and feelings on their unborn child. Based on the findings of many
other researchers as well as his own experience as a psychoanalyst, Dr.
Verny presents evidence that the attitude of the mother toward the
pregnancy and the child, as well as toward her partner, have a profound
effect on the psychological development of the child and on the birth
experience. The mother, by her patterns of feeling and behavior, is the chief
source of the stimuli which shape the fetus.

Communication between mother and her unborn child takes place in several
ways: physically (through hormones, for example), in behavior (the child's
kicking, the mother's job and environmental situation), and sympathetically
or intuitively (through love, ambivalence, dreams). One of the main means
for communication of maternal attitudes and feelings is the neurohormones
the mother releases, which increase when she is under stress. These
substances cross the placenta as easily as nutrients, alcohol, and other drugs
do. In moderation these hormones cause physiological relations in the child
which stimulate his neural and psychological systems beneficially, but in
excess they can affect the developing body adversely. Because of the child's
resilience, it is only extreme and generally, long lasting stress that leaves
marked negative effects, not isolated thoughts or incidents. Moreover, the
mother's love, acceptance, and positive thoughts for the unborn child act as
a very strong protection, so he will continue to thrive even if her own
situation is troubled. But if his needs for affection and attention are not met,
'his spirit and often his body, also, begin wilting.'

What the child experiences in the womb creates predispositions,

expectations, and vulnerabilities rather than specific qualities: we are
dealing with susceptibility, not predetermination. Increases in maternal
neuro-hormones—such as adrenaline, noradrenaline, and oxytocin—do,
however, heighten the child's biological susceptibility to emotional distress
by altering the portion of the child's autonomic nervous system which
controls physiological processes affecting personality structure. An excess
of such maternal hormones has been related to low birth weight, reading
difficulties, behavior problems, and gastric disorders. Cigarette smoking, by
reducing the amount of oxygen in the mother's blood, has been linked to
anxiety in infants traceable to the prenatal period. Most traumatic of all is
when the mother, due to illness, a severe loss, or hostility to the pregnancy,
withdraws her love and support from her unborn child. He

then falls into a depression, is apt to emerge as an apathetic newborn, and

may be plagued with depression throughout his life. In one case, a new-
born girl refused to bond with, or nurse from her own mother, though she
did not refuse other women. The mother, it turned out, had wanted to have
an abortion and bore the child grudgingly at the father's insistence. With
such mothers, the child lacks a feeling person to whom he can attach
himself. His mother becomes absorbed in herself and has no resources left
for the baby; nor can he bond with a woman overburdened with anxiety or
frustration.

The unborn child appears to distinguish very clearly between different types
of maternal stress. He is affected most strongly by the mother's negative or
ambivalent attitude toward the pregnancy, and also by a stressful
relationship between the mother and her partner or by a habitual high level
of anxiety and fear. As Dr. Verny puts it: 'If loving nurturing mothers bear
more self-confident, secure children, it is because the self-aware "I" of each
infant is carved out of warmth and love. Similarly, if unhappy, depressed or
ambivalent mothers bear a higher rate of neurotic children, it is because
their offsprings' egos were molded in moments of dread and anguish. Not
surprisingly, without redirection, such children often grow into suspicious,
anxious and emotionally fragile adults.'

He further informs us that,

The second most important pre-natal influence is the father's attitude toward
the pregnancy and his commitment to the relationship with the mother. One
investigator has estimated from his studies that women trapped in a stormy
marriage run 'a 237% greater risk of bearing a psychologically or physically
damaged child than a woman in a secure, nurturing relationship'—putting
her child at greater risk than would many physical illnesses, smoking, or
very heavy manual labor.

The article continues:

The birth experience itself is influential; very detailed birth memories can
be retrieved, and the more traumatic the birth experience, the higher the
correlation with physiological and psychological problems, including
serious disorders such as schizophrenia and psychosis. Again, the mother's
attitude has been demonstrated to be the most important factor in
determining the character of the birth. The vital factors in predicting the
ease and speed of labor are the mother's attitudes toward motherhood, her
relations to her own mother, and the presence of habitual worries, fears, and
anxieties going beyond normal apprehension. Along with these, women
trapped in an unsatisfying relationship fall into the high-risk category. Many
problems associated with birth trauma can be prevented or reduced by
increased understanding and sensitivity on the part of health professionals
and by the parents' choice of who delivers the baby and of a humane and
comfortable birth method and location.

That prenatal experiences carry over after birth is beyond dispute, as case
histories illustrate. In one, a man troubled with severe anxiety attacks
accompanied by hot flushes was regressed by hypnosis to the prenatal
period, and revealed that the underlying trauma had occurred in the seventh
month of pregnancy. His mother subsequently admitted trying to abort him
in the seventh month by taking hot baths. Such 'lost' memories form the
record of prenatal consciousness and they can influence us powerfully all
our lives.

Why is it, however, that adults almost universally have no memory of these
formative experiences without the aid of hypnosis, certain drugs, or various
psychoanalytical techniques— memories retrieved from the sixth, and
particularly the eighth month, showing that the brain is operating near adult
levels? One of the hormones which induce labor, oxytocin, has been

found to wipe out memory. During labor the child's system is flooded with
this chemical .... Another maternal hormone, ACTH (adrenocorticotropin
hormone), which regulates the flow of stress hormones, has the opposite
effect, helping to retain memory. Thus, each time the mother becomes
frightened or stressed, 'large amounts of the hormone flood into the child's
system, helping him to retain a clear, vivid mental picture of her upset and
its effect on him.' [This is extremely significant.]

Interestingly, psychiatrists who regularly regress patients to birth and

prebirth often report on experiences that appear to go as far back as
conception. Dr. Verny hypothesizes another, intuitive form of memory
which can be stored on a cellular level, allowing even an ovum or sperm to
record and retain memories. [The memory is recorded in the DNA, which
we will discuss further.]

The bonding between father and child also begins prenatal-ly. When a man
had spoken to his child before birth using short, soothing words, the child
one or two hours old picked out and responded to his voice. With both
parents, attention to the child is critical in the first four years of life. 'Next to
genetic inheritance, in fact, quality of parenting is the single most important
factor in shaping the depth and breadth of intellect.'

Empathy with the child and ability to see things from his perspective are
key factors to parents' success in stimulating and interacting with their
children. There is a marked correlation between rejecting or stressed
mothers and traumatic births on the one hand, and later psychological
problems and even violent criminal activity on the other. A more active,
supportive attitude toward unborn children would have a positive impact on
society as a whole by preventing or mitigating destructive personality
tendencies, and by giving children a start which meets their need as human
beings, not just as higher animals.

Parenthood, then, from its earliest stages is an inner as well as a physical

responsibility. Although the influence of physical

substances such as drugs (including alcohol and tobacco), viruses, and

nutrients on the well-being of the unborn is generally recognized, we're
only beginning to realize the parents' tremendous impact along
psychological and spiritual lines. Dr. Verny points out several practical
applications of this knowledge, such as providing psychological screening
to locate emotionally high-risk mothers, so that counseling could be offered
to them and steps taken to enhance the psychological and physical
development of the child; and also increasing use of more humane, gentle
birth practices on the part of medical professionals. His most insistent
message, however, is that each individual parent can help by striving to
provide a positive, loving psychological environment for the unborn child
and infant.

Widespread recognition of the delicate and intimate connections between

parent and child prenatally and in infancy will lead naturally to a more
realistic idea of the far-reaching responsibility of parenthood, and new
respect for the impact of our inner life on those around us. (Dr. Verny)

We are definitely influenced before we are born. We actually enter this

realm with predispositions and vulnerabilities. We were sensitive to the
feelings our parents were experiencing during our gestation period, often
establishing perceptions as they occurred. How is this possible?

According to The Incredible Machine, published by the National

Geographic Society, an adult human is an assemblage of some 100 trillion
cells. In every cell there exists a Universal pattern of Intelligence. This
Intelligence has been labeled DNA (deoxyribonucleic acid). There are a
least six billion steps of DNA in a single cell that record one life's blueprint.
The Incredible Machine tells us, "Through segments called genes, DNA
determines the make-up of every cell and the hereditary traits of each one of
us. DNA dictates the protein mix that fulfills our genetic inheritance." This
book further instructs us that the DNA has two key roles: "to direct the
creation of protein and to duplicate itself.

The DNA acts as a pattern for the formation of a chemical relative of DNA,
messenger RNA (mRNA)" (ribonucleic acid). The RNA bears its coded
message to its destination and transfers the message to a transfer tRNA to
be decoded.

Dr. Deepak Chopra, M.D., in his wonderful book, Quantum Healing, puts it
this way,

RNA's mission is to travel away from the DNA in order to produce the
proteins, more than 2 million in number, that actually build and repair the
body. RNA is like active knowledge, in comparison to DNA's silent
intelligence. This is how the cells know how and in what way to function,
not only during times of development, but in times of sickness, trauma,
emotional stress, accidents, healing and regenerating. In other words, the
DNA is the blueprint and the RNA carries out the building instructions.

There is a mind-body connection to the DNA. We can liken it unto a radio

broadcast. The mind is sending out impulses of intelligence, DNA receives
them.

You may not think that you can 'talk' to your DNA, but in fact you do
continually. Thinking happens at the level of DNA, because without the
brain cell sending out a neuro-peptide or

other messengers, there can be no thought Everything in

life pours out of DNA—flesh, bones, blood, heart, and nervous system; a
baby's first word and a toddler's first step; the maturing of reason in the
brain's cortex; the play of emotions, thoughts, and desires that flicker like
summer lightning through every cell. All of this is DNA.

Every feeling, every thought—every emotion we experience sends a

message to each cell in our body. Some messages are more intense and
more deeply-seeded than others, but, each cell is nonetheless affected,
either adversely or conversely (negatively or positively). It is not necessary
for us to be consciously aware of the message that our cells are receiving.
The cells are still being affected. Each DNA and subsequent-

ly, each cell is impacted by every feeling, every thought. . . every emotion
we experience. The message response from these feelings/thoughts
(emotions) that was sent to the cells of the body is registered in the DNA of
the cell. The depth and the strength of the message each cell receives is
determined by the intensity of the response to the message, and the intensity
of the feeling that is connected with it. This message is then imprinted in
the memory of each cell and creates an identity and an energy all it's own.
This cell memory is automatically and unconsciously referred back to when
the need arises. This same cell memory, thereby, governs our attitudes and
beliefs which then directs our behavior from that point on throughout our
life.

Barbara Ann Brennan, physicist, therapist, healer, research scientist for

NASA and author of Hands of Light, tells us that we, as human beings,
create according to our beliefs. She explains that the creation or
manifestation of disease takes place when a concept or belief is transmitted
(resonated or broadcast) from the mental, emotional, or other areas of our
Be-ing, into the physical energy field.

This information will become more meaningful and you will gain a clearer
understanding as you continue to read. But, for right now, how does this
relate to the feelings or thoughts of the parents affecting an unborn child?
To begin with, we all recognize that the sperm is a cell and the ova (egg) is
a cell. Thousands of DNA steps make up a single gene housed in that cell,
and tens of thousands of genes transmit instructions for that cell's existence.
These genes have their own programming or genetic coding, which has
already been established in the DNA.

When the sperm and the ova meet, they combine prior individual genetic
coding and programming from two different people . . . Mom and Dad. This
definite genetic programming is further affected by the feelings that Mom
and Dad are individually and collectively experiencing at conception and
during gestation, as shown at the beginning of the chapter. The fetus, then,
senses what is taking place in the parents lives and is dramatically affected
by the feelings and thoughts of the parents
at this particular time. Wouldn't it be ideal and wonderful if the lives of
everyone expecting a baby were going smoothly and brimming with
happiness? Fortunate are those who had this experience. But, alas, often this
is not the case. Let's look at some possible conditions that might exist
during those nine months of gestation.

Many couples are confronted with stressful challenges during these nine
months. Some may be having difficult marriage adjustments. There could
be heartache from the loss of a loved one. Other parents might be
experiencing serious problems or concerns with older children. Financial
struggles are very often a major issue. Some have a great deal of family
discord. Desertion or abandonment is not uncommon. There is the
possibility of resentment when mother finds herself pregnant which could
cause the baby to feel unloved, not wanted or rejected. (Think of the untold
numbers of unwanted pregnancies.) I have even counseled people who
picked up the feeling of rejection from one of their parents (or both) who
wanted the opposite sex of what they were. As you can see, the factors
influencing feelings in the unborn child are many and varied.

If you have had children, consider some of the feelings and thoughts
(emotions) you went through while you were expecting these children. (Or
would you rather forget?) Consider what your parents were experiencing
during your gestation period. As you now know, these emotions DO have
an affect on the unborn baby. And the effect can be an overwhelming
motivator in the life of a person. For nine months there is an incubation
period, not only for creating a child but, creating the feelings and
predispositions which arrive with the child.

During these nine months, the baby is incapable of rational thinking. But . .
. it (the baby) FEELS. Then, add to this, the trauma of the birth!

According to Joseph Chilton Pearce in his book, Magical Child:

... as the infant prepares for birth, it goes into an extreme stress state. This
stimulates ACTH to flow from the adrenal glands, preparing the body for
dramatic, drastic physical changes, alerting the body and brain of the infant
for fight or flight to accomplish the fast work that is to be done. And the
high-stress state the unborn infant body is in at this point, prepares the
infant to be highly receptive and very desperate for nurturing stimuli that
will reduce the stress.

What is that particular stimulus they are needing, and where does it come
from? The human mother is genetically programmed to nurture the
newborn's body by a continual gentle massage and stimulation. This is what
has been found in non-technological countries. Indeed, it creates a bonding.
Holding, with a body-molding of the infant to one's self; prolonged and
steady eye contact; smiling; and soothing sounds are other ways of bonding,
according to Zaslow and Breger, in their brilliant study of infantile autism.
Breast feeding, of course, furnishes all these at once. Body stimulus is what
needs to be added to that vital body-molding contact.

Not only were most of these elements missing in birthing for a great many
years, but during the process of birth the procedure of delivery was often
seriously delayed and complicated.

Drugs, particularly anesthetics, specifically slow up the synchronous

movements by which the infant is expelled from the womb, and delivery
gets extended to torturous lengths. Fear and anxiety build in the mother, and
pain follows swift and sure. The pain calls for more medication, as does
massive out-pouring of adrenal steroids preparatory to the great push and
adaptation, but the movement does not come. The baby's . . . body
continues its outpouring of hormones. Stress piles on stress; the

expected natural cycle of stress-relaxation is not forthcoming. After hours

of this, both mother and infant are exhausted.

Then there are all the medical interferences, the carelessness, and the
callousness. Coupled with the conditional reflex of fear and the operating
amphitheater atmosphere, that deadly table, and being forced to lie down
(or even be strapped down), which completely eliminates any last hope of
muscular coordination. This is followed by drugs that incapacitate both
mother and infant. (The average anesthetic passes through the placenta to
the infant in 45 seconds.) Long before delivery (deliverance), mother and
infant have been kept at a climactic point of tension, able to achieve no
resolution.
After the natural expulsion process is thoroughly fouled up, Mr. Pearce
explains,

Instrumentation like forceps and suction machines are casually used to claw
or suck the infant out of the mother's body. That beautiful, very sensitive,
fragile, precious little head is grabbed in order to expel it. And the mother
undergoes an epi-siotomy which cuts the mother in a manner that would be
considered major surgery at other times. This often causes permanent
damage. [How sad, especially when, according to Pearce, only in a rare
emergency could an episiotomy be justified.]

The semi-drugged, over-stressed, and exhausted infant is, of course,

generally unable to get his breath, even if given ample time to do so. The
many new, unused coordinates of muscles are confused and malfunctioning.
His body is reacting only; all synchronous interactions have long since been
destroyed. In addition to his prolonged body fear of oxygen deprivation,
when he is finally sucked or clawed out of the mother, his entry is into a
noisy, brilliantly lit arena of masked creatures and humming machines. (The
hum of fluorescent lighting alone is an overload, much less fluorescence
itself which, as the world's

greatest authority on lighting, John Ott, makes perfectly clear, is disastrous

to infants.)

Do you think the baby has any feelings during this process? Of course it
does! What could some of these feelings be? The feeling could possibly be
fear, due to the sensation of choking to death with the umbilical chord
wrapped around its neck. Or the fear could be from being separated from its
Source, and then its mother.

One of the more recent findings that sheds more light on the significant
impact of a baby's birth is that the minute the baby's skin is exposed to the
earth's atmosphere at birth, there is an automatic reflex that starts the
breathing process. If a baby is born breech, naturally it would inhale before
its head was out of the birth canal where fluid is possibly present. The baby
may then have the sensation of drowning due to inhalation of fluid.
The baby can also feel anger—anger at any number of things; having to be
separated from its Source, having to come here, having to go through the
trauma of birth, having to leave its mother, etc. Suffice it to say, whatever
feeling(s) baby is experiencing at birth, WITH THE FIRST BREATH THE
BABY TAKES, THIS FEELING IS SEALED IN THE FLESH (body);
ENCODED IN EVERY CELL OF THE BODY! This feeling that is
established in the DNA initiates in the baby the core/root of a pre-
supposition or belief system that becomes, forever after, the eye glasses
through which he views his life. This feeling literally governs the road he
travels for the rest of his life!

The beliefs or pre-suppositions that occur at birth, literally move us through

life subconsciously creating situations that validate these core beliefs.

Example: I had a 44-year old client who was born two months premature.
In the process of counseling Gayle, we found one of the behavior patterns
that frustrated her the most about herself was that she could never see
anything to completion. Gayle simply had a difficult time fin-

ishing things in all aspects of her life. We found the reason for this behavior
went right back to her birth. "It was as if I had been looking out a dark
window all my life, unable to see clearly." (Gayle's words in describing it.)
She literally was unable to envision herself completing things. When she
realized how her premature beginning had affected her whole life's pattern
—what her incorrect perception had done to her relationships (she was in
the process of her second divorce), and other aspects of her life—all of a
sudden the "dark window was filled with light," and she felt a great sense of
relief. The light appeared because Gayle finally came to an understanding
of why she could not finish commitments. She had not been able to see her
gestation period to completion, so for some unknown reason the belief
established internally— the master program that kicked in at birth—was for
her to not complete important events, relationships or responsibilities. This
behavior had flourished throughout Gayle's entire life in everything she did.
(The significance of this will become clearer later on.) Now, back to Mr.
Pearce:

Suction devices are rammed into the mouth and nose, the eyelids peeled
back to that blinding, painful light and far more painful chemicals dropped
into the open eyes. He is held by the heels and beat on the back or subjected
to a mechanical respirator: at this critical, oxygen-short period, the
umbilical cord has been cut. He is cleaned up a bit from the blood of the
episioto-my (which will knock his mother out of the picture for quite some
time); placed on cold, hard scales to be weighed like any other piece of
meat in a factory; bundled off to a nursery crib, screaming in pain and terror
if he is lucky; or rushed semi-conscious and half dead to an incubator, far
worse fate than a crib, if he is less lucky .... He has moved from a soft,
warm dark, quiet, and totally nourishing place into a harsh sensory
overload. He is physically abused, violated in a side variety of ways,
subjected

to specific physical pain and insult, all of which could still be overcome,
BUT HE IS THEN ISOLATED FROM HIS MOTHER.

During this process an important network of nerve cells called the reticular
activating system is dramatically influenced in the baby. This system helps
keep the brain awake and alert and helps regulate and coordinate many
brain functions. It brings together information from different parts of the
brain and from the sense organs, coordinating sensory messages and
helping regulate the activity of the brain. Nerve fibers from the reticular
system lead down the spinal cord to control the excitability of the spinal
cord and the position and tension of muscles. This reticular activating
system is the system that filters whether we come into the world with
LOVE-based feelings/emotions or FEAR-based feeling/emotions during
our birth.

And of course, the feeling/emotion that is unconsciously designated

(selected) at this time is determined by our experiences during the birthing
process and immediately thereafter. This is why it is of paramount
importance for the baby to be held next to the mother's heart— the
pulse/beat that he is so familiar with from the nine months gestation—and
be comforted by the mother for a least 45 minutes after his birth. If this
comfort takes place, the baby has a much better chance of embracing love-
based feelings/emotions rather than fear-based feelings/emotions.

An example of a baby remembering what transpired during his beginnings

on earth: Neighborhood friends of ours had a baby boy after having had
three girls. Needless to say, they were ecstatic! However, this baby boy,
whom we will call Kyle, had some problems at birth which made it
necessary for him to remain in the hospital for an extended period of time,
during which he was kept in an incubator.

Kyle was about 26 months old when his mother was showing him a
collection of pictures in a scrapbook she had just completed, of those early
days of his life in the hospital. When he looked at the very first

page and saw the graphic pictures of himself in an incubator with life-
support systems hooked up to him he started crying and blubbering, "Baby
wants his Mommy, Baby wants his Mommy!" The buried feelings which he
had experienced during those first few days of his life in the hospital were
emerging with great intensity. The memory of Kyle's ordeal flooded
through him with attending feelings, and he was extremely distraught over
feeling those feelings again ... the ones he had experienced in the hospital.
His expression of, "Baby wants his Mommy" is a pretty good indication of
the message he would have liked to communicate but couldn't, as he was
going through those first few days of his life.

Back to Mr. Pearce:

It is impossible to overstate the monstrousness of this final violation of a

new life. No book can ever express the full ramifications of this crime
against nature. This isolation neatly cancels every possible chance for
bonding, for relaxation of the birth stress, for the activation of the sensory
system for its extrauterine function, and for the completion of the reticular
formation for full mental-physical co-ordinates and learning.

The failure to return to the known matrix (mother) sets into process a chain
reaction from which that organism never fully recovers. ALL FUTURE
LEARNING IS AFFECTED. (Emphasis added.) The infant body goes into
shock. The absorbent mind shuts down. There will be little absorption again
because there is only trauma and pain to be absorbed. The infant then surely
exhibits only two states, fulfilling Spitz's expectations: 'quiescence,' which
means semi to full unconsciousness, and 'unplea-sure.' If awakened from his
survival retreat from consciousness, he is propelled back into a state of
unresolved high stress. He cries himself to sleep again. . . . Pleasure and
smiling will surely be much later in appearing, just about two and half
months later, because it will take that long for his unstimulated and iso-

lated body to compensate if it is to survive at all. The infant's body must

manage slowly to bring its own sensory system to life.

During this period of shock, sensory closure, and retrenchment, there is

virtually no development. How could there be? And all the other pre-
programmed stage-specific developments are systematically missed,
throwing the system farther behind.

We could go on and on. Some might say that Mr. Pearce is very extreme
and over dramatic in his description of this process. There is, however, a
large segment of the population that experienced birth the way he describes
it. He does paint a graphic and vivid picture of those first few hours of life
for the hospital born infant ... at least, the way it used to be. Perhaps the
emotion with which he describes it is an indication of the depth of his
feeling as to the injustice of the situation and the damage it has done and
can do.

With all of the foregoing in mind, try to imagine how this scenario impacts
the feelings of the helpless infant. No wonder rebirthing centers have
become so popular. No wonder countless people are striving to find the
cause of their discomfort, their emptiness and their suffering. Undoubtedly
they are looking for that comfort they never received at birth—the comfort
and bonding they were never allowed to experience.

During our very earliest moments of life, whatever the situation was, our
perception of life began. Our natural drive, however, was and is to return to
the place of comfort and peace—to return to comfort, period! The place
where we felt peace, love, tranquility and happiness, whether that realm
was before the womb or in the womb.

While being hurled through those first few experiences in life, we naturally
drew conclusions about our new sphere of existence, whether the comfort
took place or whether it didn't. If this comfort did take place, or however it
took place, has greatly determined the way we see our world. The feelings
we experienced as we went through the birthing
process and the events that immediately followed were the basis of our
perceptions. These perceptions then contributed to the foundation of our
beliefs. Our beliefs are established from the silent conclusions we draw
about our perceptions of what we feel.

As we took our place on this earth, our daily experiences continued to

validate or invalidate the beliefs established in those first hours of life. The
perceptions that created our beliefs, and the degree to which they were
validated, soon determined the pattern, or the road map, which we have
followed throughout our life.

At this point you may be asking, "Is there something the matter with that?"
Recall if you will, that feelings and thoughts have a definite energy; that
your body's energy (electrical) system has a blueprint which requires it to
be in balance and harmony if it is to function correctly. When negative/fear-
based feelings or thoughts are registered in the body, the perfect operating
energy patterns (circuits) of the body which keep it in balance, are
adversely impacted. The electrical system is short-circuited, creating a
block or mal-function in the system. These blocks obscure the memory of
perfection in the DNA of the cells—the original blueprint can no longer be
adhered to—all of which adversely influences our behavior and our health.
Each time a negative feeling-thought-belief is re-experienced and re-
validated, the energy surrounding the original block is reinforced and
compounded. Consequently, these energy blocks grow, becoming larger and
more powerful with time, unless the energy of that particular block is
changed. These energy blocks are the cause of our illnesses, our problems,
and our challenges in life.

How interesting—the detrimental effects of our fear-based feelings; that we

could be continually thwarted by those earliest negative feelings and
beliefs. Until we become consciously aware of these blocks and their
causative feelings/thoughts and are willing to transform the energy around
them, these feelings and their effects will be our constant companions.

Whatever you believe, with feeling, becomes your reality. You are the sum
total result of all your belief systems to this moment. Your beliefs form a
screen of logic or a screen of prejudices through which you see the entire
world. You never allow in any information that is inconsistent with your
beliefs, even if you have beliefs that are totally inconsistent with reality. To
the degree to which you believe these things to be true, they become true
for you. (Michael Wickett, It's All Within Your Reach)

Chapter 4

How Feelings Impact Our Lives

"I'm not important." This was the feeling that governed my beliefs and
controlled my life. This cloud of negative feelings, "I'm not important, so
I'm not worthy," created a hole that I could not find a way to fill. My
existence was very frustrated, but I didn't know why. This belief of mine
that "I am not important," was established because of the feelings I
experienced at my birth. Then I traveled through most of my life setting up
situations, subconsciously (of course), to prove that I was not important.

If the feelings we internalized during gestation or experienced at birth

caused us to feel rejected, we have been going through life unconsciously
setting up situations that cause us more feelings of rejection. Why? From
those first feelings of rejection, our perception subconsciously established
the belief in our mind-body that "Being Rejected" was the name of the road
upon which we were to travel through life. So each time the opportunity
presented itself, and in order to stay on our road, we unknowingly validated
this erroneous belief through our behavior. Because, you remember, our
mind—our ego—HAS to be right! So, subconsciously, our mind is just
doing its job by helping us carry out this belief.

Even though a significant number of our feelings originate during gestation

or at birth, not all of them do. Nevertheless, whatever or when-

ever our mind established a belief (subconsciously), the mind then lets us
help prove it right, for this allows it to be justified in that belief. The mind
directs and creates situations whereby it can fulfill whatever the belief is.
Consequently, most of us go through life continually driven to prove our
beliefs—without even knowing what they are most of the time. Going
unchecked, these beliefs become our self-fulfilling prophecies. And if we
don't experience validation of them, we don't feel comfortable. Having that
validation makes us comfortable at some level— like we're on the right
track, even though it may hurt like hell. How many of us have been going
through life with incorrect perceptions and beliefs about ourselves without
realizing it?

For some reason, when the mind is validated as being right and justified it is
interpreted on the inside that we are in our place of Comfort and Peace
(from the discussion in Chapter Two), that place which first provided us
with warmth and security—where we yearn to return. Being validated also
gives a quasi-feeling of being in control (and remember, we all want to be
in control). This state of Be-ing—finding and enjoying our place of
Comfort and Peace —is only momentary and very short-lived, however.
Why? Because it is based on an incorrect perception, an untruth. Many of
us are continually frustrated (subconsciously) due to the inner conflict of
not really enjoying the situations we've been driven to create—the
situations we unknowingly orchestrated (when we proved our belief was
right). The inability to hang on to that feeling of being in control, or of
being Comfortable and Peaceful, is frustrating. In reality it is NOT a place
of Comfort and Peace at all! Talk about a war going on inside!

Deep, deep inside (subconsciously), all of us desire feeling the same quality
we knew inutero or before we were born. Consequently, we are generally ill
at ease or frustrated by our inability to find it. Regardless of how diligently
we strive to find and experience our comfort and peace, we are
unknowingly driven to create disorder or dysfunction in our lives. We do
this by having to be right about something which

the mind perceives incorrectly—based on those erroneous beliefs embraced

at birth. And so, this becomes a lose-lose situation for us more often than
we know.

For some of us it seems the more we strive, the more comfort and peace
eludes us. Our innate drive to arrive at this place and take up residence
creates inconsistencies in our life's experiences with no rhyme or reason.
And for some of us, the more we strive, the more chaos we experience.
Others of us never seem to achieve the results (on an on-going basis) we are
seeking in various areas of our lives. Therefore, we may experience more
and more frustration—which could eventually lead to our giving up.
When we reach this point we may presume that we have no control over our
lives. "Complete helplessness or hopelessness" could be the feeling we
experience, which, in turn, can lead to the feeling of, "Oh, what's the use?"
And then we "throw in the towel" and fold up.

An example of this happened with a client whom I'll call Sarah. Sarah just
recently divorced for the second time. She is extremely desirous of having a
loving, caring, companionable man in her life. Sarah is very attractive and
fun to be around. It's not a challenge for her to attract men to her. Her
challenge comes in having them show appreciation for her and take her
seriously. She finds herself being the aggressor, which she doesn't want to
be. Sarah has a real NEED FOR APPROVAL, but when she doesn't seem to
be receiving the approval she needs so desperately, she worries and frets
beyond reason ... to the point of almost giving up. However, Sarah has now
come to realize that when she approves of herself, she will then be able to
attract that quality in others with whom she would like to associate. After
using the tool to process her feelings involved with this predicament, her
situation improved greatly and she started feeling better about herself. As I
write this, Sarah is on a journey to healing using the tool I will share with
you later in the book. The improvements she has experienced in her life
from using the tool are becoming apparent. Each day she gains more confi-

dence in her ability to deal with her own feelings. With consistent use of
this tool Sarah will be able to significantly change the feelings and beliefs
that cause her any discomfort in this area of her life.

Let's look at some of the characteristic qualities we, as human beings, create
in our lives as we are striving to return to our place of Comfort and Peace.
Have you ever known anyone who seems to purposely (subconsciously, of
course), and continually experience chaos in their relationships with other
people? They are unable to keep friends for long periods of time—
constantly looking for new friends that will accept them, relate to them,
identify with them and be loyal to them.

Perhaps you've known someone who is always manipulating or trying to

control others. Those who try to control, characteristically, need to be right.
If they are right, then they feel they are in control. They won't let down their
veneer or facade for fear of letting someone see they might not have it "all
together." If you ask them how things are going, they will always tell you,
"Everything is great." But, in reality they may be hurting deeply or feeling
very inadequate or insecure because of some of their unresolved feelings.
They never want you to see or perceive them as lacking in any area of their
life. That would be too much for them.

People who feel inferior are often the ones who allow others to control them
. . . use them for a door mat, time after time. Their motto is, "Keep peace at
all costs." (And it usually costs them their inner peace or their peace of
mind.)

Then there are other people who seem to take advantage of family, friends
and associates. They use everyone to their advantage with little regard for
anyone else's welfare. They are forever insensitive as to what is going on
outside themselves.

Have you ever known a person who always has to have things done their
way? (Sometimes they could be considered perfectionists, and sometimes
they may not.) This is someone who never allows anyone else to be in
charge, whether it has to do with something around the

house, around the office, at a party or on an outing. And when they insist on
doing everything their way—not letting anyone else help—they often act
like martyrs, seeming to want to make others feel guilty because of all the
work they are doing. When the event is over and they are exhausted, they
characteristically gasp, moan and sigh, "I'm all right—don't pay any
attention to me."

Then there are the rescuers and the pleasers. These are those people who
feel they must make everything right or solve everyone's problems, so they
keep their antenna poised, always looking for people to help. They
seemingly feel responsible for each person's ills and want to have the
solutions for everyone else, but are usually unable to see the root of their
own problems. Generally, the rescuer or pleaser is suffering from deep-
seeded feelings of rejection (which they don't realize). It is this type of
person who often has numerous health problems.
Some people may be unable to adequately communicate and express their
feelings to their loved ones, or anyone else for that matter. Often this type
person, because of an inability to communicate, experiences a total lack of
coping skills and eventually withdraws from society, hibernating in their
own little world.

Then there are those at the other end of the spectrum who seem to talk just
to hear themselves talk. What they have to say is usually irrelevant or
mindless chatter. They want to be included in what's going on around them,
but lack the confidence or social skills to be able to be part of the group, so
they always seem to be on the outside looking in, just hoping that what they
have to say will be accepted or appreciated and help them be part of the
group. Often, these people are their own worst enemy. Instead of being
included, they repel themselves from others, no matter how much they want
acceptance, to be liked and to have friends.

Most of us have known people who have one health problem after another,
or someone who has a major health problem that has stayed with them most
of their life. And there are others who have less significant challenges with
their health, but seem to have something the mat-

ter with them all the time. These people can be found in the doctor's office
every other week, looking unsuccessfully for the answers to their problems.
I know one woman who judges how alive she is by how sick she is. That is,
by how many aches and pains she can count. She then keeps the aches and
pains alive and well by continually talking about them to whomever she
converses with. What she doesn't understand is that the more she talks about
her aches and pains, the more energy she gives them and the more she
reinforces her illness. (This holds true with any kind of problem.)

Whatever the case may be, whether the illness is serious or insignificant,
these people never seem to get to the core of their predicament no matter
how long or how hard they look.

Then there are those who have a difficult time getting ahead financially in
this life. No matter how conscientious they are, it's a real challenge for them
to obtain permanent employment. They may go from job to job without
much success at all. Or, they may have a good job, but never seem to have
enough money to cover their financial obligations. They are never able to
buy or afford a decent car, and they can rarely buy new clothes. They seem
forever deprived, which appears to be their plight in life. Yet, other people
with a similar set of circumstances make it fine on a comparable income.
What makes the difference? (We'll come back to this later.)

You may have known someone who seems to have a combination of the
above examples working against them much of the time. What's their story?
Some people have one sort of tragedy after another. Is it their fate in life, or
is it something they sadly, but unconsciously created? Applying the Law of
Cause and Effect (Chapter Two), we begin to understand the reason for all
these kinds of conditions in peoples lives.

Any or several of the above described characteristics (as well as those

unmentioned) are indicators of being out of harmony with natural laws.
When our Be-ing is subconsciously seeking to return to Comfort and Peace,
in order for It (our Be-ing) to get our attention, often it is nee-

essary for It to create pain or discomfort. For, if we experience pain or

discomfort long enough, we usually start looking for the answers . . .
answers that will lead us back to real comfort and peace.

What we don't realize is that our ultimate unconscious goal is to come to

understand who we really are. How else would we be driven to know our
truth? Isn't it by desiring to understand why life isn't working for us that we
begin searching for answers? What else would motivate us to start looking
for the causes of our effects—for what makes us "tick"? It is for the purpose
of searching, understanding, and finally discovering our Real Self.

So, take a REAL GOOD LOOK at what is going on inside if you identify
with any of these characteristics. What are your thoughts? What are your
feelings? If the negative conditions in your life are on-going and the
patterns are repeated over and over again, this is telling you— screaming at
you—that you are definitely out of harmony with natural Laws—God's
laws—the laws of the Universe. It's time to wake up! Elevate your
consciousness and locate the cause of your effects.
One of the more obvious indications that your feelings and thoughts are
inharmonious or out of sync with natural laws is when health problems
appear. Illness reminds you of your purpose in life—to return to the original
pattern of balance—the memory of perfection. Pain of any kind lets you
know that you are out of tune with natural laws. God is trying to
communicate to you through your body, and pain is one sure way He gets
your attention. It is most unfortunate, however, that very often a person
doesn't listen or won't listen to this communication. Consequently, the
message does not get through.

Barbara Ann Brennan, in her book Hands of Light, puts it another way:

Illness is the result of imbalance. Imbalance is a result of forgetting who

you are. Forgetting who you are creates thoughts and actions that lead to an
unhealthy life-style and eventually to

illness. The illness itself is a signal that you are imbalanced because you
have forgotten who you are.

Illness can thus be understood as a lesson you have given yourself to help
you remember who you are.

Still another author, Dr. David Frawley, O.M.D., who penned Ayurvedic
Healing tells us that disease is, at the least, a spiritual opportunity, if not a
sign of spiritual crisis or change. And, according to the main spiritual
teaching of ancient India, disease is a vehicle whereby the truth of life and
the truth of one's own self can be revealed. Could disease be a sign of
wrong action in life? Could it also be an indication that the soul is directing
its energy within? Either way disease requires a spiritual reexamination of
our lives, particularly if the disease is severe. Hence, in order to understand
and resolve any disease, self-examination is the first step and fundamental
basis in accomplishing this.

Dr. Bernie Siegel, in his wonderful book, Love, Medicine & Miracles, says,
"I suggest that patients think of illness not as God's will but as our deviation
from God's will."

Dr. Siegel goes on to tell us,

I feel that all disease is ultimately related to a lack of love, or to love that is
only conditional, for the exhaustion and depression of the immune system
thus created leads to physical vulnerability. I also feel that all healing is
related to the ability to give and accept unconditional love. I am convinced
that unconditional love is the most powerful known stimulant of the
immune system. If I told patients to raise their blood levels of immune
globulins or killer T cells, no one would know how. But if I can teach them
to love themselves and others fully, the same changes happen automatically.
The truth is: love heals.

The most important law of the universe is LOVE. Love of self and love of
others. We cannot wait to be loved before we love. We just need to love! I
heard Dr. Gerald Jampolsky speak at a meeting and his words

were to this effect: "Whatever the problem, love is the answer. Whatever the
fear, love is the answer. Love is all there is. Whatever the question, love is
the answer."

If we truly love, that love casts out all fear. The King James version of the
Bible tells us: "There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear;
because FEAR HATH TORMENT" (Emphasis added).

He that feareth is not made perfect in love." (Uohn 4:18)

How many and what are the conditions, situations, people and experiences
you fear? Think about it.

How does love cast out fear? Real love is unconditional. Real love accepts
the perfection of all . . . accepts that EVERYTHING is perfect just the way
it is, and EVERYONE is perfect just the way they are! When we accept
everything and everyone just the way they are, there is no reason to find
fault or judge. When we are able to accept the perfection in everything and
everyone, the ego doesn't get bogged down with it's fears—fear of not being
equal; fear of being rejected; fear of not being good enough; fear of failure;
fear of success; fear of the future; fear of being unworthy; or whatever the
fears may be.
Unconditional love accepts the perfection of all people and all situations
just the way they are. This statement can be confusing because most people
want to be better. Too often we look at our incorrectly perceived problems
and our incorrect perception of others' faults and we think they are not
perfect—that the perfection is to change—that we can't be perfect until we
are changed, or someone else is changed. The problem is, too many of us
are so emotionally involved in trying to get others to change that we fail to
realize that the only person we can really change is numero uno—number
one, OURSELF! Someone said to me recently, "We're always trying to get
the tree out of the other persons' eye." What a graphic way to refer to the
mote and the beam in the eye.

In her book, Minding the Body, Mending the Mind, Dr. Joan Borysenko
invites us to:

See people for who they are instead of who you want them to be. Then
accept them as they are rather than judging them for who they are not. The
more accepting you become of yourself, the more you can see others in the
same light. The core of every human being is the same—unconditioned
consciousness—the Self. See the Self in others. If you are religious or
spiritual, you can think in terms of seeing the divine in one another. Honor
your own Self and honor the Self in others. The Eastern greeting Namaste is
similar in meaning to Hebrew and Hawaiian greetings. It means, The Self in
me honors and salutes the Self in you.' (My Self salutes Your Self.)

Ponder during your daily activities and interactions how much energy is
used up in defending various positions that make you feel 'right,' worthy,
okay. When you begin to realize your own precious, unique self-worth, the
need to define yourself will diminish, and your body will naturally relax.

When we are finally able to release the need to be right and can accept
everything and everyone as being perfect, a shift of major proportions takes
place in us. In Love, Medicine & Miracles, Dr. Siegel states, "You can't
change your shortcomings until you accept yourself despite them. I
emphasize this because many people, especially those at high risk of cancer,
are prone to forgive others and crucify themselves."
There is no reason to feel that you or someone else must change before you
can be happy. YOU are the only one you can change . . . and it's necessary
to accept yourself despite your shortcomings, before you can change. YOU
are the only one who can make YOU happy! When we accept ourselves the
way we are, we increase our ability to change, and when we start to change,
those around us do likewise.

We may still recognize when someone would be happier if they chose to

change, but, we also understand that it's much easier for us to allow them to
change in their own way and at their own speed without our help—as we
are not the one responsible for making that change in them. When we arrive
at this place in our knowledge and understanding, we naturally move
forward in life with more ease. We are more open, more receptive and more
able to gain further understanding and knowledge. We are more tolerant and
accepting of the experiences that challenge us and teach us those things
which are necessary for our learning and growth. These growth experiences
will no longer be a hard procedure we feel we HAVE to go through, but
rather one of anticipation that we GET to go through.

The wonderful prospect and attitude of accepting everything and everyone

as being perfect, is, that change is also perfect! What you are going through
is perfect. It will cause you to move toward the growth you are to
experience, gaining the understanding or learning the lessons that are
necessary for you to learn in this life. With this frame of mind, your life
becomes more fluid—more flowing without you feeling the need to always
run things your way, thereby blocking God's way.

There is a purpose for every challenge and every situation in which we find
ourselves. THE PURPOSE IS FOR LEARNING AND GROWTH—and
FOR GETTING TO KNOW WHO WE REALLY ARE. After attaining this
frame of mind, we get to consciously choose how we will react, how we
will manage, and what we will do with these challenges. The depth and
width of the growth we experience will be determined by these choices.
Sometimes our choices may not result in growth instantly, at the moment,
because we may have made a negative choice. By that, I mean a choice that
brings negative results. But even in the negative choice, we still experience
consequences that will eventually bring us around to positive choices ... or
choices that bring positive results.

When we are mindfully conscious of what is taking place in our lives, and
are willing to make a shift from the victim role to the role of master
(explained in Chapter Two), our mindfulness will motivate us to make wiser
choices on a daily basis. This can eventually lead us to the kind of growth
and development that will ultimately bring the Comfort and Peace to our
Be-ing for which we have been seeking and longing.

The more we avoid or resist what we may consider in our mind to be an

undesirable person or an undesirable situation, the more we block the flow
of energy that facilitates change. When we are able to view the less-than-
desirable occurrences in our lives as learning experiences, or minor
inconveniences on our road towards growth and fulfillment— knowing that
is is perfect for the time—these undesirable experiences won't seem nearly
as terrible, as awful or as lengthy while we are moving through them.

And how does this work? It all comes back to love. Love is accepting what
is. Put another way, unconditional love is understanding, accepting and
letting go of any disagreement or issue. Whatever the condition or situation
is, let it go—let it be. Oliver Wendell Holmes once said, "Love is the master
key that opens the gates of happiness." And what is the key that opens the
gates of love? Forgiveness. Forgiveness of self and forgiveness of others.
Forgiveness also opens the gates to peace of mind. (See Chapters 15 & 16
in Healing Feelings . . . From Your Heart for the "how to.")

When you DO NOT see yourself and the situations in your life as being
perfect, there is no energy for anything to change. You stop the flow of
energy. We all know women who desperately want a child and cannot
conceive. They adopt and months later they find themselves pregnant. I
know a woman who in her late thirties finally adopted a baby. Due to a long
history of female problems she was scheduled for a hysterectomy. At her
pre-operative exam, she found out that she was pregnant! SHE HAD
GIVEN UP RESISTING—SHE HAD ACCEPTED THE

PERFECTION OF HER SITUATION. We all have that power. We give up

that power when we do not accept WHAT IS. We stop the flow of energy
surrounding it.

If we want our mate to change, first WE must love them the way they are.
Then the space for change is created. We need to love our illnesses because
love heals ... it allows wellness (wholeness) to move in (to take place).
Trying to change things without first accepting them as they are is like
wearing Chinese handcuffs ... the harder you try, the more resistance you
create. Relax. Let the energy flow. Accept the perfection. Feel the love.
Now you can manifest anything. (Jackie Pratt)

Discomfort does not last unless we resist it. "That which we resist, persists."
If we stop and think about it, most of us will agree that this is certainly true.
When we resist a pain or a situation, sometimes that very thing we want to
eliminate or ignore becomes more glaring. As you will recall, everything
has an energy, and when we try to force or manipulate a situation (problem
or energy) to our pleasing, we are forcing or pushing to make it happen.
When we do this, it's just like a child trying to put a square peg in a round
hole. No matter how strong his will, or how hard he works, or how good his
intention, he will never be successful in accomplishing this task. It will
never happen!

Having money worries is another example of how this principle functions.

The more we worry about where enough money will come from to pay our
bills or buy what we need or want, the tighter our grip becomes on that
energy. We could safely say, "The more we squeeze, the tighter it gets." So,
when we continually worry, we squeeze the money energy so tightly that it
literally dies—we choke it to death! Let go of the choking, the forcing, the
pushing, the worry. Do your best to establish the faith that when you are
doing your part, you know the necessary finances will always be available
to you. Worry is negative and faith is positive. Faith and worry cannot
occupy the same space at the same time. So, which one would you rather
have working in your life for you,

the negative or the positive? You can't afford the luxury of a negative
thought! Let go of the "have to" and allow the natural flow of things to
occur. Then life flows much easier and is more enjoyable.
I'm not suggesting you do away with goals or other plans for your life. I'm
suggesting that you be flexible. Then if situations or opportunities seem to
take you in a different direction than planned, you will be more willing to
flow with it. You might find it much more exciting and beneficial than the
original plan. Keep in mind that everything happens to us for our own good,
for a reason ... for our experience and growth.

When we heighten our awareness to the point of recognizing that the pain,
the challenges and the changing of plans could be an indication of another
opportunity to grow—really stop and look at it—then life can become a
game, a party, and it will be a lot more fun! Heighten your awareness . . .
pay attention. Or, as Dr. Borysenko suggests, be mindful of every aspect of
your life.

Ellen J. Langer suggests in her book, Mindfulness, that we are like

programmed automatons when we are mindless, treating information in a
rigid and narrow-minded way, as though the information were true
regardless of the circumstances. Whereas, we are open to surprise when we
are mindful-oriented in the present moment, being sensitive to context, and
above all, we are liberated from the tyranny of old mindsets.

Wake up! Open your consciousness. Be enthused about becoming more

aware of what you are feeling, of what you are thinking, of every word you
speak and of how you act or react in everything you do! Pay attention!
Awareness causes results. When you become more aware of the challenges
as they occur and see them for the opportunities they are, opportunities for
growth—give thanks for what you are experiencing.

Miracles happen when you express gratitude to God. Praise Him and give
thanks in all things! JOY is preceeded by gratitude. And doesn't it say in the
scriptures, "Man is that he might have joy?"

You are now at the beginning of the return road back to that place of
Comfort and Peace, and to the memory of your perfection.

Chapter 5

The Importance of Becoming Single-Minded

In your search for the answers to life's problems—with a desire to effect a
social-physical-mental-emotional or spiritual healing; to experience a
higher degree of joy, success and happiness—you may have tried achieving
your goals by incorporating various methods of self-improvement. Positive
affirmations is one method lauded by many who have experienced
significant results. Positive self-talk (Shad Helmstetter wrote two books that
contain superlative guidance on this subject) is another approach
incorporated by numerous individuals with much success. Perhaps you've
had results working with one or more of these principles, because they are
correct principles and they can be effective.

