I'd happily be friends with someone who draws their Sona fatter than their actual body because they feel euphoric and hot over it than someone who polices people about their self expression and desires towards fat bodies.
"ohhhh but this might be fat fetish ough ough"
yeah! thank you for reinforcing the dehumanization of fat people by basically admitting that being attracted to non skinny bodies is inherently a fetish no matter what instead of like, a preference...
and even if someone did fetishize and fantasize over bodies like mine or bigger than absolutely good for them because I'm at least desirable in someone's eyes and not people who police my or others sexuality wrapped in liberal speak.
the amount of people who claim my art is fat fetish art covered up with body positivity speak and that I'm not truly fat is insane because they cannot grasp the idea of fat people being viewed as sexy and wanted for their body without pearl clutching.
they try to be advocates for fat people but in reality they are extremely performative and are disgusted by fat bodies because of their own dysmorphia and trauma or internalized bigotry/fatphobia.
You've just very eloquently put into words something I've always had an issue with when people talk about fat "fetish" art or people who prefer fat bodies. I've never once seen anyone who draws/enjoys, for instance, muscle fetish art be criticized for their enjoyment of that body type, but make that a fat person and suddenly it's a gross and horrible fetish. Hmm, I wonder why that is? Also, what about art/content of people with just average bodies, or bodies skinnier then average, were are the people decrying that as a fetish?
As someone with a fat body (a body I've had since I was young, a body that will never be anything less then fat, a body I've had to relentlessly teach myself to love) I've always found fat "fetish" art comforting. People are out there who love my body, so why shouldn't I, you know? Hell, people might call ME a fat fetishist, since I love a nice fat body to cuddle and kiss, even though I myself am fat.
I have no doubt that there are fat people out there who dislike fat "fetish" content, and they're allowed to feel that way. It doesn't mean that's the only way to feel, and it's very suspicious that this is the cry that most skinny people take up instead of the many of us who don't care about or even, God forbid, like this content.
It's very stupid you are getting this criticism, and I'm sorry you have to endure it.