Innumerable people through eons of time have attained emotional healing

and peace with the age-old, tried and proven tool of meditation. In my
opinion, meditation is one of the best and most effective tools we can use.
Visualization is also an excellent tool. I use them both on a daily basis,
recognizing the definite difference they make in my life. Motivational tapes
have their place in helping us gain understanding and insight as to what
makes us tick. There is an abundance of viable, effective procedures
available to assist change, if a person is looking. To talk to someone who
has experienced desirable results in their life from

using these various methods is very enlightening. Undoubtedly, many lives

have been affected as a result of applying some of these principles. How
fortunate we are to have so many avenues available to us when we are
ready to move forward on our journey toward obtaining the peace and joy
we are seeking.

Getting our lives back in balance, in alignment, in harmony is what it's all
about. We need to learn how to put our Intelligence, Higher Self, Spirit,
Super-Conscious, Creative Source—or whichever we choose to call it—
back in charge of our Be-ing. Whatever we use to attain this balance, will
come together faster, more solidly and be longer lasting and more effective
IF we are single-minded in the process. Until that time, for many of us,
confusion will reign supreme, and the peace and joy that we seek in life will
be evasive. Until we learn to achieve balance we will have our up days (real
good days), but we will also have many down days (not so good days). A
measure of how we are doing will be obvious by the state of our health, our
finances, our relationships; or, in other words, by our success in each area
of our life.

Do you ever ask yourself the question, "Why isn't my life going the way I
want it to?" Are you experiencing desired results? If the answer is "no", it
could be due to your very earliest programming. What were the erroneous
beliefs you or someone else unknowingly programmed? What were the
incorrect perceptions you established? What cell memories are stifling your
progress? You probably don't know at this point. You just realize you could
certainly benefit from being able to do something different.

If you desire better results on a day-to-day basis, it is necessary to realize

that "you create your own reality." Some of you may have heard this before,
others may not. So, you might ask, "What do you mean by, I create my own
reality?"

On a subconscious level you create your own reality with your feelings and
your thoughts regardless of when, where or how they were established!
After reading Chapter Three you can undoubtedly under-

stand how your very earliest feelings determine your beliefs. And in turn,
your beliefs determine your thoughts. Your thoughts are seeds and you plant
them in very fertile soil (feelings) that has been prepared from conception
and infancy. When you plant your seeds (thoughts), you nourish (water)
them by continually holding onto the thought with deep intensity. When a
thought (seed) and a feeling (soil) are harbored, germination takes place and
an energy is naturally released into the forces of creation. An emotion is
created and the synergy of what has been created grows a crop. It creates
your reality—is the cause of your effect— whether that crop is good or bad,
desirable or undesirable. This is all done on a subconscious level.

In other words, when a strong feeling connects with a thought (or vice-
versa) an emotion is created. The point where feeling and thought meet is
also the place where vibration is released, and vibration is life! Thus, your
reality is created by your feelings and your thoughts.

Many books have been written on this subject, so I won't go into more
detail here. It could be the basis of a complete book in and of itself. Suffice
it to say, OUR VERY OWN FEELINGS AND THOUGHTS ARE WHAT
CREATE THE CIRCUMSTANCES THAT BRING OUR LIFE TO US!

What usually precedes or follows a thought? A feeling. And the feeling is

what rules our mind-heart. Another way of saying it is, we always get the
prayer of our heart. What does that mean? We do feel with or in our heart,
don't we.

Interestingly enough, Dr. Christian Bernard is reported to have made the

statement that a person would not be able to live for a very long period of
time on an artificial heart as it does not have brain cells. In order for a
person's heart to function on a continual basis, it must have brain cells.

Why is this? It has to do with the DNA and the RNA. In order for the
harmonious flow of life to continue in a human being, the part of the cell
that contains the blueprint or intelligence (DNA) and the part of the

cell that carries out the instructions (RNA) has to have directions. An
artificial heart is void of this intelligence (DNA). In my opinion, the mind is
too intricately connected with the heart for the body to be without this organ
for an extended period of time and be able to function as a normal human
being.

Points of interest are references the Bible makes to the mind-heart

connection, indicating clearly that the DNA is involved in this process.
Following are just some of these Biblical references regarding heart and
mind:

Genesis 6:5

And God saw that the wickedness of man was great in the earth, and that
every imagination of the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually.

Proverbs 23:7

For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he . . .

Matthew 9:4
And Jesus knowing their thoughts said, Wherefore think ye evil in your
hearts?

Acts 8:22

Repent therefore of this thy wickedness, and pray God, if perhaps the
thought of thine heart may be forgiven thee.

These scriptures give us clear indication and appreciation that the heart and
the mind are inseparable. And whatever goes on in our heart or mind
definitely affects our actions and therefore, our whole Be-ing. "But how
does this work?" you may ask. It has to do with our brain, which has two
sides.

The left brain is the thinking and the conscious side. The right brain is the
feeling and the subconscious side. If we THINK in our brain that we want
something in our life, but, we unknowingly FEEL in our

heart that we are not worthy of it, we will generally not receive it. You see
—our FEELING will win, rather than our THINKING. When the two sides
of the brain are not in agreement, there is inner conflict or war, and that
conflict will remain in place until agreement is reached—until both sides of
the brain come together.

In order for us to experience in life what we THINK we desire, the

THINKING and the FEELING have to be in unison. If the FEELING is not
the same as the THINKING, then we need to change the FEELING so that
it becomes the same as the THINKING. After we align the THINKING and
the FEELING so they are the same, we become single-minded. Until we
accomplish this, we are double-minded and life works against us. When we
are single-minded about what we desire in life, life works for us because,
the FEELING, or heart, always wins. What we FEEL is literally the "prayer
of our heart," and we always receive the "prayer of our heart!"

Do you recognize the importance, now, of being single-minded?

James 1:8
A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.

If we want to locate what we feel and think in regards to a particular belief,

we can perform a muscle response test (kinesiology). As an example, we
could ask a person who would like a greater income if he THINKS he
desires an income of $100,000 a year and the test arm will hold strong.
Now, let's ask that same person if he FEELS he desires an income of
$100,000 a year. Unless his thinking and feeling are in unison, his arm will
go weak on the muscle response test when asked this question. Perhaps it
goes weak because he FEELS he doesn't deserve $100,000, or he can't be a
good person if he earns $100,000, or he does not have the capability of
earning $100,000 in a year. The point is, the thinking and feeling are not
together. THE FEELINGS, WHICH ARE

IN THE MIND-HEART, ALWAYS WIN. THE PRAYER OF THE HEART

IS ALWAYS ANSWERED!!

Did you ever wonder why positive affirmations work for some people and
not for others? For those who do not experience results it's because the
feeling and the thinking are not together. And for those who do experience
results, it's usually because their feeling and thinking are together. When the
feeling and thinking are not together it will usually take a long time, but if a
person continues saying affirmations long enough, it is possible for the
feeling and thinking to come together and effect a change. It's called, once
again, becoming SINGLE-MINDED. Another way to describe this
phenomena is that we become integrated— bringing together the thinking-
conscious left brain with the feeling-subconscious right brain—so that the
two sides of the brain are no longer separate, but have become a whole,
compatible unit. When we establish this unity, real power is created.

Answers often come immediately when we are single-minded in our

requests. This explains why some people receive answers to prayer and
others do not. The people who receive answers are single-minded. They not
only THINK God will answer, they FEEL He will answer, which adds up to
KNOWING Everyone who asks with the heart receives answers. Being able
to do this unlocks an unlimited force in our life! However, in order to bring
this about it is essential that we be willing to own our negative feelings and
thoughts without blaming or shaming ourselves or anyone else, and
honestly look at the issues in our life. If we can't do this we are not being
true to ourselves. We are laboring in self-deception or shame. And there is
no place for self-deception or shame in this process.

Are you able to identify your feelings? Most feelings are registered on a
subconscious level, so when you get in touch with your feelings, you are
also in touch with your subconscious. The conscious mind only functions in
the past and its illusion of the future, whereas, the subconscious mind
functions in the NOW. In what seems to be the non-

"Feelings Buried Alive Never Die.

knowing, non-factual mind (the subconscious) is, in reality, the all-knowing

mind. All the answers to your challenges are contained therein.

When you can communicate with your own feelings, you are able to
communicate more positively with others. This is the key to successful,
healthy relationships as well as to vibrant physical, mental and spiritual
health.

GET RID OF GARBAGE—THE COVER UP—IN ORDER TO TAP INTO

THE REAL YOU!

MINDFULNESS

* MINDFUL OF THOUGHTS

* xMINDFUL OF WORDS

* IDENTIFIES FEELINGS

Brain Hemisphere Functions

LEFT BRAIN

THINKING

RIGHT BRAIN
FEELINGS

SINGLE MINDED

POWER

ABILITY TO ACT

LIFE CHANGES

HEALTH

PEACE

JOY

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For those of you who are not familiar with the functions of the Left-Right
hemispheres of the brain, the following will contribute to a clearer
understanding. This illustration does not exemplify all the aspects of the
Left-brain, Right-brain functions. To keep this as simple as possible, the
characteristics listed here most closely typify the qualities of the brain that
are significant for our purposes.

Left Brain (CONSCIOUS)

Right Brain (SUBCONSCIOUS)

THINKER

LOGICAL

ANALYTICAL

PRACTICAL

MOVER

SEQUENTIAL

DUALITY

WORDS

WILL

MATERIAL

CELEBRATION

EXPRESS

CREATIVE

FEELING

INTUITIVE

ARTISTIC

NURTURER

EMOTIONAL

UNITY

IMAGES
POWER

SPIRITUAL

REVERENCE

SILENT

Remember, when we FEEL one thing and we THINK the same one thing,
we are functioning from our whole brain. We are no longer at war inside
(where that one feeling/thought is concerned). We no longer experience
inner turmoil. We are no longer double-minded. We are then single-minded
in that one area ... on that one particular issue. The internal conflict is over
and life responds by offering us peace of mind.

Chapter 6

Erasing Illusions

Illusions represent unreal or incorrect perceptions They are fantasies,

imaginings, false notions, misbeliefs and mis-conceptions.

In the exciting process of learning to communicate with yourself, (and it is

a process), you develop an increased sensitivity as to how your thinking and
feeling processes operate. As your awareness and sensitivity become more
finely tuned regarding what and how you are thinking, you will become
more astute in recognizing each thought, whether negative or positive, as it
enters your mind. Thoughts are an indication of what you are feeling at the
moment . . . feelings of which you may be totally unaware. So, the more
often you recognize and can identify the underlying feeling behind each
thought as it pops into your mind—the more proficient you will become at
getting in touch with what you are actually feeling.

This whole process—the thinking/feeling process—is SO subtle that you

will want to develop this heightened awareness on a consistent basis in
order to experience the results you are seeking.
When a feeling is aroused, it is usually triggered by a belief or a system of
beliefs previously established within you. When this happens, the feeling
will be followed by a flood of thoughts or by more feelings. This concept
may seem complicated, and perhaps you are wondering why I am putting
such emphasis here. Unless you learn where the focal

point begins, the effectiveness of what you can accomplish will be limited.

Even though we don't consciously think about what we are thinking (most
of the time), our thinking occurs in the conscious part of us. Whereas, the
feeling is in the subconscious part of us. The challenge is in getting to the
subconscious.

Your prime responsibility is to tune in to your inner dialogue. Discover

those thoughts in your mind that keep looking for a home. Learn to
recognize mindless chatter, prattle or self-talk. As you listen to your inner
dialogue, focus on what it is you are saying to yourself. This is where the
transfer point, or the shift to awareness begins.

To illustrate this concept let's look at a hypothetical situation: One day at

work you unexpectedly receive a notice that the boss wants to talk to you
later in the day. This is thoroughly unexpected and you are naturally curious
as to what the boss wants. Depending on the type of person you are, you
may start wondering what it was you could have done wrong, and you
frantically begin reliving the past few days or weeks in an attempt to locate
the reason for the boss's request. You imagine every reason he could have
to, perhaps, call you on the carpet. The longer you have to wait for your
appointment with him, the more nervous you become. Your vivid
imagination works overtime and you become paralyzed with thoughts of
horrible consequences you may have to suffer for whatever you did wrong.
In other words, your thoughts go wild as you anticipate meeting with the
boss. Now, where did those thoughts come from, and why did they become
so blown out of proportion? How did these thoughts cause you to feel inside
as you were anticipating this meeting?

On the other hand, you may be the type of person who sees this situation as
a positive indication of your boss's appreciation for your superb
performance as an employee. It all has to do with your prior internal
programming. You could be having thoughts of what the boss

may say to commend you for your dedicated contribution, and how he
wants to reward you.

My point is this: be mindful of your inner dialogue! YOU have a choice of

what that dialogue will be. If your dialogue is negative rather than positive,
you will want to start processing with the "Script" I will share with you in
the next chapter, in order to change your inner dialogue. To experience
rewarding and peaceful results instead of living with the conflict of jangled,
frazzled, disrupted nerves, it is necessary to change this inner dialogue—
this inner self-talk.

In the foregoing example, you begin to see how thoughts start very
innocently and with the passing of the day, become runaway. Unruly
feelings and emotions are a definite side effect. Look at the illusion these
negative thoughts created ... the illusion of being a failure or possibly losing
your job.

Sometimes you may encounter unexplainable feelings that get your

attention before thoughts enter the scene. One example of feelings coming
first instead of thoughts is on a morning when you get out of bed and
suddenly realize that you are feeling something you don't enjoy feeling, but
you are unable to identify the feeling. Just ask yourself, "What am I feeling,
and where do I feel it?" If an answer does not come to you, and it is
impossible to identify what you are feeling, see how the word blahl fits.
This happened to a friend of mine. She immediately became sensitive to the
fact that she was having a new experience. She was willing to be further
sensitive, aware, and to listen, accept and own what she was experiencing.
She then went through the "Script" literally describing her feeling as blah in
the "Script" (as explained in the next chapter). When she replaced the blah
feeling with, "I feel excited, I feel happy, I feel energetic and enthused
about life!" her blah feeling shifted immediately.

The more you get in touch with and identify what you are really feeling, the
more capacity and ability you have to change your negative internal
programming, self-talk, or inner dialogue. As you continue to
be Response-able and Account-able for your thoughts and feelings,
processing them to resolve them with the tool as explained in the next
chapter, you WILL eventually become the person you really CHOOSE
Being instead of remaining the person your incorrect perceptions have
created.

We create illusions from our incorrect perceptions and our belief systems on
a daily basis. (Belief systems are also created by perceptions. Sometimes
these perceptions are correct but most of the time they are incorrect.) And,
many of us already have long-standing illusion/belief systems created by
incorrect perceptions, either about life or about ourselves. These illusions
often cause us to become stuck in a rut. For instance, you've heard of or
known someone who is very thin, but their reality, their internal dialogue is
that they need to lose weight. They constantly feel they are too fat. No
matter what anyone says to convince them they look great, they will not
accept it. Their reality perceives that they are overweight. Your reality
perceives that they are just right. Most of us maintain these same kinds of
illusions in different areas of our lives. Our own illusions can be just as
erroneous or incorrect as in the foregoing example.

It has been my experience that as our awareness, or our mindfulness of

what we are feeling and thinking sharpens and expands, we can begin to
eliminate these illusions by substituting undesirable feelings and thoughts
with positive, sound, constructive feelings and thoughts. Thus, we enable
ourselves to correct our mis-perceptions, incorrect beliefs and illusions.

After we strip ourselves of our old, worn out, tattered illusions, we will
scarcely recognize ourselves as the same person. This is exciting to witness,
as the majority of us would like to improve ourselves. As we learn to shift
the negative to positive in our emotional patterns, we can reap peace of
mind, more joy and more happiness.

Instead of allowing your feelings and thoughts to run away with you
(creating all kinds of excuses or blocks to keep you from moving

forward on your journey to self-improvement), view this process of

shifting/altering your feelings/thoughts as you would if you were practicing
a musical instrument or learning to read words. When you first learn to read
musical notes or words it takes concentrated effort and you have to name
the notes or say the words one by one. It doesn't take long, however, before
you are able to look at a measure or a line and read all the notes or words in
one or two glances. The only difference you are experiencing in this
process, is that you are practicing monitoring, ruling, managing, or
governing your feelings and thoughts.

Your ability to accomplish this goal will depend upon the intensity of your
desire. A half-hearted effort won't cut it. When your desire to become the
master of your feelings and thoughts—instead of them being the master of
you—is foremost in your heart, accomplishing this feat will become simple
with practice. Look at it as effortless effort and know that, "that which we
persist in doing becomes easier."

Let us review the definition of Feelings and Emotions.

Feelings

1. To perceive or to be aware of through thought, bodily or emotional

reactions, instinct, etc.

2. To produce an indicated overall condition, impression, or reaction.

3. An impression produced upon a person; having sensation.

4. Marked by or indicating emotion.

Emotions

1. A strong surge of feeling marked by an impulse to outward expressions,

and often accompanied by complex bodily reactions; any strong feeling, as
love, hate, or joy.

2. The power of feeling; sensibility.

3. A moving of the mind or soul.

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It is imperative and essential that we understand the fine line of distinction

between the definition of feelings and emotions as they apply in our lives.

Any word or data chosen by our conscious mind establishes images within
our subconscious mind. REPEAT: Any word or data chosen by our
conscious mind establishes images within our subconscious mind.

Let's go back to the concept of the thought being a seed (spoken of in

Chapter Five) and review it because it is imperative to clearly understand
the importance of what actually transpires: Every thought is a seed at the
conceptual level. When a seed (thought) is planted in fertile soil (feelings
already established), this seed and soil (thought/feeling) will then—
depending upon prior programming and the intensity of the feelings—create
a reaction to that thought/feeling, or . . . create the physical expression of
that thought/feeling. At this moment, something new is brought into
existence. Now we have what is commonly known as energy in motion—E-
motion. This emotion then becomes a living vibration which fertilizes that
seed/soil (thought/feeling), and we begin to grow our crop of effects
(conditions in our life). In other words, thoughts and feelings create
emotions that cause effects.

EFFECTS

(CONDITIONS) IN LIFE
Are we planting the seeds that will produce the crops we wish to harvest?

If we are looking for desirable effects in our lives that are productive and
rewarding we will naturally want to resolve and release any undesirable
thoughts or undesirable feelings ... the ones that cause undesirable emotions
and effects. We will want to choose the most positive, mature, best seeds
(thoughts) available and plant them in the same kind of cultivated soil
(feelings) so that any emotions resulting from this planting will grow and
yield a crop of the most desirable effects (emotions and conditions).
Canadian Government and religious leader, Nathan E. Tanner, once said,
"You cannot live right and think wrong anymore than you can plant weeds
and harvest grain." We cannot think weed thoughts and expect to harvest
grain effects. Another way to put it is . . . you will reap from the Law of the
Harvest that which you sow. What are you sowing? What is your harvest
yielding?

If you want to change your harvest to a different crop than you are now
yielding, it is essential that your goal be singular: to recognize and own the
negative aspects of both your thoughts and your feelings. Simple.

Dr. Joan Borysenko's book, Minding the Body, Mending the Mind, offers an
insightful guideline to assist a person in identifying emotions.

Positive emotions create bodily sensations of openness and expansiveness.

They invite the world in. The body feels relaxed, even though some
emotions such as joy are very energizing. In contrast, negative emotions
create a tight, contracted feeling. Everything pulls inward. The world is
pushed away. Positive feelings invite unity. Negative feelings invite
isolation.

Becoming a skilled observer of your own emotions allows you to make a

conscious choice between love and unity or fear and isolation.

From the time of conception until we are adults we are strongly influenced
by the feelings, thoughts, and attitudes of others. These feelings and
attitudes are supplied to us by those who love us, by those who teach us,
and by those who interact with us on a daily basis. Those who interact with
us include parents, other family members, playmates, school companions,
friends, relatives, teachers and other authority figures, as well as what we
may ingest from observing the media.

When a thought (in this case, something someone said) is fed to us, and this
thought connects with an established feeling that becomes energized by an
emotional response, we unconsciously buy into what the person said as
though it were an authentic, actual, valid truth. Sometimes the thought fed
to us may even be a further validation of our already established, false, or
incorrect feelings and beliefs. Or, that particular thought may start a new
system of beliefs. These beliefs which we see or think of as truth, may be
correct or incorrect.

Perhaps some of you can recall being taught not to make a mistake. Maybe
as a child you were playing with something interesting—some possession
of one of the big people. In your efforts to find out more about it, you broke
it. You learned that grown-ups' playthings were considerably more fragile
than your blocks—and there was also a chance that you were punished. In
other words, your efforts to learn were rewarded with a spanking—and the
association between mistake-making and pain was set up.

In some cases it is not even necessary for actual pain to occur: The threat of
pain is often sufficient to alter the child's conduct. If you were told, 'Don't
do that—you'll hurt yourself!' you certainly weren't encouraged to learn.

We suspect that this business of learning followed by punishment (or threat

of punishment) has something to do with the creation of the so-called
'inferiority complex.' The person who feels constantly inferior to everyone
else, who insists that every-

one else is superior to him, has been taught to think and feel that way. And
what better way could he be taught such a self-deprecating attitude than by
being constantly corrected? He tries to do something and a fond parent says,
'No, darling, you're making a mistake—that's wrong. You should do it this
way.'

The parent is sincerely trying to help—but a constant repetition of such help

will also teach the child that he's wrong, that someone else is right. And
after a few years of this, the child comes to the conclusion that he's just not
very smart, and another case of inferiority begins to bloom.

It is characteristic of the inferiority complex that the person who carries this
mental burden is hesitant about taking action. He'd rather sit back and let
somebody else do it first—for that is the lesson which he has been taught.
By being led to be uncertain about his actions, he grows to fear action.
Action, to him, is the equivalent of making a mistake—and he doesn't want
to do that. (The Origins of Illness and Anxiety, by J. A. Winter, M.D.)

The person who is made to feel that he is continually making mistakes will
then automatically embrace the feeling of guilt for being, as he sees it, so
dumb and stupid. The feeling of guilt is then added to his negative beliefs
about himself and thus becomes further validation of his inadequacies and a
sad, depreciating and motivating factor in his life. One incorrect perception
can lead to another, and another, and another, until the majority of the
perceptions he has about himself are so distorted that he feels absolutely
worthless.

Remember, even if the perception is distorted and untrue, the mind-body

still believes it to be true. When a feeling or a thought validates what we
already believe to be true, the emotion accompanying the validation gathers
energy and becomes more and more indelibly fixed, rooted and ingrained in
us. And this, in turn, is what profoundly governs our daily beliefs, attitudes
and actions from then on.

Like a magnet draws iron filings to it, our belief systems draw situations to
us that automatically validate those beliefs, regardless of what they are.
When any feeling is aroused, it is generally triggered by our already
established beliefs. We naturally have experiences in life that continue to
prove our belief systems are right, as we see it. However, often we are the
only one who perceives our self as being right.

Said another way—situations are drawn to us that validate what our mind
believes, correct or incorrect as the belief may be. Remember, the mind
always has to be right. When it is right it thinks it is in control—and it
always wants to be in control.
Remember, too, all of this happens on a subconscious level. So, once again,
in order to get what we THINK we desire, it is necessary that we change the
FEELING so that the FEELING corresponds with the THINKING,
resulting in single-mindedness.

At this point, you may ask the question, "How can I really know if I am
single-minded?" One of the best ways to know is by observing how your
life is going. Do you enjoy loving and satisfying relationships with family
and friends? Are you enjoying your work or role in life? Do you feel
fulfilled? Are you experiencing desired results? Are you happy and peaceful
most of the time? Do you enjoy optimum health? If the answer to these
questions is yes, there's a strong indication that you are already single-
minded in most areas of your life. If the answer is no, this indicates mixed
messages are being communicated between your thoughts and your
feelings.

If you are continually disappointed in your relationships, in your business

affairs, or in the circumstances of your life, and nothing seems to work—
everything seems to go wrong—if you are not experiencing desired results
and frustration plagues you, then you are undoubtedly being double-minded
in particular areas of your life. The soil of your feelings would truly benefit
by having some cultivation work done on it in order to create a different and
better environment ... in order to bring you to single-mindedness. When you
weed and cultivate your feelings

you are able to plant more suitable, more desirable and more productive
seeds (thoughts). In other words, double-mindedness can be overcome. You
can bring your THINKING and FEELING into unison. These two factions
—the thinking which is in the head and the feeling which is in the heart—
NEED TO GET TOGETHER. You can eliminate the conflict between the
two. You can win the war that is going on inside. You can then reap a
harvest more to your liking.

Mainstream thinking has purported that to become single-minded a person

needs to change the way he FEELS by changing the way he THINKS. It is
possible to change the way we FEEL by changing the way we THINK.
However, before we can do this, our perception of a situation, our feeling or
our belief must change before our thinking can change. To illustrate this
point:

Four-year old Victor, a very active, precocious child loved to visit his
grandparents because there were so many fun things to see and do. Victor's
grandparents had a basement in their home with several rooms, one of
which was a large dark storeroom. Victor had only glanced into this room
on one occasion because grandpa always kept the door closed and locked.

One day as Victor was playing in the basement, he wandered beyond his
usual play area and noticed that the storeroom door was ajar. Being the
curious four year old that he was, he decided to venture into the storeroom
and see what was in this mysterious sanctuary of interesting forms and
objects. As he opened the door and peered into the room, the angle of the
dim light coming through the basement window created an even more eerie
scene than usual. He glanced around the room. Suddenly he saw the form of
something that looked like a person.

This was so frightening to him that he abruptly turned and fled upstairs to
the safety of his grandmother's arms. From then on, his grandparents could
not persuade him to even go down-

stairs, let alone to play there. Finally, after months of observing Victor's
apprehension and anxiety over his experience and his flat refusal to go back
downstairs, grandpa very lovingly took Victor in his arms and coaxed him
into going downstairs with all the lights on in the middle of the day.

Victor was very tense as his grandfather carried him down the stairs, but
when grandpa turned on the light in the dark storeroom and showed him
that the scary thing was only an old upright vacuum cleaner with a sheet
over it, Victor slowly started to relax, and the corners of his mouth began
turning into a smile. A big smile covered his face as he finally saw how
harmless the big storeroom was.

The point of this story is to illustrate that Victor's perception was changed
when he looked into the storeroom with the lights on, and in the protection
of grandfather's arms. In an instant, all of his feelings of fright, fear, anxiety
and terror melted away. All the fear energy stored in his little body from the
original scary incident quickly changed. Victor was able to slide down out
of grandpa's arms and start playing in the basement once again.

Altering our perception can happen in an instant ... or it may take time. We
CAN change our feelings by changing our thinking. But this is difficult
because, we MUST change our perception of the situation first. As adults,
our perceptions may be more complicated than Victor's, but the principle is
still the same. The older we are, however, the more challenging it may be
for us to change our perception without the help of a psychiatrist, or a
professional counselor who is knowledgeable and understands these
principles. Becoming better educated on the subject might also help, but
this takes considerable amounts of time. Consequently, the change generally
takes longer when going this route.

Conversely, changing the way we THINK by changing the way we FEEL is

faster, much more effective, and further reaching. In our beginnings as a
baby, FEELINGS came first when we had no way of express-

ing what we needed or wanted through words. The feelings we experienced

during infancy and throughout our childhood which we were unable to
express, are well established, longstanding feelings which naturally
registered in the DNA and the subconscious part of our mind/body. These
feelings are what now cause us to think and react in life the way we do. In
other words, these feelings have helped create the beliefs and attitudes that
motivate our everyday behavior and give us the effects in life that we
experience. Bottom line— feelings are what make us tick!

If we choose to change the effects these undesirable feelings have created in

our life, it will be necessary to simply resolve the feelings. Resolving the
old feelings will also change the energy these feelings brought with them.

We, in our subconscious, can go back to where undesirable feelings began

and change the vibration—change the energy of these negative feelings.
This process re-programs the subconscious and literally changes the
undesirable programming. This process will be explained in Chapter Seven.

But, what about thoughts?

As children, we function primarily from the right brain—from the feeling
and intuitive side—because we have not developed the conscious
thinking/analyzing process. When we start venturing out as we become
more mobile, we explore, learning by what we experience. Sooner or later
we start getting hurt or are told NO! NO!, over and over again. We are
punished for doing something wrong when we don't mind. As we hurt
ourselves or receive punishment for something we did, we soon learn that
choices have to be made every time we turn around, literally. We also learn
that if we make wrong choices we usually get hurt or are punished for it.
So, we eventually reason out in our little mind, if we don't want to get hurt
or invite displeasure or punishment from others, what we need to do or not
do in order to forego pain. We start putting two and two together, and little
by little we begin to shift ... to

move over into the left brain where the logical thinking and analyzing takes
place.

Then, when we start going to school we are bombarded with left brain
activities—rules, regulations, reading, writing, math, etc. Yes, this is all a
necessary part of life, but isn't it sad how we lose our spontaneity, our
enthusiasm, our desire to explore and reach out.

Eventually, we go from functioning and responding to our feelings, to

functioning and responding to our thoughts. The reason our child-like
perception takes over, is that we always seem to get in trouble when we
function from our feelings. So—we begin stuffing them and sooner or later
shift into thinking and analyzing our daily situations, rather than respond to
our feelings. Therefore, there does come a time when the thoughts or
thinking cause our actions. But, remember, the thoughts are still based on
our feeling nature—on our feelings being triggered at some level.

We can change our thoughts and this can change our feelings and our
actions. However... if the thoughts are caused by unresolved, deep-seeded
feelings that are governing our existence, the thoughts will reoccur time and
time again until we resolve the core feeling.

A thought remains only a thought until a feeling joins it and causes a

response or sensation within us . . . the emotion. Each emotion has a
personality all its own. It is an entity. Most of the time the emotion we
experience is a reaction to an illusion that is already in our belief systems.
This emotion may cause us comfort or discomfort. If it causes us
discomfort, our inner child —that aspect of us that usually perceives things
incorrectly—that aspect of us that still has a lot of hurts and unresolved
feelings—is being challenged and we immediately move into a defensive or
survival mode. At this point, the emotion may be a new emotion, validating
an established belief. Or, what we are feeling could be a tired, old shop-
worn extension of something that is already resonating within us—
something that has been lying dormant but is now being revived and
regenerated—registering in every cell of our body. Or, what

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we are feeling could be old feelings that we don't want to accept or allow in
ourselves, so we repress, suppress or stuff them and pretend they don't exist
. . . thinking they might go away. These feelings and emotions are,
nevertheless, registered in our subconscious and in every one of our cells'
intelligence (DNA), thereby propagating our belief systems which affect
our whole electrical system . . . our body, for good or for not so good.

I would like to share a graphic illustration of this principle as related by my

friend Sharon. Here in her own words is her story:

I remember the time, the hour, almost to the second, where I was, where I
was sitting, what I was thinking and feeling, just like it was yesterday, even
though it's been over two years. It was midnight, and I was working
feverishly to finish preparations to leave at three o'clock that morning to
drive to San Francisco.

I was in the basement, at the desk, typing on the computer, attempting to

finish an important document. I had an extremely busy and frustrating day,
and at that late hour, I still had fourteen things to finish.

I was tired, on edge, worn out, and stressed (actually bent out of shape)
from not only the day, but from the mental exertion of being a pro se
litigant (we couldn't afford an attorney). And, to make matters worse, (in
my mind) my husband had left for a 20 minute errand that had lasted
already ONLY three hours. Where was he? Dead? Hurt? Why didn't he call?
Why wouldn't he think of what was going on inside of me and know that I
would be worried sick about him?

We were going to leave for San Francisco for a very important court
appearance where we were defending our rights of claim in a bankruptcy
case with a very large corporation. We had a relatively large sum of money
involved (large to us) and the outcome of the decision meant a lot to us.

The longer I sat there, the madder I got. I fumed, I fussed. I fretted, I
stewed, agonized and thought of all the things I was mad at him for. I
thought mean, hateful, bitter thoughts about my husband.
My husband had a weakness or tendency (in my mind) to waste time, putter
around and procrastinate; put off, dawdle, dilly and dally with things until
we managed most of the time to be late to functions, and seemed to be
always on the late and cutting, rushing edge of behind the time curve. He
would always find (or, would they find him?) someone to talk to and visit
with no matter where we went or what we were doing. He drove me "nuts"
with what I thought was wasting my tirnel Certainly HIS time wasn't
important to HIM (in my mind)!

As I sat at the desk, raging and ranting, foaming at the mouth, (inside
myself), I felt surging waves of resentment, billowing currents of
suppressed anger, red-hot anger. Yes, even hate. These emotions weld-up,
soaked, drenched, swept and immersed me with such force I was almost
overcome by the intensity of the fury I was witnessing within myself. It was
almost as though I relished and regaled in those feelings that I was
entertaining. I was right and HE was WRONG! My husband was such an
inconsiderate and insensitive oaf (I thought). Why couldn't HE see that HE
caused me such pain, suffering and consternation?

I thought thoughts of ugly things and was shocked at the power, force and
energy that those thoughts elicited and produced within me. Just at the
moment my husband walked through the door, I was at the height (in my
mind) of ugliness, and I locked onto the idea of resentment and anger so
profoundly that I decided (in my mind) to not even speak to him.

Certainly, HE would know that I was upset because he had been gone so
long. Certainly, HE KNEW the errand was only a 20 minute project.
Certainly, HE KNEW that I would be hostile! My self-talk went on and on,
justifying to myself my rage, my

anger and resentment . . . yes, I was feeling pretty high knowing that I WAS
RIGHT, and HE was miserably, undeniably, WRONG!

Through clenched teeth, I impolitely asked where in the world he had been
(not that I cared a whit!). He apologized, saying he knew he had been gone
a long time, but he had met an old Air Force friend and they visited and
talked for awhile. The time had gotten away from them and then he had
gone to wash the car and when he looked under the hood he saw that he
needed to change all the hoses on the car. He is a master mechanic and is
very fussy and caring about the vehicle and its road-worthiness, and while I
knew that what he was saying was only for our well-being and safety, when
one is on an negative emotional high, logic and reason counts for nothing!
And, you certainly don't want to hear reasonable, safety-minded reasons
now! He was innocent, I knew that down deep in my heart, but I couldn't
unlock the hold that the powerful, fiery emotions had on me.

'Well,' I screeched, ready to blow apart, 'do you know what time it is and
that we have to leave here in less than three hours, and all the things are not
done that need to be done, (those things that HE SAID HE would take care
of doing) and I'M under terrible pressure and stress. WHY couldn't you call
me and let me know that you're not dead!' (Never mind that HE is under
pressure and stress, and he will have to drive because I'M so exhausted I
need to sleep before court THIS morning.)

As the feelings and emotions swept over me and settled, I mentally

remember thinking the thought, Til take care of this crap and handle this
myself.' At that point, I actually locked and internalized all these emotions
(literally felt it lock) into the front, left side of my body.

These feelings of annoyance, resentment, aggravation, etc., had been

festering for many years. This was finally the 'straw that broke the camel's
back!' Critical mass—an explosion of

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immense proportions—had now been invoked, and the exponential factor

(an avalanche) was now in place. Those molding, festering feelings,
charged by the powerful forces of negative emotions became irreversible!
The environment in my body had been waiting for a 'match to light the
fuse!'

That incident took place around the first part of October, 1987. I started
having constipation problems, but just thought that was because we had
been traveling, and I was reacting to sitting. Not to worry, it was no
problem.
Two days before Thanksgiving, I noticed little red specks that looked like
rust in my stools. 'Hummmmmm,' thought I. That's interesting. I've never
seen anything like that before. I decided to make an appointment with the
doctor. I saw him the day after Thanksgiving and he diagnosed
diverticulitis. He gave me some antibiotics and sent me home.

The symptoms seemed to clear up, except that I still had a problem with
constipation but, I knew that it would go away. Then I started feeling very
tired. I wanted to sleep. I didn't seem to have any energy and my stools
became very odorous and noxious. Believe it or not, I could not smell it. I
began to sleep more and more. I couldn't move. There was no energy. Soon,
I was unable to think clearly.

On April 30, I woke up early in the morning, sat up on the side of the bed
and heard a clunk, swish, slosh, on the left side of my abdomen. I thought to
myself, 'Hummm, that's interesting. I've never heard anything like that
before. So, I went to the bathroom and I was dumfounded and astonished.
The bowl was filled with blood.

The doctors that day were very solicitous. By three o'clock that afternoon I
was in the hospital undergoing tests to find where the bleeding came from. I
was dumb-struck and shocked when I was told it was cancer. 'NO, NO, not
me,' I said. 'It is NOT possible! This could NEVER happen to me!'

After the surgery to remove the tumor, I started thinking and wondering,
'WHY? HOW? How in the world could/did this happen to ME?' As I
pondered the situation, slowly, ever so slowly and painfully, I came to the
FULL and awful truth staring me full in the face—ugly and monstrous. The
realization that I had been on a 'do-it-yourself project.' I HAD, with no
equivocations, no excuses, no blame of anyone else, done this to myself and
there was no other person in the whole world I could point the finger at and
blame. I, MYSELF, HAD set in motion that set of circumstances that
allowed my body to internalize destructive feelings and emotions that
created a dis-ease in a section of my body just above the Sigmoid colon, a
tumor that had to be surgically removed. A tumor that had perforated the
colon wall and spilled into the abdominal area. A tumor that was the result
of anger, resentment, suppressed hurts, hate, meanness, and unforgiveness.
In a word . . . ugly, black, negative feelings.
'Now,' said I, 'What am I going to do about it?' In my mind I kept trying to
weasel out of, side-step, turn away from the awful, terrible, realization that I
—ME—that person of whom I thought was so untouchable to disease, had
initiated—clearly and forcefully—the manifestation of such a dread, ugly,
awful, frightening disease!

All of a sudden, in a flash, I knew what to do! In an instant I knew what I

had to do and how to do it! I had been studying about illness and their
emotional causes, and my husband and I had taken a seminar where we
were taught to access the part of us that knows all things. I had created the
tumor... I could heal it! I had allowed and entertained those terrible, ugly
thoughts, feelings and emotions to putrefy, to torment, to mature, to corrupt
and erupt.

Of course! Of course! Thank you, God. Thank you. I now see the lesson I
must learn. I will love the cancer! I will love it. I looked at the cancer. I put
my hands (in my mind) on the cancer and I told the cancer, Thank you for
this great gift of knowledge!

Thank you for allowing me to see what I have done. Thank you for giving
me this chance to know myself better. Thank you for supplying me with this
opportunity to live life to the fullest and to learn to love unconditionally.
Thank you for this great blessing and opportunity!'

My attitude and demeanor changed instantly! I felt alive and vital! I was
now ready, willing and able to accept what I needed to learn, and
understand what was necessary from this experience to grow and develop
and expand my reason for existence on this earth. I decided right there and
then, and from that moment forward, I would NOT shift down. I would not
allow those negative thoughts to be entertained one more second! I would
not allow the luxury of a negative thought! And, I would not allow my
family to shift down and feel sorry for me and speak of MY CANCER. The
cancer was not me! I am not a cancer any more than I am a cold or a flu! It
would be known as, The tumor with a message.'

No. NO! NO! Absolutely NOT! There would be no self-fulfilling

prophecies come to pass in my life like that! No, NO! NO! I was going to
do what had to be done to change, shift, alter, renew, build, create new
realities! I was in charge of my life and destiny! I would allow no quarter! I
would be unmerciful! YES! YES! NOTHING would deter me from the new
road I would travel and the journey I would begin! YES! YES! I AM health!
I AM happiness! I AM JOY! I AM UNCONDITIONAL LOVE! I would,
for the rest of my wonderful, exciting life BE that fulfillment of
unconditional love!

I had been given a second chance. This gift of new life and expanded view
offers and bestows gratitude for fullness and thankfulness that I am now
able to understand a new dimension and fullness in my life.

From now on, those memories of the hate, resentment, anger, and rage that I
waged and wrought upon myself would only be remembered and used in a
positive manner. From this

day forward, and forever, this experience would be registered and

considered as a, 'minor inconvenience in my life!' And, that's the way it
continues to be!

God merely uses coincidence as a way of remaining anonymous. Karol and

I had been friends for years, but hadn't seen each other since 1976. She
called me when she moved to Las Vegas in 1989. As we were visiting that
morning, she shared with me the concept of the "Script." Now, I'm one who
says, 'Will you share? Your words strike a responsive chord.'

This knowledge I felt was vitally important to me, as I knew there were still
many unresolved feelings I needed to work through. Karol did share the
"Script" and I immediately began to work with it and use it. I noticed and
felt an immediate healing shift occur. The "Script," I feel, has wrought and
worked wonders. I have, and do experience, an unqualified peace,
happiness, contentment, and healing release as I continue to process deep-
seeded and deep-seated negative emotional feelings dumped, stored and
buried for many years. The "Script" has allowed an emotional stability and
maturity to enter my life.

As I explained in Chapter Two, every feeling, every thought, every emotion

and every belief that we have, has its own vibration! Everything you have
ever felt, everything you have ever thought, everything you have ever
believed, said, done, heard, or experienced has been recorded and registered
in the body somewhere. If your feelings, thoughts, emotions or beliefs have
been negative or positive—regardless of the intensity—it makes no
difference. They have all registered in every fiber, nook and cranny of your
Be-ing! Yes, all of it has been recorded in the DNA of the cells of your
glands, your blood, your lymph system, your organs and your muscles ... in
your flesh.

Negative vibrations (fear based) create a heaviness in you, while the

positive vibrations (love based) create a lightness. If you have experienced
more negative vibrations than positive vibrations throughout

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your life, you will feel an imbalance somewhere in your Be-ing. When the
negative becomes so overbalanced, something finally has to happen to
make you aware of this overbalance/imbalance ... whether the imbalance be
physical, mental, emotional, spiritual or financial.

Many people will experience a crisis of some kind before they truly
recognize that, as Dr. Bernie Siegel says, "one needs to take another road in
life." Some of us have to get to the point of crisis before we are open to the
possibility that we would really benefit by changing or shifting to a new
awareness.

What is it that we need to change? We need to change negative feelings

(vibrations) we have buried for untold years to positive feelings (vibrations)
. . . negative feelings that pertain to any area of our life where challenges
occur and keep reoccurring.

We learn the lessons in life we are to learn two ways; either through
obedience to natural laws or through suffering the consequences of not
observing those laws—through adversity. None of us consciously create the
suffering we experience. Any suffering we may go through is due to natural
consequences—the Law of Cause and Effect being manifest in our lives.

Are you learning through obedience or through suffering adversity? When

you look around at others, you will probably agree that most of us are
reaping the natural consequences of not observing the laws. Many of us are
having to learn through adversity. "The Lord often allows us to wallow in
mindless confusion before the teacher within us follows the path that
lightens our way." (Patricia T. Holland)

If we experience suffering long enough, being sufficiently miserable while

we are going through it, we usually become more teachable and are ready to
eliminate the misery, no matter what effort it takes or how much dedication
it requires. There are people, however, who are very teachable and willing
to travel a better road without experiencing misery and heartache. They hear
truth and are ready to incorporate it

into their lives without being tried and tested . . . without being miserable
and having to undergo the suffering.

At the turn in one's road where a person is miserable and ready for relief, he
usually begins listening and looking for answers. He becomes more mindful
of what he is feeling and thinking . . . of what makes him tick. He begins
asking questions. He reads articles on the subject, or attends classes and
seminars. He searches for self-help books or tapes that give him insights
that assist with answers which will help him ease and understand the pain
he is experiencing.

It is at this particular time a person is generally ready for change— for the
quantum shift. He wants his life to be full and he wants to feel fulfilled. He
is tired of nothing working, tired of ill health, tired of disastrous
relationships, or tired of financial ineptness. Now his mind has opened. He
is more aware and is wanting and looking for answers. He is ready for a
great adventure! But, how does he go about making a change? Where does
he start?

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The place to start is to become mindful or conscious of what you are

feeling, what you are thinking, what you are saying and what you are doing.
The minute you awaken in the morning, access your first feeling and your
first thought. That first feeling or thought of the day commonly sets the
stage and the tone for the rest of the day. So, if that first feeling/thought is
not to your liking, the choice is yours. Right then and there is the best time
to change it with feelings/thoughts that are of your liking.

Become aware of any incident, comment, situation or person that triggers in

you some kind of discomfort response . . . when you feel something you
don't enjoy feeling, or think something you don't enjoy thinking.

For instance: You're stopped at a stop light when it is red; it turns green, but
the person in front of you fails to see the green light and doesn't move
forward. Do you impatiently honk your horn, get mad or upset and start
calling that person all kinds of names? At the very moment this happens,
what are you feeling?

What feelings are generated in the following situations: 1) Your neighbor

down the street drives by in the brand new car that you would give anything
to be able to own, but can't afford. 2) Standing in a long line at the
supermarket, movie, bank or restaurant, someone comes and

breaks into the line. 3) The group of friends you associate with attend some
activity and don't include you. 4) Someone makes a cutting remark about
your abilities or your looks. 5) Someone else takes the credit for one of your
original ideas. How do these situations cause you to feel?

As we sharpen our awareness we gather strong clues from the little daily
incidents in our lives that will help us learn to identify what we are feeling
and what we are thinking. Do you become disgusted with yourself for
feeling a particular way whenever the same situation presents itself over
and over again, and wish you didn't feel that way? This could be a definite
indicator to you that the feeling involved with this situation is a good one to
start working on and resolve.

For example: Between the ages of 16-48, I accompanied many fine

musicians at various functions. Very often my name would inadvertently be
left off the printed program, or I would somehow be over looked in spite of
hours of rehearsal. There could be as few as three on the program or as
many as 50, yet, often every participant but myself would be listed on the
printed program. This caused me to feel slighted, left out, hurt, and
overlooked. But what I felt most of all was, "I'm not important." (As you
read on you will understand the significance of my feeling "I'm not
important.")

This all happened before I understood the principles I have learned and am
sharing with you in this book. I didn't understand why this was a continual
scenario for me. With every similar incident, I would experience hurt
feelings no matter how many times I told myself, "It doesn't matter. It's
okay. The important thing is that you did a good job." I thought of
everything I could to talk myself out of the hurt feelings. And each time it
happened I would tell myself, "Next time, I won't allow it to bother me."
Even so, the next time the experience was repeated, those same feelings
would hit me in the face.

In any situation, become conscious of what you are feeling, of what you are
thinking, and whether it's comfortable or not. Be conscious

of yourself and what you are experiencing in the moment. We all go

through peaks and valleys with our feelings and emotions. Be aware of the
peaks as well as the valleys and learn to recognize where the difference
BEGINS. When you can identify where the shift occurs soon enough and
often enough, the valleys won't be so low and your inbe-tweens (when you
feel peace) will be of longer duration until you finally enjoy smooth sailing.

All too often our conditioning has forced us to turn our feelings and
emotions off. Social restrictions often made it inappropriate to say what we
truly felt or thought. Rather than learning how to appropriately address our
true feelings/emotions we were led to believe that if we turned them off,
somehow we wouldn't hurt inside. Or, sometimes we were forced to turn
them off because the pain of feeling was overwhelming. Consequently, we
have paid a high price by supposedly turning them off—by always
conforming. The price was that we lost touch with our true feelings. If and
when we reconnect with those feelings—we face them head on—our
growth and progress will be much better served.

In order to remedy the negative effects any feelings/emotions have had in

our lives, it is necessary for us to take responsibility for them and become
accountable to ourselves for them. If our conditioning continues to cause us
denial of our feelings as they happen, and we are unable to be accountable
for them, there is NO growth. Even though we may deny our feelings, we
can't sweep them under the rug. They don't, and they won't go away.

To deny feelings doesn't mean they are dead or no longer exist, that the
energies of those feelings are no longer present in your energy field. On the
contrary, if feelings are not resolved, their energy remains stored inside you,
and, like a yeast, this energy continues growing and expanding, gathering
more and more energy—resonating and joining forces with all similar
feeling vibrations that are still inside your body. These energies create
blocks like a dam in a ditch of water and short-circuit your system in more
ways than you can imagine. If the feelings

remain unresolved, this process continues to compound, and you could

experience any number of disturbing effects. When you recognize these
disturbing effects, be aware that alterations are now in order.

As I stated earlier, these unresolved feeling vibrations can never be

considered dead and buried because they are energies that are still alive —
resonating at some level. And these feelings will manifest themselves
somewhere, sometime. Their vibrations are on-going. How liberating it is to
know that any negative on-going vibrations you are storing inside you can
be transformed into permanent, positive, healing energy vibrations.

Since energy matter is indestructible but possible to change, so, likewise,

feelings are energy matter and possible to change. You can change their
vibrations from negative to positive. These negative feelings can be
permanently resolved. And it is an exciting, fun, therapeutic, healing and
rewarding endeavor—an endeavor which enables you to tap the yet
dormant, unrealized, and full potential innate within you. How do you
accomplish this resolution?

When you tune into your feelings and recognize what you are feeling, you
are ready to use the tool dialogue, the "Script," as I call it, that transforms
those feelings. This dialogue has helped me and many others come to a
better understanding of ourselves as well as those around us. It works most
effectively when you use it during or after each situation in which you find
yourself experiencing negative feelings. In order to fill a container with new
material, first, you must eliminate the old garbage. In other words, to
replace the negative with the positive, it is first necessary to identify and
process the negative so a resolution is possible. Even though it takes time
and effort to accomplish your desired goals, when you are ready for
changes in your life, you will be motivated to make a commitment to
yourself and apply yourself to achieving an "inner healing.*' Just remember,
what's going on inside you didn't happen overnight. Therefore, it's
unrealistic to expect the impact of years of negative feelings to disappear
overnight.

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Where Did This "Script" Come From?

At the perfect time in my life, I was introduced to Carolyn Lybbert, who is a

hypno-therapist. After using hypno-therapy for a period of time in her
practice, she came to realize and understand that a person does not really
have to be hypnotized in order to trace back an emotional problem. She also
realized that our Intelligence, Spirit, Higher Self, Subconscious remembers
or knows everything that concerns us as individuals. Carolyn prayed for
direction to know how she could help her clients help themselves. Little by
little the original "Script" evolved for her, and as she used it in her practice
more and more of her clients were able to process and change negative
feelings to positive feelings by themselves at any time. They became
responsible, accountable individuals who no longer needed to lean on her.

That's the beautiful part about the "Script" . . . you can do it all by yourself
once you have the understanding. You don't have to depend on anyone else
to help you. This gives you true FREEDOM.

Your personal strength and direction can then develop from the inside, and
that's where you want strength and direction to come from— inside. A great
ecclesiastic leader once said words to this effect: God works on a person
from the inside out. The world works on a person from the outside in. The
world would take people out of the slums. But, God takes the slums out of
people, and then they take themselves out of the slums. The world would
mold men by changing their environment. God changes men, who then
change their environment.

Using the "Script" as a processing tool enables you to know and understand
yourself better. It can literally take the slums out of you and then you can
change your environment.

Another beautiful aspect of this process is that you do NOT have to

remember or recall where or when the feelings started, because your
Spirit/Intelligence/Subconscious knows. Can it be that simple? My husband
continues asking that question because it is hard for him to believe

it is simply that simple, and yet the results are so unquestionably

astounding!

This dialogue, or "Script", has become a powerful tool for thousands of

people. They have been able to significantly change negative feelings they
believed were dead and buried . . . those feelings that choked, smothered
and stifled their progress in many areas of their lives or caused health
problems. This process of changing the vibrations in a persons energy field
has been an exciting, marvelous schooling and journey. In my counseling it
has been extremely gratifying to see so many lives literally transformed
through the use of this powerful process.

Using the "Script" has contributed to exceptional (mine and others)

emotional growth and development. It has assisted in restoring health, in
healing relationships, and in establishing or re-establishing financial
success. The "Script" has helped women who have experienced sexual
abuse in their youth gain a peace of mind they heretofore had never known.
It has even been credited for keeping several people from committing
suicide. The "Script" has assisted people in removing the beliefs that
blocked them and kept them from attaining their goals. They are now
moving forward and achieving their goals. It has helped bring forgiveness,
love, peace, joy and happiness to those who have made it a part of their
daily routine.

I know that with your consistent application of the "Script," you too, will be
able to realize the results you are seeking.
Let me explain the actual vernacular of the "Script." There is an aspect of
our Be-ing that remembers and knows everything about us there is to know.
This part of us has forgotten nothing. Some people would call this aspect of
us Intelligence. Others may call it Higher Self or we may refer to it as Super
Conscious, Subconscious or our Spirit. I choose to call this aspect of my
Be-ing, Spirit. When I say Spirit, this refers to MY Spirit ... no one else's,
when I am using it for me. And

when you use it for you and say Spirit, you are referring to YOUR Spirit ...
no one else's.

My Soul is comprised of my Spirit and my Body. Having been schooled by

my senses from birth, my human nature is to listen to the needs and the
wants of my Body. So, naturally, the desires of my body seem to receive the
most attention, thereby governing my actions and my existence. Because of
this, my Spirit is often neglected—much to the detriment of both my Body
and my Spirit. My desire is to function as a whole—a whole Be-ing—to be
at peace in my Body and in my Spirit (Soul). In order to do this, my Body
cannot be in charge and allowed to overrule my Spirit. Both Body and Spirit
need to be balanced, to be in harmony.

Because of my human nature and unruly will (my self-will), most of my life
I have allowed my Body to "call the shots." But I experienced too much
inner conflict and frustration functioning from the Body being the master.
Life was not bringing me the peace and joy that I knew was possible. I
definitely wanted to correct this, so, upon learning about the "Script," I
decided to become aware, conscious and mindful of my feelings, thoughts
and words so I could correct the disharmony, the conflict, the war going on
between my Body and my Spirit that was causing fragmentation in my
Soul.

As I recognize what I'm feeling or thinking that is bringing me any

disharmony, I go through the "Script" stating that feeling or thought. I give
MY Spirit instructions to correct the erroneous programming that is causing
my discomfort.

Dr. Deepak Chopra, M.D., indicates in his book, Perfect Health, that the
cells' memory of perfection contained in the DNA cannot be lost. It is only
covered over, at which point the perfect blueprint of the cell is distorted. It
is distorted by incorrect perceptions and erroneous programming, which
alter the perfect blueprint and in turn distort the cells.

When I address my Spirit, I am talking to and instructing no one except my

Higher Self, my Intelligence, my Spirit. My Spirit in turn goes to the feeling
that has covered the memory of perfection in my DNA, knocks on the door,
tells the feeling that answers the door that she (my Spirit) has been
requested by her Body to make some corrections, to clean house, to uncover
the memory of perfection contained in the cells original perfect blueprint; to
eliminate the distortion and to restore the cells perfect function by re-
programming them; to bring harmony and balance back to the DNA and
RNA. When I do this, I am being response-able for myself. I am becoming
account-able for what I feel and think. I am facilitating my own shift, my
own transformation, uncovering the memory of perfection in the cells
throughout my body. The cells then can begin functioning as they were
designed to function. The cells can realign themselves to become balanced
and more in tune with Universal Laws—with God's Laws. If you choose to
use the word Intelligence, Subconscious, or Higher Self instead of Spirit in
addressing that All-knowing aspect of yourself, the same principles apply
and the "Script" still works effectively.

Please, do not allow any words contained within the "Script" to trigger
discomfort in you. No offense is meant to anyone.

Processing Feelings with The "Script

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Spirit/Super-Conscious, please locate the origin of my feeling(s), thought(s)

of .

Take each and every level, layer, area, and aspect of my Be-ing to this
origin. Analyze and resolve it perfectly with God's truth.

Come through all generations of time and eternity, healing every incident
and its appendages based on the origin. Do it according to God's will until
I'm at the present—filled with light and truth, God's peace and love,
forgiveness of myself for my incorrect perceptions, forgiveness of every
person, place, circumstance, and event which contributed to this
feeling(s)/thought(s).

With total forgiveness and unconditional love, I allow every physical,

mental, emotional, and spiritual problem, and inappropriate behavior based
on the negative origin recorded in my DNA, to transform.

*I Choose Be-ing .

I Feel .

I AM .

It is done. It is healed. It is accomplished now!

Thank you, Spirit, for coming to my aid and helping me attain the full
measure of my creation. Thank you, thank you, thank you! I love you and
praise God from whom all blessings flow.**

*Basically, use the same appropriate positive feeling on each of the three

blanks to replace the negative feeling. **You can do the Script in the name
of Jesus Christ if you choose.

A list of negative feelings and their positive opposites, are included in this
book in Chapter 17. You will also find an in-depth section on health
problems and their probable emotional causes in Chapter 18. If you have a
health consideration you would like to work through with the "Script," see
the probable feelings that are indicated under that health condition, (which
is the negative aspect of your problem) then replace these feelings with
appropriate positive opposite feelings.

Sometimes your positive replacements may be very short (one or two

words) and at other times the replacement may be very long— depending
on what you feel is appropriate at the time. It will vary according to the
circumstances.
The more you use the "Script," the more readily the replacement words and
feelings will come to you as you process. If you can't think of anything with
which to replace the negative, you will always be very effective replacing it
with forgiveness and unconditional love.

In fact, I always include forgiveness after "God's peace and love."

Forgiveness opens the door for every kind of healing. Each time you go
through the "Script", however, be sure to say "light and truth" and "God's
peace and love" where indicated.

I believe that most of humankind, regardless of religious affiliation, desires

to feel and experience peace and love in their hearts and lives. Using the
"Script" is an appropriate way to accomplish this desire. Each time we
process through it we are replacing negative vibrations with the positive
vibrations of "light and truth" and "God's peace and love" (as well as
whatever else we choose to say or use). Those powerful vibrations become
stronger and stronger—automatically compounding with continual and
consistent use.

Two reasons this "Script" is so powerful are: Number one—you are

uncovering the memory of perfection in your DNA, which allows you to
function more completely from your true Self Number two—you become
single-minded, bringing your Feeling and your Thinking

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together, thus integrating the mind and causing it to work as a whole unit.
When you are single-minded, life works FOR you.

The emotional healing that occurred within me, took place in spite of my
lack of understanding of these principles. It was marvelous and exciting
beyond description. (The fact that a person's vibrations change each time
one processes through the "Script" has been scientifically indicated—
similar to the scientists' observation of the dying woman in Chapter Two—
through subtle-energy instrumentation called an Intrinsic Data Field
Analyzer.)

So, how do you get started?

In my counseling I have found that practically everyone (on a subconscious
level), does NOT love themselves. They do not accept themselves nor trust
themselves. Most of these same people don't even LIKE themselves.
Interestingly enough, they all THINK they like, love, accept and trust
themselves. But subconsciously, they do not FEEL it. Experience has shown
that when using the Script you can proceed much faster in all areas when
healing or changing negative feelings, if you first process and resolve: A)
The feelings that keep me from liking myself; B) The feelings that keep me
from loving myself; C) The feelings that keep me from accepting myself;
D) The feelings that keep me from trusting myself. So, the first thing I
would have you do is:

Find a comfortable, quiet place where you can sit, relax and close your
eyes. Take a deep breath through your nose and let it out slowly through
your mouth. Take another deep breath the same way, only this time hold
your breath at the top of the full inhalation for three counts, then let it out
slowly through your mouth. (This accesses both sides of the brain.) You are
now ready to begin. The following is what I would say:

"Spirit/Intelligence/Super-Conscious (however you chose to address it),

please locate the origin of the feelings that keep me from liking and loving
myself. Take each and every level, layer, area, and aspect of my Be-ing to
this/these origin/s. Analyze and resolve it/them perfect-

ly with God's truth. Come through all generations of time and eternity
healing every incident and it's appendages based on the origin. Do it
according to God's will until I'm at the present, filled with light and truth,
God's peace and love; forgiveness of myself for my incorrect perceptions;
forgiveness of every person, place, circumstance and event which
contributed to these feelings. With total forgiveness and unconditional love
I allow every physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual problem and
inappropriate behavior based on the negative origin recorded in my DNA,
to transform. I choose liking myself. I feel to like myself. I am liking
myself. I choose loving myself. I feel love for myself. I am loving myself. I
give myself permission to like and love myself. I feel worthy of this love.

"It is done. It is healed. It is accomplished now!

"Thank you, Spirit, for coming to my aid and helping me attain the full
measure of my creation. Thank you, thank you, thank you! I love you and
praise God from whom all blessings flow."

After you finish the above, then repeat the Script for C) The feelings that
keep me from accepting myself and D) The feelings that keep me from
trusting myself. This time say, "Spirit, please locate the origin of the
feelings that keep me from accepting myself and trusting myself." Continue
on through the Script until you come to the next blank line, replacing the
negative with words to this effect: "I choose accepting myself
unconditionally. I feel acceptance of myself. I am accepting myself. I
choose trusting myself implicitly! I feel total faith and trust in myself. I am
trusting myself. I am my best supporter." Then finish the rest of the
"Script."

It is essential that you mean what you say and say what you mean when you
replace the negative with the positive, for the effectiveness of your
processing will be in direct proportion to the sincerity and intent of your
heart.

Another disturbing condition I've found with many people is that they have
been subconsciously programmed for failure. If this is so for

you, unless you change your programming it will continue to sabotage you
and your progress will be impeded.

So, you may want to go through the "Script" on this one too. The following
is how I would process to reprogram failure: "Spirit, please locate the origin
of the feelings that cause me to continually fail." I would continue through
the rest of the "Script" until I came to the next blank line, then I would
replace "to continually fail" with, "I choose succeeding. I feel successful. I
am succeeding. I now allow myself to succeed. I give myself permission to
succeed. I choose reprograming myself for success. I am succeeding in all
my endeavors. I am successful!" Then I would finish it on out with the
balance of the "Script."

This does not necessarily mean that all of a sudden you are going to go out
and succeed in everything you do. It is still necessary to observe and adhere
to correct principles in your feelings and thoughts in order to succeed.
However, reprogramming yourself to succeed opens up the channels to help
eliminate the saboteurs that have been keeping you from meeting your
desired goals. Be aware that you may also have other specific negative
feelings you need to address where success is concerned.

When you are programmed to fail, it's like you have a brick wall standing in
your way. Each brick of the wall represents a feeling that has contributed to
validating your failure or lack of success. In order to move ahead in all
areas of your life—after you've changed the master program from "failure"
to one of "success"—it is necessary to disassemble that wall, brick by brick
(feeling by feeling). You do this by taking each of your negative feelings
encompassing the area of success, one or several at a time, and process
them through the "Script" so you can change them to positive feelings.
Processing further in depth contributes to a subsequent total shift of
energies that will eventually produce the results you are seeking in that area
of your life.

Imagine yourself as a computer. The master program is the "Memory of

Perfection" in your DNA and could be considered the hard-

ware. The "Script," in this instance, is the software that you are using to
change negative programs to positive programs. Uncovering the "Memory
of Perfection" in your DNA enables the computer to function in the most
productive and desirable manner.

As you begin processing your feelings, you may want to be more selective
in choosing other influences that you bring into your life. While striving to
change the negativity to positivity in your energy field, continually feed
your mind positive information; view worth-while TV; watch uplifting
movies; be more particular about the thoughts you choose and the words
you speak; associate with positive people; listen to music with positive
messages and beautiful melodies. In other words, create a more optimal
environment for positive change.

Be certain you always replace your negative feelings with appropriate

positive feelings. If a void or vacuum is left where negative feelings have
been removed, more of the same can come back—multiplied—unless the
void is filled with something positive. Also, you more easily pick up
negativity from others around you if you leave a void. Remember, what you
are doing is changing the programming. If the instructions to your Spirit are
not specific and complete, the energy of the negative could be left in limbo
—hanging and unresolved—and completion may not be realized.

After you have used the Script to process and resolve the initial feelings of
like, love, acceptance, trust of self, etc., then continue on your
transformational journey by:

1. Recognizing your uncomfortable feelings. The minute you feel them, if

you are able to, take out your "Script" and state the negative feelings at the
beginning, then change them to positive feelings at the appropriate place.

2. Doing this as many times a day as needed. If you are unable to resolve
the feelings right at the moment they happen, make a mental or written note
of them so you

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won't forget what the feelings are. At an appropriate time, later in the day,
process the feelings you were unable to address earlier with the "Script,"
changing the negative to appropriate positive feelings.

3. Doing a mental sweeping each night before you go to sleep. Think back
over your day and remember negative incidents that caused you any hurt,
pain or discomfort. Address and resolve them by taking them through the
"Script."

4. Processing as many unresolved feelings as possible at this time. You may

have quite a few to process by the time you go to bed. Nevertheless, your
Spirit/Intelligence works on them very efficiently and effectively during the
night.

5. Keeping in mind, that no matter when you are able to change the
negative feelings to the positive, it will work.
6. Memorizing the "Script" as soon as possible so it is immediately
available when you need it.

7. Saying the "Script" out loud or silently. (Either way works.) Ideally, a
quiet place where you can be alone and are able to relax is best, but if that is
not possible, do whatever is next best for you.

After the "Script" is memorized, you will find that you can go through it
very quickly wherever you are.

One of the appealing things about the "Script" is that there are no
limitations on ways to use it. A very healing and effective approach you
may incorporate when dealing with your feelings towards other people is to
write out all the negative feelings you have ever felt toward each member of
your family. (It might surprise you what will come to your mind.) Then, do
the same thing where any other person is concerned.

After you have listed these negative feelings, take all the feelings for one
person at a time and go through the "Script," replacing the negative with
total forgiveness, unconditional love and any other appropriate opposite
positive feelings.

For example: If you have listed resentment as a negative feeling towards

your brother, Jerry, "... please locate the origin of the resentment I feel
towards my brother, Jerry." Or, "... the origin of the feelings that cause me
to be ticked off when he always has to be right." Where the first blank line
in the "Script" appears, just state that sentence. State it exactly the way it
came to your mind. Then, replace it on the second blank line with
something like, "I choose releasing all past resentments toward him. I feel
to release all past resentments toward him. I AM releasing all past
resentments toward him. He was only reacting to a lack within himself. I
understand, I feel love for him and I forgive him," or whatever comes to
your mind.

As was mentioned before, there is a list of negative feelings in Chapter 17

—to assist you in identifying what you are feeling—and their opposite
appropriate positive feelings for replacing the negative.
After you have worked through many of your feelings, sometimes you may
come to an impasse where you simply don't know WHAT it is you are
feeling. At this point, state it as such: "Spirit, please locate the origin of the
feeling I'm feeling that is so uncomfortable." Your Spirit/ Super-
Conscious/Intelligence will know what it is and process it for you.

Be prepared for a rewarding, ongoing process, because changing and

eliminating layers of negative feelings does not happen overnight.
Remember, you didn't acquire them overnight, so they're not going to
disappear overnight! Also, keep in mind that you were born with some of
those feelings (or vibrations), in which case, they have been there for a long
time. They came with you in your genes at the cellular level—in the DNA.
Sometimes these feelings can be very stubborn and don't readily release
their hold on you. Nevertheless, you can accomplish

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what you desire to accomplish if you are committed to resolving those old,
useless and sick feelings.

When you have made progress in processing your negative feelings with the
"Script," do your best to keep from slipping back into the old, habitual
grooves—the ones that became worn out from so much use, undermining
your self-worth and self-esteem, or creating a dragon in you. If you find
yourself slipping back, just know there are more layers to peel away. Focus
on the feelings you wish to eliminate and continue processing them with the
"Script," replacing them with appropriate positive feelings to resolve them.

After I had been using the "Script" for about four months, I began
experiencing a feeling inside myself that was very disturbing, but I could
not "put my finger on" what I was feeling. I just knew that emotionally I
hurt inside ... at my very core! Doing my best to identify what this feeling
was, I kept asking myself the question, "What is it? What am I feeling?" I
did that for about three days. Then, as I was reclined on my slant board after
exercising one morning, I was just being with the feeling and asking, "What
is it? What is it?" All of a sudden the words came to me loud and clear,
"YOU'RE NOT IMPORTANT!" Immediately the impact of that feeling
enveloped me and without even thinking about it I started crying. At that
same moment, I instantly and automatically drew up into the fetal position.
As these words were ringing in my ears I witnessed the circumstances of
my birth in my mind's eye and felt the feelings that occurred during those
first historical moments of my life. My mother and I were all alone during
that event, with the exception of the hospital personnel. There was no one
else from the family present to herald my entrance to earth. The absence of
family members, especially my Father who was unable to be there, had told
me, in effect, that "I wasn't important" ... not important enough for anyone
to be there awaiting my arrival. As the flood of feelings from my birth
experience came rushing and gushing forward, I cried and cried. I couldn't
stop for a long time, the hurt was so deep.

After this experience, I began to understand why I set things up throughout

my life to happen the way they did. For instance, when my name was
omitted from programs. Subconsciously, I felt I always had to validate this
belief—I'M NOT IMPORTANT—in my social life, in opportunities of
leadership, in my professional life, with my family, etc. I was sabotaging
myself continually, not allowing myself to feel successful or important,
regardless of my ability to achieve in all these areas.

The knowledge and awareness that came from this experience was:
realizing in those first few moments that Mom and I were alone— in my
heart I automatically concluded that "I wasn't important", because no one
was there to welcome my arrival. I felt the feeling (incorrect perception) of
abandonment, not only for myself but for what I thought my mother must
have been going through. I felt sorry for her. And, wanting to soothe
Mother's pain and make everything better or all right for her, I decided that
I COULD be important by being her "champion," her "protector" so that
she wouldn't ever have to experience this loneliness again. The feelings that
were going on inside me caused me to perceive and say (to myself), "Well,
Mom, it's just you and me against the world! I will protect you. I will take
care of you and see that you are happy. It's my job to make this up to you. I
will be strong for both of us!" And so, I carried that responsibility on my
shoulders for over 48 years.

I am so grateful that a resolution of these incorrect perceptions and feelings

were available to me through using the "Script."
Many times I wondered if going through the "Script" all the time was worth
it. But, when a specific incident happens now, that used to bother me, and I
recognize that I'm not affected or bothered by it in the least anymore, I
know how valuable that persistence was, and continues to be.

Let me give you another example: I don't think anything made me more
angry than being awakened from a sound sleep by someone or something.
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infuriated me if the phone rang before I was awake, or if the toilet flushed
and woke me up, or if someone was making too much noise either in the
house or out of the house. When our children were growing up, their
bathroom bordered our bedroom, so we trained them to not flush the toilet
in the middle of the night so we wouldn't be awakened.

Once while staying in a motel with a group of family and friends in Jackson
Hole, Wyoming, someone was having a loud party close by. It was very late
at night and we were all quite tired from traveling. The noise from the party
woke most of us and kept us awake. Much to the surprise of my friends and
my children, I put my robe on, went to the room where the party was going
on, knocked on the door and asked them if they realized that others may be
trying to sleep! (Usually, I wasn't that nervy.) Yes, it was a real phobia with
me.

Sound ridiculous? Well, at the time it didn't seem so to me. For some reason
I was very possessive of my sleep. When I started using the "Script" to
release that feeling of anger when I was awakened abruptly—guess what? It
no longer bothered me. It's so wonderful to now feel peaceful and calm
whenever I'm awakened from a deep sleep at (what I consider) an
inappropriate time!

Using the "Script" accomplishes several significant things. As I have stated,

it brings us to single-mindedness; it returns the cells to their perfect
blueprint (when correct positive information replaces the negative); it
brings us back into alignment and balance with the laws of the Universe; it
changes and raises our vibrations, which brings us closer to our Source—to
our place of Comfort and Peace; it eliminates the conflict between Body
and Spirit, which then allows our Soul to be at peace and in charge; it
creates a more favorable environment for social, physical, mental,
emotional and spiritual healing. The "Script" is literally a vehicle for self-
transformation. The "Script" assists us in changing our heart and in
becoming more forgiving, loving, compassionate, merciful and accepting.

Chapter 8

The Major Feelings

How do you go about recognizing what you are feeling when there's such a
maze of feelings and emotions running around out there? How in the world
do you differentiate what's what?

My experience has been that all of the feelings and emotions in the world
can basically be narrowed down to two . . . LOVE and FEAR. All positive
feelings/emotions are LOVE-based. All negative feelings/ emotions are
FEAR-based. In other words, we are either coming from LOVE or we are
coming from FEAR. It's as simple as that.

Gerald G. Jampolsky's book title, Love is Letting Go of Fear, is very

meaningful and profound in regard to this principle; if all our feelings and
emotions were love based there would be no reason to go through this
process. Nevertheless, there are feelings that wreak havoc and turmoil in
our lives, and these are fear based. Wouldn't it be wonderful if we were all
coming from unconditional love? (That includes self-love.)

Let's broaden the principal feeling of FEAR into seven primary categories,
then it won't be such a challenge to understand and to get started. There are
seven primary categories of feelings. Most of us enter this earth with one of
these primary feelings. Sadly, they are all appendages of FEAR. The major
feelings are:

Countless other negative feelings related to these seven, are found listed in
Chapter 17. As you tune into these principles and move with this process,
you will come to understand that the negative feelings you feel—those
feelings that take you out of a peaceful state; that bring discomfort and
uneasiness into your life; the ones you would very much like to be rid of—
can usually be traced back to one or more of the seven categories of fear, or
an appendage to them.

At least one of the feelings from the fear category, or something very close
to it, is usually internalized at birth by each one of us. This isn't to say that
everyone embraced a negative core feeling at birth . . . only about 97% of
us did. Those people who had very calm, happy, peaceful, pleasant and
fulfilling birth experiences generally have internalized a love-based feeling.
As a result, their experiences in life may be less challenging than those with
fear-based feelings.

Once again, it is important to remember that the dominant pivotal feeling

we experience at birth colors all our perceptions of life from that time on,
and is therefore the ruling feeling through which we view life— the feeling
that compels us to the behavior we exhibit each day.

You may or may not be sensitive to the feeling (know what it is) you
embraced at birth. But, if you think you know, then process it with the
Script to assist you in changing the negative core programming.

For example: Let's suppose your major feeling is a NEED FOR

APPROVAL. Just say, "Spirit, please locate the origin of my feelings that
created such a NEED FOR APPROVAL in me." After you say,

"With total forgiveness and unconditional love, I allow every physical,

mental, emotional, and spiritual problem, and inappropriate behavior based
on the negative origin recorded in my DNA, to transform," you may then
like to continue with words to the effect of, "I choose approving of myself. I
feel approval of myself. I am approving of myself. Everyone approves of
me. I choose being cherished. I feel cherished. I am cherished. I choose
being loved. I feel loved. I am loved. I feel valued. I am valued. I feel
connected to all those I love. I am connected to all those I love." Then finish
the Script.

Give yourself permission—allow yourself to feel whatever feelings you

may feel. These feelings are much easier to change if you accept and own
them rather than deny them and pretend they don't exist. When you feel
negative feelings it does NOT make you a bad person! Who in the world
can go through life without feeling negativity some of the time? I doubt that
it's possible ... even if you were on a desert island by yourself. Developing a
consciousness of what you are feeling and thinking, then striving to
overcome your destructive negative feelings and thoughts is part of the
challenge of this life.

If obvious "less than glorious" feelings have caused a weakness in our

character, by continually monitoring these feelings and processing them
through the Script we can change our feelings and overcome any negative
influence they bring to our behavior—thereby improving our character.

In the course of time, by transforming old unproductive feelings to

productive positive feelings, the detrimental effects of the old feelings will
lose their hold on us. This positive change will become a definite source of
strength to us. This extraordinary remedial process all starts by us owning
all our feelings and resolving the negative tendencies they create in our
lives.

I had a client who processed the feeling of rejection. She had been
unconsciously sabotaging herself in order to be rejected and create havoc in
her relationship with her boyfriend. At this particular time,

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their relationship was on a down-hill slide about as fast as it could go!

Consciously, she had no idea why she was doing what she was doing. She
didn't even recognize she was doing them. Finally, she dealt with the
feelings of rejection and the/ear of being rejected and replaced those
feelings with "I choose accepting myself. I feel acceptance of my self and
the acceptance of others. I am accepting of my self. People naturally love
me. I claim the ability to be accepted and loved by others."

By going through the Script for those feelings, from that moment forward,
her whole behavior pattern started to change and her relationships
straightened out without any other conscious effort on her part. I was
amazed and gratified to watch her relationship with her boyfriend change
and become progressively better, until several months later they became
engaged and were later married.

Several years ago, one of my friends became concerned about her sudden
change of feelings toward her husband. Little by little everything her
husband did started to annoy and bother her. She didn't like the way he ate;
the way he talked; the way he smiled; the way he laughed; the way he
walked. In short, she didn't like the way he did anything! She started
wondering what on earth was happening to her. What was he doing
differently that caused her to feel this way?

My friend feared she might have a difficult time continuing in the

relationship having these feelings—even after 28 years of marriage. She
was having a difficult time remembering her former feelings of affection for
this man. In desperation, she started to process her feelings with the Script.
She became responsible and accountable for what she was feeling towards
her husband.

Much to her surprise, the feelings of annoyance, aggravation, distaste and

disdain started to evaporate (as she described it). Slowly, the feelings of
caring, concern, love and affection returned. She squarely looked at and
addressed every negative feeling she felt where he was concerned. This
friend replaced those negative feelings primarily with "forgiveness and
unconditional love." Her marriage returned to the

solid, fulfilling relationship it had formerly been. She is a happy, content

woman today—17 years later—and is truly grateful for this tool she
continues to use and share with others.

The foregoing examples talk about feelings that are comparatively simple to
overcome. There is one feeling very prevalent in the world today that we
haven't talked about, however. That feeling is HATE. With all the wars and
rumors of war throughout the world, it makes a person wonder if there will
ever be peace. When we see in the media the disdain, hatred and desire for
revenge exhibited by people in many countries, it could make us wonder
how this hatred got its root. . . how the retaliation that seems to go on year
after year could ever be halted.
Then there is the world-wide racial prejudice. It reminds me of the song,
You've Got to Be Taught, from SOUTH PACIFIC, which in essence says
that we have to be taught to hate and fear, we have to be taught from year to
year. We're taught to hate a person's race, the color of someone's skin,
someone's culture, etc., etc. You get the picture.

Knowing how the feelings and thoughts of each parent can impact the
prenatal period of their child's development—as well as the DNA—
reminds us that our parents wouldn't even have to say one word against
another race or people during our life. We would still be influenced by their
unresolved feelings and thoughts towards those whom they consider
undesirable. The tragedy of this commentary is that if we are prejudiced, we
usually see the person, race or nationality we're prejudiced against as our
mortal enemy. In reality, they are just as human as we are. They have the
same needs, feelings, hopes, and desires that we do. How can they be our
enemy? Have they declared themselves as such? So . . . what is the
solution?

Let me share with you what John A. Sanford tells us in his book, The
Kingdom Within:

The beginning of the solution to the problem of the enemy is to recognize

him within ourselves. We carry the enemy in our

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own hearts. We hate him because he contradicts us. We fear that if we

acknowledge him as our own he will take us over completely. The precise
opposite is true. NOT to acknowledge him is to fall into the power of the
inner enemy who mocks our futile efforts to get rid of him, by getting rid of
those who carry the projected burden of our own darkness. To acknowledge
him as our own is to begin to be released from his power and to find his
constructive side.

In other words, if we are desirous of eliminating hatred of supposed

enemies, we would do well to start by looking at the reflection of our Self
in that enemy. If the quality that we hate is not in our Self, we can not see it
—resonate with it—in another person. Or, saying it another way, we only
see in others that which we see (subconsciously) in our Self Until we own
this truth, we will continue to carry the burden of our own darkness.

A beautiful illustration of a person eliminating feelings of hate towards his

enemy is told by George G. Ritchie in his book, Return from Tomorrow:

When the war in Europe ended in May 1945, the 123rd Evac entered
Germany with the occupying troops. I was part of a group assigned to a
concentration camp near Wuppertal, charged with getting medical help to
the newly liberated prisoners, many of them Jews from Holland, France,
and eastern Europe. This was the most shattering experience I had yet had; i
had been exposed many times by then to sudden death and injury, but to see
the effect of slow starvation, to walk through those barracks where
thousands of men had died a little bit at a time over a period of years, was a
new kind of horror. For many it was an irreversible process: we lost scores
each day in spite of all the medicine and food we could rush to them.

And that's how I came to know Wild Bill Cody. That wasn't his real name.
His real name was seven unpronounceable syl-

lables in Polish, but he had long drooping handlebar mustaches like pictures
of the old western hero, so the American-soldiers called him Wild Bill. He
was one of the inmates of the concentration camp, but obviously he hadn't
been there long: his posture was erect, his eyes bright, his energy
indefatigable. Since he was fluent in English, French, German and Russian,
as well as Polish, he became a kind of unofficial camp translator.

We came to him with all sorts of problems; the paper work alone was
staggering in attempting to relocate people whose families, even whole
hometowns, might have disappeared. But though Wild Bill worked fifteen
and sixteen hours a day, he showed no signs of weariness. While the rest of
us were drooping with fatigue, he seemed to gain strength. 'We have time
for this old fellow,' he'd say. 'He's been waiting to see us all day.' His
compassion for his fellow-prisoners glowed on his face, and it was to this
glow that I came when my own spirits were low.

So I was astonished to learn when Wild Bill's own papers came before us
one day, that he had been in Wuppertal since 1939! For six years he had
lived on the same starvation diet, slept in the same airless and disease-
ridden barracks as everyone else, but without the least physical or mental
deterioration.

Perhaps even more amazing, every group in the camp looked on him as a
friend. He was the one to whom quarrels between inmates were brought for
arbitration. Only after I'd been at Wuppertal a number of weeks did I realize
what a rarity this was in a compound where the different nationalities of
prisoners hated each other almost as much as they did the Germans.

As for Germans, feeling against them ran so high that in some of the camps
liberated earlier, former prisoners had seized guns, run into the nearest
village and simply shot the first Germans they saw. Part of our instructions
were to prevent this kind of thing and again, Wild Bill was our greatest
asset, reasoning with the different groups, counseling forgiveness.

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'It's not easy for some of them to forgive,' I commented to him one day as
we sat over mugs of tea in the processing center. 'So many of them have lost
members of their families.'

Wild Bill leaned back in the upright chair and sipped at his drink. 'We lived
in the Jewish section of Warsaw,' he began slowly, the first words I had
heard him speak about himself, 'my wife, our two daughters, and our three
little boys. When the Germans reached our street they lined everyone
against a wall and opened up with machine guns. I begged to be allowed to
die with my family, but because I spoke German they put me in a work
group.'

He paused, perhaps seeing again his wife and five children. 'I had to decide
right then,' he continued, 'whether to let myself hate the soldiers who had
done this. It was an easy decision, really. I was a lawyer. In my practice I
had seen too often what hate could do to people's minds and bodies. Hate
had just killed the six people who mattered most to me in the world. I
decided then that I would spend the rest of my life—whether it was a few
days or many years—loving every person I came in contact with.
Loving every person . . . this was the power that had kept a man well in the
face of every privation.

NOTE: Wild Bill lived on the same starvation diet, slept in the same airless
and disease-ridden barracks as everyone else, BUT—without the least
physical or mental deterioration! How amazing! Wild Bill's attitude—the
feeling in his heart-mind—was one of pure and simple love. He loved every
person with whom he came in contact. And in order to exhibit this kind of
love he would have had to forgive. What a graphic example of the profound
and magnificent power of forgiveness and love.

Negative feelings, thoughts and attitudes eat at our body. Positive feelings,
thoughts and attitudes feed our body—nourish our body—sustain our body.

If you are sincere in your desire to overcome any prejudice or hatred you
may be carrying around in your heart, but are having a difficult time
accomplishing this, may I suggest that using the Script is one of the best
avenues you could take to changing that negative energy inside you. The
freedom and release you would receive by doing this is worth more than
anything money can buy. Be specific in stating who or what you feel hatred
toward. You may even want to make a list of them all, then take them
through the Script one at a time, especially if the hate is old and deep-
seeded.

Anger is another big stumbling block with many people. One young man,
Kevin, was racked and possessed with terrible anger that seemed impossible
to control or resolve. He had uncontrollable mood swings. Members of
Kevin's family never knew what to expect where his feelings and emotions
were concerned. After concentrating on what he was feeling, then
processing these feelings through the Script for a period of time, Kevin
became a much happier, self-fulfilled person. He is now more even-
tempered, and has a job with important leadership responsibilities.
Everyone he works with truly enjoys being under his supervision. But what
is most gratifying to Kevin in his new found sense of true inner peace . . .
knowing that whenever he shifts back into negativity he can use the Script
to return to the coveted peace he enjoys.
There are many, many more Script experiences I could share with you (they
would fill a book), including people who have had financial problems
reversed; people who have improved their health; and people who had no
desire to live anymore . . . who are now living happy, fulfilling, productive
lives. There are those whose self-esteem was so low they could hardly look
at anyone, let alone look them in the eye. Now their confidence is one of
their greatest assets.

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As you process your feelings, you may find the change you had hoped for is
not forthcoming. Oftentimes you are dealing with unresolved generational
(ancestral) feelings and trauma, as well as your own, and they can be many
layers deep. You usually have no conscious awareness of what they are or
from whence they came. Just keep digging by processing daily negative
feelings and thoughts.

The body also has its' own priority as to what needs processing next.
Sometimes what YOU may consider a priority is not in agreement with the
body. Consequently, you could experience "hit and miss" until you finally
hit the mark and start realizing results. When dealing with major feelings
(i.e. Fear) be aware of any appendages and be willing to look at them also,
as shown in the illustration.

FEAR is the dark room where all the negatives are developed. Illustration
A man who had been Scripting for several months after attending one of my
workshops in Washington, called me and told me that he had decided to
Script for ANGER until it was gone. I said to him, "Wait a minute, Dan.
You mean without being specific about who or what was

causing the anger." He said, "Yes, I just Scripted anger." Then he said, "And
in 30 days it was gone! It just left. Not only that, but Gary (his somewhat
rebellious son who seemed to have been the recipient of Dan's unresolved
anger through the DNA) did a complete flip-flop at the same time!"
Needless to say, Dan was very excited.

Another man, after hearing Dan's story, Scripted FEAR for about the same
amount of time and was finally free of that feeling which had plagued him
for 60 years. Just remember, everyone is different. Consequently, the Script
will have a unique effect with each individual.

Chapter 9

It Just "Is

yy

The question has been asked about the Script, "Does the Script take the
place of prayer?" The answer to this question is an emphatic, absolute
"NO!" The Script is not a prayer. With this Script you are addressing a part
of your Self —your Spirit, Higher Self, Intelligence (or whatever fits your
belief system), only in so doing you are directing your conscious thoughts
and words rather than allowing unconscious, undirected, mindless thoughts
and words. When using the Script your intent is to take accountability for
what you are feeling and thinking. Consider it a poem or the words to a
song, or a tool to correct the faulty wiring ... to reprogram the distorted
cells. In actuality, the Script is a vehicle of transformational healing in all
aspects of your life.

In praying, you are talking to God. You are directing your thoughts and
words to your Creator, or whatever your definition of Deity is. In my mind,
one cannot compare the two. It may seem strange to some, to be conversing
with their Spirit, or to be giving it instructions. Most people are not taught
to do this, so it is quite a change . . . one that some may not want to make.
However, we carry on a conversation, or are talking to ourselves all the
time. It's called self-talk. Usually, we just don't pay any attention to our self-
talk and what we are saying. Who is that inside our head we are talking to
and making comments to, anyway?

If giving instructions to your Spirit takes you out of your comfort zone (like
it did for me, at first), it will be more of a challenge to move forward in this
process. Take a look at the discomfort you may feel at the thoughts of using
the Script. It will be insightful and revealing and may create a new
awareness in you. Be willing to experience discomfort in order to grow and
move to a new level of maturity. Be willing to step out of your comfort
zone . . . that's where growth takes place! Be willing to admit you may have
an incorrect perception. Be willing to shift into a higher gear! The
marvelous and rewarding by-product of improving ourselves is that others
around us begin to improve also.

It has been said that when we lift ourselves we lift 30,000 other people with
us. When we think of the far-reaching effects ONE life can have, as
evidenced in the famous movie with Jimmy Stewart, It's A Wonderful Life,
I'm sure there is a lot of truth in this statement.

Rather than accept the responsibility ourself, it's easier for us to blame our
unhappiness or misfortune on someone else, saying, "If Bob would only do
this, or if he'd only say this, then I would be happy." Or, "If it hadn't been
for that person in front of me, this misfortune (or whatever) wouldn't have
happened." YOU are the one that determines your happiness. It's only when
you accept what "IS" and decide to make some improvements in YOUR
SELF and not wait for others to improve or change, that you allow, make
room for and create an atmosphere for others to improve also. Initially, the
change has to come from within you before you will notice others changing.

The fun and enlightening part about working on yourself is that you forget
about helping or wanting others to change. Because you are having such a
good time, and are being rewarded in this new endeavor of discovering your
own feelings and thoughts, it's easier to "live and let live." After all is said
and done, YOU are NOT responsible for changing anyone but yourself,
anyway!
It is exciting to observe the shift that occurs when a person is willing to take
responsibility and start working on themselves instead of

always looking OUT THERE (outside themselves) for their answers and
their happiness. Unconditional acceptance of others becomes much easier
for those who focus on themselves reforming, instead of always focusing on
reforming someone else.

When we start looking to ourselves for the resolutions to our own problems,
a definite shift takes place inside us. This shift creates and allows an
environment of understanding and forgiveness of Self and others. When
understanding abounds in us, it becomes much easier to "let go" of the
blame and judgment that we have directed toward others. If we can honestly
and maturely accept everyone, including ourselves, exactly where they are
and the way they are—this very moment—great changes in ourselves, as
well as others, will automatically occur.

To develop the maturity and compassion it requires to accept everyone just

the way they are, it is necessary for us to embrace the internal conviction
that it is IMPOSSIBLE for us to see a situation, problem, or challenge the
same way another person sees it. In the first place, as we have learned from
previous chapters, another person's conception and gestation period was
totally different than ours. Their birth experience was unique unto
themselves. We have NO IDEA what feel-ing(s) they embraced at birth ...
the feeling that has governed their whole lifes experiences. We have not had
the same set of circumstances and experiences in our life that they have
had. We have not been disciplined exactly the way they have been
disciplined. We have not had the same heartaches and hurts they have had.
We certainly don't have the same inner dialogue they have. Once again,
there is NO WAY we can see things through another person's eyes! Who
gave us license to judge or blame? Our only assignment is to NOT judge or
blame, but to FORGIVE.

Where others are concerned, the attitude or situation just "IS." Attitudes are
collective feelings and beliefs, and no two people have the same collection.
We ALL have many of the same kinds of challenges and problems, but each
one of us approaches their resolution from a dif-
ferent point of view. Who's to say which viewpoint is right or wrong or
better than anyone else's?

During part of my life I was plagued with one of the worst diseases known
to man. It is called, automatic judging. Indeed, it was one of my greatest
shortcomings. I finally realized there was NO WAY I could accurately see
things through someone else's eyes. There was NO WAY I could know what
another person's experiences and upbringing had brought to his life. I have a
whole different range of input, upbringing and experiences that make me
who I am. What makes me think I can stand in another person's shoes and
know what makes him tick?

Most people do the best they can according to their own perceptions. We
have no license to find fault in their perceptions! We all have them.

It was such a relief for me to be able to allow every person their own life
without feeling I had to pass judgment. I finally understood that I may not
agree with another person's viewpoint, belief or behavior, but that doesn't
make me right and them wrong. Even when I see immorality or crime
where people break the laws of the land and the laws of God, I can't judge
them because I wasn't there walking in their footsteps to understand what
caused them to do what they did. I don't have to like what they are doing or
condone it, but I have no business judging them. They will—sooner or later
—suffer the natural consequences of their behavior. I can only say, "There,
but for the grace of God, go I. Bless you."

How many times have we heard, "Only look for the good in others. If you
can't say something nice, don't say anything at all." Someone forgot to tell
us, though, "If you can't THINK anything nice, don't THINK anything at
all." (Have you ever tried not thinking?)

Anyone can find the negative in others, but it's much more of a challenge to
find the good ... the positive. When we see the negative in another person,
however, it is only a reflection of something we see in ourselves that we do
not like. If it weren't in us we wouldn't be able to

see it in someone else ... we wouldn't resonate with it. This behooves us to
look for the good in ourselves as well as in others. Accept what "IS."
In his fascinating book, Return From Tomorrow, George G. Ritchie asks:
Do you want to affiliate with the Christ in people or the Adversary in
people? Which ever one you choose, it is necessary for you to find those
characteristics—either Christ's or the Adversary's—in each person you
meet. . . and in, I might add, your Self.

Chapter 10

Early Up-Bringing

When we suggest to others that they may have an unresolved negative

feeling toward some beloved member of their family, they could become
defensive or offended, and respond by not wanting to continue the
conversation. The important thing to understand is that there is no blame in
these situations. It just "IS." Those people who influenced our early years
usually did the best they knew how.

As a child, when we established a particular perception, we usually had an

incorrect reference point because we were too young to understand and sort
out the true picture. Our own lack of maturity—our own lack of wisdom—
produced the incorrect perception. Therefore, our perception was usually an
illusion.

Incorrect or not, that perception has been stored in our cells—in our DNA
—covering over the memory of perfection in our original blueprint. These
perceptions have been carried with us throughout our years, often creating
enormous physical, emotional or mental pain in some area of our life. Our
mind had to draw some conclusion for the discomfort (pain) we felt at the
time the core incident occurred. Consequently, whatever data was available
in our subconscious from previous experiences for us to reference,
determined the belief we established, whether correct or incorrect. Then
later, when similar incidents occurred in our lives, any old familiar feelings
that were being resurrected responded

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once again by embracing the same incorrect perception—the same incorrect

belief—thereby validating our illusion. Thus, a deeper and deeper
endorsement of the discomfort was perpetuated (subconsciously)-

Let us start with the factors described in the beginning of the book
concerning our gestation and birth, and add to them the way we were
treated by whomever was involved in our world as we grew up. Were we
treated with love and acceptance or did we experience physical, mental or
emotional abuse? Whatever happened to us . . . these experiences had a
profound impact on our concept of Self.

When a child is abused, he is usually unable to express his feelings of fear,

anger or rage. So, these feelings are stuffed inside him without a form of
verbal expression. When feelings are continually stuffed inside, the child
may lash out by being abusive to others, or he may be uncontrollable in
different ways. He may become languid or non-communicative and
withdrawn; or, he may become ill. The illness, at this point, will often affect
the immune system, especially if the child views the situation as being
unalterable, hopeless, or feels there is no way out.

Many children who come from an abusive background seem to always want
to make things right for everyone. Their inner core has been so painfully
violated that they want peace at all costs. They walk around in fear and
trembling, hoping they will never be the focal point of anyone's verbal or
physical disapproval.

A child's identity evolves around family members. In an abused child's pure

intent to make things right for everyone around him as he is growing up, he
finds himself taking care of others at the expense of his own feelings and
needs. Consequently, the child has no identity of his own. This is what is
known as co-dependency.

More often than not, the child does not approve of himself because he
subconsciously feels somehow, that it was his fault he was abused. He
always worries about other people's feelings rather than his own. He
continually tries to make things right for everyone else, regardless of

what he wants. Because it's impossible for him to make things right for
everyone else, he then views himself as incapable, unimportant, as a failure.
Because of his inability to change things for the better for others he
particularly feels worthless. In his eyes, he is responsible for all the
problems, regardless of what they are.

By always worrying about others and trying to meet everyone else's needs
or expectations, the child shuts down his own feeling system to the point of
not having any sense of who he is or where he is going. He thrives on
constant outside approval. In fact, he NEEDS it! But, when outside
approval is not forthcoming, this compounds his disapproval of himself.
Ironically, in reality, it's this disapproval of Self that creates the lack of
approval from others.

The co-dependent stays in a "Catch 22" situation, cycling through the same
scenario over and over again. So, a person with these kinds of experiences
will commonly end up a loner or go from one relationship to another
continually looking for and seeking approval. These people frequently
become involved with abusive people, and when their relationships don't
work out they always feel responsible for its failure. This compounds the
feeling of worthlessness, which is one of the most common co-dependent
traits.

Sooner or later though, the erroneous programming with its resultant

negative feelings which have been trapped inside since childhood— those
feelings that are in the cell memory at the core—finally come to the point
where they have to be recognized and acknowledged in order to correct or
alter the behavior patterns. If this never happens, the co-dependent is very
miserable emotionally, all his life.

In Quantum Healing, Dr. Chopra states, "This core is where healing begins.
To go there and learn to promote the healing response, you must get past all
the grosser levels of the body-cells, tissues, organs, and systems—and
arrive at the junction point between mind and matter, the point where
consciousness actually starts to have an effect."

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Note the word consciousness. When a person is willing to be conscious, to

recognize and OWN the negative feelings that have been buried alive, these
feelings—these vibrations—can then be dramatically transformed by
embracing positive opposite feelings. This, in turn, engenders a new and
higher vibratory environment within that person. This now new, healthier,
higher vibratory environment initiates a restructuring and reordering that
begins the healing process.

One classic example of this sad state of negative emotions happened to a

lady I knew. Brenda was in her forties. When I heard her story I could not
believe that any one person could have experienced so much emotional pain
as a child and still be alive and functioning! After hearing her account of
sexual abuse by her father and other male members of her family, we
processed with the Script many feelings she had bravely buried—feelings
that definitely needed a resolution and healing in her life.

Sometimes it is necessary to process many feelings during one session, as in

the case of Brenda, who lived in a different state than I. She expressed to
me that she felt a definite emotional shift on the inside before we completed
our initial time together. I later phoned Brenda to see how she was feeling.
She indicated that the difference in her—the shift and change she was
experiencing—was much greater than she ever anticipated. Although
Brenda rarely confided in anyone, she had always yearned for love and
understanding from others at a deep level of her soul, without having to
reveal her abuse, her horrible emotional trauma as a girl. Most of her life
she had felt an underlying desire to explain to people what she had been
through so they would better understand her. Now, that desire to justify
herself and what had happened to her earlier in life was totally eliminated.
She no longer felt the need to explain her hurt, her distrust of men, her guilt
or the shame she had carried inside her for years. She continued to use the
Script on her own, and in a short time had made such progress that she felt a
peaceful freedom and release she had never before experienced.

If you haven't encountered an emotional crisis or health crisis in your life

and you identify with what you are reading, let me encourage you to make
note of the feelings that may have been stored and stuffed for years, not at
all dead and buried.

For example: There may be hidden anger toward one or both your parents.
Have you been able to forgive your mother for letting your dad take
advantage of her? And have you been able to forgive your dad for taking
advantage of your mother? Have you forgiven your father for all the times
he verbally humiliated you? Have you forgiven your sister for (as you
perceive it) being prettier than you? Have you forgiven your brothers and
sisters for not understanding you ... for picking on you? Or does the
resentment go much deeper?

Have you forgiven other family members for their "less than glorious" acts
or actions (as you perceive them)? Have you forgiven your least favorite
teacher in school for embarrassing you in front of the rest of the class when
you were innocently talking instead of listening? These kinds of negative
feelings can be so imbedded and at such great depth that they remain a
subconscious, overwhelming, moving force in your life.

Remember, these feelings are powerful, living energies! And the examples
mentioned are very minor compared to some of the more serious anger, hate
and resentment people are carrying around inside them. Hate, anger,
resentment and desire for revenge are energies that can eat you alive!

Tom was a client who was so filled with these feelings that he literally had a
darkness about him when he came into my office. He had so much
negativity inside that he was compelled to spout off . . . unleashing his
anger and hate for almost two hours. He was conditioned to blame everyone
he could for his problems. He was a very sick man, with all kinds of
allergies and no physical energy whatsoever. Tom was in his early 40's, but
seemed twenty years older. It was obvious to me why he was so ill. At this
point in his life, however, he was so miserable

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that he was willing to try anything in order to feel better. However, Tom's
unconscious didn't really want to let go of it's dark feelings. "It" seemed to
thrive on them. He kept telling his wife there was no way he was going to
forgive people and things of the past. But, his wife finally persuaded him to
let his spirit help him change those feelings by going through the Script.
After his second visit, Tom didn't appear so dark. He became more cheerful
and amiable, and seemed to progressively improve. Soon, his pain and
discomfort abated and was no longer there to remind him of the purpose
and importance of the Script. When he no longer felt miserable he quit
using the Script and his unconscious conditioning started slipping him back
into his old patterns again. He had only scratched the surface of resolving
the negative feelings at this point.

What I didn't tell you, is that as a child, Tom seemed to be the brunt of his
mother's frustrations. For no apparent reason, she would often beat and
scream at him unmercifully. He was the oldest of four, but was the only one
who received this treatment.

We NEVER know what someone else has had to endure. Imagine how you
would have felt had you been the recipient of Tom's treatment! You see,
whatever you have been through could also cause you to be hanging on to
negative feelings. Keep in mind, however, that the past is lost and gone
forever. Your concern is with the NOW—with the present. You are
fortunate, for you have the opportunity of choice at this juncture—whether
things of the past keep you in bondage, or give you the key to open your
door to freedom

At this writing, Tom is at a crossroads. He will be choosing whether to

continue allowing his unconscious to keep him floundering in his negativity
or whether to lift his head up out of the mire and become more aware and
more accountable for his feelings—taking whatever steps are necessary to
change these poisonous, destructive, negative feelings to positive,
productive feelings. If Tom is capable, he does have a choice.

Having Tom's life touch mine served as an indelible reminder of how

powerful hate, anger, resentment and a desire for revenge are in bringing
someone down—physically and emotionally—in coloring the glasses
entirely dark that they see through. How sad it is, especially when
underneath all that anger is a real gem with great potential.

Even though all of these examples are just about one seemingly
insignificant person at a time, when you compound their pain, their hurt,
their hate, their fear, their sorrow, their anger, their guilt, their resentment,
their feelings of worthlessness, and their need for approval, then let it
resonate with all the other people in the world who have these same kinds
of feelings, you end up with millions, or perhaps billions, of miserable,
unhappy and hurting people. Even so, we have it within our power to do
something about it. We CAN make a difference. How can we make a
difference? We can start by creating a shift ... by making a change within
ourselves.

To some people, Colette's story may seem simple and unimportant. But,
here is an example of a girl struggling for her own identity, for acceptance,
for approval and for feelings of self-worth . . . qualities that everyone would
like to enjoy. Colette was a college age client who constantly needed
outside approval. Although she had not been labeled a "co-dependent" as
such, she had a very strong co-dependent trait. Colette always needed
outside approval to make her feel good about herself ... to make her feel
worthwhile. She had to be reassured constantly about the quality of her
performance, whether it was her school work, her cheerleading, her ability
to attract good-looking young men to her, or whatever. She was always
seeking outside approval and acceptance.

When we finally got right down to the root of this problem, we found that
as a child of five years, Colette had been singing with a group of children at
a program. She didn't know the words to the songs and so she just mouthed
the songs. Afterwards one of her aunts came up to her and mentioned that
her sister was singing so nicely. What was the mat-

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ter with her that she didn't know the words? The overwhelming feeling of
disapproval and censure Colette felt from her aunt, whom she dearly loved,
immediately caused her to establish a deep negative belief inside herself
that she couldn't express. But the belief, nevertheless, was internalized. This
new belief caused her to feel that she must make amends for her
unpreparedness and forever after gain approval and acceptance in whatever
she did.

However, the real core of Colette's problem became apparent at a later

session. She was a twin, and since birth Colette had felt that her mother
favored her twin over her. (Naturally, her mother was deeply hurt when she
realized Colette felt this way.) Regardless, no matter what, Colette always
felt she needed to prove she was especially worthy of her mother's approval
as well as everyone else's. (This is what incorrect perceptions do to us.)
Now armed with the realization of what she was feeling, Colette went
through the Script for, "the feelings that cause me to desperately want and
need approval." After using the Script for those particular feelings and some
appendages to the same feelings, she reported to me that she no longer felt
the anxiety she had for so many years of her life. She became much more
peaceful and relaxed and better able to flow with life. There were also other
significant improvements in her day to day activities. Colette realizes that
additional feelings with their incorrect perceptions and beliefs still need to
be altered and conquered, so she continues to use this process in
accomplishing her goals.

Most of us don't realize we're carrying all that stuff around with us. Stuff
that determines our everyday decisions and actions; stuff that has caused us
to be dysfunctional. All that stuff which has been affecting us has
influenced us on a subconscious level.

There is something else appropriate to mention here. If a person was raised

in a family with poor or inadequate communication skills, they often had to
pretend that everything was fine. But, in reality, there was much awry and
much hurting. Oh! How one longs for a healthy

interchange of ideas and communication—sharing experiences and

expressing feelings. Who could they talk to? Who could they tell their
secrets to? Where could they go for release from the pain? Or did they think
if they were quiet the pain might go away? Or, did they just turn their
feelings off?

A person's mind-body can actually turn feelings off so the pain won't be
felt. And their reality or method of coping becomes one of non-
participation, i.e., "It happens to others, but not me." What is really
happening, however, is that those painful (negative) feelings and thoughts
are getting stuffed deeper and deeper inside because there is no release, no
outlet, no resolution for them. How long can a person continue stuffing and
storing before the "container" is full and there is no room left to stuff or
store anymore?

When the psyche is no longer able to endure further stuffing and non-
resolution of the pain and the hurting, the personality of the hurting person
is often driven to split—to literally become another personality, another
identity. At this point they retreat into their own make-believe world—
which is totally apart from the real one—rather than suffering in their old
painful world.

If we remember that we were totally innocent bystanders as we were

growing up, and that these unresolved negative feelings are on a sub-
conscious level, it will help us recognize and embrace the fact that there is
no need to spend one more second feeling guilt, shame, or blame. The
perceptions from which we viewed our experiences were created and
validated in our immature minds before we were able to establish a
conscious awareness. At this point—NOW—it is imperative that we be
willing to leave denial behind, acknowledge our own truth and wipe the
slate clean of negatives so we can go about healing our hurting Soul—
rescuing our True-Self.

Many books have been written about co-dependency and dysfunctional

families. Adult children, as they are called, come from these dysfunctional
families where, as children, they have been abused either

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physically, sexually, emotionally, or spiritually. I have only touched on the

subject here, so I would like to supply you with a list of incorrect
perceptions, feelings, and subsequent beliefs about the Self. These all
(incorrect perceptions, feelings, and beliefs) take root in children from
dysfunctional homes during childhood.

The following are feelings and beliefs that cultivate and encourage
dysfunction, co-dependency and/or addictions. Keep in mind that these
characteristics are the natural by-product of a person's early conditioning. It
just "IS". Therefore, there is no judgment, no blame—just awareness . . .
and compassion.

1. Judges self harshly.

2. Fears criticism and judgment, but driven to be critical and judgmental of

others.
3. Feels a sense of urgency; impulsive; impatient; compelled to seek
immediate rather than delayed gratification.

4. Fears failure but unconsciously sabotages own success.

5. Fears disapproval and rejection, so unknowingly creates characteristics

acceptable to others.

6. Fears commitment.

7. Feels inadequate/low self-esteem. Sometimes has to compensate by

appearing superior.

8. Fears discovery of real self will cause rejection.

9. Fears intimacy. Unable to form close, loving, intimate relationships.

10. Fears loving and being loved.

11. Fears dependency on anyone or anything, yet are dependent

personalities.

12. Fears abandonment but compelled to become involved with compulsive

personalities that play out this fear.

13. Frightened of angry people.

14. Afraid to trust due to lack of trust in self.

15. Afraid to reveal inner secrets for fear of rejection or disapproval.

16. Afraid of people and authority figures.

17. Feels different/separated from others due to own feelings, which leads
to depression. Isolates self.

18. Assumes responsibility for others' feelings and behavior.

19. Grieves for the family they never had.

20. Unable to identify or ask for own wants and needs. Unconsciously
denies them, for experience has taught that they will not be met.

21. Feels guilty when standing up for self, therefore has to give in to others.

22. Unable to feel or express true feelings as adults, because to feel at all is
unbearably painful. In "denial."

23. Unknowingly driven to build up barriers to protect self from own

insecurities.

24. Unable or doesn't know how to let go, relax, play or have fun.

25. Learns to criticize and blame self and others.

26. Has to make excuses for others' weaknesses; has unreasonable

expectations of self and others.

27. Tries to find own identity in doing things, but finds it difficult to accept
honest praise.

28. Desperately wants control and yet over-reacts to changes they can't
control.

29. Continually seeks outside approval by doing.

30. Takes things literally; it's either right or wrong, black or white.

31. Takes self very seriously.

32. Distorted sense of responsibility. Concerned more for others than self.
(Keeps one from the pain of looking too closely at self and own problems.)

33. Tends to repeat relationship patterns.

34. Has a need to help and seeks people who are victims. Are attracted by
that weakness in love and friendship relationships.
35. Doesn't know self or innate rights. Doesn't realize it's all right to make
mistakes.

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36. Craves validation of self-worth from others, not received as child.

37. Extremely loyal, even when loyalty is unjustified or even harmful.

38. Guesses at what normal or appropriate is.

39. Tends to be a perfectionist.

40. Unable to trust loved ones, authority figures or peers.

If you find yourself identifying with any of the foregoing feelings, attitudes,
or beliefs, changing them can be achieved by going through the Script for
them. Here is an example of how you can accomplish this:

Spirit, please locate the origin of my feeling guilty when I stand up for
myself.

Take each and every level, layer, area and aspect of my Being to this origin.
Analyze and resolve it perfectly, with God's truth. Come through all
generations of time and eternity healing every incident and its appendages
based on the origin. Do it according to God's will until I'm at the present,
filled with light and truth, God's peace and love, forgiveness of myself for
my incorrect perceptions; forgiveness of every person, place, circumstance
and event which contributed to this feeling.

With total forgiveness and unconditional love I allow every physical,

mental, emotional, and spiritual problem, and inappropriate behavior based
on the negative origin recorded in my DNA, to transform. I choose standing
up for myself. I feel perfectly within my rights when I stand up for myseif. I
am standing up for myself. I choose coming to my own defense. I feel to
defend myself whenever necessary. I am defending myself. I feel confident
that I am a worthwhile human Being and I deserve to come to my own
defense. I feel peace of mind each time I do.
Then finish the Script on out.

When we look at the negative feelings we "buried" as a child, and

participate in processing—by using the Script to resolve and heal those

negative feelings—little by little we will be relieved of feelings, emotions,

attitudes and beliefs that contribute to co-dependency, dysfunction, and
addictions. Eventually the memory of perfection in our cells will be
uncovered, reprogrammed and brought into harmony with our perfect
blueprint, with our True-Self. We CAN gain our independency. And . . .
after we have achieved our independence, we will victoriously experience
the crowning touch—the crowning touch of rejuvenated, healthy, and
rewarding inter-dependent relationships with all members of society.

Chapter 11

Becoming Accountable

What was your initial reaction the first time you were confronted with the
possibility that YOU could be the cause—the creator of your own problems
and your own illnesses? I remember how I felt when I first saw a list of
probable emotions that caused dis-ease. (Meaning, that which takes one out
of ease.) I felt like a ton of bricks had dropped on me!

My mind went into SUPER DENIALl Though I wanted to forget about this
new awareness, I couldn't. The concept kept popping up in my mind until it
finally ate on me long enough. In order for me to be at peace, I had to
concede and acknowledge that my buried feelings were causing several
health problems. Now it is interesting for me to observe the denial that
takes place in others when they are first confronted with the possibility that
their own internal system may be responsible for their problems and
illnesses.

It is definitely less painful and less threatening to think that someone or

something out there is to blame for our health problems—or any other
problems for that matter. When we blame someone else, however, it opens
and creates a two-fold predicament.
First of all, blaming protects our unconscious survival system. It allows us
to stay in our own comfort zone, where we assuredly feel

safer. Regrettably, however, the growth needed for us to be free of our

unconscious conditioning is diverted.

Secondly, and unfortunately, when we have been trained to put the blame or
responsibility for our own feelings, thoughts and actions on someone else's
shoulders, we avoid taking responsibility and becoming accountable for our
own feelings, thoughts and actions.

"So what?" you may be saying. We cannot learn and grow from our
experiences as intended when we blame others; we relinquish our agency,
our will, our freedom of choice, and our personal power. And, we allow
someone else to be responsible for what is happening in our life. We are left
with NO input into our own growth and life when we do this. If we want to
keep these greatest of great gifts—agency, will, choice, and personal power
—we will take back responsibility from our unconscious for our own
feelings, our own thoughts, and our own attitudes and actions. We will
become accountable for what is happening in our own life.

When we overcome the need to blame, it allows us to let go of being a

victim of life's circumstances. It eventually eliminates the victim pattern
we've found ourselves in time after time. By recognizing that our plight and
challenges are a result of the Universal Law of Cause and Effect, we are
motivated to search for the "cause" so that we can change the "effect" of
any undesirable circumstances in which we find ourselves.

If, as children in school, we had never been challenged to go from addition

to subtraction, then to multiplication, and on to division, would we have
completed it on our own? Most likely not. By being aware that each
challenge in our life is an experience to learn from, then determining to do
our best to confront and overcome the obstacle, we can move out of our "no
growth", comfortable ruts. On the other hand, if we stay in those ruts we
follow the path of least resistance, which stifles our progress, thereby
causing it to be restricted or halted. Remember, staying within our comfort
zone is equal to little or no growth.
Happy is the day when we are willing to step outside that zone of comfort,
take a long hard look at our unwillingness to become accountable, and
expand our horizons by risking a little effort, or a lot! When we are ready
and willing to risk, to step outside that comfort zone, our growth expansion
begins. Yes, often it is uncomfortable and perhaps even painful. And yet, it
is necessary to acquire the willingness to experience discomfort in order to
grow. As we do this, new experiences become less painful, less frightening
and more comfortable. We may be surprised, however, and find that we can
sail right through our growth experiences with little or no discomfort.

Another reason we may not be willing to become accountable for our

feelings and thoughts (denial), is that if we admit, finally, that perhaps WE
are the one who caused our own misery, illness, or problems, then we
would be admitting we had been wrong all these years, about many things;
especially wrong about the way we viewed our problems. We stay in denial
because we feel attacked or that our very life's blood is threatened. Owning
that we were wrong is more than some of us can deal with because our
identity is wrapped up in our beliefs and they are what keep us going. If we
own our wrongness many of these belief systems come under scrutiny and
become extremely vulnerable and shaky. This can literally begin to strip us
of our identity and throw us into total confusion, which may then cause us
to lose our point of reference.

At this point, we may actually not know who we are or what we are about,
the disorientation is so penetrating. So, rather than experience discomfort
and vulnerability, some people will turn back to their old ways and refuse to
face what is. These people are not able to tolerate or recognize that shifting
into a more mature, and in reality, a safer space is what they were seeking
all along.

What we don't understand is that it is permissible—it's okay to make a

mistake, it's okay to be wrong, if that's what we choose to call it. We've
grown up in a culture that has programmed us to be right for SO long that
changing this mind-set may be a frightening and painful

adjustment. The reason we may have a difficult adjustment is due to our

mind thinking it always has to be right and justified.
Allow yourself to make a mistake. Give yourself permission to be wrong.
That's how we all learn!

If we, as human beings, could just let go of the unconscious belief that we
had to be right and replace that word right with the word correct, maybe the
transition would be a little easier to live with. Perhaps the ego wouldn't be
so traumatized at having to give up being right and justified.

"Does it really matter?" would be a good question to ask yourself when you
feel the need to be right above all else. Most of the time if you answer the
question, "Does it really matter?" honestly and truthfully, the answer will
be, "No, it does not matter!" Or, another question to ask yourself is one that
Dr. Jampolsky asks, "Would you rather be right or would you rather
experience peace?" When you can truly say and mean, "It doesn't matter if
I'm wrong. I would rather experience peace," or "I choose peace," many
uncomfortable situations and explosive moments can and will be totally
defused and you WILL experience peace . . . peace that is very sweet.

If you decide that you no longer care to be a victim—if this is one of your
strongest desires—it is necessary to release blame from your Being. To
further enhance and expand your ability and power to change, you will
undoubtedly want to let go of judgment, also.

If we feel we must judge—let's keep our judgments confined to the realm

for which we are responsible, the immediate realm of (our own) mind, body
and heart. And even when we do this, we must guard against judging
ourself too harshly.

A good goal would be to acknowledge our imbalances, adjust them and

move on.

These are author Ken Carey's words of wisdom from his book, Terra
Christa.

Once again, becoming account-able is what it's all about. Taking

accountability allows a great shift of major proportions, one that allows you
to become the master of your Self and your universe. All that is necessary is
to be willing to be ACCOUNT-ABLE for:
1. Your own feelings

2. Your own thoughts

3. Your own words

4. Your own actions

How are you going to account for your feelings, thoughts, words, and
actions? Health in every facet of your life is controlled by awareness. So,
become consciously aware of what you are feeling, what you are thinking,
what you are saying and what you are doing. If you have no consciousness
in these four areas of your life, you could be likened unto a ship at sea with
no compass or no rudder—you are tossed to and fro without benefit of
direction and without the power to reach your destination.

"All human experiences can be evaluated in terms of consciousness and

power. Without consciousness, power is sub-human in its manifestations."
(Author unknown)

By choosing to let go of blame and judgment you start on your road to

becoming a more responsible and accountable person. This— becoming
responsible and accountable —is necessary if you choose to overcome the
"victim" role in your life. Becoming responsible and accountable is
necessary if you choose to change the causes that create undesirable effects
to causes that create desirable effects; if you choose to claim your God-
given power that allows you control of your life; and, if you choose to
experience more desirable results in your life than you have previously
experienced.

Just remember, things OUT THERE do not cause your problems. All the
reasons for the problems in your life can be found WITHIN yourself.

When we quit looking for the answers outside ourselves, we will begin to
gain control of what causes our challenges, problems and negative effects
and turn from being victims to becoming masters of ourselves. "No man is
free who is not master of himself." (Epictetus)
You can bring this about by:

1. LETTING GO

of blame and judgment

2. LETTING GO

of force and control

3. FORGIVING

completely

4. LOVING

unconditionally

5. ACCEPTING

challenges with gratitude

6. ACCEPTING

the perfection in everyone and everything

7. GIVING

thanks in all things

By accepting responsibility for your own actions and behavior, and

becoming 100% accountable for your feelings/thoughts(emotions),
attitudes/beliefs and your words, you create your own joy and peace of
mind. The choice is really yours. Do you choose going around feeling like a
victim or are you the master of your destiny?

Always remember, when we recognize and accept with unconditional love

the perfection in everything, it allows us to shift (change) and grow
effortlessly.
Chapter 12

Getting Along With Others

Many people have real challenges in their relationships with others. Are you
one of them? Whether your challenges are manifest by the way you interact
or react to a spouse, a parent, a brother, a sister, a friend, an acquaintance,
an employer, an employee, or a co-worker is determined by your past
feelings and how they have registered inside you. One of the largest
contributing factors to your ability to freely enjoy other people depends
upon how much you enjoy your Self . . . how much you are able to accept
your Self. Let me share with you what Dr. Joan Borysenko says:

Accept yourself as you are. (Fat thighs, big nose, mistakes, health concerns,
back pain, or other physical limitations notwithstanding.) This means more
than a grudging realization that you'll never again be some way that you
used to be or some way that you wish to be. Acceptance means actually
honoring yourself as you are now. . . . This allows you to stop judging
yourself negatively, which invariably brings forth feelings of blame, shame,
guilt, or fear and escalates the cycle of anxiety and tension.

Getting along with others can be simple or complicated, depending on your

internal programming. If someone annoys or irritates you,

for what appears to be no apparent reason, it's usually an indication that you
sense or feel something in this person that you also sense or feel
(subconsciously) in your Self, that you don't like. In other words, the person
annoying and irritating you is only a reflection of you—a mirror. This
principle can be difficult to accept, especially if you or the person has a
need to be in control. Nevertheless, the mirror principle is a true principle.

An example of this would be: You are a clerk in a retail store. Someone
comes in to be waited on. From the very beginning of your encounter with
this person, they demand your undivided attention. They act as if they are
the only one in the store. Their behavior really "bugs" you, they are so
demanding. You can hardly wait until they have completed their purchases
so you won't have to put up with them and their attitude any longer. What
you aren't aware of is that you may posses the same qualities—qualities of
superiority or of being demanding in your attitude, or you would not be
resonating with them . . . they would not be bugging you. Right here and
now, as you complete your transaction with them, is a great opportunity to
become aware of part of your Self that has been hidden from you; to take a
look at the issue you may have where this particular characteristic is
concerned. This is one of the best ways to find out what you don't know
about your Self and—at an unconscious level—what you dislike about your
Self.

This person is giving you a great gift by mirroring something that is in you.
This person is there to teach you. When you have such an experience, a
great opportunity for growth is presenting itself, and you may want to say to
yourself, "Oh good, another chance to see a part of me I don't like." Take
accountability for the unconscious distasteful part of you that you are
recognizing in the other person. Process those feelings with the Script. You
will be astonished and surprised at the change in your Self and your
acceptance of others. All that is necessary in order for you to initiate this
shift is:

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1. Recognize the fact that a person is either irritating or annoying you,

bugging you, causing you anger, or whatever the feeling.

2. Accept the possibility that you may have an undesirable attitude or

characteristic in common with that person.

3. Be willing to let it be all right.

4. Have the desire to accept responsibility for a less than glorious trait.

5. Accept responsibility for the behavior. Process undesirable feelings

through the Script and replace them with desirable feelings

Another example: You're at a party or a meeting with someone who enjoys

making comments that you feel are totally irrelevant. You wish they would
just be quiet and let the true order of business proceed without all their
input. After awhile you can hardly enjoy anything that's going on because
this person is so distracting.

If you haven't realized yet what is happening, perhaps at this point you'll
begin to see that there is a part of this person's inappropriate (inappropriate,
according to who?) behavior with which you identify. If you want it to
cease bothering you, just quietly instruct your Spirit to "please locate the
origin of the feelings causing Jane to bother you, irritate you," or whatever
you choose to label it.

Go all the way through the Script until you come to " . . . recorded in my
DNA, to transform. It doesn't matter, I choose seeing only the best in
everyone. I feel like seeing only the best in everyone. I am seeing only the
best in everyone. I choose accepting everyone just the way they are,
including myself. I feel to accept everyone just the way they are. I am
accepting everyone just the way they are." (or words to that effect) Then do
your best to look at this person through eyes of acceptance and love. Not
only will you feel better toward that person, but you will also be forgiving
and accepting of those characteristics in yourself.

How does it cause you to feel when you have a strong disagreement or
argument with someone? (It made me feel yucky! I always felt I had
betrayed a vital part of myself.) Does it ever make anything better? (I never
came away from an argument feeling I gained anything.) Is the issue ever
resolved? And if so, in whose mind? Does it ever serve a purpose?

Can you imagine life without arguments or unpleasant confrontations with

others? Wouldn't it be wonderful!

Have you ever wished that you could bring an unpleasant situation to a
screeching halt by saying something appropriate yet uncontrover-sial, and
keep your cool at the same time?

There IS one way that you can defuse an argument, disagreement or

confrontation and remain true to your Higher Self. First of all, it's necessary
to be willing to allow yourself to be wrong.
Let it be okay if the situation isn't resolved at that moment; let it be okay if
no one wins; let it be okay if you don't get the best of the other person or
make your point. You're only serving your ego when you feel you have to
be right and win all the time.

I like what Joan Borysenko says in her book, Minding the Body, Mending
the Mind, about the ego: "The ego expresses its insecurities by judging
everything, trying to ensure happiness by keeping everything tightly
controlled. For this reason I call the ego the Judge. It splits life into two
rigid categories, good and bad."

"Blindly seeking good and avoiding bad, it is caught in the illusion that it
must be good in order to ensure its own existence." And that is what we do
when we feel we have to be right. In order to be good, we think we have to
be right, thereby ensuring our ego's existence. (EGO has a wonderful
acronym: Edging God Out). In the final analysis it usually doesn't matter
whether we are right or wrong, anyway . . . unless our EGO is more
important than peace.

If you can come from this posture—that it doesn't matter—keeping calm,

just say to the other person as they start arguing with you, "Bless you, Jane
or John (whatever their name is). Bless you."

The first time my 16 year old son said this to his 18 year old sister, she
couldn't stay in the arguing mode, although she was poised and totally ready
to go at it with him. When he said to her, "Bless you, Gina, bless you," it
disarmed her so completely that she looked at him with shock registered all
over her face, then she just started laughing. I've never seen anyone change
their frame of reference so fast!

Saying, "Bless you," certainly works wonders when you become irritated at
someone on the highway, in the supermarket, or wherever else you may be.
Just bless them instead of cursing them as you go along. The words we
speak have powerful vibrations just like our feelings and thoughts. Even
though the person you have directed your thoughts or words to can't hear
you, you have created a thought field with your thoughts. The vibrations of
those words go out to the person, and that person is affected by the positive
energy coming from you.
Another way to stop an unpleasant outpouring of negative words and
feelings from someone you are with, is to stay centered, stay calm and
collected, and just say to them, "Thank you for sharing." Then drop it. Don't
say another word, or change the subject. Usually, a person doesn't know
what to say to this, and it automatically ends the discussion. Saying "Thank
you for sharing" changes your energy on the matter and keeps you from
getting emotionally involved or becoming reactive. "Thank you for
sharing," is also a good response to someone who continually complains
about everything in life. Ordinarily these people are seeking sympathy,
someone to agree with them, or idle discussion on the matter. They don't get
any mileage out of their complaints when "Thank you for sharing" is your
comment. And when you say, "Thank you for sharing," it's much easier for
you to avoid involving yourself unpleasantly and lending your power to the
negativity of the situation.

Direct love and caring to them from your heart by expressing in your
heart/mind, "I BEHOLD YOU WITH EYES OF LOVE AND GLORY IN
YOUR PERFECTION." This is a very powerful healing vibration for both
parties involved. You CAN make the difference.

Chapter 13

When Feelings Remain Unresolved

Have you ever known an older person . . . anyone from 50 on up,

(depending on your definition of old) with definite idiosyncrasies such as:
living in the past—telling and retelling stories of by-gone years; feeling that
everyone is taking advantage of them; that they never can afford anything;
or that they always have to be right. Sometimes their idiosyncrasies are
such a pronounced part of them it is challenging to find the person they
really are or the person they used to be.

From where do these idiosyncrasies stem? They stem from a person's

incorrect perceptions and their inability to communicate what they are truly
feeling. Thus, their negative feelings remain unresolved. These unresolved
feelings that have been buried in the older person for years, have caused
their memory of perfection to be covered over. Because of these buried
feelings, the negative vibrations created by them have become multiplied
and magnified, producing blocks that cloud the older person's reasoning. As
deeply buried negative feelings continue to be validated throughout a
person's life, the covering over the memory of perfection becomes thicker
and thicker with age, and further produces negative vibrations and blocks.

As time progresses, these negative vibrations and blocks gather more

strength and power, eventually obscuring the truth of the cells' perfection.
The person's light (truth) continues to diminish, thereby allow-

ing more and more negative energy. This in turn causes gross confusion in
the person. The negative energy finally becomes so pronounced that the
person experiences fragmentation and overwhelm, as evidenced by their
idiosyncrasies. Unknowingly they are literally being controlled by their
unresolved, buried negative feelings.

If you desire helping someone you love alter their feeling or thinking
patterns, you can talk until you are blue in the face, attempting to persuade
or convince someone with these idiosyncrasies that they would be much
happier and have more peace if they would change. However, no amount of
talking or reasoning is able to change those negative, supercharged
vibrations unless the older person wants to make a quantum leap and heal at
the cell-level.

If there is to be a significant resolution of these quirks in an older persons

life, this resolution has to come at the cell level—from within. This cell-
level change can transpire by developing a conscious awareness of what
feelings are bothering the person, and by using the Script to effect a change
of these feelings. However, at a certain point in an older person's life they
are usually unwilling to listen to suggestions that a change may be in order,
or to put forth the effort required for change.

John Bradshaw tells us in his book, Healing the Shame That Binds You,
that, "Underneath the mask of adult behavior there is a child who was
neglected. This needy child is insatiable. What that means is that when the
child becomes an adult, there is a 'hole in his soul'."

I firmly believe that the hole in the soul is due to a person's lack of success
in returning to that place of Comfort and Peace (in Chapter Four). And also,
an inability to resolve their negative feelings that were generated (called
into existence) at birth or in their youth. These old feelings have
subsequently remained unattended, hurting and crying. They still need to be
resolved in order to heal the hole in the soul.

This child in the aging body has a difficult time producing the necessary
mental or emotional shifts that would facilitate elimination of old

behavioral patterns. Consequently, emotional healing becomes more of a

challenge.

The old programming or conditioning that they grew up with was "ignore
(deny), or bury your feelings." This conditioning created responses allowing
the mind to support a wild imagination, thereby, undoubtedly developing a
large range of mountains out of lots of little molehills.

Many older people with idiosyncrasies have a difficult time being realistic
and mature in their view of life. They are conditioned to engage in endless,
mindless, unconscious chatter and prattle. Thus, their long standing
incorrect perceptions continue to be perpetuated. Very often they do not
want to be bothered with what "IS," especially if what "IS," is challenging
to their old mind-set or view of reality. They are tired of struggling, tired of
disappointments, and tired of responsibility. Mindlessness, often for them,
is the rule of the day and their ally. We are very fortunate indeed, if this is
not the case with any of our loved ones.

Most older people rarely knew or understood what they were truly feeling
through the years of their life, and many still do not know what they feel.
So, it would be more difficult for them to effect a resolution in their lives
unless they are able to identify their feelings and willingly use the Script to
alter them. However, all is not lost. Just as members of one family have a
similar genetic makeup, they also have a similar emotional makeup. The
vibrational energies from feelings in a person are stored in the DNA and,
therefore, can be passed from parents to children through the DNA. When
you process YOUR feelings and change them, you are benefitting your
parents and your children, as well.
For this reason it is imperative that you get in touch with your true feelings
as early as possible in life ... so the negative energy does not build up.
When you become responsible for your feelings, will own them, then
happily go about resolving them, chances for a smoother, less stressful and
more peaceful life—now and in your later years—are

much more predictable. You may be able to avoid those undesirable

idiosyncrasies altogether.

Little children are very adept and piercing in the recognition of the feelings
they are experiencing. When taught to utilize the Script they embrace the
idea quickly and are very willing and enthusiastic about participating. The
wonderful aspect of children sharing in this, is that they have fewer years of
life's feelings to work through, therefore, everything about them responds
much more readily to the Script. Whereas, an adult has many more years
and layers upon layers of bot-tled-up feelings—a thicker covering over the
memory of perfection—to process and uncover.

The key that either opens the door or closes the door to a child sharing and
trusting their feelings is determined by the way we, as parents or adults,
communicate with that child. By allowing expression of their feelings
without shaming or criticizing them, then quietly discussing what they feel
and helping them understand their feelings, we validate them as a
worthwhile human being. They also learn that it's okay to feel—something
many people have never been allowed, or have never allowed themselves.

Communication is the means whereby we acquire or impart information.

When we receive information, we expect it to be accurate and that we can
depend upon it—that we won't be hurt when we use it. We expect the
information we receive to be unambiguous. If it isn't clear and concise, we
become confused. We also seem to expect that the information
communicated to us on the various levels should be consistent. But is it?
And if information communicated to us is inconsistent or confusing,
imagine how a child is affected by this same kind of communication.

The following illustration is taken from the book, The Origins of Illness and
Anxiety, by J. A.. Winters, M.D.:
Take the case of Bobbie, a four-year-old boy. He asks his mother if he can
go out and play. Mother is a little out of sorts that day, so she snaps, 'No—
you stay in the house.'

'But why can't I?'

'I don't want you to. Now you be quiet—I'm not going to argue with you.'

Bobbie puckers up his face and starts to cry.

'Stop that crying!' his exasperated mother yells. 'You can't go out and that's
all there is to it!'

Bobbie wails louder—and his mother slaps him. There— that'll teach you
not to cry. Now sit down and behave yourself.'

Bobbie sits down, confused and bewildered. He's angry, fearful, sad and
defiant, all at the same time. He scowls and thinks about what he's going to
do when he grows up. He is tense, and he squirms around in the chair in an
involuntary release of the pressure of his emotional energy.

His mother feels a little ashamed at losing her temper, yet tries to convince
herself that her actions were justified. She sees her son's restlessness
increasing and finally she relents.

'You can go out now, dear—but there's something I want to tell you first.
You know that Mother loves you—but she doesn't want you to be a cry-
baby. And you have to learn to do what I tell you—Mother knows what's
best for you.'

This sounds like a rather common household tragedy, doesn't it? Let's look
at it from the standpoint of communication, however, and see what Bobbie
might have learned from the experience.

First, how consistent was the information which he got? He saw that
Mother's face was flushed and heard her yell at him; previous experience
told him that that meant she was angry. She also acted angry, in that she
slapped him. That information is pretty consistent. But then he has to
reconcile this with the words, 'Mother loves you,' 'Mother doesn't want you
to be a cry-

baby,' 'Mother knows what's best,' and so on. At first wanting to go out was
dangerous; then suddenly it became safe.

If Bobbie were to take literally what his mother has said— and we know
that children are quite literal-minded—he might learn from this experience
that being loved is also being slapped: that asking questions leads to
punishments; that punishment is ('the best thing.') It's quite confusing—and
the confusion could have been avoided if Mother had made her words
consistent with her deeds. . .

Dr. Winters goes on to talk about other misuses of communication. He

particularly refers to people who mislabel their own feelings. Doctors see
this very often.

The patient says, 'I feel just terrible—I ache all over, and I'd give anything
to feel better,' and the patient's actions during this little speech indicate that
he's proud of being ill, that this illness is valuable and that he's going to
hold on to it.

Or another example is the person who seems to enjoy martyrdom, who

gasps, moans, then sighs, 'I'm all right—don't pay any attention to me.'

Are these people faking? Does this sort of behavior mean that the illness is
unreal? No, definitely not. It indicates, rather, that they haven't learned how
to say with words the things they are feeling in their bodies. The meanings
of their communications are confused; they say things with one meaning,
they do things with another meaning. This very confusion leads to a change
in the way they feel—but they don't feel as they say they are feeling.
Doesn't this sound confusing?

It is this kind of confusion which compounds miscommunication. A child

becomes much more aware of what makes him/her tick when parents are
consistent in the messages they convey through their caring love and
discipline. When there is less conflict in the messages a child
receives from Mom and Dad, there is also less confusion as to his/her value
in the family, and the child is much more receptive to learning, more
sensitive to others, and more mindful of his/her feelings and thoughts at an
early age. Parents who continually validate their child's feelings without
judgment, help create an atmosphere where the child and all around him/her
are permitted love and acceptance. Healthy emotional growth in the child is
a natural by-product when parents validate their children. This healthy
emotional climate allows further growth and development to occur in all
areas of a child's life, and the memory of perfection in the cell doesn't
become as clouded and distorted.

A very meaningful way to support a child in his willingness to own his

feelings and to validate him as a human being, is to allow him to express his
joys or frustrations when he comes home from school; how he feels when
playing with friends; when having a bad day; when he is cross and mean to
a friend or sibling.

When a child expresses anger, hate, disappointment, resentment, hurt or

whatever, let him feel what he feels without making a judgment about it or
shaming him. Validate him and what he is feeling by verbalizing back to
him what you think he is saying. When a child is shamed he gets the
message that he is defective, flawed, or always making mistakes. This
creates unnecessary and unfounded guilt in the child. Unfounded guilt can
truly sabotage a child's healthy emotional growth, undermine his sense of
self-worth, and create scars that become deeply embedded in his soul,
perhaps lasting a lifetime. His blueprint becomes sadly distorted, and
aspects of his false-self emerge.

If you see where some improvement needs to take place with a child, all
that is necessary to assist the child in responding positively to your
suggestions is to talk WITH him in a calm, loving, supportive manner,
validating what he is feeling. That is, explore with him what he is really
feeling and the reasons he may be feeling it. Let the child know that it's all
right to feel what he does. All feelings are permissible. Help him understand
that it's what he DOES with these feelings that deter-

mines whether he experiences a negative (unhappy) or positive (happy)

outcome. Teach him the Law of Cause and Effect.
One young client, Jim, was constantly made to feel guilty by his parents
when he didn't perform exactly to their specifications or do things exactly
the way his father would. Indeed, guilt was so well-programmed in him that
he, after leaving home at college age, would subconsciously set up
situations to create the guilt he had been so aptly programmed to feel at
home. At the beginning of his college stay, Jim wasn't experiencing the
familiar guilt he had grown accustomed to. He seemed to have a need to
return to that old pattern in order to recognize and validate himself. And
because Jim was not comfortable unless he was feeling guilty, his quiet
master tape began to set up that which had been so well programmed in his
mind. It was interesting to watch the behavior Jim exhibited in order to
heap guilt onto himself . . . when it really wasn't necessary.

If a child is experiencing a negative feeling, suggest to him that perhaps he

would like to look at the negative feeling in a new way. Ask him if he
would like to substitute the way he is feeling now, at that moment, with a
more comfortable, peaceful feeling? If the child responds affirmatively,
then have him sit down, relax and close his eyes. Have him repeat in his
mind what you say. At this point, go through the Script stating at the
appropriate place the negative feeling he identified earlier. Then at the
appropriate place toward the end of the Script, substitute the negative
feeling with a positive feeling. It's very easy and they can do it in just a
minute or two. You will be amazed at the calm, happy child they become.

Another aspect of a child's feelings that we need to consider here, is how

he/she responds inwardly to what is taking place in his or her everyday life
within the family unit and among friends or at school. Naturally, a child is
being affected by the experiences of everyone around them. For instance, if
Mom and Dad aren't getting along too well, the child is sensitive to this.
The child may never refer to the situ-

ation but, nevertheless, they are feeling something—they are being

emotionally affected by the vibrations created by Mom and Dad—and
usually the affect is very devastating to them. The child may be too young
to even talk. But, even if they are able to talk they often don't know or
understand what they are feeling, or that they are even being affected. An
illustration of this point:
Five year old Tracy was visiting his grandmother (a woman I know who
uses the Script). Tracy had been experiencing adenoid problems which
caused him to breathe through his mouth instead of effortlessly through his
nose. His mother and father had been divorced for over a year. Before the
divorce there was a lot of arguing and fighting. Tracy's mother, Sue, now
has the sole responsibility of raising him and his two-year-old sister. It has
been necessary for Sue to work full time, so Tracy and his sister are taken
care of by baby sitters. Their time with their mother is rather limited so
there's not a lot of fun time spent together. Sue has a boyfriend who doesn't
seem to enjoy Tracy and his little sister very much.

One day Tracy was visiting his grandmother. She was quite concerned with
his inability to breathe through his nose. As they were sitting on the sofa
reading a book, Grandma stopped reading to him and asked him to breathe
through his nose. "I can't," he said. She asked him to let her see how he
couldn't breathe through his nose. So, Tracy showed her. She then asked
him if he would like to try something to see if it would help him so that he
could breathe through his nose again. He readily agreed to try what
Grandma wanted him to do. She looked up the emotional causes for
adenoid problems, which are: Acute disharmony in the home; feels
restricted in life; feels unacceptance or hostility from someone. Tracy's
grandmother then asked him to close his eyes and repeat after her. She then
led him through the Script. When they finished, Grandma was quiet for a
few moments then asked Tracy to take a deep breath through his

nose, which he did. Much to his surprise and delight he was starting to be
able to breathe through his nose. Before he left her home that evening, he
was able to breathe normally.

Tracy didn't forget this experience. He left town and didn't get to see his
grandmother for several months, but upon his return he was manifesting
some hidden anger in his behavior. As Tracy's grandmother put him to bed
one night, she really let him know that she did not appreciate his behavior.
She talked to him as though he were an adult, hoping to indicate the depth
of her concern about the way he was acting. Upon finishing what she had to
say, Tracy asked her if they could go through that "talk," as he called it; the
one that helped him breathe better. Grandma responded. As they completed
going through the Script for some of the things at which Tracy seemed to be
angry—his grandmother told me a calm and peace came over him that was
very much like a transformation. Tracy seemed like a different child. He has
since asked to use the Script several times, and each time this little five
year-old can tell a difference in the way he feels.

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Children learn very fast and are usually more willing to respond to true
principles and change than adults. However, if they decline, don't push
them. They deserve free choice in the matter.

When parents condemn or ridicule a child for his feelings, he becomes very
confused. A child views his parents as knowing everything and always
being right. So, he thinks something must be wrong with him—that he
doesn't know what he is feeling. He may say or think to himself, "I must not
know what I'm feeling because Mom or Dad said so." When this happens
over and over, the child starts to doubt himself. When the self-doubt is
consistently reinforced, eventually, he will turn his feelings off, because
emotionally it is too painful to be unsure of himself and his feelings on a
continual basis. At this point, he allows others to dictate his feelings to him.
He does NOT understand what he

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IS feeling, except that he is confused. He may turn to outside stimulus for

comfort, or try to be validated by his peers, often succumbing to peer
pressure. The child's feelings of valuable self-worth, self-respect and high
self-esteem—which most human beings yearn to feel—are, sadly, a long
time in coming, if ever.

The most tragic realization from counseling, for me, is how many people do
not accept or love themselves! Most people even have an extremely
difficult time forgiving themselves and are usually without a clue as to what
and why they are not forgiving themselves. This is the result we witness
when people mislabel their own feelings ... that insidious misuse of
communication. As incredible as it may seem, many adults don't even know
what they feel on a daily basis. How many years have they been mis-
communicating with themselves?

When parents accept each of their children the way they are, consistently
validating their feelings—teaching them with love and patience, helping
them understand what appropriate and inappropriate feelings are without
judging, and then assist them in shifting their fear-based (inappropriate)
feelings to love-based (appropriate) feelings by using the Script, these
children will have a much better opportunity to progress through life with
more confidence and higher self-esteem. These children will also be more
mature and have a deeper sense of inner peace. They will be able to better
identify with the world around them due to a healthier understanding of
their feelings.

Perhaps in doing this, there will be a happier, healthier community of senior

citizens by the time today's children reach that age. I know this is possible
by just observing the major changes which have taken place in people who
have already made the commitment to be accountable for their feelings and
thoughts.

Many times upon learning new or different principles, we will nod our head
in agreement as to their soundness and ring of truth. We may even say,
"Yeah, yeah. I want to apply these principles and make them a part of my
life!" But... in the next breath we continue in our old pat-

terns, having the new concepts uppermost on our mind at first—but never
quite making the internal commitment it takes to initiate a change. Our
intentions may be good, but we never seem to get around to it. Let me just
say, "It is necessary to do more than INTELLECTUALIZE these principles.
Transformation can take place only when we INTERNALIZE these
principles and ACT UPON THEM!"

Chapter 14

Discharge Your Stress

While watching TV talk shows from time to time, it became more and more
obvious to me that there are many hurting people in our society today. I
have been pleased to observe the resilience that is innately prevalent in a
good number of the guests on these programs. Many of them have suffered
unjustly through the thoughtless actions of others, but their indomitable
spirits rose to meet the challenges caused by their suffering and they have
overcome seemingly insurmountable obstacles on their road to recovery.

There are people who advocate that legislation be passed to eliminate the
possibility of various bad things happening to them. These people would
hope to save others from having to deal with negative conditions or
challenges and suffering that they themselves have experienced. I can
appreciate their concern. No one should have to suffer at the hands of
someone who is totally insensitive to their feelings, their property, or their
dreams and aspirations.

There also seems to be a prevailing attitude in this country today to "Let

someone else take care of the problems." Of course, the large majority of us
would like to feel that there is someone who has the power to remedy unfair
or unjustified treatment.

Once again, how many of us seem to think the answers to the problems of
life can come from outside ourselves? In reality each one of us

has the answer to our own problems, and the answers are found INSIDE
OUR SELFl

If each one of us would accept the plausibility that we DO have it within

ourselves to heal our own life, to take responsibility for our own problems
and misguided efforts, it is possible that much of the human misery
(alcoholism, ill health, drug abuse, addictions, gang violence, etc.) in our
society today could be minimized, if not eradicated.

When we were in school and we knew there would be exams, could we call
upon someone else to come and take these exams for us? Not where I went
we couldn't. I was the only one responsible for the scores and grades I
received. In a like manner, I'm the only one who can design the causes that
create the effects I desire in my life.

People talk about being under a great deal of stress, or of something that is
stressful to them. Stress is blamed for problems and suffering by everyone.
But, how could one identify your stress or my stress? What is stress to one
person may not be at all stressful to another. In other words, what a stressor
is to you may not be a stressor to me.

Have you ever experienced your heart pounding, a knot in your stomach,
extreme nervousness, insomnia, impatience, anger, or anxiety? Many
people have come to accept these conditions as a part of getting through the
day and they label this STRESS. However, the effects of stress are much
more insidious than many of us realize. According to Dr. Paul J. Rosch,
former president of the non-profit American Institute of Stress in Yonkers,
New York, the stress in the United States is taking a terrible toll on the
nation's health and economy. Stress contributes heavily to heart disease,
respiratory distress, cancer, lupus and numerous other life-threatening
diseases. It is one of the major reasons for the astronomic health-care costs
in the United States. And yet, stress is very difficult to define because it
varies with each individual.

Stress and how you handle it can always be traced back to the early
conditioning/training that contributed to your feelings and beliefs. While
striving to overcome a particular stress, you will want to focus on

what is happening inside you as you are going through it; determine what
you feel each time you experience this stress—and change that feeling. This
is necessary in order to eliminate the stress! How do you do it? By
identifying exactly the way you feel as you are experiencing the stress or
stressor, then taking these feelings through the Script.

Or, you may want to ask yourself, "What are the unresolved feelings or
beliefs creating this stress?" If it is impossible for you to process the feeling
at the time you are experiencing it, make a mental note of it so you can go
back to it later in the day and resolve it.

Interestingly, an article in April, 1987 Reader's Digest entitled, "MIND

OVER DISEASE: YOUR ATTITUDE CAN MAKE YOU WELL," reports:

Many researchers are now investigating the effect of specific emotions on

the immune system. Psychologist Margaret Kemeny of U.C.L.A. found
recurrences of genital herpes correlated with feelings of depression. A
husband-and-wife team at the Ohio State University School of Medicine
documented vividly the injury the mental stress can do to the human
immune system. Dr. Janice Kiecolt-Glaser, a clinical psychologist, and
virologist Ronald Glaser drew blood from 40 medical students at several
points in the school year and again during exam week. Stress played havoc
with their immune systems. The activity of their natural killer cells waned
and their ability to manufacture interferon—a natural protein that inhibits
viral infection— declined drastically during exams. So it was clearly no
coincidence that the students reported suffering from more flu and colds.

Another article from that same Reader s Digest entitled, "WARNING!

DAILY HASSLES ARE HAZARDOUS" continues on the subject:

University of Michigan sociologist Lois Verbrugge, who followed the daily

lives of 589 men and women, found that daily irritations triggered bad
moods, which, in turn, were followed by physical troubles. Studies among
210 Florida police officers showed that it wasn't the dramatic but relatively
rare stress of apprehending criminals that caused distress. 'It was the
accumulation of everyday hassles like too much paperwork,' reports Charles
Spielberger, a psychologist at the University of South Florida.

Psychologist Arthur Stone at the medical school of the State University of

New York at Stony Brook found that minor daily stresses had increased
three to five days before the onset of upper respiratory illnesses among a
group of Long Island husbands. In an earlier study Stone had 50 couples
rate their daily experiences. The five most common hassles he found were
conflicts with one's spouse, children or business colleagues, pressures at
work and 'personal problems.' And he found that minor hassles were better
predictors of illness rates than were major events from the past year.

Just what are hassles? Notice the above paragraph stated common hassles,
and minor hassles. The dictionary states, very simply, Hassle: to irritate. So,
hassles are daily occurrences that irritate you. And when there are enough
of them, they add up to stress. Why the irritation that causes the stress?
Again, identify the feelings involved with your situation which seem to
trigger your stress.

It is easy to blame a lot of things on a nameless or faceless entity, using the

name of stress and accusing it of being the culprit—then justify and excuse
ourselves for our problems because we are the "victim" of this awful
monster, stress. In reality, what triggers or causes our stress/stressors are our
unresolved feelings, our inability to identify those feelings, and our reaction
to those feelings. When we perceive that something is becoming stressful to
us, we need to stop immediately and
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locate the feelings or the thoughts—the emotions—that are associated with

that stress. After we identify those feelings (emotions), the next step is to
process them through the Script. At this point, if you have identified your
feelings accurately and replaced them in the Script with appropriate
opposite feelings, the stress you were experiencing can be unlocked,
diffused and dissipated.

An example of a stress I experienced: One of the things that used to really

irritate me was having to stand in any kind of line. This was especially true
in the grocery store when I only had three or four items to pay for. I don't
know what it was that bothered me so much about that, but I would really
boil inside. So, you could say that this situation caused me stress. I finally
decided to go through the Script just asking my Spirit to "please locate the
origin of my feelings of irritation and anger when I have to stand in line" . .
. replacing the irritation and anger at the appropriate place with: "I choose
Be-ing forgiving, I feel forgiving, I am forgiving. I choose Be-ing peaceful
and calm while standing here. I feel peaceful and calm while standing here.
I am peaceful and calm as I stand here. It's all right. It really doesn't matter.
I feel happy to be here." Guess what? After doing this a couple of times,
stating the feeling a little differently the second time than I did the first
time, standing in lines no longer bothered me, nor does it bother me today.
It has been such a relief—a small victory, nevertheless, a victory!

This is a simple example of how to work through something that stresses

you. But, regardless of whether it's simple or complex—a little or big stress
—it works the same way.

There are many situations in our lives that we just have to learn to make the
best of, and we can accomplish this easily. Probably one of the major
stressors in a metropolitan area is freeway traffic, especially at rush hour.
When we find ourselves in a long line of traffic with no way out, we have a
choice as to how we react in this stressful position. We can either sit there
fuming and fussing, or we can be calm and unruffled, knowing that this too,
shall pass. Here again, the choice as to how we
react in this unpleasant situation, is usually ours. Are we going to choose
inner peace or inner conflict?

UNCERTAINTY is said to be public stressor Number 1. This is

understandable. Uncertainty automatically presses the FEAR button— fears
of any and all kinds, and the mind can go wild with these fears! If you
happen to suffer from the stress of uncertainty, zero in on the specific fears
they create in you and process them with the Script, replacing the fears with
"faith in myself and the future," and anything else you feel would be
appropriate. You may be surprised at your accomplishment. Better yet, go
for the feeling of "fear of uncertainty" and process that with the Script,
replacing the negative with, "faith in the future," or something similar. Most
often there is no need to be bothered by this stressor.

As already stated, before you can do anything about the stress, it is

necessary, first, to be aware of what you are feeling . . . what is going on
inside you. Or, as Dr. Joan Borysenko says, "Be mindful." When your
mindfulness identifies the feeling that takes you out of a peaceful, calm
state, then you are prepared to process with the Script. This allows your
subconscious to uncover the memory of perfection and transform the
negative vibrations into positive vibrations. Process the negative feelings so
they change to positive feelings—which brings the feeling and the thinking
together; integrating the Left brain and the Right brain; unifying the
Conscious with the Subconscious; bringing the two sides of the self
together—thus allowing you to be Single-Minded. Let me emphasize that
when you bring the Conscious (Left brain) and the Subconscious (Right
brain) part of your Be-ing together, peace ensues from the bottom of your
feet to the top of your head. And, when you are at peace with yourself and
the world, the internal artillery stops firing.

When you recognize your feelings of discomfort, uneasiness, irritation or

whatever the stressful feeling may be, you are identifying your negative
feelings and owning them (admitting they are actually there). At this point,
you are no longer in denial and half the challenge is over.

Upon locating the stressor(s), you are on your way to eliminating them. You
may also choose to go deeper to locate and identify several additional
feelings that surround the stressful situation, so as to more solidly approach
a resolution of them. Note: If the stress continues it is only because the
stressor feeling has not been accurately or adequately identified. Keep
searching until you claim victory. FREEDOM is just around the corner!
And PEACE is the ultimate victory!

Chapter 15

Eliminating Stressors

How important and desirable is it to eliminate the stressors in our life?

Our body responds to stress with an alarm reaction. This alarm reaction in
our brain signals our adrenal glands to produce a stream of stress hormones
which are chemical messengers that instantaneously increase our supply of
energy, sustain blood pressure and assist other hormones in functioning
more efficiently.

Our immune system, our autonomic nervous system and our brain are
directly impacted by these hormones, helping our body to adapt to the
stress. The body's magnificent intelligence always serves us during stressful
crises. If the stress continues for a prolonged period of time, however,
serious damage may be caused as the production of stress hormones can
and does get out of control. When these stress hormones are out of control,
our body's biochemical balance becomes upset and functions entirely out of
harmony. This then impairs our immune system and leaves us open and
vulnerable to invasion of dangerous infections and cancer cells. According
to some scientists, stress hormones also hasten and compound the aging
process, Cortisol being one of them.

To answer the original question, "How important and desirable is it to

eliminate the stressors in our lives?", it is evident from the foregoing
information that we would be doing our bodies a favor if we were

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taught how to minimize or eliminate as many stressors as possible on a

daily basis.
Phobias

There is a condition that extends beyond the usual and normal stresses in
life that is closely related to the stressors discussed in Chapter 14. This
condition often manifests in a person when unidentified and unresolved
feelings—deep stressors—are present in the body. This condition is known
as a "Phobia." A phobia is an obsessive, irrational fear or anxiety which
represents the ultimate panic attack. For example: Phobias or panic attacks
often begin to occur after there has been a separation from a loved one or a
major change in a person's life.

Phobias are a result of unresolved feelings/emotions or beliefs which may

have been ticking inside you like a time-bomb for years. The "seed" of the
phobia could have been there since the very first incorrectly perceived,
unconscious belief you naturally established after having a bad experience.
For instance, being locked in a closet could cause claustrophobia; falling
from something high as a child could create a fear of heights. Each phobia
has it's own personality, but all phobias are involuntary, irrational, and
inappropriate to the situation.

There are over 40 million people in the United States who suffer from a
phobia. When a phobia is in control, it's an indication that we are not in
present time—that is, subconsciously (unknowingly) we are either living in
the past or in the future. But a phobic person is mostly haunted by what has
happened in the past and living with a horrendous fear of what can happen
in the future. And ... the other characteristic of a phobia is that it flourishes
via illusion. The illusion is worry—what if— an( j our unconscious
imagining takes it from there and runs wild. In other words, our phobic
reality is a figment of our imagination and we are living in the past; we
have moved in and are residing with our old

fears. Something happened in our mind that facilitated the phobic behavior-
reaction.

Whatever the feeling/belief may be that has created the phobia, it is usually
rooted in some kind of fear. This fear has been stored, for who knows how
long, in the subconscious mind which is connected to the nervous system.
When this fear is triggered by a sight, a smell, a touch or a sound it arouses
feelings of anxiety, fright and panic—almost like someone has a gun to
one's head. The nervous system jumps into action, responding to the trigger
by supplying all the unpleasant reactions that have been created by the fear
stored in the subconscious and an unschooled imagination.

Major trauma in a person's life can also establish a fear that causes a phobia.
If the trauma, at the time of its occurrence, is more than the person can cope
with emotionally, often the mind provides a block that keeps the person
from remembering the incident. Case in point is Sherry, a client who, at
fourteen years of age, was left alone in a motel room by her parents for a
short time. Two men broke in, turned the radio up very loud and proceeded
to rape her. This trauma not only caused Sherry to panic thereafter every
time she heard the stirring melody of America the Beautiful, (the piece that
was playing on the radio as she was being violated) but the trauma (not
resolved until about 20 years later), also caused her the phobia of being
unable to drive on the freeway because she felt so "out of control." Sherry's
mind had blocked the incident from her remembrance. Because her phobia
caused her so much pain and was becoming continually worse, she was
willing to see if the Script could bring her any relief. So, Sherry used the
Script to instruct her subconscious to locate the origin of her feelings that
caused her to panic every time she heard America the Beautiful. She also
instructed her subconscious to locate the origin of her feelings that caused
her to be so out of control on the freeway. By doing this, the block was
removed and a remembrance of the incident returned. Several feelings
associated with these phobias were successfully addressed with the

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Script and a healing was affected. Needless to say, Sherry was extremely
relieved and grateful when she found that she no longer was bothered by
these old phobias.

Phobic victims are usually bound or locked up inside with two fears. First,
they may have the fear of "driving on the freeway," then they have the
second fear, "the fear of the primary fear," the fear that they will lose
control, die or do something that is dangerous or embarrassing.
Even though buried feelings/beliefs may not have created a fullblown
phobia yet, a person needs to be aware and recognize when one of their five
senses triggers the start of a phobic reaction. At that very moment the
feeling reaction (exactly what is being felt) needs to be faced, not resisted
or denied. Resisting or denying a feeling creates a block in the energy flow
which makes it worse. State exactly what is being felt and start processing
those feelings that are coming to the surface with the Script.

An example of how to facilitate relief from a phobia attack as it is

happening at the moment would be: Take a deep breath in through your
nose, letting it out through your mouth slowly. Do it a second time and hold
your breath after you inhale for 3 seconds, then let it out slowly allowing
your body to totally relax. Then say, "Spirit, please locate the origin of the
feelings that cause me to feel like I'm losing my mind!" (Or whatever.)
Continue on through the rest of the Script, coming to the replacement line;
... to transform. I choose Be-ing perfectly sane, I feel perfectly sane, I am
perfectly sane, calm, serene and tranquil." These are merely suggestions of
phrases to use for the positive replacements. You may have something you
feel is more appropriate or better suits you. Use it. Here again, my
suggestions are merely to assist you in processing with the Script.

Processing feelings at the onset of an attack can help relieve the phobia
before it is fully developed. If a person is not able to process their feelings
soon enough to have immediate positive results, they may want

to recall their feelings at a later, calmer time and process each one of them
with the Script then. Every person affected by a phobia will have a different
experience when doing this, and there is no way to predict how many times
it will be necessary to use the Script in the process of eliminating a phobia.
The important thing is to continue with the processing and address any and
every feeling surrounding the phobia.

Oftentimes, the person who experiences a phobia is in a chronic state of

neurosis. The neurosis is due to the fact that they are being constantly
irritated and agitated by their own thinking patterns. (Talk about the
Conscious—thinking, and the Subconscious—feeling, being at war!)
Fearful of when the next phobic attack will occur, their neurosis is
compounded by this added state of fear. (Perhaps, if you haven't already,
you now catch the vision and importance of "tuning" in to your feelings and
thoughts immediately, if not sooner.)

What are some of the fears connected with phobias? The most common
ones are:

Fear of abandonment Fear of being alone Fear of being suffocated Fear of

bridges Fear of cancer Fear of cats Fear of cemeteries Fear of closed areas
Fear of confrontation Fear of crime Fear of criticism Fear of crossing streets
Fear of crowds Fear of the dark Fear of dogs Fear of driving

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Fear of driving on the freeway

Fear of dying

Fear of engulfment

Fear of falling

Fear of fires

Fear of flying/airplanes

Fear of going crazy

Fear of heights

Fear of illness

Fear of insects

Fear of loud voices

Fear of mice

Fear of meeting strangers

Fear of people in authority

Fear of public places

Fear of rape

Fear of rejection

Fear of riding in buses or trains

Fear of social interaction

Fear of speaking in public

Fear of tunnels

Fear of water

People who experience these phobic fears usually feel trapped. This trapped
feeling creates terror; they feel out of control or, they feel they have no
control of what is going on in their life. They feel there is no escape from
this situation—there is no way out.

The phobic person makes a concerted effort to avoid the place, situation or
thing which triggers the phobia. A phobic also fears that what they are
afraid of will wake them up in their sleep—and then no sleep can come
because of the panic, anxiety or terror of the situation, whatever it may be.
Their plight becomes a "Catch 22" situation, like a squirrel in a round cage,
running endlessly and getting nowhere.

A phobic attack can appear very quickly, and generally a person can not
identify how or where it started. The thought pattern then becomes a
behavior pattern—a habit, and the squirrel is off and running again, with the
rut getting deeper and deeper.

Symptoms of a phobia are normal bodily reactions. They are just happening
at the wrong time. These symptoms may include palpitation of the heart or
shortness of breath, dizziness and light-headedness. A person may be very
nervous and fidgety. Or, they may have a difficult time swallowing or
breathing and start to sweat. Often they experience rubbery legs, feel faint
and tremble. They may experience a strange tingling and their chest may
hurt. A phobic often feels impending death or like they're going to go crazy!
As one phobic stated it, "I feel like I'm sitting in the middle of a room that is
raging with fire, but there are no windows or doors."

If any of these symptoms occur three times a week, this is the first sign of a
phobia. Phobias usually happen in people from ages 25 to 45 years. If the
phobia is not corrected, it increases in severity and eventually controls a
person's life. Women are more prone to phobias than men and men will
usually turn to alcohol in an attempt to minimize or avoid their phobia.

When a phobia starts to develop, there are several other things a person can
do to distract the phobia and keep it from progressing while they are going
through the Script:

• Focus on the present

• Wiggle the toes

• Tap on the table or lap with a pencil or fingers

• Massage the back of the neck

• Chew on the tongue

• Tense the hand and relax it

• Listen to music

• Carry a handkerchief sprayed with favorite perfume &

smell it

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• Draw an imaginary circle on the floor that represents present time and step
into the circle
Any of the foregoing will facilitate a person's ability to maintain their focus
and stay in present time. A positive affirmative statement that also helps
keep a person in present time is, "I love myself just the way I am." Perhaps
the most beneficial thing you can do, however, is go through the Script
while standing in the imaginary circle, addressing your feelings of the
moment. Doing the Script at this time is effective and one of the best
applications of all the suggestions in this chapter to relieve or halt an attack.

Bear in mind that although the suggestions above have the ability to move
one successfully through a tense moment, addressing the feelings one
experiences at the time of the phobia is critical to eliminating the phobia.

Another factor valuable for your information is that hypoglycemia and

phobias may be linked, according to Philip Bate, Ph.D., psychologist and
former director of the Maitland Psychological Clinic in Maitland, Florida.
Dr. Alan Goldstein, Ph.D., director of the Temple University Medical
School Agoraphobia and Anxiety Center in Philadelphia made a similar
observation. He says that the typical diet of their patients includes lots of
sweets, as high as ten cups of coffee a day, and very few slow-release high-
protein foods. Obviously, adequate, nutritious foods are very important to
your health, chemical balance and well-being. So, you may want to evaluate
your eating habits along with recognizing your feelings.

"Owning" the phobia and accepting it is a fundamental requisite on your

road to overcoming the phobia. The Complete Guide to Your Emotions &
Your Health tells us that two former phobics, when asked what their single
most important advice would be for other phobics, recommended turning to
family and friends for support rather than hiding the problem from them.
They encourage phobics not to be embarrassed

about telling others. It's important to believe that there is hope and that you
are not alone. If the person experiencing a phobia has someone with them,
they feel protected. Whereas, if the person is alone they feel isolated. The
anxiety and apprehension they undergo from worrying that they will
encounter their worst possible imagining, becomes their reality. These
feelings can cause a person to become mentally, emotionally and physically
crippled. Hormones and glands become imbalanced., and the longer the
phobia continues the worse it becomes until 18% of the people who
experience phobias or panic attacks commit suicide. So, help yourself by
addressing your feelings as they occur.

Stress Can Cause Suicide

One Sunday afternoon in the early 90's, I received a telephone call from a
30 year old friend of mine in a neighboring state. We'll call her Jean. I
wasn't prepared for Jean's declaration to me over the phone. She told me she
was about to commit suicide! I had never heard anyone so despondent. The
hopelessness in my friend's voice was heavy and oppressive. I persuaded
her to talk to me about the reasons she didn't want to live any longer. As
Jean talked I listened for cue words and phrases that indicated to me what
she was really feeling, and wrote them down quickly. I knew it was possible
Jean could be dissuaded from her intent, due to the fact that she called me.

When the person contemplating suicide tells another person they are about
to kill themselves, they are really reaching out for help—for someone to
stop them.

Whether a person succeeds in committing suicide or not, their intent to do

so is usually a very strong indication they are trying to get a message
through to someone. The old tapes that have been playing over and over
again in their head have become worn out, but they don't know how to
change them. So they just give up because they feel there is no

way out of their situation. Their mind often drives them and gives them
inappropriate messages until they are successful at ending their life.

The real message a suicidal person is actually communicating is, "I really
don't want to die, I just don't want to live this way anymore. I can't stand the
pain, and I can see no other way out." Their problems seem insurmountable,
due to their unconscious conditioned inability to handle frustration and the
stresses of life. The memory of perfection in their cells is definitely
distorted. Very often a suicidal person is experiencing acute depression or
extreme fear. Suicide, to them, seems the only way to overcome the pain.
They feel that suicide is a permanent solution to their problems. Yes, it's a
permanent solution, but to a temporary problem.
As Jean and I talked, a clearer picture of the intense internal conflict she
was battling began to emerge. Her internal unresolved stressors had piled
too high for her to handle. I asked if she would be willing to go through the
Script. She agreed. I had Jean repeat it after me, to herself: "Spirit, please
locate the origin of my feelings that cause me to believe everything is
hopeless." We finished the Script and replaced "everything is hopeless"
with, "I choose having faith in the future. I feel faith in the future. I am
secure with the future. I choose Be-ing excited to be alive. I feel excited to
be alive. I am excited to be alive. I feel the future can be bright and happy. I
choose Be-ing optimistic and hopeful. I feel optimistic and hopeful. I am
optimistic and hopeful."

After we zeroed in on additional key feelings and went through the Script a
few more times, addressing some of her other fears, I heard a change in the
timbre of her voice. The desperation she exhibited earlier had been reduced
to semi-calm. I was finally able to reason with her and we talked further.
Jean became amicable and subsequently agreed to forget about ending her
life that day, promising to stick it out.

I told her that I would call her each night of the ensuing week to see how
she was faring, which seemed to please her. I also encouraged

Jean to keep the Script available for her immediate use each time she felt
any negative feelings or thoughts coming her way.

The suggestion was made to Jean that she quit running away and face the
truth and inevitability of her suffering the natural consequences of
something she had done which required that justice be met. We examined
the worst case scenario of what could happen to her in this event, and
discussed it for awhile. During our time on the phone I felt that Jean had
experienced about an 180 degree shift, for which I was very, very relieved
and grateful.

As a side-light, about two weeks after our conversation, Jean was offered
the ultimate job in her profession. She could hardly believe her good
fortune. Although Jean still continues to have her challenges, the quality of
her life has improved to the degree she allows it.
As you can see, the neuroses that are possible to develop from stressors
going unattended are wide and varied. How sad it is for a person if these
stressors are not acknowledged and resolved. Yet, how simple it is to start
addressing them now! Natural Laws ARE simple. It's human beings who
make Natural Laws complicated. REMEMBER THE KISS PRINCIPLE:
KEEP IT SIMPLE SWEETHEART!

No matter what degree of stress you are experiencing at this very moment,
remember ... the stress is caused by unresolved buried feelings. The feelings
and thoughts are at war. The feeling and thinking need to get together—to
be integrated so they become one. No matter what your challenges are or
how many you have, they can all be addressed with the Script and healing
can begin.

You are your own steward. You are your own director and you get to
orchestrate the outcome of your life. Why not begin—right now! All it takes
is a willingness to own the problem and a commitment to get started.

LET'S DO IT!

Chapter 16

Enjoy The "Now

A regrettable tendency many of us experience on our journey through life is

the inability to allow ourselves to be happy or satisfied in the "now." For
example, when we're in grade school, we can hardly wait until we're in
junior high school. Then we're in junior high and can't wait until we're in
high school. In our early teens, we can hardly wait to be 16 so we can drive
a car. Then we're waiting to graduate from high school, to leave home, then
to get married, etc. We seldom, if ever, are able to be satisfied and content
enjoying the here and now.

We don't seem to know how to stop along the way and smell the roses. And
in some cultures we can't enjoy, or we think we're not supposed to enjoy life
until we are perfect (whatever our perception of perfect is). Here is a
question worth pondering: Why is it that so many of us think we can't enjoy
life to it's fullest until we have arrived at our destination?

As our years start adding up and we become more aware of qualities in our
life we'd like to improve, we might tell ourselves that we'll be happy when
we've conquered this or that bad habit. Or, we'll be happy if we live through
the next crises. We'll for sure be happy when we lose 30 pounds. And, oh
yes, we really must have that new car, then we truly will be happy! We
haven't been able to learn the art of enjoying where we are now! Too many
of us have been conditioned to live

with fear and anxiety as our constant companions, always in dread of the
future, worried that we will repeat the past.

Remember when you were learning to ride a bicycle? Were you able to stay
up the first time you tried? Did that deter or defeat you? You accepted the
possibility that it might take more than one try. Each time you fell you were
determined to do it over and over again until you finally figured out what
the combination was that would keep you up and balanced. While you were
going through this process didn't you enjoy the now of it, knowing you
would eventually be triumphant? Remember the exhilaration of finally
succeeding? It was the journey that was exciting!

If we can realize and recognize that the growth process is something to be

savored and relished along the way—that enjoying the challenges of the
now and seeing the positive aspects they bring to our life as we experience
them—our existence can be so much more rewarding. Our Be-ing is
developing and it is necessary to have these kinds of experiences in order to
accomplish our growth.

It would be wise for us to remember as we lead and guide the lives of our
children (or anyone else, for that matter), that we can't expect them to
accept our knowledge, understand what we understand, or be where we are
now in our knowledge and understanding. They simply don't have our
points of reference. We can guide them to correct principles, but we need to
allow them their own experiences and allow them to grow at their own
speed. We can share our knowledge and experiences with them, but it is not
wise to insist that they see things from our reference point. Nor do we want
to control their thinking or their lives. We want to break the cycle of
programming and control. Our purpose in their lives is to guide, enlighten
and direct rather than to control. When we are sharing our knowledge or
understanding with someone, we accomplish more by endeavoring to reach
them from where their understanding is, not from where ours is. They will
be more open and better

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able to comprehend and absorb new principles when we do this. In other

words, allow them their own rate of growth.

A good guide to go by is: "Don't want something (understanding or

conditions) for someone else, more than THEY want it for themselves!" If
we sincerely desire to assist in lifting and building others:

The Greatest Example We Can Give Anyone, Is Our Life Working For Us!

Cynthia, a beautiful 22 year old client is a very bright, capable person. Her
biggest problem is her mother who always wants to control what takes
place in Cynthia's life. Cynthia never seems to be able to satisfy her mother.
According to her mother, there is always something that needs to be
changed or corrected in Cynthia's life. No matter who she is dating,
Cynthia's mother always poses the big question as to whether he's good
enough for her. It seems her mother has a definite picture of the type of
young man she wants her daughter to marry, and unless the person Cynthia
is dating measures up to that picture, he's not good enough. (Familiar
story?) Well, right now Cynthia is suffering from anorexia, big time! Often
the cause of this malady is, "not being able to satisfy parents, particularly
mother." Her mother wants something more for Cynthia than Cynthia wants
for herself, and Cynthia is becoming an emotional basket case.

The sad part about mother is that she lives in constant fear that her beautiful
daughter is not going to make the right choices.

If we, as parents, only realized the deep emotional scars that are embedded
in the soul of a child from parents trying to run their life for them,
(particularly after the child is old enough to make his own decisions) we
would surely back off and allow them their own experiences without
interfering, unless invited by them to advise them. Even then it's important
that we judiciously point out possible alternatives, helping them to
recognize the potential natural consequences of their choices.

Reason with them and encourage them. Then allow them to make their own
choices and support them in their decisions, regardless of whether or not we
think they are wise. They will learn from their mistakes. But when they
make a mistake, here again, if we just counsel them as to what might have
happened if their choice had been different—rather than saying, "I told you
so," or causing them to feel stupid, they will feel we are supporting them
and allowing them their own experiences without judging them. The lines
of communication between us are then open and they will be much more
willing to talk with us about their problems the next time they have them.

As in learning to ride the bicycle, if we always steadied the bike for them,
they would never learn to master it on their own or become independent of
us. We would be robbing them of their growth experience.

Something else to consider as we are learning to enjoy the now, is this: How
many of us seem to think that in order for life to work for us, that first—we
have to HAVE something before we can DO something before we can BE
something? For example, do we think that we have to HAVE money so we
can DO the fun things in life that we want to do, so we can BE happy?

In reality it's just the other way around. We are better off BE-ing first, so
that we can DO, so that we can HAVE. HAVING is a natural byproduct of
BE-ing.

Just what does BE-ing refer to? BE forgiving. BE non-judgmental. BE

accepting. BE loving. BE grateful. BE caring. BE understanding. BE happy.
BE willing to admit you don't know everything. BE the best you can BE
everyday. BE efficient, DO the best job, HAVE the best pay. Little by little
you can Be-come the kind of person that is most desirable for you to BE,
then you will automatically DO the best you can DO. Let me say that one
more time: When you are BE-ing the kind of person that is most desirable
for you to BE, then you will automatically DO the best
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you can DO—then you will HAVE the peace and whatever else is most
desirable in life for you to HAVE.

Here again, it's called the Law of Cause and Effect. HAVING, no matter
what it is, is the natural by-product of what we are BE-ing and what we are
DO-ing. We reap what we sow.

Lest you are overwhelmed feeling that you need to BE all of the above
before you can DO or HAVE, just remember that it's a process getting there,
and your BE-ing is developing in the NOW as you are accepting the
challenges of each day. Eventually you can BE what you want to BE—your
True-Self—and return to your perfect blueprint and the memory of your
perfection.

As you can see, instead of HAVING...DOING...BEING, life works in better

harmony when you are BEING...DOING...HAVING. After all, you are
NOT a human HAVE-ing nor a Human DO-ing. You are a human BE-ing.

"So how do I get to this point," you may ask, "willing to BE, first?"
Processing negative feelings through the Script is the perfect place to start.
As you process your feelings you are BE-ing. It will be of great benefit for
you to work through the hostilities and frustrations you may have so you
can finally arrive at the place of 'live and let live' . . . of BE-ing, enjoying
the peace of the NOW.

We are not Human Have-ings NOR Human Do-ings, but we are Human Be-
ings. So instead of Having . . . Doing . . . Be-ing . . .

Chapter 17

Feelings

The Feelings list in this chapter is designed to assist you in replacing

negative feelings with positive feelings while Scripting. The "root" of the
word is generally provided, as you may be using the words in the past,
present, future tense, or as an action word.
Examples:

With Mercy as the root word—I choose Be-ing merciful. I feel merciful. I
am merciful. Or, I choose having mercy for my sister. I feel mercy for my
sister. I am merciful towards my sister.

With Love as the root word—I choose Be-ing loved. I feel loved. I am
loved. Or, I choose loving my brother, John. I feel love for my brother,
John. I am loving my brother, John. Or, I choose being loving. I feel loving.
I am loving.

With Trust as the root word—I choose having trust. I feel trusting. I am
trusting. I choose Be-ing trusting. I feel trust in this situation. I am trusting
this situation.

The main point to keep in mind is that we are striving to BE the human Be-
ing we intrinsically are. Nevertheless, it is necessary that we choose the
characteristic we desire before we can Be (I AM) that characteristic.

In affirming something it is difficult for our psyche to jump to the I AM

before it consciously chooses that characteristic. Then, the feeling

Feelings y#3

is the bridge between the choosing and the I AM. Thus, the suggestion, I
choose, I feel, I AM.

Please refer to my book, Healing Feelings . . . From Your Heart for a more
in-depth discussion.

Abandoned Cherished, Precious, Upheld, Cared For

Abused Cherished, Sustained, Supported, Forgiving

Accused Blameless, Innocent, Absolved, Vindicated

Afraid Confident, Courageous, Peaceful, Reassured

Aggravated Unprovoked, Senseless, Peaceful, Forgiving

Agitated Forgive, Calm, Peaceful, Happy

Agony Ecstasy, Peaceful, Love, Joyful

Aimless Directed, Purposeful, Decisive, Resolute

Alarmed Calm, Peaceful, Relaxed, Secure

Alienated Forgive, Accepted, Loved, Cherished

Alone Bonded, Upheld, Cherished, Connected

Aloof Warm, Caring, Kind, Interested in Others

Ancient Young, Vivacious, Exuberant, Happy

Angry Forgive, Love, Peaceful, Calm, Merciful

Anguish Relieved, Peaceful, Content, Happy

Animosity Forgive, Love, Harmonious, Peaceful

Annoyed Forgive, Accept, Undisturbed, Calm

Antagonistic Agreeable, Harmonious, Cooperative

Anxiety Trust, Reassured, Calm, Peaceful

Anxious Confident, Peaceful, Trusting, Reassured

Apathy-Apathetic Energetic, Interested, Concerned, Caring

Apprehensive Confident, Calm, Trusting, Reassured

Argumentative Agreeable, Harmonious, Peaceful

Arrogant Humble, Loving, Teachable, Modest

Ashamed Forgive Self, Repentant, Pleased, Merciful

Attacked Defended, Protected, Supported, Upheld

Austere Easy Going, Genial, Flexible, Friendly

Avoiding Participating, Meet the Challenge, Comfortable

Awful Wonderful, Good, Peaceful, Fulfilled

Awkward Graceful, At Ease, Confident, Flowing

Backward Forward, Progressive, Dynamic, Confident

Bad Good, Worthwhile, Valuable, Pleasant

Bad Attitude Good Attitude/Natured, Positive, Forgive

Bad Luck (It's My) . . . .Fortunate, Blessed, Life Works For Me

Baffled Enlightened, Wise, Judicious, Comprehend

Banished Welcomed, Accepted, Acknowledged, Honored

Bashful Outgoing, Assertive, Confident, Forward

Beaten Down Lifted Up, Elevated, Invigorated, Invincible

Befuddled Collected, Confident, Composed, Congruent

Belligerent Cooperative, Helpful, Cheerful, Good-Natured

Belittled Built Up, Elevated, Praised, Valued

Bemoaning Happy, Celebrating, Rejoicing in Life

Betrayed Forgive, Merciful, Love, Peace

Bereft Rich, Blessed, Provided For, Privileged

Bewildered Enlightened, Understand, Comprehend

Bitter Forgive, Love, Joyful, Peaceful, Sweet

Blah Bright, Light, Enthused, Joyful, Anticipate

Blaming Forgive, Non-Blaming, Merciful, Allowing

Bleak Bright, Encouraged, Excited, Hopeful

Blew it Forgive Self, It's Okay, Persistent, Move On

Blinders on (Have) . . . .See Things Clearly, Open to Truth, Teachable

Blocked Unrestricted, Open, Flowing, Productive

Boastful Modest, Sincere, Humble, Grateful

Boiling (Inside) Forgive, Love, Calm, Peace, Merciful

Boisterous Quiet, Tranquil, Peaceful, Placid, Serene

Bondage Free, Liberated, Unconstrained, Independent

Bored Excited, Interested, Enthused, Involved

Bothered Forgive, At Ease, Comfortable, Accepting

Boxed In Plenty of Room, Spacious, Released, Liberated

Bragging Humble, Modest, Reserved, Unassuming

Brooding Adaptable, Accepting, Happy, Cheerful

Brutal/ish Merciful, Kind, Gentle, Sensitive, Loving

Bugged Forgiving, Allowing, Loving, Peaceful

Burdened Relieved, Light, Carefree, Liberated

Burned Up Forgive, Cool, Calm, Peaceful, Tranquil

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Burn(ed) Out Invigorated, Enthused, Energized, Revitalized

Captive (Like a) Liberated, Free, Independent, Restored

Careless Careful, Accurate, Attentive, Thoughtful

Chaotic Organized, Methodical, Purposeful, Resolute

Charlatan Authentic, Genuine, Honest, Trustworthy

Chastened Encouraged, Uplifted, Benefited. Rewarded

Cheap Valuable, Cherished, Worthwhile, Unequaled

Cheated Forgive, Unshaken, Treated Fairly, Restored

Childish Mature, Sensitive, Wise, Understanding

Choking (Like I'm) . . .Breathing Freely, Unrestricted, Liberated

Chronic Curable, Temporary, Short-Lived, Carefree

Chronic Anxiety Reassured, Peaceful, Serene, Tranquil

Churning Inside Calm, Composed, Comfortable, Secure

Clingy Letting Go, Releasing, Relaxed, Yielding

Closed Off Open, Accessible, Responsive, Unbiased

Closed-Minded Open-Minded, Teachable, Embracing Truth

Clumsy Forgive, Coordinated, Graceful, Comely

Cocky Humble, Genial, Pleasant, Caring, Sincere

Competitive Non-Competitive, Cooperative, Alliance

Complaining (Like) . . .Approving. Appreciative, Grateful, Enjoying

Complexes (Have) . . . .Understanding, Insightful, Directed

Comply (Need to) Independent, Self-Determining, Unique

Compromised Secure, Honest, Steadfast, Strong

Compulsive It's Unnecessary, Relaxed, Rational

Conceited Humble, Teachable, Modest, Caring

Condemning Forgive, Merciful, Accept, Allow

Confined Free, Flowing, Released, Liberated

Conflict Peacemaker, Peaceful, Forgive, Excuse

Confounded Enlightened, Perceptive, Wise, Judicious

Confused Clear-Headed, Enlightened, Understand

Conniver (Like a) Honest, Virtuous, Honorable, Sincere

Constricted Expanded, Carefree, Released, Liberated

Contempt Forgive, Merciful, Love, Accept, Allow

Contemptible Decent, Honest, Kind, Truthful, Virtuous

Contentious Agreeable, Pleasant, Courteous, Cheerful

Contradictory Accepting, Agreeable, Peaceful, Contrite

Contrary Yielding, Harmonious, Pleasant, Agreeable

Control (Want to) Letting Go, Releasing, Allowing, Flow With

Controlled Unrestricted, Let Go, Free, Liberated

Cope (Can't) Manage Successfully, Steadfast, Strong, Reliant

Covetous Generous, Unselfish, Grateful, Satisfied

Cowardly Heroic, Fearless, Valiant, Brave, Stalwart

Cranky Forgive, Good-Humored, Pleasant, Kind, Happy

Crazy Balanced, Together, Sane, Calm, Collected

Criminal (Like a) Unique, Authentic, Trusted, Admired, Valued

Critical Forgive, Accept, Love, Merciful, Allow

Criticized Accepted, Forgiven, Loved, Cared For

Cross (I Feel) Pleasant, Happy, Genial, Forgiving, Joyous

Cruel Kind, Gentle, Loving, Compassionate

Crummy Wonderful, Happy, Joyous, Fulfilled

Crushed Restored, Reconciled, Valued, Uplifted

Crying (Like) Rejoicing, Laughing, Exulting, Cheering

Cunning Genuine, Honest, Straightforward, Just

Cursed Forgiven, Blessed, Edified, Praised

Cynical Trusting, Accepting, Believing, Optimistic

Death Wish Love Life! Excited, Enthused, Joyous, Happy

Debased Purified, Restored, Cleansed, Redeemed

Deceitful Honest, Integrity, Honorable, True, Congruent

Deceived . Informed, Discerning, Forgiving, Perceptive

Defamed Honored, Revered, Elevated, Uplifted, Valued

Defeated Victorious, Renewed, Sustained, Invincible

Defensive Assertive, Appropriately Aggressive, Forgive

Defiant Obedient, Peaceable, Yielding, Dutiful

Deficient Sufficient, Adequate, Capable, Competent

Defiled Restored, Purified, Cleansed, Renewed

Degenerate Good, Honest, Just, Kind, Virtuous, Pure

Degraded Honored, Promoted, Praiseworthy, Dignified

Dejected Happy, Cheerful, Tenacious, Erect, Uplifted

Delayed Moving Forward, Uninterrupted, Accelerated

Demanding Flexible, Yielding, Agreeable, Pleasant

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Demeaned Elevated, Uplifted, Supported, Cherished

Demoralized Elevated, Exonerated, Valued, Glorified, Invincible

Denial Responsible, Accountable, Owning, Accepting

Dependency Liberated, Independent, Carefree, Self-Ruled

Dependent Independent, Self-Reliant, Strong, Skilled

Depraved Emancipated, Edified, Elevated, Righteous

Depressed/ion Joyful, Enthused About Life, Happy, Excited

Deprived Privileged, Favored, Pampered, Fulfilled

Derided Approved, Applauded, Praised, Encouraged

Desecrated Renewed, Replenished, Healed, Reverenced

Deserted Cherished, Upheld, Protected, Cared For

Desolate Happy, Secure, Joyful, Cheerful, Fruitful

Despair Courage, Reassured, Trust, Hope, Faith

Desperate Confident, Trusting, Unshaken, Composed

Despise Forgiving, Loving, Caring, Allowing

Despondent Cheerful, Radiant, Glowing, Elevated

Destroyed Restored, Saved, Protected, Transformed, Invincible

Destructive Constructive, Building, Elevating, Benevolent

Detached Connected, Joined, Part of the Whole, Accepted

Detrimental (to Others) Beneficial, Valuable, Contributive, Constructive

Devalued Valued, Respected, Appreciated, Esteemed, Prized

Devastated Forgive, Liberated, Uplifted, Renewed, Encouraged

Destitute Affluent, Prosperous, Sustained, Comforted

Detest Forgive, Adore, Love, Favor, Approve, Accept

Devilish Angelic, Kind, Virtuous, Pure, Honest

Dictatorial Teachable, Humble, Giving, Compassionate

Different Unique, Authentic, Original, Accepted

Difficult Pleasant, Gracious, Comfortable, Simple

Dirty Clean, Honorable, Kind, Good, Decent

Disagreeable Allowing, Accepting, Loving, Pleasant

Disappointing Pleasing, Encouraged, Satisfied, Content

Disappointment/ed Accepted/ing, It's Perfect, Allow, At Peace

Disappear (Could) Face the Issue, Be Present in the Moment

Disapproval Approval, Favor, Support, Accept, Allow

Disapproved Of Approve of Self, Cherished, Loved, Valued

Discontent Content, Happy, Blissful, Serene, Peaceful

Discordant Harmonious, In Tune With, Connected

Discouraged Encouraged, Resolute, Eager, Excited

Discourteous Courteous, Kind, Caring, Loving

Discredited Vindicated, Credited, Valued, Honored

Disdain Forgive, Regard Highly, Love, Merciful

Disgraced Forgiven, Redeemed, Exonerated, Honored

Disgust/ing Forgiving, Attraction, Admiration, Accept

Disharmony Harmonious, Attuned, Balanced, Aligned

Disheartened Encouraged, Happy, Jovial, Courageous

Dishonored Honored, Worthy, Admired, Upheld, Valued

Dishonest Honest, Forthright, Fair, Just, Scrupulous

Dislike (of Self/Others) Forgive, Like, Care About, Interested In

Disobedient Obedient, Reliable, Stable, Steadfast

Disorderly Orderly, Organized, Neat, Tranquil

Disorganized Organized, Orderly, Neat, Systematic

Disown Claim, Own, Admit, Acknowledge

Disowned Claimed, Retained, Preserved, Valued

Displeasing (Fear of) . .Confident, Pleasing, Satisfying, Capable

Disrespect Respect, Revere, Honor, Admire, Value

Dissatisfied Satisfied, Pleased, Contented, Grateful

Dissension Cooperation, Agreement, Peaceful, Harmonious

Distorted Made Whole, Complete, Harmonious, Aligned

Distraught Comforted, Supported, Calm, Peaceful

Distressed Calm, Cheerful, Peaceful, Relaxed, Carefree

Distrust . Forgive, Trust, Reliable, Loyal, Dependable

Disturbed Undisturbed, Quiet, Calm, Soothed, Accept

Divided Connected, Bonded, Unified, Reconciled

Dominated Empowered, Equal to, Strong, Capable

Doomed Fortunate, Restored, Protected, Secure, Safe

Doormat (Like a) Powerful, Strong, Self-Sufficient, Reliant

Double-Minded Single-Minded, Integrated, Whole-Minded

Doubt/ful Reassured, Trust, Believe, Confidence In

Downcast Uplifted, Elevated, Happy, Joyous, Excited

Downtrodden Stable, Strong, Resilient, Stalwart, Uplifted

Drab Bright, Colorful, Exciting, Dynamic

Drained Invigorated, Energized, Vibrant, Vital

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Dread Excited, Enthused, Fearless, Anticipating

Dreadful Pleasant, Healthy, Happy, Joyful, Cheerful

Dreary Bright, Happy, Vibrant. Joyful, Cheerful

Driven Relaxed, Calm, Peaceful, Flowing, Carefree

Droopy Revived, Uplifted, Happy, Elevated, Grateful

Drowning (Like I'm) . .Breathing Freely, Plenty of Air, Rescued, Invincible

Drudgery With Spirit, Enthused, Happy, Excited About

Dumb Smart, Intelligent, Bright, Comprehending

Egotistical Meek, Humble, Selfless, Teachable

Embarrassed Confident, Passive, Comfortable, Grounded

Emotional Stress .. .. : .Emotionally Stable, Calm, Confident, Steadfast

Empty Filled with Love, Reassured, Supreme Joy

Enmity Love, Respect, Good, Kindness, Benevolent

Enraged Forgive, Calm, Peaceful, Relaxed, Love

Enslaved Free, Liberated, Unrestrained, Independent

Entangled .Liberated, Disentangled, Released, Restored

Envious Accept, Pleased for Others, Benevolent

Envy Love, Content, Accept, Happy, Delighted

Escaping (Feel Like) . .Unwavering, Steadfast, Stalwart, Comfortable

Estranged Forgive, Compatible, Harmonious, Bonded

Evil-Minded Enlightened, Spiritual Minded, Virtuous

Exasperated Patience, Tolerant, Accept, Forgive, Love

Excesses/ive Moderation, Reasonable, Sensible, Sufficient

Excluded Included, Accepted, Honored, Cherished

Exhausted Invigorated, Revitalized, Energized, Refreshed

Exploited Forgive, Appreciated, Valued, Respected

Exposed Safe, Secure, Protected, Fortified, Forgive

Face up (Can't) Decisive, Brave, Courageous, Valiant

Falling Standing, Strong, Firm, Upright, Steadfast

Failing (Like I'm) Encouraged, Supported, Succeeding, Competent

Failure (Like a) Successful, Competent, Capable, Accomplished

Fainthearted Resilient, Resolute, Masterful, Strong, Firm

Faithless Faithful, Loyal, Stable, Steadfast, Strong

Fatigued Revitalized, Replenished, Invigorated

Fear/Ful Reassured, Trust, Confident, Resolute, Brave

Feeble Stable, Strong, Erect, Energetic, Invigorated

Fickle Constant, Loyal, Dependable, Faithful, True

Fierce Gentle, Tenderhearted, Merciful, Kind

Fighting (Like) Forgive, Calm, Peaceful, Composed, Unruffled

Filthy Clean, Pure, Decent, Love, Honorable

Fixation Mentally Stable, Disinterested, Balanced, Neutral

Flawed Magnificent, Flawless, Distinctive, Noble, Beautiful

Flighty Stable, Centered, Calm, Collected, Grounded

Flippant Respectful, Considerate, Thoughtful, Caring

Floundering Resolute, Grounded, Determined, Directed

Flustered Calm, Collected, Peaceful, Competent, At Ease

Foolish Brilliant, Wise, Bright, Exceptional, Focused

Forced Liberated, Free Will, Able to Choose, Optional

Forgetful Alert, Remember, Mindful, Retain Information

Forgotten Remembered, Included, Revered, Honored

Forlorn Happy, Cheerful, Exuberant, Enthused

Forsaken Remembered, Favored, Indispensable, Restored

Foul-Mouthed Respectful, Reverent, Humble, Honorable

Fragmented Focused, Centered, Collected, Peaceful

Frantic Relaxed, Flowing w/ Life, Calm, Peaceful

Fretful Confident, Peaceful, Calm, Trust, Stable

Friendless Popular, Well-Liked, Sought After, Valued

Frightened Courageous, Confident, Brave, Calm

Frigid Warm, Loving, Passionate, Responsive

Frustrated Peaceful, Calm, Composed, Confident, Poised

Fuming Forgive, Cool, Calm, Peaceful, Understand

Furious (Fury) Forgive, Calm, Quiet, Restrained, Peaceful

Futile Purposeful, Fruitful, Effective, Productive

Giddy Responsible, Constant, Stable, Serious

Giving Up (Like) Courageous, Purposeful, Future Reassured

Gloomy Happy, Lighthearted, Bright, Excited

Goofed Efficient, Capable, Competent, Confident

Greedy Unselfish, Fair, Generous, Sharing, Giving

Grief Solace, Understand, Joyful, Happiness, Peace

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Grievance Merciful, Forgive, Accept, Reunited

Grieved Comforted, Consoled, Calmed, Soothed

Grouchy Contented, Good-Natured, Cheerful, Happy

Groveling Noble, Directed, Secure, Upheld, Confident

Grudge Forgive, Compassionate, Understand, Love

Guilty Innocent, Forgiving of Self, Repentant, Peaceful

Gullible Discerning, Cautious, Perceptive, Wise

Gutless Courageous, Confident, Assured, Resolute

Grumbler Gracious, Happy, Content, Cheerful, Grateful

Hanger-On Independent, Self-Sufficient, Confident, Strong

Harassed Treated Kindly, Edified, Elevated, Respected

Hardened Gentle, Open, Caring, Kind, Considerate

Hard-Hearted Open-Hearted, Loving, Meek, Teachable

Harsh Gracious, Courteous, Polite, Mannerly

Hasty Patient, Cautious, Discerning, Wise, Prudent

Hate/ful Tolerant, Forgive, Gracious, Accept, Love

Hatred Forgive, Accept, Love, Peaceful, Allow

Haughty Humble, Meek, Modest, Teachable, Grateful

Haunted Liberated, Carefree, Secure, Protected

Headstrong Yielding, Teachable, Manageable, Humble

Heartbroken Consoled, Comforted, Courageous, Cheerful

Heartless Caring, Loving, Sensitive, Benevolent

Heavy-Hearted Light-Hearted, Consoled. Peaceful, Joyful

Hectic Carefree, Calm, Collected, Organized

Helpless Powerful, Self-Reliant, Capable, Competent

Helplessness Powerful, Supported, Fortified, Adequate

Hen-Pecked Masterful, Independent, Free, Assertive, Resolute

Hesitant Eager, Willing, Assertive, Decisive, Resolute

High-Minded Humble, Teachable, Meek, Grateful

High-Strung Calm, Peaceful, Serene, Mellow, Tranquil

Hindered Encouraged, Sustained, Supported, Blessed

Holding Back Sharing, Giving, Letting Go, Benevolent

Hollow Solid. Filled with Peace, Love, Joyful

Homely Attractive, Beautiful, Favored, Radiant

Homesick Happy, Content, Joyful, Cheerful, Renewed

Hopeless Trust, Reassured, Hopeful, Optimistic

Horrible Cheerful, Radiant, Happy, Glowing, Joyous

Horrified Forgive, Calmed, Pacified, Serene, Buoyed Up

Hostile/ity Accept, Peaceful, Love, Merciful, Gentle

Huffy Forgive, Cheerful, Patient, Content, Gracious

Humiliated Honored, Favored, Loved, Esteemed, Uplifted

Hurried Unhurried, Paced, Relaxed, Easy Going

Hurt (Offended) Forgive, Comforted, Revered, Honored

Hurtful Sensitive to Others, Caring, Kind, Loving

Hypocritical Sincere, Genuine, True, Honest, Honorable

Hysterical Calm, Peaceful, Stable, Relaxed, Grounded

Idiot (Like an) Intelligent, Bright, Brilliant, Smart

Idler Industrious, Endeavoring, Valiant, Zealous

I Don't Care I Do Care, Sensitive, Kind, Compassionate

Ignorant Intelligent, Brilliant, Smart, Capable

Ignored (Being) Noticed, Recognized, Acknowledged, Valued

Imbalanced (Grossly) . .Totally Balanced, Harmonious, Competent

Immature Mature, Adult, Understanding, Wise

Immobilized Mobilized, Free to Move, Trusting, Confident

Immoral Moral, Virtuous, Honorable, Wholesome

Impatient Patient, Calm, Pleasant, Accepting, Serene

Impossible Determined, Anything Is Possible w/Faith & Trust

Imposter Genuine, Authentic, Honest, Trustworthy

Impoverished Replenished, Solvent, Abundant, Prosperous

Imprisoned Liberated, Free, Restored, Victorious, Invincible

Impulsive Focused, Purposeful, Stable, Cautious

Inability Ability, Capable, Competent, Confident

In a Bind Relaxed, Relieved, Centered, Confident

Inadequate Adequate, Capable, Competent, Qualified

Incapable Capable, Confident Of Abilities, Efficient

Incensed Forgive, Merciful, Peaceful, Love, Kind

Incompetent Competent, Capable, Skilled, Qualified

Incomplete Complete, Centered, Whole, Fulfilled

Inconsiderate Considerate, Concerned, Loving, Kind

Inconsistent Consistent, Stable, Dependable, Congruent

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Incorrect Perception . . .Changing My Perception, Accepting Truth

Indecisive Decisive, Resolute, Certain, Stable, Settled

Indignant Tolerant, Accepting, Loving, Caring

Indifferent Attentive, Mindful, Concerned, Enthused

Indolent Ambitious, Responsive, Active, Zealous

Ineffective Effective, Productive, Capable, Competent

Inefficient Efficient, Capable, Competent, Productive

Inept Qualified, Efficient, Competent, Productive

Inferior Extraordinary, Equal to, Valued, Capable

Inflexible Flexible, Pliable, Adaptable, Yielding

Infuriated Forgive, Accept, Love, Peaceful

Inhospitable Hospitable, Gracious, Warm, Inviting

Injustice Justice, Fairness, Fidelity, Equitable

Inner Pressure Calm, Peaceful, Serene, Relaxed, Trust

Insane Sane, Stable, Balanced, Competent

Insecure Secure, Confident, Fearless, Certain

Insignificant Significant, Important, Essential, Valued

Insincere Sincere, Honest, Truthful, Congruent

Isolated Connected, United, Linked, Accepted

Instability Stability, Strength, Steadfast, Reliable

Insufferable Tolerable, Bearable, Pleasant, Agreeable

Insulted Complemented, Respected, Honored, Forgive

Intense Relaxed, Calm, Tranquil, Peaceful, Carefree

Intense Depression . . . .Enthused About Living, Happy to Be Alive, Joyful

Intimidated Confident, Assured, Masterful, Peaceful, Calm

Intolerant Tolerant, Accepting, Open-minded, Patient

Introvert Interested in Others, Caring, Out-Going

Irked Forgive, Accept, Calm, Happy, Peaceful

Irritable Pleasant, Agreeable, Good-natured, Happy

Irritated Forgive, Accept, Peaceful, Calm, Tranquil

Irresponsible Responsible, Dependable, Reliable, Caring

Irreverent Reverent, Respectful, Honoring, Considerate

Jealous Love, Accept, Harmonious, Benevolent

Jeopardy Safe, Secure, Stable, Certain, Protected

Jittery Tranquil, Relaxed, Contented, Calm

Joyless Joyful, Happy, Grateful, Enthused

Judgmental Non-Judgmental, Accept, Allow, Wise

Jumpy Calm, Relaxed, Mellow, Serene, Relaxed

Know-It-All Humble, Teachable, Meek, Unassuming

Lack Of: Affection . . .Demonstrate Love Easily, Accept Love Easily

Consideration Considerate, Kind, Caring, Thoughtful, Sensitive

Courage Courageous, Valiant, Brave, Daring, Assertive

Encouragement . . . .Encouraged, Reassured, Supported, Upheld

Faith Abundant Faith, Trust, Belief, Hope

Love Loved, Cherished, Validated, Cared For, Adored

Opportunities Moving Forward, Plenty of Opportunities

Self-Confidence . . .Self-Confident, Self-Assured, Secure, Important

Support Supported, Buoyed Up, Upheld, Sustained

Trust Trust, Assurance, Conviction, Fervor

Understanding Perceptive, Aware, Discerning, Understanding

Lacking Adequate, Good Enough, Gifted, Valuable

Lazy Ambitious, Industrious, Motivated, Resolute

Leech Self-Sufficient, Contributing, Capable

Left-out Included, Honored, Supported, Cared About

Less Than Equal to, Important, Talented, Esteemed

Let down Edified, Elevated, Built Up, Supported

Limited Unlimited, Powerful, Effective, Efficient

Listless Heedful, Concerned, Thoughtful, Enthused

Livid Forgive, Merciful, Love, Calm, Peaceful

Loathe Love, Harmonious, Peaceful, Benevolent

Loathsome Lovable, Beautiful, Pleasant, Agreeable

Lonely Love/Accept Self, Secure, Connected

Longing Content, Accepting, Peaceful, Fulfilled

Looser Winner, Competent, Confident, Capable, Secure

Lost Purposeful, Directed, Decisive, Focused

Low High, Wonderful, Exhilarated, Uplifted

Low Self-Esteem High Self-Esteem, Accept/Love Self, Divine

Luckless Blessed, Fortunate, Successful, Happy

Lukewarm Responsive, Enthused, Spirited, Zealous

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Lunatic Sane, Rational, Sensible, Peaceful, Calm

Lustful Moral, Temperate, Virtuous, Disciplined

Lusting Wholesome, Upright, Noble, Respectable

Lying (Like) Truthful, Honest, Straightforward, Honorable

Mad Forgive, Happy, Joyful, Content, Loving

Maimed Healed, Renewed, Regenerated, Soothed

Malice Kindness, Forgive, Benevolent, Wholesome

Malicious Virtuous, Honest, Honorable, Kind, Noble

Maligned Pardoned, Vindicated, Exonerated, Honored

Manipulated Masterful, Strong, Steadfast, Tenacious

Manipulative Letting Go of Control, Allow, Accept

Martyr (Like a) Noble, Mighty, Unshaken, Masterful

Materialistic Accepting Self, Worthy, Meek, Humble

Mean Loving, Kind, Caring, Considerate, Virtuous

Meddler Uninvolved, Uninterested, Trustworthy

Melancholy Happy, Spirited, Delighted, Cheerful

Mental Poisons Releasing Negativity, Forgiving the Past

Merciless Merciful, Love, Caring, Kind, Compassionate

Miffed Forgive, Love, Kind, Merciful, No Blame

Mischievous Harmless, Safe, Responsible, Prudent

Miserable Comfortable, Happy, Pleasant, Calm, Settled

Miserly Generous, Giving, Contributing, Sharing

Misfortune Fortunate, Blessed, Grateful, Forgive

Mistreated Defended, Protected, Honored, Favored

Misunderstand Understand, Grasp, Comprehend, Enlightened

Misunderstood Understood, Pardoned, Appreciated, Valued

Misused Forgive, Confident, Steadfast, Masterful,

Mixed Up Decipher, Understand, Comprehend, Realize

Moody Stable, Steadfast, Happy, Cheerful, Constant

Morbid Normal, Sound, Good-Natured, Sane

Mortified Pardoned, Restored, Uplifted, Valued

Mournful Happy, Cheerful, Joyful, Regenerated

Muddled Focused, Clear, Rational, Sensible

Murmuring Forgive, Accept, Content, Peaceful

Naive Wise, Knowledgeable, Understanding

Narrow-Minded Open-Minded, Observant, Receptive

Naughty Obedient, Responsive, Virtuous, Agreeable

Need For Approval . .. .Approve of Myself, Accept Self, Confident

Negative Positive, Happy, Peaceful, Cheerful

Neglected Attended to, Cared for, Cherished, Supported

Negligent Attentive, Thoughtful, Responsible, Caring

Nervous Calm, Relaxed, Confident, Peaceful, Serene

Neurotic Attachment. . .Self-Secure, Independent, Balanced, Rational

No Good Very Good, Valuable, Priceless, Worthy

Non-Acceptance Accept, Acknowledge, Allow, Open & Loving

Not Enough (I'm) I AM Enough, Exceptional, Worthy, Important

Nothing (Like I'm) . . . .Valued, Cherished, Highly Regarded, Loved

Novice (Like a) Expert, Authority, Proficient, Skillful

No Way Out There is a Way Out, There is an Answer, I Choose

Finding the Answer

Numb Sensitive, Awake, Aware, Caring, Loving

"Nuts" (Driving Me) . . .Normal, Balanced, Positive, Happy, Flowing

Obnoxious Pleasant, Agreeable, Delightful, Affable

Obsessed Emancipated, Uninhibited, Uninterested, Relaxed

Obsessive Rational, Indifferent, Unconcerned, Carefree

Obscure Noticed, Significant, Distinguished, Honored

Obstinate Flexible, Movable, Yielding, Manageable

Obstructed Unobstructed, Open, Flowing, Relaxed

Offended Forgive, Peaceful, Calm, Pardoned, Allow

On Edge Peaceful, Calm, Relaxed, Mellow, Tranquil

Opinionated Accepting, Open-Minded, Flexible, Movable

Opposing Helping, Agreeing, Defending, Cooperative

Oppressed Liberated, Released, Carefree, Happy

Outcast Included, Accepted, Restored, Honored

Out Of Control In Control, Centered, Calm, Grounded

Out Of Sorts Peaceful, Calm, Serene, Content, Happy

Outraged Forgive, Calm, Peaceful, Collected

Outsider Included, Cherished, Valued, Connected

Over-Analyzing Accepting, Allowing, Releasing, Letting Go

Over-Bearing Humble, Quiet, Gentle, Gracious

Over-Concerned Calm, Kind, Benevolent, Allowing

Over-Empathetic Allow Others Their Experiences, It's Okay

Overloaded Carefree, Relieved, Relaxed, Using Wisdom

Overlooked Recognized, Acknowledged, Honored, Respected

Overpowering Resistible, Controllable, Bearable, Enduring

Overwhelmed Calm, Carefree, Flowing w/Ease, Relieved

Overwhelmed Burden . .Burdens Lifted, Light, Relieved, Carefree

Overworked Wise, Knowing When to Quit, Resting

Over-Sensitive Forgiving, Accepting, Confident, Loving

Pained Comfortable, Eased, Soothed, Tranquil

Panic-Stricken Fearless, Calm, Peaceful, Trusting

Paranoid Normal, Calm, Centered, Together

Peculiar Normal, Usual, Ordinary, Conventional

Peeved Forgive, Merciful, Peaceful, Amused

Perfectionist (I'm a) . . .Lenient, Relaxed, Easy-going, Moderate

Perplexed Enlightened, Understand, Clear Perception

Persecute (Self) Forgive, Accept, Love, & Validate Self

Persecuted Forgive, Cherished, Appreciated, Invincible

Perturbed Forgive, Allow, Connected, Relaxed

Perverted Balanced, Chaste, Pure, Modest, Directed

Pessimistic Optimistic, Hopeful, Happy, Jovial

Petty Forgive, Love, Accept, Benevolent

Phobia Grounded, Reassured, Trust, Fearless, Focused

Phony Authentic, Genuine, Sincere, Honest, Real

Pitiful Happy, Cheerful, Joyful, Delightful

Poor Rich, Wealthy, Prosperous, Grateful

Possessive Release, Let Go, Emancipate, Sharing

Poverty-Stricken Affluent, Prosperous, Wealthy, Abundant

Powerless Powerful, Strong, Resolute, Masterful, Invincible

Prejudice Tolerant, Accept, Allow, Forgive, Love

Prejudiced Unbiased, Objective, Open-Minded, Receptive

Pressured Relieved, Relaxed, Pacified, Soothed

Pretence Genuine, Sincere, Honest, Truthful

Pride Humble, Modest, Teachable, Contrite

Prisoner (Like A) Liberated, Pardoned, Vindicated, Free, Invincible

Protect Self (Have To) .Cautious, Trusting, Caring, Value Self

Procrastinator Punctual, Motivated, Determined, Resolute

Proud Humble, Grateful, Honored, Pleased

Punished Forgive, Strong, Steadfast, Dauntless, Invincible

Punishing (self/others) . .Forgiving, Loving, Accepting, Merciful Pushed
Encouraged, Supported, Competent

Quarrelsome Harmonious, Peacemaker, Good-Natured

Quick-Tempered Forgive, Slow to React, Patient, Serene

Quitting (Like) Steadfast, Resolute, Strong, Dauntless

Rage Understand, Peaceful, Forgive, Love, Calm

Rag, On (Someone) . . .Praise, Laud, Commend, Honor, Value

Rattled Composed, Confident, Sure, Peaceful

Raving Rational, Calm, Centered, Peaceful

Ravenous Satisfied, Comfortable, Happy, Content

Rebellious Submissive, Cooperative, Obedient, Content

Refusal Cooperative, Compromising, Teachable

Regret Forgive Self, Accept, Move Forward

Rejected Accepted, Loved, Cherished, Favored

Reluctant Eager, Willing, Inclined, Cooperative

Remorse Forgive, Peaceful, Content, Love

Repel Others Attract Others, Magnetic, Invite, Love

Repressed (Anything) . .Uninhibited, Bringing to the Surface, Face

Reprobate (Like a) . . . .Virtuous, Moral, Honest, God-Fearing
Reproved Approved Of, Favored, Accepted, Recognized

Repulsive Acceptable, Agreeable, Pleasant, Delightful

Resentful Forgive, Charitable, Accept, Love, Understand

Resentment Forgive, Tolerant, Compliant, Peaceful

Resistant Agreeable, Flexible, Giving, Open, Caring

Restless Quiet, Sedate, Relaxed, Calm, Content

Restrained Forgive, Liberated, Free, Demonstrative

Restricted Open, Free, Independent, Relaxed, Let Go

Retaliating (Like) Forgive, Excusing, Merciful, Peaceful

Feelings jgg

Reticent Eager, Enthused, Looking Forward To

Revenge Forgive, Merciful, Pardon, Love, Remorse

Revolting Appealing, Honorable, Creditable, Upright

Ridiculed Praised, Approved of, Applauded, Commended

Ridiculous Sensible, Confident, Dignified, Rational

Right (Have to Be) It's Unnecessary, Allow Others, Safe, Okay

Rigid Flexible, Pliable, Flowing, Open, Loving

Rotten Wonderful, Fantastic, Exhilarated, Vital

Rude Gracious, Kind, Considerate, Courteous

Ruined Restored, Mended, Prosperous, Preserved

Running Away (Like) . .Confronting, Responsible, Accountable

Rushed Calm, Collected, Centered, Organized

Rut (In a) .Moving Forward, Learning, Growing

Ruthless Forgive, Merciful, Compassionate, Gentle

Sabotaged Upheld, Supported, Reassured, Sustained, Secure

Sad Happy, Jovial, Cheerful, Tenacious

Sarcastic Flattering, Complimentary, Loving, Sensitive

Savage Tamed, Gentle, Loving, Forgiving, Kind

Scapegoat (Like a) . . . .Vindicated, Liberated, Restored, Empowered

Scattered Gathered, Focused, Collected, Concentrated

Scoffing Praising, Approving, Applauding, Commending

Scorned Acknowledged, Welcomed, Accepted

Scornful Respectful, Admirable, Gracious, Caring

Scum Worthwhile, Valued, Credible, Cherished

Seething Forgiving, Accepting, Calm, Peaceful

Self-Centered Selfless, Caring, Loving, Sensitive

Self-Condemnation Self-Love, Self-Praise, Self-Acceptance

Self-Contempt Forgive Self, Accept Self, Facing Issues

Self-Conscious Confident, Relaxed, At Ease, Assertive

Self-Doubt Self-Trust, Self-Confident, Self-Assured

Self-Rejection Self-Acceptance, Self-Love, Self-Worth

Self-Violence Self-Love, Self-Acceptance, Forgiving Self

Self-Willed Disciplined, Manageable, Obedient, Cooperative

Selfish Unselfish, Selfless, Caring, Considerate

Separate/d Unified, Connected, Joined, Bonded

Shallow Having Substance, Meaningful, Depth

Shameful Admirable, Credible, Decent, Worthy

Shameless Modest, Reserved, Dignified, Sensitive

Shiftless Efficient, Directed, Motivated, Focused

Shocked Unshaken, Comforted, Humored, Renewed

Shoved Aside Needed, Included, Appreciated, Cherished

Shunned Included, Regarded Highly, Appreciated

Shy Gregarious, Friendly, Appropriately Assertive

Sickly Healthy, Vibrant, Vital, Robust, Exuberant

Silly Reasonable, Rational, Logical, Fun, Sensitive

Sinful Repentant, Virtuous, Honest, Chaste, Caring

Sinking Buoyed Up, Elevated, Uplifted, Invigorated

Slandered Approved Of, Favored, Credited, Appreciated

Slave (Like a) Appreciated, Valued, Liberated, Renewed

Slighted Recognized, Appreciated, Valued, Respected

Sloppy Neat, Tidy, Organized, Particular, Clean

Slothful Ambitious, Industrious, Motivated

Slow Fast, Quick, Accurate, Surpass, Supersede

Sluggard (Like a) Diligent, Steadfast, Resolute, Improving

Smothered Breathe Easily, Free Flowing, Released

Smug Modest, Retiring, Reserved, Humble

Sneaky Reliable, Integrity, Honest, Responsible

Sore Comfortable, Merciful, Peaceful, Calm

Sorrowful Joyful, Happy, Full of Life, Cheerful

Speechless .- Verbose, Expressive, Communicative

Spiteful Forgive, Love, Pleasant, At Peace, Calm

Spoiled Disciplined, Cooperative, Teachable

Stagnant Progressive, Active, Moving Forward

Standstill (At a) Moving Forward, Motivated, Progressing

Stationary Mobile, Changing, Moving, Progressing

Stifled Encouraged, Making Progress, Supported

Stingy Giving, Generous, Unselfish, Sharing

Stressed Relaxed, Calm, Flowing w/Life, Peaceful

Strife Peaceful, Contentment, Harmony, Love

Struggling Flowing, Directed, Peaceful, Order & Ease

Stubborn Flexible, Amenable, Good Natured, Agreeable

Stuck (Like I'm) Aware, Flowing, Moving Forward

Stuffing Feelings Accept & Own Feelings, Resolving Them

Stupid Brilliant, Wise, Understand, Astute

Suffering Comforted, Healed, Renewed, Rescued

Suffocating Breathing Freely, Spaciousness, Secure

Suicidal Love Life, Enthused, Precious, Cherished

Sulky Humorous, Sociable, Happy, Harmonious

Superficial Unique, Authentic, Trustworthy, Real

Superior Equal To, Humble, Teachable, Nurturing

Suppressed Liberated, Restored, Nourished, Sustained

Survival (Fighting for) .Invincible, Supported, Cared & Provided for

Suspicious Trust, Accept, Forgive, Allow

Tactless Tactful, Considerate, Kind, Tender, Sensitive

Taker Giver, Giving, Considerate, Kind, Sharing

Talk Too Much Balanced, Concise, Disciplined, Quiet

Temperamental Even-Tempered, Cool-Headed, Mellow

Tempted Steadfast, Restrained, Courageous, Resolute

Tense Relaxed, Yielding, Flowing, Flexible

Tension Fearless, Relaxed, Peaceful, Effortless

Terrible Wonderful, Great, Relieved, Tranquil

Terror/Terrified Calm, Relaxed, Reassured, Protected, Invincible

Thin-Skinned Thick-Skinned Unaffected, Confident

Thoughtless Thoughtful, Considerate, Sensitive, Aware

Threatened Safe, Protected, Sustained, Secure, Invincible

Thwarted Encouraged, Supported, Accomplish Purpose

Ticked-Off Forgive, Peaceful, Love, Letting Go, Allow

Timid Out Going, Assertive, Eager, Forthright

Tired Energetic, Vigorous, Vital, Alert, Peppy

Tormented Untroubled, Tranquil, Serene, Peaceful

Traitor Loyal, True, Honest, Virtuous, Steadfast

Trapped Liberated, Relieved, Let Go, Carefree, Invincible

Trembling Steady, Rooted, Stable, Strong, Secure

Tribulation Steadfast, Blessed, Fortunate, Triumphant

Troubled Content, Accept, At Ease, Settled, Calm

Turmoil (In) Organized, Orderly, Focused, Peaceful, Invincible

Turned Off Accept, Forgive, Love, Turned On

Two-Faced Sincere, Loyal, Faithful, Principled, Honest

Tyrant (Like a) Love, Kind, Helpful, Caring, Compassionate

u

Ugly Beautiful, Comely, Graceful, Unequaled

Unable Able, Capable, Gifted, Competent, Endowed

Unable To:

Express Self Secure & Confident In Expressing My Self

Unacceptable Acceptable, Approved Of, Acclaimed, Loved

Unappreciated Appreciated, Loved, Valued, Revered

Unaware Aware, Cognizant, Perceptive, Informed

Unbearable Bearable, Tolerable, Endurable, Victorious

Unbeliever Believer, Trusting, Reassured, Converted

Uncertain Certain, Decisive, Resolute, Committed

Uncharitable Charitable, Loving, Kind, Giving, Sharing

Uncomfortable Comfortable, At Ease Undisturbed

Uncommitted Trust Self, Constant, Confident, Committed

Uncompromising Compromising, Cooperative, Giving

Unconcerned Concerned, Caring, Supportive, Sensitive

Unconscious Conscious, Aware, Mindful, Astute

Uncontrollable Controllable, Cooperative, Manageable, Calm

Undecided Decisive, Resolute, Settled, Committed

Understand (Don't) .. . .Do Understand, Comprehend, Grasp, Embrace

Undesirable Desirable, Favored, Welcomed, Acceptable

Undeserving Deserving, Worthy, Praiseworthy, Priceless

Undisciplined Disciplined, Reliable, Steady, Constant

Uneasy At Ease, Placid, Soothed, Relaxed, Comfortable

Unfair Forgiving, Fair, Judicious, Merciful

Unfeeling Feeling, Caring, Concerned, Loving

Unfit Fit, Capable, Worthy, Skilled, Competent

Unforgivable Forgivable, Merciful, Loving Exonerated

Unforgiveness Forgiveness, Pardon, Excuse, Accept

Unfriendly Friendly, Outgoing, Personable, Caring

Unfulfilled Fulfilled, Pleased, Qualified, Content, Serene

Ungrateful Grateful, Thankful, Appreciative, Humble

Unhappy Happy, Joyous, Pleased, Accepting, Radiant

Unjust Fair, Just, Equitable, Reasonable, Balanced

Unimportant Important, Worthwhile, Valuable, Validated

Unkind Kind, Caring, Considerate, Thoughtful

Unlovable Lovable, Cherished, Honored, Favored

Unloving Loving, Caring, Respectful, Accepting

Unlucky Lucky, Fortunate, Successful, Trusting

Unmerciful Merciful, Forgiving, Compassionate

Unmindful Mindful, Aware, Cognizant, Conscious of

Unnoticed Noticed, Recognized, Saluted, Valued

Unorganized Organized, Systematic, Directed, Prepared

Unpleasant Pleasant, Pleasing, Gracious, Agreeable

Unpopular Popular, Well-liked, Approved of, Loved

Unprepared Prepared, Well-organized, Skilled, Trained

Unproductive Productive, Effective, Useful, Successful

Unprotected Protected, Guarded, Secure, Strengthened

Unqualified Qualified, Competent, Capable, Equal to

Unreasonable Reasonable, Rational, Sensible, Prudent

Unreceptive Receptive, Accepting, Enthused, Tolerant

Unrelenting Relenting, Yielding, Merciful, Flexible

Unreliable Reliable, Dependable, Responsible, Tenacious

Unrepentant Repentant, Contrite, Reverent, Caring

Unresolved (Anything) . .Forgive, Understand, Love, Caring, Sensitive

Unsatisfied Needs Important, Valuing My Self, Claiming My Needs

Unsettled Settled, Organized, Stable, Steady, Secure

Unstable Very Stable, Steady, Constant, Steadfast

Unsuccessful Successful, Productive, Worthwhile, Capable

Unsupported Supported, Encouraged, Defended

Unsure Sure, Resolute, Confident, Certain, Steadfast

Unthankful Thankful, Grateful, Appreciative, Praising

Untidy Tidy, Neat, Orderly, Clean, Careful

Untrusting Trusting, Comfortable With, Confident In

Untrustworthy Trustworthy, Have Integrity, Honest, Valiant

Untruthful Truthful, Honest, With Integrity, Congruent

Unwanted Wanted, Welcomed, Invited, Cared For

Unwelcome Welcome, Included, Desirable, Thankful For

Unwilling (To Change) . .Willing, Eager, Anticipating, Enthused, Grateful

Unwise Wise, Prudent, Knowledgeable, Understanding

Unworthy Worthy, Loved, Honored, Exceptional

Unyielding Yielding, Flexible, Teachable, Accepting

Upset Calm, Collected, Tranquil, Serene, Accepting

Uptight Centered, Relaxed, Tranquil, Serene

Used Forgive, Elevated, Appreciated, Honored

Useless Useful, Worthwhile, Effective, Valiant

Vague Succinct, Definite, Clear, Precise, Focused

Vain Humble, Contrite, Teachable, Modest

Vengeful Forgiving, Relenting, Loving, Tolerant

Vicious Noble, Pure, Virtuous, Caring, Kind

Victim (Like a) Masterful, In Control, Invincible, Steadfast

Vindictive Unconditional Forgiving, Remorse, Loving

Violated Healing, Benevolent, Forgiving, Pardoning

Violence (Self) Forgiving Self, Self-love, Self-acceptance

Violent Calm, Appeased, Tranquil, Peaceful

Void Fulfilled, Peaceful, Joyful, Happy, Rooted

Vulgar Decent, Moral, Respectful, Couth, Refined

Vulnerable Protected, Guarded, Strong, Infallible

Wallowing Elevated, Directed, Uplifted, Secure, Valued

Wasted Invigorated, Energized, Nourished, Refreshed

Wavering Stalwart, Steadfast, Resolute, Stable, Rooted

Weak Strong, Resilient, Resolute, Stalwart, Masterful

Weak-Minded Strong-Minded, Rational, Wise, Persevering

Weary Vibrant, Energetic, Strong, Radiant

Weepy Happy, Jovial, Balanced, Serene, Tranquil

Why Me Why Not Me? I Can Handle It, I Have Faith

Wicked Moral, Virtuous, Worthwhile, Honest

Willful Obedient, Cooperative, Flexible, Teachable

Wishy-Washy Focused, Purposeful, Strong, Steadfast

Withdrawn Assertive, Active, Involved, Aggressive

Withholding Honest, Truthful, Giving, Generous

Worried Trusting, Reassured, Secure, Have Faith

Worry Trust, Reassured, Tenacious, Steadfast, Calm

Worthless Worthwhile, Valuable, Important, Competent

Wounded Forgive, Pardoned, Healed, Vindicated

Wrong (Always) I Choose Being Correct, I Feel Correct, I Am

Yearning Satisfied, Content, Happy, Fulfilled

Yucky Clear-headed, Happy, Peaceful, Serene

Feelings & Beliefs That Affect Success

This section will help you 'Script' for Negative Feelings that can affect your
success, and replace them with Positive Feelings. With each number from
1-31, go all the way through the 'Script' to " . . . recorded in my DNA, to
transform!" Replace the Negative with the Positive.

"Spirit, please locate the origin of the feelings that. . .

1) "...cause me to believe I am UNWORTHY & UNDESERVING OF

HAVING FINANCIAL FREEDOM." Replace with: "I choose Be-ing

worthy and deserving of having financial freedom. "I feel worthy and
deserving of financial freedom. "I AM worthy and deserving of financial
freedom."

2) " created the belief that I MUST BE POOR IN ORDER TO BE

HUMBLE/CLOSE TO GOD." Replace with:

"I choose Be-ing humbly grateful and close to God as I experience financial
success.

"I feel humble, grateful, and close to God as my financial success expands.

"I AM humbly grateful and close to God as I experience financial success."

3) "...cause me to FEAR FINANCIAL SUCCESS/THAT I WON'T

DO THE CORRECT THINGS WITH FINANCIAL SUCCESS." Replace

with: "I choose Be-ing financially successful. I welcome financial success
with open arms.

"I feel financially successful. I handle financial success commendably

and wisely. "I AM financially successful. I AM a wise steward of my

success."

4) "...cause me to FEAR THE RESPONSIBILITY & ACCOUNT-

ABILITY THAT COMES WITH FINANCIAL SUCCESS." Replace with:

"I choose Be-ing capable of the responsibility success brings.

"I feel capable of the responsibility financial success brings.

"I AM capable of the personal responsibility financial success brings.

"I choose trusting myself and accepting the accountability that comes with
financial success.

"I feel trust in myself and gratefully accept the accountability that success
brings.

"I AM trusting in myself and my ability to be accountable with my financial

success."
5) "...created the belief in me that I'M SUPPOSED TO BE POOR/

MUST SUFFER FINANCIALLY/STRUGGLE FOR MY EXISTENCE

ALL MY LIFE." Replace with:

"I choose Be-ing financially abundant.

"I feel financially abundant.

"I AM financially abundant. Abundance is everywhere for me to enjoy.

"I let go of my 'lack mentality'. I give myself permission to be free of

financial oppression. In fact I claim financial freedom! I claim continued
abundance in my life!

"I choose enjoying financial freedom.

"I feel liberated from financial suffering—from struggling for my existence.

"I AM liberated from financial suffering—from struggling for my

existence."

6) "...created the belief that I'M SUPPOSED TO FEEL GUILTY FOR

DESIRING FINANCIAL PROSPERITY/FOR HAVING FINANCIAL

ABUNDANCE." Replace with: "I choose Be-ing peaceful in my desire for
financial prosperity.

"I feel peaceful about desiring financial prosperity, and give myself

permission to enjoy it. "I AM peaceful in my desire for financial prosperity,

and know it is

God's desire for me, also. "I choose Be-ing a wise steward and am very
grateful for financial

abundance. "I feel deep appreciation for my financial abundance and feel it
is a
gift. "I AM truly grateful for my financial stability, and rejoice in having

prosperity."

7) ".. .cause me ANXIETY OVER MONEY MATTERS."

Replace with: "I choose Be-ing calm and trusting with money matters. "I
feel a calm, trusting assurance that all is well with me financially. "I AM
trusting, calm, solid, and secure where my money matters are

concerned."

8) ".. .cause me TO FEAR THE FUTURE/MY FINANCIAL

FUTURE." Replace with: "I choose Be-ing trusting and confident in the
future/my financial

future. "I feel confidence, faith, and trust in the future/my financial future.
"I AM confident and trusting in the future/my financial future."

9) "...cause me to FEAR THERE IS NEVER ENOUGH/THERE'S

NOT GOING TO BE ENOUGH ABUNDANCE." Replace with: "I choose

knowing there is always enough, plenty and more. God's

universe is abundant! "I feel confident there is always enough, plenty and
more for me. "I AM confident and secure in the knowledge that there is
always

enough, plenty and more money."

10) "...created the belief that IT'S UNFAIR FOR ME TO HAVE MONEY
BECAUSE MY PARENTS DIDN'T." Replace with:

"I choose knowing my parents are very pleased and happy for me to enjoy
prosperity.

"I feel my parents are happy and pleased for my financial freedom. "I AM
blessed with prosperity, and this pleases my parents."
11) "...have kept me from GIVING MYSELF PERMISSION TO BE
FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT." Replace with:

"I choose giving myself permission to be financially independent.

"I feel it is permissible for me to be financially independent.

"I AM comfortable in granting myself permission to be financially

independent. "I AM financially independent."

12) "...created the belief that I DON'T DESERVE/AM UNWORTHY TO

HAVE FINANCIAL PROSPERITY" Replace with:

"I choose Be-ing deserving and worthy of financial prosperity. "I feel
deserving and worthy of financial prosperity. "I AM deserving and worthy
of financial prosperity."

13) "...cause me TO EXPECT TO FAIL." Replace with: "I choose

succeeding. I expect to succeed.

"I feel successful!

"I AM succeeding. I AM successful."

14) ".. .cause me TO FEAR HAVING TO PROVE MYSELF." Replace

with:

"I choose Be-ing competent, resolute, self-reliant and secure in my

own abilities. "I feel competent, resolute, self-reliant and secure in the
abilities God

gave me. "I AM competent, resolute, self-reliant and secure in my abilities."

15)".. .caused me to BELIEVE I WILL FAIL AT EVERYTHING I

ATTEMPT". Replace with: "I choose succeeding in my endeavors, with the

help of God. "I feel and know that I can succeed in my endeavors. "I AM
succeeding in my endeavors, with God's help."

16) ".. .created the belief that NO MATTER WHAT I DO IT WILL BE

'WRONG'."

"I choose Be-ing capable, confident and correct in what I do. "I feel capable
and confident in what I do. I continually improve. "I AM capable and
confident and experience more and more success in what I do each day."

17) "...created the belief that I'M NOT GOOD ENOUGH TO EARN
LARGE SUMS OF MONEY." Replace with:

"I choose Be-ing good enough to earn large sums of money. "I feel I am
good enough to earn large sums of money. "I AM good enough to earn large
sums of money."

18) "...created the belief that I'M UNIMPORTANT . . . WHO AM I TO

THINK I SHOULD BE WEALTHY?" Replace with:

"I choose Be-ing important. I give myself permission to realize my

own importance. "I feel it's perfectly all right for me to be wealthy and
prosperous. "I AM important! I AM deserving of prosperity!"

19) "Spirit, please locate the origin of MY FEELINGS OF

INADEQUACY." Replace with:

"I choose Be-ing adequate, capable, and equal to any challenge. "I feel
adequate, capable, and equal to any challenge. "I AM adequate, capable,
and equal to any challenge."

20) "Higher-Self, please locate the origin of MY FEELINGS OF

INCOMPETENCY" Replace with:

"I choose Be-ing competent and qualified.

"I feel competent, qualified and capable.

"I AM competent, qualified, capable, and gifted."

21) "Super-Conscious, please locate the origin of MY FEELINGS OF
RESENTMENT OR JEALOUSY TOWARDS OTHERS WHO ARE
SUCCESSFUL." Replace with:

"I choose Be-ing happy for others who enjoy success in any area of their
life.

"I feel happy and pleased for others when they achieve success in anything.

"I AM happy and pleased for others and delight in their success.

"I choose Be-ing forgiving and benevolent towards all whom I have
resented.

"I feel forgiving and benevolent towards all whom I have resented.

"I AM forgiving and benevolent of all those I have resented."

(Please note: Often, when there is a great deal of resentment, it is necessary

to specify the person and the situation the resentment is being held toward
before this powerful feeling can be resolved.)

22) ".. .cause me TO BE CRITICAL OF MYSELF." Replace with: "I

choose recognizing and dwelling on my strengths.

"I feel I have many strengths, and I dwell on them instead of weaknesses. "I
AM recognizing and dwelling on my strengths. "I choose Be-ing accepting,
loving and approving of myself & others. "I feel acceptance, love, and
approval of myself and others. "I AM accepting, loving and approving of
myself and others."

23) ".. .cause me TO FEAR THE FUTURE." Replace with:

"I choose staying in present time and having faith and trust in the

future. "I feel total faith and trust in the future, with the help of God. "I AM
in present time. I have faith in the future, with God's help."
24) ".. .cause me TO HAVE A POVERTY/LACK
CONSCIOUSNESS/MENTALITY" Replace with:

"I choose establishing an abundance mentality within my Be-ing.

"I feel worthy, and give myself permission, to enjoy the best life has to
offer. Therefore, I embrace a prosperity/abundance consciousness/mentality.

"I claim abundance. I claim prosperity. I claim the best life has to offer.

"I AM enjoying abundance in every area of my life."

25) "...created SELF-DOUBT, LOW SELF-WORTH/A POOR SELF-

CONCEPT in me." Replace with:

"I choose Be-ing a person of genuine worth. I trust in my own

magnificence.

"I feel confident in my abilities and talents. I feel the nobility of my Soul.

"I AM a person of magnificent worth. I AM a person of distinction."

26) "Sub-conscious, please locate the origin of my feeling HOPELESS

and/or HELPLESS." Replace with:

"I choose Be-ing optimistic, enthusiastic, and hopeful. I choose Be-ing

strong, tenacious, and resilient. "I feel optimistic, enthusiastic, and hopeful.
I feel strong, tenacious,

and resilient. I feel adequate, capable, and competent. I feel

resourceful! "I AM optimistic, enthusiastic, and hopeful. I AM strong,

tenacious,

and resilient. I AM adequate, capable, and competent. I AM

resourceful! "I choose Be-ing secure, guided and directed to my highest

good. "I feel secure, guided and directed to my highest good. "I AM secure,
guided and directed to my highest good."

27) "Spirit, pleace locate the origin of my feeling OF DEFEATISM; LIKE

GIVING UP." Replace with:

"I choose knowing that challenges can be met without pain.

"I feel confidence and faith that challenges can be met without pain. I feel
courageous, steadfast and resolute.

"I AM confident that challenges can be met without pain. I AM courageous,

steadfast and resolute."

28) "...created the belief that I DON'T MEASURE UP/I'M A LOSER."

Replace with:

"I choose measuring up. I choose Be-ing what it takes to be successful.

I choose Be-ing a winner! "I feel that I measure up. I feel I have what it
takes to be successful. I

feel like a winner! "I AM measuring up! I AM Be-ing successful! I AM a

winner!"

29) "...cause me to BE DISHEARTENED/DISCOURAGED...WHAT'S

THE USE?" Replace with:

"I choose Be-ing capable and courageous in meeting the challenges that
come my way.

"I feel capable and courageous in meeting the challenges of life. They assist
me in growing and living to my full potential. I feel encouraged.

"I AM courageous and capable of resolving challenges. As I do this, I

receive growth. There are always answers to challenges with the help of
God. I AM encouraged."

30) "...created the belief that NO MATTER WHAT I DO, IT WON'T BE

ENOUGH."
"I choose Be-ing secure in my ability to do the correct thing and know

that it is enough. "I feel secure and confident in my ability to do enough and
be enough

in whatever is required of me. "I AM confident in my ability to do the

correct thing and it's always

enough. I AM a person who contributes much to life!"

31)".. .created the belief in me that I MUST TAKE THE BLAME FOR
OUR LACK OF MONEY, or, I'M NOT SMART ENOUGH NOR GOOD
ENOUGH TO EARN A LARGE INCOME." Replace with:

"I choose Be-ing blameless for our lack of money, however willing to take
whatever responsibility is necessary to correct the condition.

"I feel blameless for our lack of money, however, am willing to take
responsibility for my part.

"I AM blameless for our lack of money. I AM willing to take the necessary
responsibility for my part, however. Things are looking up."

"I choose Be-ing intelligent, smart, bright and good enough to earn a large
income.

"I feel totally capable, competent and confident to earn a large income. I
feel intelligent, smart, bright and good enough to earn a sizeable income.

"I AM totally capable, competent and confident in my ability to earn a large

income. I AM intelligent, smart, and good enough to earn a sizeable
income."

Many of the foregoing feelings are decidedly similar. However, they are
varied just enough that they will register a different vibration inside you.
Each word, each syllable, therefore, each sound has its own power. So it is
helpful to do each one with which you identify in any way.
You will also notice that I have varied the way they can be Scripted. This is
to indicate that there is no particular way it's supposed to be done. You can
make Scripting as long or as short as you would like. Sometimes I feel like
I'm carrying on a one-sided conversation, reasoning with my Higher Self
for several minutes. Whatever feels comfortable is what it's all about.

REMEMBER . . .

THE MASTER PROGRAM

IN THE SUBCONSCIOUS

MUST BE CHANGED

BEFORE

THE CIRCUMSTANCES WILL CHANGE!!

The purpose of the next section is to show you how to use the Script when
undesirable feelings come up during normal, daily activities. When you talk
or express yourself in everyday situations, phrases just automatically come
out of your mouth without conscious thought, so listen carefully to the
words you speak. What you say is the best indication of what you are really
feeling, so use that very expression. It may not be the actual feeling that is
going on inside you, but it best symbolizes you at the moment, and your
Intelligence/Spirit knows exactly what you are referring to.

EXAMPLE: A driver cuts in front of you on the freeway. Your natural

response might be. "Boy, that ticks me off!" (Or stronger words.) Whether
you know it or not this reaction pumps up your blood pressure.

What you really want to accomplish, at this point, is changing the way you
feel when someone does this to you so you won't have this same reaction
over and over again. Wouldn't it be wonderful to go down the freeway and
not be bothered by someone else's driving?

So, you quickly say, "Spirit, please locate the origin of my feelings that
caused me to be so ticked off at that person who cut in front of me.
"Take each and every level, layer, area and aspect of my Be-ing to this
origin. Analyze and resolve it perfectly with God's truth.

"Come through all generations of time and eternity, healing every incident
and its appendages based on the origin. Do it according to God's will until
I'm at the present—filled with light and truth, God's peace and love . . ."
Continue with the Script. When you come to the second blank line, a good
replacement would be: "I choose Be-ing merciful and forgiving. I feel
merciful and forgiving. I AM merciful and forgiving. It's all right when
someone does that because I am alert and a very good driver. I feel
peaceful. Bless you." Then finish the Script.

How do I know this works? Because, I've had this very thing happen to me.
It's really a great feeling to be driving and not have anyone bother me or
push my buttons! You too can experience this feeling.

Another example might be one of those days when nothing seems to go as

planned. (Here again, listen to what your internal dialogue is saying.) Do
you catch yourself saying, "Nothing is going good for me today. I can't do
anything right!" Or something similar to that? However you express
yourself... just take those words and go through the Script. "Spirit, please
locate the origin of my feeling like I can't do anything right today!"

Continue on through the remainder of the Script replacing the negative with
something like, "I choose doing everything to the best of my ability today. I
feel like doing everything to the best of my ability today.

I AM doing everything to the best of my ability today. I choose Be-ing

capable and competent. I feel capable and competent. I AM capable and
competent. Things go smoothly for me;' Then complete the Script.

Do you ever find yourself making the statement, "It's a hard life!"?

This is a belief or feeling you have. Just take it through the Script by
stating, "Spirit, please locate the origin of the feelings that created the belief
in me that it's a hard life." Continue through to the positive replacement,
stating, "I choose seeing/experiencing life as wonderful, beautiful, and
exciting! I feel life is wonderful! I AM having a wonderful life! My life
flows with order and ease as I meet my challenges with confidence and in a
relaxed and positive manner."

The purpose of doing this is to reprogram the statement, "It's a hard life."
The heavy vibration of hard life changes to a much lighter vibration.
Wouldn't you rather have a light feeling than a heavy feeling?

Do you ever feel like saying, "I give up!" and mean it? Process the feeling
of "I give up!" through the Script, and replace that feeling with something
similar to, "I choose Be-ing resolute! I feel resolute! I AM resolute! I feel
courageous! I feel happy! I feel tenacious! I love life and all that is in it!"

Examples of Daily Situations

The following examples show how you can utilize the power of the Script
in everyday life. For each example insert the Negative Feelings and Positive
Feelings listed below, into the proper place in the Script.

". . . , please locate the origin of the feelings that cause me to believe. . . 1)
I'M TAKEN FOR GRANTED." (Negative Feelings)

(Positive Feelings) "I choose Be-ing loved. I feel loved. I AM loved. I

choose Be-ing appreciated and valued for my contribu-

tions. I feel appreciated and valued for my contributions. I AM appreciated

and valued for who I am."

2) I'M GOOD FOR NOTHING."

"I choose Be-ing a very valuable person. I feel I'm a very valuable person. I
AM truly a valuable person. I value myself. I feel I am of great worth."

3) THINGS NEVER WORK OUT FOR ME!"

I choose Be-ing a fortunate person! I feel fortunate! I AM a fortunate

person. Things usually work out for me! I AM blessed.

4) I CAN'T REMEMBER NAMES OR FACES."

"I choose remembering names and faces. I feel like remembering names
and faces. I AM remembering names and faces. Names and faces usually
come to me at the precise moment I have a need to recall." (This example
will probably need to be reinforced several times.)

5) I DON'T BELONG; EXCLUDED; LEFT OUT; LIKE A STRANGER."

"I choose belonging. I feel like I belong. I AM included now. I choose Be-
ing friendly. I feel friendly. I AM friendly. People enjoy my company. I
enjoy my company. I choose feeling comfortable wherever I am. I feel
comfortable wherever I am. I AM comfortable wherever I am."

6) I'M SICK AT HEART."

"I choose Be-ing at peace with this situation. I feel at peace with the
situation. I AM at peace where this situation is concerned. All things work
together for my good."

7) CAUSES ME TO WANT TO SCREAM."

"I choose forgiving the situation/this person. I feel forgiving of the

situation/person. I AM forgiving this situation/person. I chose Being serene,
peaceful and tranquil. I feel serene, peaceful, and tranquil. I AM serene,
peaceful, and tranquil."

8) THERE'S NO WAY OUT!"

"There is a way out! There's always a way out and I choose finding it! I feel
resolute! I AM resolute. There is an answer to every challenge, and it's close
at hand!"

9) EVERYONE HASSLES ME!"

"I choose Be-ing forgiving. I feel forgiving. I AM forgiving. I forgive them.

I feel everyone loves me, including myself. My life flows with order and
ease. I feel at peace."

10) I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR MAKING EVERYONE HAPPY." "I

choose allowing others to be responsible for their own happiness. I only feel
responsible for my happiness. I AM expressing my love, concern and
acceptance to others. I assist in any way I am able, nevertheless, I allow
them their own experiences."

11) I'M A FAILURE."

"I choose Be-ing a success. I feel successful. I AM successful. I feel

competent, I feel confident, I feel capable. I achieve my goals in all my
endeavors."

12) I'M WORTHLESS."

"I choose Be-ing worthwhile! I feel worthwhile. I AM worthwhile. I choose

Be-ing important. I feel important. I AM important. I choose Be-ing useful.
I feel useful. I AM useful. I choose Be-ing valuable. I feel valuable. I AM
valuable."

Perhaps these examples give you a better idea of how to facilitate the Script
for daily use in many different ways. Have fun working with it. When you
first process your feelings it is a little scary because it's a new concept. Be
imaginative and creative. You really can't do anything wrong. Just be sure to
use the dialogue of the Script as it is written. In order to have consistency
and the desired affect, this is very important.

If at first you are unable to feel a significant difference when using the
Script, keep persisting. The more you use it the more of a shift—the more
of a change you will feel inside you. It is a very subtle change to

begin with, but little by little you will start seeing people and situations
differently, and you will start responding to them differently. You will also
notice a change in your attitude. Then one day you will step back, mentally,
and watch the scene you are involved in without the old, negative emotional
responses.

Remember, there are only two main feelings. LOVE and FEAR. Have you
noticed after reading these lists that our negative feelings stem from FEAR?
An acronym for FEAR is: False Evidence Appearing Real. Fear keeps us
locked in immature and unsatisfying behavior. The stress that results from
this behavior lies at the core or root of all dis-ease, whether that dis-ease be
phobias, relationships, finances or physical ill-ness. Fear and its resultant
vibrations literally sap and drain our life force. Fear diminishes the energy
that is available for life-enhancing activities.

Adversity is Energized By Human Fear!!

If all feelings, indeed, do have vibrations, and negative feelings or

vibrations cause us to thrust and repel ourselves away from our Source,
thereby diminishing our peace—think of what we could accomplish and
become by changing all negative feelings to positive feelings!

The Bottom Line Is ... . Rid Yourself Of Fear!!

Dr. Gerald G. Jampolsky truly knew what he was talking about when he
titled his book, "Love is Letting Go of Fear." When we let go of FEAR, the
only thing left for us to experience is LOVE. When we allow vibrations of
LOVE to fill the immensity of our "space," we are then "enabling"
ourselves to discover the great and glorious BE-ing God designed us to
BE!!

Chapter 18

Probable Feelings Causing IlUness

A Personal Experience

"The 'will to live' is an undeniably powerful force for survival— probably

THE most important factor in health and healing." (Love, Medicine &
Miracles, Dr. Bernie Siegel) When someone has lost this will to live, many
things can go wrong in their life. It's like a giving up. And when a person
gives up, no matter what kind of treatment they obtain to correct their
illness, a healing is very slow in taking place (if, indeed, it takes place at
all). How can a person recover their will to live? One of the simplest ways
is to use the Script.
"Spirit, please locate the origin of the feelings that have caused me to lose
my 'will to live' ..." (taking it through to the replacement), "... based on the
negative origin recorded in my DNA, to transform. I choose life and living.
I feel like living! I reclaim my 'will to live.' I choose Be-ing enthused about
life. I feel enthused about life and the future. I am enthused about life and
the future! I choose taking an active part in life and living! I feel like an
active participant in life. I am an active participant in life and look forward
to the future! I LOVE LIFE!" Then finish it on out.

One of the most profound experiences with a health condition that we have
had in using the Script, came to our family in the Spring of

1988. My husband had suffered several unfortunate experiences which

caused extreme financial stress. Nothing seemed to be working for him. Not
only had he lost most of the assets he had taken years to build, but he lost
his self-worth, self-respect, self-esteem, yes, and his will to live. He really
didn't care whether he lived or died. In fact, he would rather have died than
lived.

For several months I watched him become more and more despondent. He
is normally 6' 2" tall, but he was literally starting to shrink, and he had no
zest for anything in life.

For quite some time he had been complaining about how he was aching
clear down into his bones. He just hurt all over and had a difficult time
getting warm. It was all he could do to face each day. Then I started to
notice a real peculiar odor about him. It wasn't his breath or body odor, in
the usual sense. The only way I can describe it is to say that it was a
metallic odor . . . unlike anything I had ever smelled before on a person. He
also had terrible headaches. His face broke out with several huge horrible
sores. He would wake up each morning and prepare for the day only to run
out of strength and energy in about an hour. Then he would feel the need to
go back to bed.

He was diagnosed as having leukemia. Of course, that was the last thing we
needed! We had no insurance nor money with which to begin treatment.
One evening after my husband had retired early, I decided to study the
syllabus from a conference I had attended the previous year at a major
university. The conference was a "Behavioral Medicine and Health
Psychology" Conference. There were six guest clinicians who are leading
M.D.'s and Ph.D.'s involved in PSYCHONEUROIM-MUNOLOGY, which
is a new branch of medical science. Two of these participants were Joan
Borysenko, Ph D., and Steven E. Locke, M.D., of Harvard Medical School.

Psychoneuroimmunology is concerned specifically with the impact of

mental attitudes on the body's resistance to disease, especial-

ly exploring the links among and between the mind, the brain and the
immune system. The researchers involved in this field have established
solid evidence that emotions, mental attitudes and a person's ability to cope
all strongly affect and determine the function of the immune system.

The guest doctors at this conference had a remarkable understanding of how

feelings, emotions and attitudes affect a person's health. It was obvious
from participating in this conference that these professionals were on the
cutting edge of this information. The syllabus I was studying was a
compilation of articles these doctors had written for professional
publications. This particular night I was hoping to locate additional clues as
to the emotional causes of leukemia to validate or invalidate information I
already had from previous research. When I discovered that "deep
depression" was one of the emotional causes of leukemia, I KNEW that was
my husband's problem. There was no doubt in my mind!

It was about midnight and I was preparing to go to bed when my husband

came into the den where I was studying. He knew that I had been searching
for some answers, so he asked me what I had found. When I told him that
deep depression was one of the feelings that causes leukemia, he quickly sat
down on the couch and said, "Let's take care of it." Now, mind you, this
man is one of the world's greatest doubters and skeptics where things like
the Script are concerned. He had silently observed, however, some of the
very beneficial effects our son and I had experienced from using the Script
over the previous few years. At this point, with his health going down hill
so fast, he was ready and willing to do ANYTHING in order to feel better!
I sat down with my husband and assisted him in wording the Script,
substituting deep depression with, "Forgiveness of myself for an incorrect
perception. I feel excited to be alive! I am excited to be alive! I choose
loving life. I feel love for life. I am loving life! I choose living. I feel like
living. I am living life to the fullest. I choose being happy, joy-

ous, and tenacious! I feel happy, joyous and tenacious! I am happy, joyous
and tenacious." (Or words to that affect.) I also took him through the Script
for having a death wish, because it was obvious to me that if he had a
deadly disease it would indicate he had a death wish. (However, a person
does not necessarily have to have a deadly disease in order to have a death
wish.) We then went to bed.

When my husband awoke the next morning he couldn't believe the

difference in the way he felt! I know it's difficult for one to believe, and we
might not have believed it ourselves if we hadn't experienced it, but he felt
like a different person, and there was no denying that! His bones no longer
ached, he had energy for the first time in months and the metallic odor was
gone. All day he just relished in how good he felt, and the next day was the
same.

The third day after this experience, however, my husband woke up and was
hurting in the area of the kidneys. I didn't pay much attention to his
complaint and perhaps I should have because he is not a complain-er. I was
just so happy to have him feeling better that I thought the pain in that area
would surely go away soon.

Well, it didn't. All day he walked around bent over and by night he was
completely doubled over from the pain. We finally looked up the feelings
that cause kidney problems and went through the Script for those feelings.
He went to bed and when he awoke the next morning, the pain was gone.
And, at this printing, 18 years later, the pain has never re-occurred. Could it
be that simple? Our experiences have been that the answer to this question
is an absolute and resounding "YES"! It's just we human beings who make
it so complicated.

For the next ten days my husband experienced one health problem after
another. It was like he was re-tracing emotional pains of the past. The
vibrations of the negative feelings he had been holding onto for s-o-o-o-o
long were finally manifesting themselves. His physical pain was now letting
him know that he needed to get in touch with the inappropriate feelings he
had buried . . . feelings that were on their way to

manifesting dis-ease. This experience gave him the opportunity to release

some of the old feelings he didn't even realize he had, let alone that he had
hung on to all through the years. Needless to say, he was very, very grateful
for this tool, and as his health continued to improve, along with other
aspects of his life, he became one of the greatest supporters of the Script.

When I read Love, Medicine and Miracles, by Dr. Bernie Siegel, I reflected
back on my husband's and my experiences that Spring of 1988. I was drawn
like a magnet to the part of his book that talked about leukemia:

Depression as defined by psychologists generally involves quitting or

giving up. Feeling that present conditions and future possibilities are
intolerable, the depressed person 'goes on strike' from life, doing less and
less, and losing interest in people, work, hobbies, and so on. [This was a
perfect description of what had taken place with my husband.]

Such depression is strongly linked with cancer Dr. Bernard Fox of Boston,
for example, found that depressed men are twice as likely to get cancer as
non-depressed men. A study of identical twins, one of whom in each pair
had leukemia, showed that the one with the disease had become severely
depressed or suffered an emotional loss before-hand, while the healthy twin
had not.

In The Will to Live, Arnold Hutschnecker tells us that depression is a partial

surrender to death, and that cancer seems to be despair experienced at the
cellular level. He tells us that the mind does not act only through our
conscious choices. Many of its effects are realized directly in the body's
tissues, without any awareness on our part. He points out some of our
common expressions: "She's a pain in the neck/ass." "Get off my back."
"This problem is eating me alive." "You're breaking my heart."

The body responds to the mind's conditioned messages whether they are
conscious or unconscious. Generally, these may be either live or die
messages. Dr. Hutschnecker is convinced we not only have survival
mechanisms, such as the fight-or-flight response, but we also have a "die"
mechanism that actively stops our defenses, slowing the body's functions
and bringing us toward death when we feel our life is not worth living.

May I tell you that the first time I read a list of probable emotional causes
of physical illness, I became indignant! To think that someone would have
the audacity to insinuate that I feel such and such, thereby causing the
particular health problems I had been plagued with during my life. This was
almost more than I could tolerate and accept. I literally threw down the list
and walked off in a huff! "It's totally impossible," I thought for over a week,
"that feelings could cause a person's health problems." (What I didn't
understand at this point was that these feelings were either hidden or
unconsciously buried.) Well, it (this new idea) wouldn't leave me alone, nor
would the idea go away. So, I decided I had better look at it squarely. When
I finally did, I had to admit there was definitely a lot more truth to the
theory than I could have possibly imagined.

The following list may indicate one or several possible feelings for a dis-
ease or ill-ness. It doesn't mean that you have to be bothered by all those
feelings. You may only feel one out of five, or you may feel two or three.
Keep in mind that these feelings are usually on a sub-conscious level.
Whatever your feelings are, or whatever you recognize as being a part of
you, take those feelings through the Script. Remember, these feelings have
probably been buried for a long, long time, completely covering over the
memory of perfection in your cells, so you may have become totally numb
to them. To realize results requires owning whatever feelings you can
identify, and processing them through the Script.

Thankfully, you may have experienced health problems that have been
treated successfully. But, as Barbara Ann Brennan so strongly sug-

gests and states in her book, Hands of Light, . . . "if the inner' healing is not
also done and the faulty belief system not challenged, illness will again
precipitate into the physical body, even after present symptoms have been
removed."
In other words, symptoms of an illness may be removed, but in order to
achieve a complete resolution of that illness, an "inner" healing and
changing of belief systems must take place before the dis-ease is eradicated.

To accomplish this, look at the illness list; locate the feelings that could be
the probable cause for you. Then go through the Script stating those
probable feelings, and replace them with appropriate opposite feelings.

The following are two examples of how to process the feelings indicated for
the first illness on the list.

Examples

1. "... locate the origin of feelings that cause my incorrect use of judgment
or my incorrect use of wisdom." A possible replacement would be, "I
choose opening my mind and heart to truth. I feel to open my mind and
heart to truth. I am opening my mind and heart to truth. I choose accepting
truth. I feel like accepting truth. I am accepting truth. I choose making
correct decisions. I feel to make correct decisions. I am making correct
decisions. I accept truth with all my heart." Then finish the Script.

2. ". . . locate the origin of my feelings that cause me to identify with my

possessions and have little sense of self." Replace with something like, "I
choose finding my own identity. I feel like finding my own identity. I am
finding my own identity. I feel a great sense of self. I feel love and respect
for myself. I am loving and honoring myself just the way I am." Then finish
the Script.

Probable Feelings Causing Ill-ness

Abdominal Area:

Incorrect use of judgment (wisdom)

Identifies with possessions and has little sense of self

Feeling possessive of someone

Worrying about others/needs introspection to change self

Feels responsible for giving understanding, help and encouragement

Feeling undue tension, fear & anxiety which constricts the energy flow

Disharmony and bondage in relationships

Bound up in present fears and not trusting Abscess:

Seething; unresolved hurt feelings

Wanting revenge

Festering feelings

Stagnation

Holding on to an old concept Accidents:

High levels of stress

Tense and worried

Feeling a need to punish self

Feelings of resistance towards authority

Feeling defenseless

Unable to take a stand—wishy-washy

Feeling of being in the wrong place

No feeling of purpose (Aimless) Aches:

Feeling of being all alone

Feeling separated from source of love

Feeling that nobody loves me

Aching to be held and loved

Feeling efforts have been thwarted

Feelings of sadness Acne:

Feelings of guilt

Feelings of self-rejection/dislike of self

Disowning what is happening in life—"Denial"

Unwilling to face up to issues Addictions:

Distorted memory in the DNA

Unable to think rationally

Unable to perceive clearly & correctly

Disapproval of self/running from self

Feelings of self-rejection

Feelings of despair

Feeling a void in the Soul

Wanting to avoid feeling Addison's Disease:

Lacks understanding of self/no sense of self

Anger at the self

Inability to understand own emotions

Feels no mercy for self Adenoids:

Acute disharmony in the home

Feels restricted in life/in breathing

Child feels unaccepted or hostility from someone

Feels unwelcome, in the way Adrenal Problems:

Feels defeated

Feels like a victim

No belief in self

"Don't care what happens to me" attitude

Lack of courage

Feelings of anxiety

Misusing the will

Subconscious belief that life must have burdens

Being disloyal to self

Unresolved jealousies & fears

Feels that one must struggle for success, power or position Aging Problems:

Inability to accept NOW

Fear of being one's self

Long standing unresolved negative feelings Agoraphobia:

Not using/unable to use the power of discernment AIDS:

Feeling defenseless & hopeless

Feels nobody cares

Belief of "not good enough"

Denial of the self

Extreme deep-rooted anger

Negative thoughts against yourself

Lack of inner peace Alcoholism:

Inability to cope/futility/"What's the use?" attitude

Feelings of worthlessness/self-rejection

Feelings of living a lie/guilt/inadequacy

Locked in by unresolved negative emotions

Locked in by believing the negative words of others

Protecting against feelings one is afraid to feel

Worried/bothered by lack of communication with others Allergies:

Suppressed weeping

Imitation substitute for colds

Feelings that don't seem to have an answer to change

Fear of sharing feelings with people

Feeling stifled

Denying own power

Feeling aggravated by someone or something Alzheimer's Disease:

Tired of coping
Can't face life anymore

Feels unable to be in control of own life

Feelings of inferiority & insecurity

Suppressed anger

Wants to live in own little world

Feelings of hopelessness & helplessness

Amnesia:

Unable to be assertive/to stand up for self Wanting to escape life's

problems/running from life Fear of the future Anemia:

Angry at self for inability to control things

Feeling life is not going the way I want

Feelings of "I'm not enough"

Not loving yourself

Manipulative but resentful if being manipulated

Devoted/possessive of someone else

Feels there is no joy

Lack of order in life Anemia: (Pernicious)

Feelings of total helplessness

Have given up

Deep, unresolved grief Ankles:

Fears falling or failing

Inflexibility

Instability in present situation

Swollen:

Feeling overworked, but can't quit

Feels there is no relief from pressures in life Anorectal Bleeding:

Anger

Frustration Anorexia:

Feels totally unable to please parent (usually mother)

Feels unable to live up to expectations of others

Feelings of self-rejection/self-hatred

Lack of spiritual understanding/of knowing yourself

Don't know how to love self or be self

Your soul wants to leave (self-destruction) Aneurysm:

Dealing daily with more responsibility than the body can handle

Not facing the need to change day to day situation

Feels the need to be everything to everyone all the time Anus:

Survival is threatened by outer conditions

Feeling powerless in some area Anxiety:

Feels unable to "call the shots" in life

Feels boxed in
Feels helpless to affect a change Apathetic:

"Spark of life" has been turned off

Doesn't want to feel Appendicitis:

Undue fears about life

Unable to deal with fear: energy flow is constricted

Wanting something but feel you can't obtain it Appetite:

Loss of: Incorrect perceptions causing distrust & a form of depression

Excessive: Feeding the need for love, acceptance & protection Arms:

Left: Not bringing enough spirituality to yourself

Right: Not doing enough physically for yourself Arteries - Hardening:

Fears being disappointed

Hard-hearted

Being dictatorial

Feeling obstructed or delayed in life

Unresolved feelings obscuring the flow of life

Perfectionism Arteriosclerosis:

Long-standing inability to express feelings and emotions

Unable to see the good

Layers of unresolved feelings built up inside

Refusing to be open-minded
Worried about not being perfect

Arthritis:

Severely criticizing self or others

Holding onto feelings of hostility

Holding onto own opinions & beliefs

Long term tension or anger in life

Feelings of anxiety and/or

Depression endured over long periods of time

Belief that it's wrong to get angry which creates:

Repressed anger that eats you up

Need to be right

Rigid in thinking & feelings

Uncompromising attitude

Inflexibility Arthritis - Rheumatoid:

Body is receiving conflicting messages, like:

Laughing on the outside, but crying on the inside

Feels totally helpless in ability to change life's burdens Asthma:

Reliving childhood fears

Need for dependence

Chronic anxiety & fear

Unconscious dependency wishes

Feeling dominated by a parent

Wanting to protest, but unable

Being over-sensitive

Suppressed sorrow or crying

Feelings of being stifled

Not satisfied with yourself Autoimmune System:

Laughing on the outside, but crying on the inside

Feels totally helpless

Have given up

Deep seeded/seated grief Back Problems:

Feeling no support

Can't cope with emotional difficulties

Feeling burdened emotionally

Feelings of frustration

Wanting someone to "get off my back" Back - Upper:

Feels unsupported or burdened emotionally

Withholding your love from others

Feeling agitated or anxious

Feelings of frustration Back - Middle:

Feeling guilty

Lacking self-support

Lacking in self-confidence Back - Lower:

Feels unsupported financially

Experiencing fear where money is concerned

Wanting to back out of something

In a relationship that hurts

Running away from a situation Bad Breath:

Worrying instead of priority planning

Reacting to plans that have gone awry Bedwetting:

Feelings of fear toward parent (usually father)

Unconscious anger

Don't know how to get what you want

Need for attention Bladder Problems:

Repression of sexual feelings

Inharmonious male & female emotional relationships

Sexual identity going unexpressed

Unable to release things or ideas no longer needed

Feels over concerned with survival issues (money, job, health)

Lack of order or obsessed with order

Yearning Bleeding Gums:

Inability to feel joy over decisions

Blisters:

Feeling unprotected emotionally

Resisting the flow of life

Staying in a habit that irritates you Bloating:

Feeling stuck in your life situation

Unable to change what you don't like/have to live with it

Unable to express your true feelings (you swallow them) Boils:

Letting out stirred up feelings

Something stagnant finally coming to a head Blood Disorders:

Root cause: Lack of pure self-love & love for others

Feeling powerless in some area of life

Feelings of deep anger

Feelings of long-standing ill will

Intense depression Blood Problems:

Not feeling joy in life

Stagnant thinking

Unable to flow with life

Feelings of fear Bones: (Broken)

Feelings of separation

Feelings of resentment going unresolved

Rebelling

The feeling nature is very obstinate or fixed Bone Problems:

Resisting authority

Internally punishing self Bowels:

Fear of displeasing a loved one

Fear of releasing the old that is no longer useful

Fearful of not having ample means

Unable to control outer situation; tries to control a substitute

Unwillingness to relinquish control

Inability to eliminate possessive attitudes Bowel - Irritable Syndrome:

Not being open about what you really feel

Holding back

Loss of enthusiasm & drive Brain:

Extreme nervousness

High anxiety

Feeling unable to control life

Not open to what you really feel.

Holding back/keeping things to yourself

Not relaxed enough to give of your knowledge Breasts:

Conflict of worthiness

Denying individual worth

Feels conflict in nurturing ability

Not nurturing yourself Bronchitis:

Extreme disharmony in the home

(A baby always feels the disharmony is their fault)

Wanting to be able to change things, but can't

Wanting to be in charge, but can't Bruises:

Feels a need to punish self

Not resolving feelings toward a certain situation Bulimia:

Mistaken self-image

Inability to accept self

Feelings of no control over one's self

Unsatisfied needs never met

Feelings of self-contempt

Feels unable to measure up to others expectations

Need for spiritual growth Bunions:

Constant & chronic fear

Being stubborn and inflexible in your direction Bursitis:

Feelings of anxiety

Feelings of anger which have been repressed

Feel you have lost control

Feeling helpless to change a situation

Tension built up

Holding back hitting someone

Frustrated with the flow of life Calluses:

Inability to flow with life

Not wanting to circulate & be open to new learning Cancer: A form of self-
destruction

Of blood-Leukemia: Intense depression, anger or ill will

Lack of pure love for self & others

Of cervix: Repressed anger

Of female organs:

Repressed anger (Usually at male authority figures)

Feeling an emptiness in life

Unresolved resentments

Feelings of hostility being suppressed

Rejecting the self

Feelings of despair

Feelings of loneliness being repressed

Poor relationship with parents

Inability to cope with a traumatic loss

Feelings of hopelessness/helplessness being repressed

Mental depression

Holding on to deep anger, resentment, hate, revenge or jealousy

Not open to "light' or divine help

Subconscious death wish—no desire to live

Cancer - Skin: A form of destruction due to-Feeling inadequate or unworthy

Cancer - Small of Back: Continual inside strife, but appearing happy

Carrying life's burdens

Unresolved emotional burdens

Cancer - Stomach: Feelings of condemnation & hatred

Feelings of malice

Feelings of wanting to get even

Unforgiveness Candida:

Begins with doubting your Self

Resentment multiplying inside

Inability to claim ones own power

Unresolved negative feelings molding in the body

Continually blaming others on a sub-conscious level Canker Sores:

Unresolved negativity

Overwork coupled with emotional stress

Emotional upset

Anxious over details Carpel Tunnel:

Feeling that life isn't fair

Inability to claim ones own power

Feeling justice is never served in your behalf Cardiovascular Disorder:

Driven to compete, achieve and acquire material wealth

Feelings of agitation and impatience

Wanting matters to move more quickly

Low self-esteem Chest:

Belief & emotional center

Unidentified unresolved fears

Not feeling approval

Inability to claim ones own power

Lack of self love

Feelings of being unprotected

Hurts where love is concerned Childhood Disease:

Child responding to mother's feelings

Feelings of helplessness
Emotional needs not being met

Feeling shoved aside Cholesterol:

Belief that "I'm not supposed to be happy"

Denying self joy Chronic Diseases:

Distrusts the process of life

Unwilling to change for the better Chronic Fatigue Syndrome:

Feeling totally alone

Feelings of desolation

Feelings of despair

Feeling hopeless/"It's no use"

Tired of trying to prove yourself

Low self-worth

Has lost the will to live Circulation Problems:

Feeling overloaded

Not enjoying job, but can't quit or let go

Feelings of tension & discouragement

Feeling "I must prove myself, but how?"

Putting yourself down

Love of self and others drives circulation Colds:

Unkind feelings toward someone

Confusion in the home

Confusion in life

Belief in seasonal sickness Cold Sores: (Fever Blisters)

Inability to express anger

Feeling pressured or burdened by responsibilities

Unable to cope with pressures of life

Feeling resentful of the load you are carrying

Not wanting to accept specific news Colic:

Not happy with surroundings

Feelings of irritation

Feelings of impatience Colitis:

Overly concerned with order (lose freedom)

Worrying excessively

Feelings of oppression

Feelings of defeat

Feeling a need for more affection Colitis - Ulcerative:

Often manifest in those with obsessive-compulsive behavior

Indecisiveness

Feelings of anxiety

Unable to express hostility or anger to whom you feel it

Feels a need to conform

Feels like a martyr Colon:

Bottled up hate

Ascending: Not being generous to yourself (need to be)

Transverse: Not being open/truthful with self or others

Descending: Unable to be relaxed within yourself Color Blind:

Unable to see things the way they are Concussion:

Not wanting to know something you need to hear

Needing to accept new insights Conjunctivitis:

Feelings of frustration at what you see in life

Feelings of anger towards life

Not seeing the perfection in people & life Constipation:

Constantly fretting

Unwilling to release old feelings & beliefs

Resisting the flow of life

Blocking what you want to say

Feelings of anxiety

Unresolvable problems/determined to carry on

Corns:

Holding onto hurts of past experiences

Hardened feelings Coughs:

Nervousness

Feelings of criticism

Feelings of annoyance

Feels present conditions & future possibilities are intolerable

Feel like you're choking on life Cramps:

Fear of pain

Holding onto incorrect perceptions of femininity

Tension built up

Feelings of guilt about what you have or haven't done Cysts:

Feeling sorry for self

Inability to resolve hurt feelings Cystic Fibrosis:

The belief that "life works for everyone but me" Cystitis:

Unresolved irritability

Habitual unhappy thought patterns

Burning feelings inside

Can't get what you want Dandruff:

Feels a strong need to have things done a certain way

Impatient with the way others do things

Self-acceptance is being blocked Deafness:

Not wanting to hear what is going on

Lack of self-love

Feeling of poor self-worth

Wanting to be isolated

Feels more comfortable in own little world

Dementia:

Feeling hopeless & helpless

Tired of having to struggle with life

Unresolved anger Depression:

Feeling "I'll never be able to be enough or do enough"

Feeling "It's no use"

Feeling "Things are beyond my control"

Hopeless/helpless feeling

Feels like quitting or giving up on life

Anger turned inward

Insufficient exposure to sunlight (usually in Winter) can also cause

depression Diabetes:

Judging self or others severely

Disappointed in life

On-going feelings of sorrow

Emotional shock
Joy of life is gone

Feeling "It should have been different"

Obsessed with wanting to control

Ashamed of something you did in the past Diarrhea:

Rejecting the visualization of something you don't want to accept

Wanting to be done with someone or something

Running away from a situation

Fear of something in the present

Obsessed with order

Giving up your goals when unable to have what you desire Diverticulitis:

Having a difficult time being sociable

Won't express your true feelings Dizziness:

Lack of solid self-direction

Ego wants to be the boss

Not taking personal time for self

"Going around in circles" due to being unorganized

Feeling overloaded

Feeling "I don't want to cope anymore"

Not wanting to accept things as they are Dowagers Hump:

Unresolved anger
Built up resentment

Carrying others burdens Dry Eye:

Unable to express grief

Feelings turned off

Incorrect perceptions from early years; keeping tears from flowing

Dysentery:

Fear of the present

Cannot face what is going on

Hate what you are seeing

Feeling unjustly dealt with

Need to have empathy, be generous, honest, relaxed & open

Dysmenorrheal:

Feelings of anger toward self

Inability to forgive self Ears:

Hearing corresponds to the understanding

Intolerance

Impatience

Feels nobody is listening to you, OR-

You don't want to listen to others

Hearing problems:

Trying to force someone to hear things your way

What are the advantages of not hearing?

Wax (Hardened): Does not want to hear about new things

Infection: Stagnating, impatience, not tolerating new information

Earache: Feelings of anger at what you are hearing

Can't tolerate new situation or information

Don't want to hear what is going on

Children: Can't abide the turmoil in home

Eczema:

Over-sensitive

Feel you are being interfered with or prevented from doing something, thus
feeling frustrated

Unresolved hurt feelings

Unresolved feelings of irritation Edema:

Sympathy for self, keeping you from moving too fast

Body's way of putting on a cast

Feeling a need to be immobilized in some area of body

Holding onto something that is not necessary Elbow:

Inability to accept new experiences

Inability to change focus

Resisting achievement or sense of confidence Elimination Problems:

Deep subconscious resentments

Holding on to past experiences

Not letting go, which creates blockages

Tension built up Emphysema:

Feeling unworthy to live

Fears taking in life to the fullest

Unable to be yourself Endocrine System:

Drastic imbalances in life Endometriosis:

Deep-seeded unresolved sadness going unanswered

Feelings of frustration

Feelings of insecurity

Lack of self-love

Wanting to blame problems on others

Lacking in understanding of self

Dwelling in old limiting concepts

Energy: (continual lack of)

Unresolved deep-seeded sadness

Tired of the day to day struggle

Wishing you could "quit" Epilepsy:

Feeling a need to persecute self

An inability to accept how you do things

Wanting to reject life

Violence against the self Eyes:

Retina represents your feelings; Fovea represents your thinking. They need
to work together for proper vision. When we are not single-minded they
begin to separate.

Not wanting to understand what you are seeing

Not seeing the truth

Fearing the future

Not wanting to see life as it is

Life is weak and out of focus

Not seeing eye to eye with another

Not forgiving

Inability to see ones own self-worth

Bags under: Holding on to old inaccurate concepts

Blinking (uncontrolled): Always running out of time, which causes:

Not wanting to see what you haven't done

Wasting time in between opportunities

Cataracts: Not wanting to see the future

Not seeing any future for yourself

Failing to share your knowledge or skills

Circles under: Bitterness

Resentment/hurt

Self-condemnation

Feeling unfulfilled

Deep-seeded grief

Remorse/regret

Glaucoma: Protracted hostility

Itching: Feel you're not doing what is best for you

Not seeing what needs to be done

Feel you aren't doing a good job

Sty: Not seeing the best in another person

Unresolved anger towards someone

Hanging on to feelings of resentment

Watery: Unable to express an inner grief

Unable to say what you would like to Eyelids:

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Flaky skin: Feeling inadequate or unworthy

Unable to say what you feel

Protruding: Resenting change

Do not want to voice how you feel

Red: Not speaking truth of what you see

Feeling resentment because of this Face:

Has to do with identity

Forehead: Reacting to recent conscious thoughts

Paralysis: Judging self harshly

Putting self down in favor of others

Feeling rejected

Feeling fear and anxiety

Having doubts about own competence

Cd^i face a. situation, someone or something

Afraid of losing face

Problems with relationships Fainting:

Fear of the present

Feeling unable to cope

An excuse to blank out

Not facing what you need to learn

Nothing to look forward to Falling Over:

Not sure of self

Insecure within Fallopian Tubes: (Blocked)

Nervous tension of long duration

High-strung temperament Fat:

Feel a need for protection

Resistance to forgiving

Hidden anger Fatigue:

Resisting life

Feeling bored

Not enjoying your place in life

Experiencing "burn out" in one's job or relationship Feet:

Not liking the direction you are going

Fear of the future

Fear of stepping forward in life

Pigeon-toed: Inhibited in your direction

Pointed outward:

Left foot - Fear of spiritual direction

Right foot - Fear of physical/material direction

Toes curled under: Unbalanced direction

Feeling inferior

Walking on insides: Fear facing what needs to be done

Difficulty in planting feet squarely on ground

Walking on sides: Not feeling solid in your direction

Lack of understanding in many aspects of life Female Problems:

Emotional block where own sexuality is concerned

Feeling inadequate in sexual role

Feelings of fear or guilt about sex

Refusing to "let go" of the past

Rejecting feminine nature

Emotional block where mate is concerned Fever:

Feelings of anger unable to be expressed

Feelings of resistance

Emotionally "burning up" about something

Being affected by lack of order

Holding onto the past Fibromyalgia: (See Chronic Fatigue Syndrome)

Fibroid Tumors & Cysts:

The ego has been injured

Unexpressed & unresolved hurts Fingers: (Fussing over details of life)

Thumb: Affected by Worry, Depression, Hate, Anxiety, Guilt & Self-

protection
Index: Affected by Fear & Resentment

Middle: Affected by Anger, Bitterness & Sexuality

Ring: Affected by grief & Inability to flow with life

Little: Affected by Pretense, Deceit & Unforgiveness Fingernails:

Biting: Wanting to destroy oneself

Resisting authority

Over-analyzing tiny details

(See Nail biting) Flu:

Fear

Belief in the worst happening to you

Belief in mass negativity

(See Immune System) Frigidity:

Unresolved fears, resentments or guilt having to do with sex and sexual

relationships

Fixations, complexes or neurotic attachments affecting emotional nature

Fungus:

Inability to let go of the past

Allowing the past to rule the now

Hanging on to old concepts/can't change Gallbladder:

Feelings of bitterness

Feelings of anger
Wanting to force things

Gallstones:

Feelings of bitterness

Feelings of condemnation

Being unyielding

Feelings of pride

Refusing to forgive Gangrene:

Morbidity running wild

Unresolved poisonous feelings

Inability to love self with enthusiasm Gastritis:

Feelings of uncertainty

Feelings of anxiety Gingivitis:

Fears own incapability

Putting off doing things/responsibilities Glandular Problems:

Living in the past

Long term inappropriate feelings

Unresolved feelings that have created gross imbalance Goiter:

Feeling unfulfilled

Feelings of being used

Feel purposes have been thwarted Gout:

Judging others harshly

Feelings of impatience

Feelings of anger held inside

Rejecting others or world around you

Wanting to dominate or control others Growths:

False sense of pride

Unresolved anger and resentments

Inability to accept Divine help

Spiritual understanding & values out of balance

Nursing buried hurts Gum Problems:

Not carrying out decisions once they are made

Bleeding: Pressuring yourself to quit procrastinating Hair:

Crown Baldness: Feelings of unworthiness

Difficulty/inadequately accepting self

Dry: Unaware that you can achieve

Holding back

Don't know self

Feelings of inadequacy

Falling out: Unable to be flexible in changing your thinking

Not using your own power

Relying on others for your sense of security/safety

Graying—Back of head: Not accepting yourself

Front of head: Not believing in what you do and say, which-

Changes your perception of yourself

Overnight: Shock from letting go of your power

Receding: Feeling inadequate and/ or worthless Hands:

Has to do with the ability to grasp or let go of ideas

Left: Receiving or being passive

Right: Giving, reaching out or acting aggressively

Fearing new ideas

Fearing lack of opportunities

Hands have the ability to give or grab; explore or push away, hold on or let
go; caress or punch

Hands - Arthritis:

Rigid, perfectionist or controlling personality

Severe self-criticism and criticism of others

Inflexible feelings repressed & mirrored in the hands

Hands - Cramps: Conflict over ability & how to communicate it

Feels unable to communicate well verbally

Hands - Sweaty: Fears making mistakes

Fears appearing incompetent or foolish

Hay Fever:

Unresolved feelings of rage or fear

Unresolved feelings of grief or sadness

Repressed tears held back

Repressed aggression

Wanting to get even

Feelings of guilt

Not satisfied with self Headaches:

Tension & stress

Inability to resolve emotional upsets

Hurt feelings going unexpressed

Feelings of inner pressure working on you

Feeling unable to control

Feelings of fear & anxiety getting the best of you

Unpleasant relationships

Inability to face an issue

Manifesting the need to laugh, sing, praise & express gratitude

Impatience with self that you haven't done enough

Frontal

Holding on to old limitations

Not seeing the good in anything

Feeling you're better than other people Heart Problems:

Violating the laws of love; knowingly or unknowingly

Feelings of compassion or rejection being blocked

Feelings of resentment and/or hurt

Not feeling approval from others

Upsetting family problems

Has a difficult time forgiving (including self)

Wanting release from responsibility

In a relationship that hurts Hemorrhoids:

On-going feelings of being burdened

Feeling pressured or anxious

Feeling fear or tension

Inability to let go Hepatitis:

Not wanting to change

Feelings of anger

Feelings of fear

Feelings of hate Hernia:

Angry with what's happening in your life

Feelings of being burdened

Punishing self Herpes:

Feelings of guilt

Feelings of shame

Feelings of anxiety

Feelings of anger Herpes-Simplex Virus:

Not allowing yourself to be the love that you are

Lack of inner peace

Feelings of guilt, shame, anxiety and/or anger

Wanting to speak words of bitterness

Wanting to complain royally Hips:

Fears making major decisions

Has nothing to look forward to

Lack of emotional & physical self-support

Hip joint: Not wanting to accept present experiences

Non-acceptance of physical experiences Hives:

Small hidden fears

Fears that are finally surfacing

Feeling mistreated

Inability to view things with the correct perspective

Anger—perceiving someone has inflexible behavior

Wanting to protest, but unable to Hodgkin 's Disease:

Inability to accept self

Frantic need to feel accepted

Feels a continual need to prove self Huntington's Disease:

Feelings of resentment for inability to change others

Feelings of hopelessness & helplessness

Feelings of deep sorrow Hyperactivity:

Always wanting needs to be met, but feels helpless to have it happen

Frustrated due to inability to feel peace Hypertension: (High Blood

Pressure)

Feels a strong need to be in control of everything

Allowing people or situations to bother you

Letting your emotions and reactions rule you

Not minding your own business/interfering with others Hyperthyroidism:

Feelings of rage for being overlooked Hyperventilation:

Distrusting the flow of life

Feelings of resistance to life and it's uncertainties Hypoglycemia:

Feelings of overwhelmed burdens

Feeling a lack of joy in life

Feel unsuccessful so pressure yourself to be successful Hypotension: (Low

Blood pressure)
Being more devoted to outside things than to yourself

Not loving yourself

Loss of enthusiasm and drive Hypothalamus: Governs pituitary & pineal

gland which in turn governs endocrine system

Feelings of rage

Feelings of insecurity

Feelings of displeasure

Feelings of sadness

Feelings of anxiety

Feeling restricted in some area of your life

Immune System:

Any feelings that go against your inner peace

Giving up

Inability to care (feeling) for others

Feeling that "everything is out of my control"

Feeling "there's no use trying anymore"

Feeling "I'm not enough" Impotence:

Conflicting ideas about sex

Fear, resentments or guilt having to do with sex and sexual relationships

Unresolved fears towards mother

Psychic obsessions or sexual frustration

Emotional nature affected by complexes, fixations or neurotic attachments
Incontinence:

Weary of controlling the emotions

Overflowing emotions

Guilty of not being loyal to yourself Incurable Disease:

Long standing condemnation of self & others

Need to forgive all situations & people of the past Indigestion:

Feeling everyone is against you

Feel you need to fight your way through life

Feelings of anxiety

Fear of losing job; losing security

Lack of understanding what, how, when, where or why in life Infection:

Feelings of hostility

Feelings of anger being manifested

Feelings of suspicion or annoyance Inflammation:

Feelings of rage

Feelings of anger or fear

Influenza:

Believing the worst will happen to you

Fearing the worst Injuries:

Feelings of guilt & a need to be punished

Feeling angry toward self, so needs to suffer Insanity:

Unable to let go of old ideas or things of the past

Wanting to escape

Strong desire to separate or withdraw from life

Inability to cope

Wanting to flee from family Insomnia:

Tensions in life

Deep seeded guilt

Feelings of fear & anxiety

Reaction to potential threatening situations

Worrying about being able/good enough to do what is needed Intestinal

Diseases:

Inability to assimilate & absorb the new in life

Wanting to live in the past

Desire to stay in comfort zone Itching:

Desires gone unfulfilled

Having a difficult time accepting where you are in life

Wanting more than you are getting out of life

Feelings inadequate or unworthy Jaw Problems: (T M J Syndrome)

Feelings of rage

Subconsciously wanting revenge

Inability to express how one feels Joints:

Feelings of resentment

Suppressing hurt feelings

Jaundice:

Not allowing self or others to just "be"

Experiencing difficulty in loving self Jet Lag:

Living in the past/Not in present time Kidney Problems:

Extension of bladder but more severe

Insensitive to situations where caring & concern should be exhibited

Trying to control life

Being disloyal to self

Being over judgmental

Feeling emotional confusion

Deep subconscious resentments toward people & experiences of the past

Unfounded criticism of others

Repressed emotions

Don't have a good relationship with yourself

Leaving your self out to please someone else

Kidney Stones: Hardened anger

Poor relationship with self & others Knee Problems:

Unable to be flexible

Not wanting to bend, usually to authority

Ego gets in the way

Pride gets in the way

Stubborn—wanting own way

Knee - Left: Need to be more receptive to events

Feelings of insecurity

Experiencing unresolved stress

Knee - Right: Need to be more assertive

Not wanting to give in to authority Knuckles:

Lack of flexibility in feeling nature

Lack of Acceptance

Inability to change viewpoint

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Laryngitis:

Fears voicing opinions

Feelings of resentment toward authority

Repressed emotions & fears

Gripped anger

Irritation at someone or some situation Left-Right Split:

Left: Spiritual direction/Feminine side/Protecting/Receiving/Taking side

Right: Physical direction/Masculine side/Fighting/Giving/Releasing side

Leg Problems:

Fear of moving ahead with life

Fear of change

Has difficulty in being resolute about issues

Inability to understand

Leg Paralysis:

Avoiding situation you don't like

Avoiding something you are afraid of Leukemia:

Feelings of deep depression

Feelings of anger or ill will

Significant loss of a parent or a career position

Feelings of total helplessness

Giving up or quitting

Unable to express emotions

Feeling present conditions & future possibilities are intolerable

Feelings of despair & futility Leukorrhea:

Sexual guilt

Feeling powerless

Feeling anger toward mate Ligaments:

All about control

Controlling others or letting others control you, or-

Not being able to control yourself

Lips:

Cracked corners: Feelings of frustration

Can't say more for fear of saying wrong thing

Parched: Feeling frustrated at inability to impart knowledge Liver: (Anger

Center)

Feelings of unresolved anger

Feelings of resentment & pettiness

Being judgmental

Critical thoughts

Not forgiving self & others

Feelings of injustice & revenge

Feelings of self-condemnation

Feelings of regret over the past

Feelings of sadness

Being possessive Lock Jaw:

Feelings of rage

Wanting to control

Inability to express how one feels Lou Gehrig's Disease:

Unwillingness to accept self-worth

Denial of success Lumps:

Feeling inadequate or unworthy

Not trusting yourself

Frustration at not moving forward in life

Feeling blocked Lungs:

Feelings of grief

Not feeling approval

Hurts where love is concerned

Feels life is monotonous

Not being able to do things your way Lupus:

Feelings of deep-seeded (seated) grief

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Feels like "giving up"

Laughing on the outside, but crying on the inside Lymphatic Vessels:

Breaking the laws of love

Breaking the laws of peace & joy

Resentment, hatred or anger built up inside Lymph System:

Lack of enthusiasm

Unable to feel acceptance

Negative thoughts against yourself Male Problems:

Feeling inadequate in sexual role

Refusing to let go of the past

Feeling guilt for sleeping around

Holding onto unpleasant memories of previous relationships

Feeling unfulfilled in love Mastoiditis: (Most often in children)

Not wanting to hear what is happening in surroundings

Fears that affect the understanding

Feeling left out Memory: (Lack of)

Feel others aren't interested in what you know

Don't feel valued Meningitis:

Not open to new insights

Feels to know it all Menopause:

Fears this time of life & getting older

Fears being rejected

Feeling useless

Hot flashes: False belief that they can't be avoided

Anger at not having control of own body Menstrual Problems:

Unresolved feelings of guilt

Fears role as a woman

Feels no joy in being a woman

Migraine Headaches:

Unable to flow easily with life

Want to take things at own pace

Dislikes being pushed

Inability to handle pressure or stress for long periods

Pushing to control; wants to control Mind:

Over analyzation

Fear of the unknown Miscarriage:

Fears timing is "wrong"

Fears what the future will bring

Fears the responsibility of baby Mononucleosis:

Feeling unloved

Feeling unworthy

Feelings of anger from not being appreciated Moles:

Feeling inadequate or unworthy (usually generational)

Growths from false beliefs about the self

Can be congenital Motion Sickness:

Fears not having control Mouth Problems:

Resistant to change
Fears moving out of comfort zone

Opinionated Multiple Sclerosis:

Unwilling to be flexible

Unreceptive to new ideas

Hard on self; blames self

Incorrect use of will

Unforgiving of self or others

Lack of communication with others

Muscles:

Feelings of guilt

Not performing to your standard

Unable to 'own' something you have or have not done Muscle Cramps:

Stubborn nature

A willful attitude

Resists moving forward in life Muscular-Skeletal Diseases: (Muscular

Dystrophy)

A form of self-created paralysis to keep from hitting someone or moving

forward

Deep seeded anger that has not been resolved

Feels "I must experience pain" Myasthenia Gravis:

Laughing on the outside, but crying on the inside

Feelings of helplessness in being able to change conditions

Deep-seeded grief

Feels like giving up

Fears a change in life Nail-Biting:

Unfulfilled desires

Feeling spiteful towards parents

Feelings of frustration Narcolepsy:

Wishing you were somewhere else

Don't want to cope anymore

Weary of responsibilities

Wishing responsibilities would go away Nausea:

Rejecting the visualization of something you don't want to see

Wishing an undesirable situation had never happened

Fear of something about to happen Neck Problems:

Moving under pressure

Want to let feelings out but don't dare

Inflexible state of mind

Not wanting to yield to opinions you think are wrong

Non-acceptance & rejection of others Nephritis:

Feelings of disappointment
Feelings of failure

Feeling life is unfair Nerves:

Influenced by thoughts & feelings

How the body communicates within

Parasympathetic:

Holding onto things or people of the past that need releasing

Need to be congruent in your communication with self Nervous

Breakdown:

Inability to communicate true feelings

Fear of the future

Not recognizing/accepting own power Nervousness:

Inability to communicate feelings adequately

Fear of the future

Feelings of anxiety

Confused thinking Neuritis.

Feeling of being irritated without your consent

Your power is negated because of being irritated Neurosis:

Feeling of overload; pressures in life too hard to bear

Feeling there is no letting up; "can't quit" Nodules:

Feelings of frustration & resentment

Feel you always have to prove yourself

Ego feels in jeopardy Nose:

Bleeds: Feeling overlooked

Blocked: Not enjoying life

Broken: Rebelling against learning due to resentment

Bulbous: Continually going against your feelings

Compromising your principles Runny: Crying on the inside; wanting help,

or running away from

unwanted responsibility Stuffy: Not accepting your worth; Desire for love;
Impatience;

Unwilling to just be your Self

Numbness:

Not expressing love; Not expressing consideration Obesity:

Using food as a substitute for affection

Inability to admit to self or others what you really desire

Inability to express true feelings

Seeking love

Protecting the body

Trying to fulfill the self

Stuffed feelings Osteomyelitis:

Feeling a lack of support

Feeling frustrated with life

Feeling angry at life Osteoporosis:

Feeling totally unsupported in life Ovaries:

Feelings of loneliness

Desire to feel love and respect

Feeling inadequate in sexual role Over-Eating: (Compulsive)

Tension

Feeling a material-emotional lack

Craving closeness

Putting on emotional armor

A symbol of power & desire to throw one's weight around

Emotional energy based on anger & resentment Overweight:

Feelings of insecurity

Feelings of self-rejection

Wanting to protect the body

Seeking love & fulfillment

Attempting to fulfill the self

Feelings are being stuffed inside

Unexpressed, mis-perceived & inappropriate feelings Pain:

God trying to get your attention

Repressed anger & frustration

In a relationship that hurts

Feelings of guilt

Indicating that something is imbalanced Palsy:

Feeling stagnant in life

Feel you can't move forward Pancreas:

Feelings of judgment

Feelings of guilt

Low self-esteem

Suppressing laughter

Incorrect use of ego

Feels the joy of living is gone/not allowing joy

Ashamed of something you have done Paralysis:

Feeling overwhelmed by responsibilities

Sub-consciously wanting to escape

Resisting life

Fear of the future Paralyzed A rms:

Left arm: Difficulty in receiving from others

Right arm: Difficulty in giving to others

Resistance to an unexplained hardness of will

Tension of the mind Parathyroid:

Unresolved anger Parkinson's Disease:

Not understanding a fear you have, which-

Stops you from believing in what you do and say

Lack of inner communication

Wanting full control

Fears not being able to control Pelvis:

Unable to remain grounded or focused in emotional activity

Relates to holding on to sexual feelings Peptic Ulcer:

Feels a lack of self-worth

Feels responsible for pleasing everyone Phlebitis:

Feelings of being trapped

Feeling there is no way out

Feels life's immediate problems can't be solved Pimples:

Unresolved frustrations

Hidden anger surfacing

Dislike of self Pineal Gland:

Corresponds with inner seeing & hearing

Refusing to receive understanding & enlightenment

Misusing faith Pink-Eye:

Feelings of frustration
Feelings of anger at present situation

Wanting to obscure what is going on around you Pituitary Gland:

Continually picturing ill health or sickness

Feelings of being a constant recipient of bad luck/misfortune

Not being able to see good in all things Plantar Wart:

Frustrated about life & the future

Deep seeded anger Pleurisy:

Feelings of antagonism

Feelings of hostility

Lack of enthusiasm for what you are doing

Pneumonia:

Weary of life

Deep emotional hurts that have not healed

Feelings of desperation Post-Nasal Drip:

Crying on the inside

Feelings of inner grief

Feeling you are a victim Premenstrual Syndrome: (PMS)

Relinquishing power to others

Rejecting the feminine aspect of self Prostate Problems:

Ideas are in conflict about sex

Refusing to let go of the past

Fear of aging

Feels like throwing in the towel

Prostate Cancer: Repressed anger at being restricted Psoriasis:

Emotional insecurity

Holding onto feelings/fears that go against you

Not speaking your truth with love

Unwilling to be accountable for own feelings

Unresolved, deep-seeded hurt feelings surfacing Pyorrhea:

Angry at self for not being able to make decisions Rash:

Being irritated by something or someone

Unable to flow with life Respiratory Problems:

Not feeling approval

Lack of love

Fears living life to the fullest Rheumatism:

Feelings of resentment & wanting revenge

"I'm a victim" syndrome

Long-standing bitterness

Has a problem loving self & others Right-Left Split-Right Side: Physical
direction/ Masculine side/ Fighting/Giving/Releasing side
Left Side: Spiritual Direction/ Feminine side/ Protecting/Receiving/Taking
side Sacroiliac Problems:

Feel you're in the wrong place (job, city, relationship, etc.) Sciatica:

Mental anxieties regarding creative abilities

Sexual abnormality or frustration

Over-concerned with money issues

Disregarding your own desires

Being double-minded Salivary Gland: (Sublingual Gland)

Not following through with your insights Senility:

Inability to stay in the present

Longing to return to security of by-gone years

Wanting to control those around you

Not willing to change your life

Don't want to be in the situation you're in

Unhappy with this time of life Sex Organs:

Feelings of apathy

Feeling separated Shins:

Not being true to ideals & values Shingles:

Fear things won't work out the way you want

Over-sensitive

On-going tension concerning a situation

Hostile energy being manifest

(Herpes Zoster) Lack of inner peace

Recurring problem of unworthiness Shoulders: (Our expressive part)

Bearing burdens that don't belong to you

Life is too great a burden to bear

Carrying stressful responsibilities

Lacking in courage

Hunched & Sloped: Feels life is a tough struggle

Round: Feelings of Hopeless/Helpless

Scoliosis: Inability to trust life

Right: Relates to financial

Left: Relates to family Sickle Cell Anemia:

Feelings of inferiority Sinus Trouble:

Trying to call the shots in someone else's life

Dominating possessive

Being irritated by a person close to you Skin Disease:

Unresolved feelings of irritation

Unresolved feelings of criticism

Disturbed reactions over trivial things

Lack of security
Feelings of impatience

Feeling bored

Feeling unsettled Skin Rashes:

Inner conflicts surfacing

Someone or something is irritating you

Feeling frustrated at not being able to accomplish something Slipped Disc:

Feeling indecisive about life

Feeling no support in life

Probable Feelings Causing Ill-ness 267

Snoring:

Refusal to eliminate old patterns

Not being devoted to self Sore-Throat:

Feelings of anger going unexpressed

Other negative feelings going unexpressed Spasms:

Thoughts & feelings of fear Spastic Colon:

Intense feelings of insecurity

Unable to let go and flow with life Spine: (Has to do with the ego)

Ego getting carried away in pride

Allowing your intellect to let you down

Afraid to live in your feelings

Feelings of shyness

Feelings of inferiority

Not supporting or standing up for yourself Spinal Meningitis:

Unresolved feelings of rage

Inflammatory thoughts Spleen:

Lack of self-love

Not being sincere with self and others due to lack of self-love

Not allowing self to feel others' love/feeling rejected

Emotional conflicts

Feelings of intense anger/antagonism

Feelings of agitation & melancholy Sprains:

Feelings of resistance

Inability to change directions in life Spur:

A build-up of resentment

Sterility:

Extreme nervous tension Hard & cold in attitudes Stiffness:

Inability to give

Inflexible in opinions & attitudes

Rigid feelings in whichever area it is in Stomach Cancer:

Feelings of wanting to get even

Feelings of spite

Wanting revenge Stomach Problems:

Our sense of security feels threatened

Fears new ideas

Lack of affection

Condemning the success of other people

Unhappy feelings Stuttering:

Wanting to protest, but dares not

Feels inferior

Doesn't accept self

Unable to express self

Emotionally insecure

Having to always please authority figures Stroke:

Rejecting life at a deep level

Extreme resistance

Impatience with self for not improving a situation

Impatient for not being able to perform like you want to

Self-violence

Feeling overloaded with the pressures of life

Feel like "giving up" Sty:

Not seeing the best in another person

Unresolved feelings of anger toward someone

Hanging on to feelings of resentment

Suicidal:

Feeling totally unable to resolve life's problems

Feels there is no hope for tomorrow

Feeling "What's the use"

Feels "Everyone would be better off without me" Swelling:

Holding onto negative feelings Tailbone:

Unduly concerned with material needs & survival needs Teeth:

Painful: Inability to be decisive

Upper: Not understanding the big picture

Lower: Impatience

Abscess: Procrastinating in carrying out plans Tendons: (Knots in)

Mental poisons

Unwilling to accept full stature

Need to forgive self

Inflexibility in mind sets Testicles:

Rejecting masculinity Thalamus:

Impatience
Feeling criticized Thighs:

Fat: Feelings of frustration about moving forward in life

Fear of the future Throat:

Feelings of anger that have been restrained

Strong critical words have been spoken

Swallowed emotional hurts

Not having your own way

Feelings of confusion

Lack of discernment

Knowledge used unwisely

Thrush:

Feelings of anger for making incorrect choices Thymus: Master Gland

Feeling persecuted

Feeling picked on

Feeling life is unfair

Feeling unprotected Thyroid:

Conflict between the conscious & the subconscious

Lack of love for Self

Fears self-expression

Deep sense of frustration/anxiety

Lack of discernment Tinnitus:

Refusing to hear ones inner voice

Not wanting to listen to higher laws

Intolerant Toes:

Worrying about minor details of the future

Ingrown Toenail: Continually worrying

Guilt feelings about your right to move forward

Holding Self back Tongue:

Not speaking truth

Inability to taste the beauty & joy of life Tonsils:

Tense will

Repressed fear or anger

Irritation at someone or something

Not getting own way Toxins:

Negative feelings and thoughts against yourself

Giving away your power Tuberculosis:

Continual selfishness

Feeling possessive

Being cruel to others Tumors: (False growths)

Suppressed emotional hurts

Holding onto feelings of hatred & anger

Feelings of remorse

Jealousy

Not trusting self or others

False sense of value & pride

Results from not forgiving & releasing (forgetting) resentment

Feeling of "No one cares"

Doesn't feel close to parents

Forgiveness & Love are the two greatest solvents Ulcers:

Worrying over details

Conflict as to capability

Frustration at not having things go the way you want

Pressures are too much to bear

Feelings of anxiety, fear or tension

Seeking revenge

Feelings of conflict/helplessness/powerless Underweight:

Worries/Fears

Distrusting life

Feeling extreme tension Urinary Infections:

Putting blame on others for your problems

Allowing another to irritate you Uterine Cancer:

Being 'ticked off at the male gender

Repressed anger

Feeling like a martyr Uterus:

Has to do with unresolved feelings towards mother

Negative feelings toward creative aspect of life

Vaginitis:

Feels sexual guilt

Feels a need to punish self

Feels a loss of someone or something loved Varicose Veins:

Pronounced tension

Wanting to run away

Feelings of discouragement

Feelings of negativity & resistance

Feeling overburdened Venereal Disease:

Feels a need to be punished

Feeling guilty about sexual activities Viral Infections:

Bitterness & ugliness overshadowing the beautiful & good in life

Belief that "I get everything that comes along" Vomiting:

Rejecting the visualization of what you don't want to accept

Feelings of disgust

Wanting to get rid of these emotions

Warts:

Refusing to see the beauty in life

Feelings of hate taking form

Built up feelings of inadequacy or unworthiness Wrists:

Holding onto outmoded beliefs about life and self

Imbalanced in giving or receiving/doing 'overs' on one or the other Yeast

Infections:

Deep and unresolved resentments

Lack of self love

Inability to claim ones own power

Unable to love & support the self

Unable to accept the self

Not recognizing own needs

Chapter 19

Self-Fulfilling Prophecies, or The Words We Use, Use Us!

While being mindful of your feelings and thoughts, you would be wise to
also be conscious and aware of the words you speak, as words have
vibrational energy along with everything else. Words are spoken thoughts
that are generated by your feelings. And the words you use, as well as the
thoughts you think, definitely register in your cells—in your DNA.
In Quantum Healing, Dr. Chopra says, "You may not think you can talk to
your DNA, but, in fact, you do continually." For instance, if a person is
always saying, "I'm sick and tired of. . .," they shouldn't be surprised if they
are tired a lot or become sick.

Be careful of what you claim! If you are always calling the health condition
your body is registering, YOURS . . . then you are faithfully claiming it!
For instance, by saying "my cancer," "my varicose veins," "my diabetes,"
"my bad eyes," "my sore throat," "my allergies," etc. you actually
command, or lay claim to the manifestation of that which you are calling
yours. Instead, refer to the health condition you are experiencing as, "the
cancer," "the problem with these eyes," "the varicose veins." Or, simply say,
"This person is experiencing a sore throat."

I had a friend who was continually saying, "The words we use, use us." She
drew my attention to the words I used that didn't truly express what I meant
to say. After being reminded over and over again, she ulti-

mately convinced me that I was not thinking about—or aware of—what I

was saying. I was mindlessly using words out of mere habit. So, I decided
to be more alert and vigilant in my speech and to say what I meant and
mean what I said. This was a distinctly different experience for me. I
actually began hearing how I talked for the first time in my life. My goal
has been, since then, to be more succinct with the words I use in my
communication.

Someone else I knew was always saying, "It nearly killed me," or "That just
kills me." Then my response to her would be, "Please don't let it kill you."
You've heard the expression, "I'm dying to see you." Another friend said
this quite often. Again, I would say, "Please don't die," and I wasn't saying it
to be funny, but I would say it in a humorous manner so as not to offend. At
first, when I would comment or mirror back to them what they had said,
these friends would look at me with a start, as if to ask, "Did I really say
that?"

When bringing my friends' attention to the words they had just used, they
quickly grasped and understood the message. They also knew there was no
harm intended.
Many people stand in amazement when they realize how they talk, once
they listen to what they say. Everyone willingly admits they didn't really
mean what they said, ("It nearly killed me!") . . . it's just a figure of speech.
Usually they will smile, correct themselves and finish what they were
communicating—being a little more aware in their choice of words.
Unfailingly, they will express appreciation for someone bringing their
attention to their mindless words so they can be more aware of their own
inner and outer communication.

At first, when we become mindful of the words we speak, it helps to have

someone point out our slips of the tongue—our incongruencies.

Have you ever noticed how people use so many negative words to express
positive feelings in communicating? For instance: When a person really
wants something, they will habitually say, "I want it so BADLY, I can
almost taste it!" This could cause you to wonder if the

negative cancels out the positive of the statement. Instead of using the word
badly, perhaps a more concise way to say it is, "I want it so MUCH."

Develop the habit of listening to what you say. And whenever you

feel to say, "I am ," be prudent, aware and mindful,

because "I am" is extremely powerful. Be certain that that which you
choose to manifest or come into your life, BE exactly what you desire when
you say, "I am ."

An example: If you could not comprehend what someone was discussing or

talking about, instead of saying, "I'm so stupid!" (whether to yourself or
aloud), say, instead, "It's not like me to miss details like that," or, "I'm
usually smarter than that."

A relative of mine repeatedly said, "I don't understand, I don't understand."

And you know what? Eventually he became very confused when someone
would explain something to him, until it became more and more difficult
for him to understand new information. He was rudely awakened when he
realized what he had been programming himself to do. "I don't understand"
had registered inside him so strongly that his mind responded to what he
kept telling himself!

Can you see how this principle affects us all?

It would be advisable to keep in mind that EVERY WORD HAS A

VIBRATORY ENERGY; therefore, it has power! And depending on the
negativity or the positivity of the word(s), every word that leaves our mouth
will have an effect for truth or for error, for good or for bad, for light or for
darkness. Which side of the coin do we wish to represent on a daily basis?

In a real sense, when we use words to express ourselves that do not convey
the message of our true intent, we are lying. We are being untruthful, false
and deceitful (as lying is defined in the dictionary). Here again, our body's
intelligence knows when truth is not honored and spoken. Conflict and
imbalance occurs in the electrical system of our body when we use words to
express ourselves that don't actually mean

what we are saying and truly feeling. We literally short-circuit the electrical
energy in our body, and the DNA becomes confused because it is receiving
garbled messages.

How do we, as human Beings, face the challenge of expressing our true
feelings verbally and non-verbally?

According to the book, The Day America Told the Truth, James Patterson
and Peter Kim report that 91 %, or, nine out of ten Americans lie regularly.

Where do we, as individuals, fall statistically? Are we one of the 91% or the
9%? Each person must answer this question for himself. But, how truthful
are we going to be when we do answer?

A further breakdown of the authors' statistics indicate that:

86% of the people lie to their parents 75% of the people lie to their friends
73% of the people lie to their siblings 69% of the people lie to their lovers
61% of the people lie to their boss 59% of the people lie to their children
What a calamity! These statistics indicate a very serious deterioration of the
moral fiber of America. What happened to integrity? Has it become a word
without a meaning?

William Shakespeare counseled us most wisely when he said, "To thine

own self be true." When we are true to ourselves then it is easy to be true to
others.

One can see how important it is to become more vigilant where our true
feelings, thoughts and words are concerned.

Speaking of words, the offensive and shocking words used in the movies
and on the airwaves today could cause us much concern. Why? Let us recall
that thoughts create thought fields which can be very powerful (for good or
for ill). And . . . before we say a word, we have a thought, fleeting though it
may be. When thoughts are expressed in

words, the thought becomes even more powerful because the thought has
also been released as an audible vibration, which then creates a
compounded effect of the thought. When this energy has been released out
there in the ethers of the air, does it have an affect on humankind?
Absolutely! How important then, is the quality of our words?

Remember when people used to express themselves adequately without

resorting to language that is sordid and foul (which is so prevalent in our
Western society today)? Oh, that we could return to purer thoughts and
purer words.

The following Biblical references remind us of how important it is to be

mindful of each word we speak:

Proverbs 12:18

There is that speaketh like the piercings of a sword: but the tongue of the
wise is health.

Proverbs 13:2
A man shall eat good by the fruit of his mouth: but the soul of the
transgressors shall eat violence.

Proverbs 13:3

He that keepeth his mouth keepeth his life: but he that openeth wide his lips
shall have destruction.

Proverbs 16:24

Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the
bones.

Proverbs 18:7

A fool's mouth is his destruction and his lips are the snare of his soul.

Proverbs 18:21

Death and life are in the power of the tongue.

"Feelings Buried Alive Never Die... "

Proverbs 21:23

Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue keepeth his soul from troubles.

Eph. 4:29

Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is
good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.

James 3:6

And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our
members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of
nature;

James 3:8
But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.

James 3:10

Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these
things ought not so to be.

Author Unknown - "Profanity indicates poverty of intellect."

Feelings precipitate thoughts. Thoughts precipitate words.

If we understood ... if we were fully and genuinely aware of the far reaching
consequences the words we use have on and in our lives, as well as the lives
of those we come in contact with, we would assuredly—beyond question—
want to be influential in affecting a reversal of this condition in our society
today.

Chapter 20

A More Harmonious Be-ing

In Chapter Two we discussed a few Natural Laws and how they influence
our lives. We learned that regardless of our awareness of natural laws, we
suffer natural consequences if we break a law. In like manner, when we
observe a natural law, we reap the benefits and enjoy the positive effects of
that law in our lives. (The Law of Cause and Effect.)

In accordance with the laws of Nature (God's laws), certain feelings affect
particular parts of our body or aspects of our life. When we suffer physical,
mental or emotional pain of any kind, it's our body's way of getting our
attention to let us know there is imbalance of some kind in our life . . . there
is disharmony in the body's energies. We are out of sync with God's laws ...
the laws of Nature. God talks to us through our body. Anytime a natural law
is disobeyed—like holding onto resentment or not forgiving, for instance—
it is possible that we could experience kidney problems.

Franz Alexander, the father of psychosomatic medicine, recognized over

forty years ago: "There is much evidence that, just as certain pathological
microorganisms have a specific affinity for certain organs, so also certain
emotional conflicts possess specificities and accordingly tend to afflict
certain internal organs." (Love, Medicine and Miracles, Dr. Bernie Siegel)

Each emotion releases a different hormonal chemical into the body. For
example, with the emotion of fear for our life—fight or flight —ACTH is
released into the bloodstream to assist us in the challenge we are
momentarily facing, and propels us into an action that helps preserve our
life. Research further indicates that each feeling/emotion creates tears of a
different chemical composition. This is why it feels so good to cry when we
feel some of the feelings we do. So, contrary to what some people think,
tears are important. Crying literally serves to relieve the stress that is caused
by an over-abundance of chemicals created by a particular feeling. Never
apologize for crying or shedding tears. We service our health as well as our
emotions when we cry.

The chemical present in our tears during a particular emotion, is

simultaneously present in other parts of our body. A prolonged negative
feeling of any kind can cause a continual chemical emission that eventually
brings about a chemical imbalance in our body. This can subsequently lead
to illness. Nevertheless, feelings and emotions are absolutely necessary in
our lives . . . they help us survive. It's the continual suppression of
unresolved feelings/emotions that cause the problems we experience in our
lives. And, the feelings that are buried—that haven't been resolved—
continue to govern our thoughts and beliefs.

Is it just a coincidence you get a sore throat, have a liver problem, cancer,
diabetes, or anything else you may happen to have? I think not. The laws
that govern the proper functioning of your body parts have been broken.
Whether it be the laws of good nutrition, the laws of physical maintenance,
the laws of correct thinking, the laws of appropriate feelings, the law of "do
unto others." Regardless of what the problem is, the problem is there
because of broken laws which, in turn, have created imbalance and
inharmonious vibrations within your body.

In his book, Quantum Healing, Dr. Chopra gives further clarification of this
principle:
Many people still think that the nerves work electrically, like a telegraph
system, because until fifteen years ago, that is what medical texts
contended. However, in the 1970's a series of important discoveries began,
centering on a new class of minute chemicals called neuro-transmitters. As
their name implies, these chemicals transmit nerve impulses; they act in our
bodies as 'communicator molecules,' whereby the neurons of the brain can
talk to the rest of the body.

Neuro-transmitters are the runners that race to and from the brain telling
every organ inside us of our emotions, desires, memories, intuitions, and
dreams. None of these events are confined to the brain alone. Likewise,
none of them are strictly mental, since they can be coded into chemical
messages. Neuro-transmitters touch the life of every cell. Wherever a
thought wants to go, these chemicals must go too, and without them, no
thoughts can exist. To think is to practice brain chemistry, promoting a
cascade of responses throughout the body.

Dr. Chopra continues:

... the mind and body are like parallel universes. Anything that happens in
the mental universe must leave tracks in the physical one . . . your body is
the physical picture, in 3-D, of what you are thinking. We don't see our
bodies as projected thoughts because many physical changes that thinking
causes are un-noticeable. They involve minute alterations of cell chemistry,
body temperature, electrical charge, blood pressure, and so on, which do not
register on our focus of attention. You can be assured, however, that the
body is fluid enough to mirror any mental event. Nothing can move without
moving the whole.

The latest discoveries in neuro-biology build an even stronger case for the
parallel universes of mind and body. When researchers looked further,
beyond the nervous system and the immune system, they began to discover
the same neuro-pep-

tides and receptors for them in other organs, such as the intestines, kidneys,
stomach, and heart. There is every expectation of finding them elsewhere,
too. This means that your kidneys can 'think,' in the sense that they can
produce the identical neuro-peptides found in the brain. Their receptor sites
are not simply sticky patches. They are questions waiting for answers,
framed in the language of the chemical universe. It is very likely that if we
had the whole dictionary and not just our few scraps, we would find that
every cell speaks as fluently as we do.

Dr. Candace Pert, one of the most progressive and accomplished

researchers in the field of brain chemistry and director of the brain
biochemistry division at the National Institute of Mental Health, refers to
the entire mind-body system as a network of information. Dr. Pert feels that
we cannot separate the mind and the body, and prefers to use one term for
both—BODYMIND.

Dr. Chopra states: "It has now been absolutely proved that the same neuro-
chemicals influence the whole bodymind. Everything is interconnected at
the level of the neuro-peptide; therefore, to separate these areas is simply
bad science." He also tells us that the human brain changes its thoughts into
thousands of chemicals every second. We may do well to ask ourselves if
the chemicals we are creating are healthy or unhealthy chemicals.

Perhaps a more meaningful question at this point is, "Do I want to change
the construction or design of my life?" If the answer is "yes", you will be
encouraged and motivated to know that reconstruction with a new design is
entirely possible! You CAN be in control of your life. By becoming more
conscious and mindful of your feelings and thoughts, then, by using your
new tool —the Script, all of this is possible. You CAN change the
undesirable causes in your life. You CAN bring desired effects to your life.
YOU are the one who determines the outcome of each day. YOU are the
master of your destiny—your Soul.

Now that you have the Script as a vehicle with which to change your
inharmonious vibrations into a more harmonious state of Be-ing— consider
supporting this process by including in your daily living the following:

1. Eat nutritious foods. Eat an abundance of complex carbohydrates; fruits,

vegetables and whole grains. Low fat and very low refined carbohydrates.
Avoid overeating.

2. Drink plenty of water—eight or more glasses a day.

3. Consistently participate in some form of exercise at least four days a
week, 20-30 minutes a day.

4. Take a good source of minerals. Minerals are the catalyst to the spirit.
They provide the electrolytes (turn on the electrical energy).

5. Eliminate foreign or deleterious substances from your body that are

known to be detrimental; i.e. alcohol, drugs, tobacco, etc.

And why are the foregoing guidelines important? Let's think of each cell in
our body operating as though it were a miniature power-plant. The DNA is
the intelligence—the receptor of light, or the supervisor of the powerplant
(the cell).

Under normal circumstances, when the cell receives fuel or substances that
are in harmony with mother nature, the receptor of light (DNA) embraces
this positive energy, synthesizes it to full advantage and continues to
produce it's own life supporting and life enhancing energies from the
harmonious fuel it receives. The cell (powerplant) responds positively and
continues to operate and function to it's full potential.

When foreign substances such as alcohol, drugs, tobacco or other

deleterious substances are used by a person, mass confusion is created in
the DNA, because these substances are not in harmony or compatible with
the cell. Little by little, due to this incompatibility each time these negative
energies are used by the body, they shut down the receptors of

light in the DNA, which then allows darkness or confusion to enter.

Eventually, after layers of inharmonious energy is impacted over the DNA,
darkness takes hold and totally covers the memory of perfection in the cell.
The electrical system of the cell (powerplant) will eventually function
without order. Compound this by adding all the cells of the body together.
The edifice that houses the cells then turns into chaos with disfunctioning
cells throughout the body as a result.

For these same reasons you can comprehend why it is so important to feel
positive feelings, to think positive thoughts, to use positive words and to eat
correct foods. The powerplant must be stoked with appropriate energy in
order for the cells to receive correct information and to receive light.

By incorporating the foregoing five suggestions into your life, and

processing your feelings through the Script, you can bring your body into a
more balanced and harmonious state of well Be-ing. You can also refurbish
and accelerate the efficiency of your power plant.

If you are presently involved in an exercise program and are participating in

a good nutritional regimen, you've undoubtedly seen the positive results that
come from doing this. Now, dealing with your feelings will be an added
benefit for you in bringing your body into an even more balanced state. Just
keep in mind that all these things work together for your good—for a
happier, healthier, and more harmonious Be-ing.

Wherever you are in your quest for peace, personal balance and harmony,
remember, you are a five-dimensional Be-ing. As you participate in
eliminating your negative feelings and resultant blocks, you are healing the
Emotional and the Spiritual aspects of your life. However, at the same time
you are accomplishing an Emotional and Spiritual healing, you are also
facilitating the Physical, the Social and the Mental aspects of your life. The
healing that automatically occurs in each area of your life just by
concentrating on resolving your feelings, will naturally bring you closer and
closer to wellness, wholeness, and balance.

Allow and give yourself every advantage on your road to becoming whole
and complete. Use whatever is available to further assist you in your
reconstruction and new design; food, supplements, exercise and beautiful
music. Yes, music is extremely important. (But that's a whole other subject.)
Suffice it to say, you'll want to listen to music that brings peace and
tranquility to your soul in order to support your combined efforts. And you
will also want to wear and surround yourself with harmonious colors.
(Which is another wonderful subject!)

Chapter 21

Freeing The Soul

When we enter this sphere of existence, each one of us is innately blessed
with our own power. Some people may think of power in a negative sense,
but for our purposes here, power, as described in the dictionary in the
positive sense of the word is: "Ability to act; capability. Potential capacity.
Great or telling force or effect."

How we choose to use this power —this aptitude for genius and fulfillment
we all have been given—determines our capacity to function in life;
determines the effects in our lives; determines our sense of well-being or
not so well-being. Our FEELINGS, THOUGHTS and EMOTIONS are
what influence the application or use of this power.

When we utilize our power in observance of Universal Laws, we preserve

our own power. And, when we break a Universal Law—where our own
power is concerned—or when we allow others to usurp or sap our power
from us, we lose that power. This leaves us handicapped, crippled and
impotent. In other words, we become helpless in effectively directing the
outcome of our own day to day living.

Let me give an example to illustrate what I mean: In a seminar setting

where deep personal issues were examined very closely, a married couple,
desirous of working out some of their issues, were participating. At one
point the husband wanted his wife to participate in a role playing situation
that would help her find what her belief was in one area of

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her life. She was being very resistant to becoming involved in this little
exercise, but could understand that it would undoubtedly be very beneficial
to her.

He cajoled, persuaded and insisted that she do this. She was particularly
resistant at first, but finally made her decision. Turning to her husband, this
is what she said, "I'm going to do this, but I want you to understand that it's
NOT because you want me to. It's because I CHOOSE to. I can see the
benefits I would receive, and so I'm doing it because I DESIRE the benefits
... and for no other reason!" She kept her power by making the decision to
do it for her own growth experience, even though it was going to be
uncomfortable going through it. This was her choice. And because it was
her choice, she kept her power.

How do we break the laws that cause our loss of power on a day to day
basis? The laws are broken when we allow another person to interfere,
control or manipulate us or our life against our will. Likewise, if we try to
interfere, control or manipulate another person's life or circumstances
against their will—and they allow it—we rob them of their power, which
renders them powerless to be who and what they came here to be.

As a parent, have you ever imposed your will over your child's willl This is
one of the most devastating things we can do to a child (or anyone, for that
matter). When a child has to give up his/her will to a parent, a part of their
soul is violated. It's true that children need to learn to be obedient, but if you
are involved in a situation with a child that turns into a power struggle—
where you feel you've GOT to have control—be assured that no one will
win, even if you break the child's will. (This can also happen between
husband and wife, teacher and student, employer and employee, etc.) If you
break a person's will, you rob them of the most valuable gift they possess.
When this happens, it's as if their integrity, their soul has been ripped from
them. And it's impossible to measure the devastation it causes or the
lifetime scars it creates in an individual.

I believe that when a person is raped physically or raped emotionally, this is

exactly what happens—their will is literally ripped from them. And this is
one of the reasons most rape victims have such a difficult time healing.
How do they get back their will, after it has so forcibly been taken from
them? Usually, this is a difficult process.

Then there are the races, the groups of people who have had this done to
them on a larger scale. All we have to do is look at history and recount the
millions of people who have been captured, tortured, forced at gun point
and made to submit to another's will, to recollect man's inhumanity to man.
Could this treatment be part of the cause of so much hatred and so much
prejudice? How many people are crying from their graves for justice to be
served in their behalf? When can a healing be realized? If you are the
descendent of any of these kinds of victims, put yourself in their place to
feel what they may have felt. Then go through the Script for those feelings.
The results may surprise you. In a way, you can affect a healing for them.

Once someone's will is gone, they are like a boat without a rudder. Not that
they can't function, but they just don't have the direction they had while
their "will" was still intact.

For you who feel someone has robbed you of your will, claim it back! Just
go through the Script, stating at the beginning, "Spirit, please locate the
origin of the feelings that were created in me when I unknowingly allowed
my will to be taken." Continue through the remaining Script and replace the
negative with the positive, "I choose claiming back my will. I forgive the
person who robbed me of my will. I forgive myself for it happening. I now
claim back my will and am grateful for its return. I choose functioning with
my will intact from this day forward. I feel myself functioning with my will
intact. I AM allowing my will to thrive once again in my Soul." Then
complete the Script.

Have you ever known parents who thought they were supposed to run their
child's life even after the child had left home and been on his own for
several years? I knew a young man, David, who was a very obe-

dient and dutiful son—always desirous of pleasing his parents. The parents'
love and acceptance of David was a conditional love, however (meaning—
they would love and accept him—IF he did what they dictated), so
naturally, he was trained that he must always follow their instructions in
order to maintain their love and acceptance. David was very cooperative in
doing exactly what his parents wanted him to do concerning his schooling
and preparation for a future career—as well as every other aspect of his life.
He seemed to be anxious and on edge much of the time, but he was still
very pleasant to be around.

One of David's characteristics that intrigued me was his stuttering. He didn't

stutter all the time—only occasionally. The stuttering was especially
noticeable when he talked to his parents on the telephone or got excited. I
couldn't help but wonder if David's stuttering was triggered by an anxiety to
please his parents. (I have since learned that one of the emotional causes of
stuttering is "wanting to protest, but dares not.")
There finally came a point in David's life when he asserted his
independence and took over his own life—he completely defied his parents
on a major issue. David's parents practically disowned him and rarely
communicated with him for about a year. To begin with, he was at a loss,
because for the first time in his life he was making his own decisions
without any input from his parents.

It was fascinating to watch David try to find his own identity. With the help
of a friend who totally allowed him to be himself and imposed no
conditions on their friendship—extending unconditional acceptance—
David began to realize his unique capabilities and strengths. As he gained
confidence in his ability to make correct choices, David claimed back his
power by not allowing anyone to run his life! He eventually outgrew the
stuttering and has continued admirably to direct and manage his own
affairs. I might add, David's parents eventually recognized his ability to
wisely govern his life and they now allow him his individuality.

Another way we break laws and surrender our power is by allowing

someone or something to make us angry, irritated, bitter, resentful, or any
other negative feeling. The feelings we hang onto and don't resolve will
create, to some degree, a loss of our power. And where does this power go?

Some of us give our power away by simply feeling responsible to keep

peace at all costs, and this usually costs us our power. We end up
swallowing or burying our feelings just to keep peace, when our goal and
challenge is to communicate what we are feeling in a mature, non-
threatening and non-accusing manner.

Accomplishing this may require us to confront and monitor ourselves. By

so doing, we could eventually become experts in the language of feelings,
which is the most difficult and misunderstood language there is on the face
of the earth! Nevertheless, communicate we must!

Many people, when expressing themselves in a confrontive situation, come

from feelings of hostility, anger, bitterness, pride, hurt, resentment or
worthlessness. They don't necessarily understand their own motivation for
what they say, why they say it, and how they say it. In an attempt to express
what they are feeling, they usually say the first thing that pops into their
mind. When this happens, the true picture of what's going on inside a
person is seldom communicated adequately or correctly.

The person who is listening to another's attempt to communicate has their

own perception of the situation being discussed, so their attitude may be,
"Someone has to win and someone has to lose in this exchange (the need to
be right), and, by darn, it's not going to be me who loses," or, "I'm not
giving in."

We are so busy trying to put over our point of view to the other person in
hopes they will understand what we are talking about—so they can feel
what we're feeling—that a true awareness, understanding, comprehension,
or exchange is rarely accomplished.

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If we, as human Be-ings, have a sincere desire to eliminate this kind of an

impasse, we will always practice coming from a position of no blame and
no judgment. We will extend our unconditional love and understanding at
all times toward others. We will listen with interest-in calm and peace—and
be willing to put ourselves in the other person's shoes. We will do our best
to see through the other person's eyes.

One of the greatest benefits we will enjoy when we come from the posture
of love and understanding—rather than blame and judgment— is the gift of
maintaining our own power. At the same time, this then allows others to do
likewise.

When we become involved in an issue (argument, disagreement, emotional

tirade) and are putting our entire energy into winning, that issue rules us and
takes our power. So, while we are participating in that issue, we are in
literal bondage. And, if we feel a person has gotten the best of us ... that we
are defeated, and yet we continue to hang onto any negative feelings
concerning that issue, our power is still neutralized.

If we don't want our power neutralized, we will let go of the entire issue and
all the feelings surrounding it. At this point, we would do well to ask
ourselves, "In the final analysis, what difference does it make, anyway?"
If we feel that we have won the issue, but the other person is upset about the
whole exchange, their power is neutralized. And when a negative situation
is not resolved by both or all participants involved— when there are still
festering feelings—the energy created by that situation is misplaced
(misplaced because it does not belong) ... it stops progress.

Nevertheless, that energy resides in, and is a definite part of, the thought
field of each person involved, creating a literal barrier between the two (or
more) people—as documented with Kurlian photography in the book, The
Body Electric, by Thelma Moss, Ph.D.

The negative energy created by this kind of situation connects and links
these people together. It's as if they are having a tug of war with a

rope, but neither one of them can let go. This negative energy is continually
with them like a thick cord, connecting them—with a big barrier in
between. This energy literally holds these two (or more) people back and
keeps them from progressing.

Misplaced energy is also like a negative vapor that is endlessly present with
the people involved, contributing to personal negativity and confusion
which restricts and blocks their good and their moving forward in life. The
individual power of the two people in this negative energy exchange is
subsequently sapped and drained.

If you have had several of these exchanges with other people throughout
your life that remain unresolved, your power is incessantly being drained
from you. This gives you a clearer understanding of why it is so important
to resolve any issues or negative feelings you now have or have had with
anyone. (We DO want to operate with our own, full power, don't we?)

How can a person accomplish this? Process unresolved issues you have
with anyone that stands out in your mind, using the Script. Feelings of
resentment, hostility, animosity, anger, bitterness or pride are often the
culprits that stifle, suffocate, smother, choke, restrain and limit you. When
these feelings have not been resolved, they are deeply buried (seeded) and
entrenched inside you—having some kind of impact on you, whether you
recognize it or not. If they haven't already caused some recognizable
problems in your life, eventually they will. Don't stop with just the feelings
mentioned (resentment, hostility, animosity, anger, bitterness or pride).
Discover any others you might have.

Even though we think we want to operate at our full power and potential,
often we allow resentment, bitterness or our natural prideful nature to
interfere with this desire. If we feel we have been unjustly treated or
maligned, but have felt helpless to do anything about it—have been unable
to resolve the situation—do we allow bitterness to creep into our Be-ing?
The longer the situation goes unresolved, the more the resentment and
bitterness festers and grows, thereby becoming a bigger,

deeper, and more powerful energy. Eventually this energy can become all-
consuming and even obsessive—motivating our every thought and action.
(How unfortunate.)

Rather than going to the person(s) who has supposedly been the cause—as
you see it—of creating your resentment or bitterness and resolving it, do
you just keep hanging on to it?

Some people in this scenario may feel it would show a sign of weakness to
approach the party with whom they were in conflict and ask for a resolution
of the situation. At this point, pride is added to resentment and bitterness.
And, pride can be SO great in some people that they would rather DIE than
to seek forgiveness of, or give forgiveness to the offending or offended
person. What does this accomplish? Just a lot of negativity that is extremely
counter-productive and impedes our growth.

Pride, in this regard, denotes an unwarranted sense of one's own superiority

(as defined in the dictionary). But pride often creates a wall between parents
and children; children and parents; brothers and sisters; aunts and uncles;
nieces and nephews; cousins; friends; employer and employee; co-workers,
etc. In other words, walls are created in all human relationships. And yet,
many people CHOOSE to function this way. Sometimes pride keeps loved
ones apart for decades and creates animosity for generations. For what
purpose? To be RIGHT? To satisfy the EGO—Edging God Out? How
unfortunate, because all we are doing is sabotaging ourselves. Think of the
wasted years; the joy and happiness that has been missed; the lack of inner
peace; the unfulfilled dreams.

Negative feelings of any description, either felt by you or directed toward

you or toward anyone else (knowingly or unknowingly), need to be
resolved immediately. "Total unconditional forgiveness" and "unconditional
love" are two of the most powerful solvents as positive feelings you can use
to replace the old negative feelings in the Script.

Heighten your awareness in all phases of your life. As you become more
conscious of what you are feeling, what you are thinking, what

you are saying and what you are doing, you will experience how heightened
awareness facilitates results. And as you begin seeing and feeling results
you will have a greater appreciation for how extremely important your
feelings, your thoughts, your words and your actions are to your well Be-
ing. Your feelings and thoughts can bring you peace and joy or misery and
unhappiness. And the beautiful part is .. . the choice is yours. All that is
necessary is for you to become more consciously aware.

There are many references in the Bible that underlie the importance of our
being mindful of our thoughts. My favorite is: 2 Corinthians 10:5: "Casting
down imaginations . . . and bringing into captivity every thought to the
obedience of Christ."

Avoid the wild imaginings your thoughts can create in you (as illustrated in
the story about your boss requesting your presence in his office), and bring
each thought you have into alignment with what Christ taught.

You will find that as you become more and more aware, observant, and alert
to your challenges as they occur, and see them for the opportunities and
gifts they are—opportunities for growth—you will want to give thanks for
them, otherwise your growth will be empty and void. GIVE THANKS IN
ALL THINGS because JOY is preceded by GRATITUDE. And, as it says in
the scriptures, "Man is, that he might have joy." Have you experienced a
fullness of joy yet?
When you allow balance, harmony and order to enter your life by
transforming negative vibrations into positive vibrations, joy will
accompany your harmony in unlimited abundance. This joy, harmony and
balance is at your fingertips. Make a commitment to yourself to:

□ 1. Become aware/mindful/conscious of your feelings,

thoughts, emotions, words and actions.

Let go of blame and judgment.

Let go of force and control.

Sincerely forgive the past (everyone and everything,

including yourself) and let go of it.

Resolve all resentment, bitterness and pride.

Love without putting conditions on that love (again,

including yourself).

Recognize that everyone is perfect the way they are."

Accept responsibility and accountability for self.

Quit resisting. I | 10. Quit denying. I | 11. Give thanks in ALL things ... be
grateful for the

challenges and the pain! (It gets your attention to let

you know you're out of balance.) I | 12. Be excited about getting to know
the REAL you. 13. Utilize the "Script" on a consistent daily basis. | 14. Pray
to God to have Him assist you in your efforts.

By taking these steps toward a more fulfilling and satisfying life, you are
putting yourself in the position to gain control . . . where you become the
master of your life's circumstances and destiny rather than remaining a
victim.

After incorporating these principles into your daily life, it will become
evident to you that you DO have the ability to communicate the language of
feelings ... to be congruent in what you feel, think, say and do. You DO
have the ability to change your vibrations ... to uncover the memory of
perfection in your DNA so that you function from the perfect blueprint of
your Be-ing. You DO have the ability to become the master of your Soul.
You CAN keep your own power. You CAN become closer and eventually
return to your Source.

The quantum strides possible for you to make in your life will be
determined by your diligence in seeking self-awareness. In order to open
that quantum door and make the desirable changes you are anticipating,
CONSISTENCY is the "key." Don't be timid about using that "key" and
opening that door . . . thus, allowing those strides to be made.

If you ever had a desire to contribute to society ... to make a difference,

THIS is your opportunity.

By becoming acutely aware of your own feelings and changing the

undesirable ones to desirable ones, you will be contributing to the
establishment of a more humane and a more genuinely caring society.

It would please me to learn of your experiences in utilizing the Script in

your life. Keep in mind that as you use it, you are on a journey—you are in
a process—an on-going process. My hope is that its application in your life
will assist you in accomplishing your goals and your desires. May the
quality of your life improve beyond your fondest dreams.

May your ability to communicate the language of feelings become one of

your greatest assets. May your efforts uncover your True and Glorious Self.
May your endeavors be rewarded with peace, love, joy, success and genuine
fulfillment!

Prayer
by

St. Francis of Assist

Lord, make me an instrument of Thy peace.

Where there is hatred, let me sow love.

Where there is injury, pardon.

Where there is doubt, faith.

Where there is despair, hope.

Where there is darkness, light.

Where there is sadness, joy.

Oh, Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek,

To be consoled, as to console.

To be understood, as to understand.

To be loved, as to love.

For it is in giving, that we receive.

It is in pardoning, that we are pardoned.

It is in dying [the false self], that we are born

To Eternal Life

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About The Author

Karol K. Truman is a practicing therapist and Spiritual healer. She is
dedicated to assisting people achieve emotional and spiritual well-being
through resolving and healing their "core issues." In her book, Feelings
Buried Alive Never Die . . . (over 150,000 copies sold), she addresses the
importance of resolving "buried" feelings, and introduces the concept of
"Scripting."

Mrs. Truman is an accomplished pianist and music instructor, having taught

piano—until she started writing books—since she was a young teen-ager.

Thirty-eight years ago, the author started asking the question, "WHY?" She
began searching for the cause of a particular health challenge. This first led
her to an in-depth study of nutrition and weight control. Karol was later
made aware of the importance of exercise and the role it plays in our well-
being. This resulted in her, her husband and partners pioneering the mini-
trampoline industry; manufacturing and distributing them world-wide. The
subject of her first book addresses the

benefits of rebound exercise. This book, Looking Good Feeling Great, was
published in 1983.

Eventually, however, it became apparent to Karol that physical health was

inextricably linked to emotional and even spiritual health. Recognizing this,
Ms. Truman bacame involved in the ever-deepening study of the Laws of
Cause and Effect—the principles that govern transformational healing and
growth. Along with extensive and exhaustive research and study, she has
also participated in numerous conferences, classes, seminars and
workshops.

FEELINGS BURIED ALIVE NEVER DIE . . . is a partial compilation of

the answers she found to the "WHYS."

In her most recent book, Healing Feelings . . . From Your Heart, Karol
shares the wealth of knowledge and experience gained from her Feelings . .
. Seminars, and from the thousands of individuals she has counseled since
publication of Feelings Buried Alive Never Die ....

Other Resources

While the author feels that the "Script" and dealing with the core issues of
our feelings is one of the most effective paths to health and improved Self-
—there are some other tools she recommends to her clients, the following
being two of them.

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To view Mrs. Truman's classes and speaking schedule please see

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"frequency." Clinical research shows that essential oils have the highest
frequency of any substance known to man—creating an environment in
which disease, bacteria, viruses etc., cannot live. There are some single oils
that have been blended to facilitate emotional healing— such as 'Joy'—
which can assist in changing undesirable feelings of disharmony, stress,
anger, lack of love for self, etc..

For more information on 100% pure therapeutic-grade Essential Oils,

please visit www.HealingFeelings.com or call 800-531-3180.

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