Doritos Roulette Memorial

sure cats 2019 is an abomination unto the lord and should never have existed, but I don’t think any of you were prepared for the absolute hell that would have been unleashed on us all if it had been good. there would have been catsonas. there would have been so much nsfw cats fanart. a dangerous rift in the veil between furries and non-furries would have been created with no way to seal it again. there would have been new and terrible kinds of discourse we’ve never even seen before and now mercifully never will.

this was for the best.

sometimes - very rarely yes but sometimes - we’re reminded this isn’t the absolute worst timeline

"i would die for you" this, "i'd walk through fire for you that"

what about "i'd live for you" romances? what about "i never thought i'd be worth the work it would take to piece myself together"?

what about "i don't believe i'm worth it, but for you i'll try"

"he was twisted, crooked, wrong, but not so broken that he couldn't pull himself together into some semblance of a man for her"

OOF THAT LAST LINE DIDN'T HAVE TO SNAP SO HARD

A little girl in my 4th grade class came up to me after recess and said, “I got married at recess!” and I said “Oh? I didn’t know anyone was ordained under the age of twelve.” and she asked me what ordained meant and I explained and then she said “Oh, well, no, my wife and I were married by the slide, but we’ll be happy together anyway.”

So apparently on school playgrounds, slides are already legalizing same-sex marriage.

They warned us it would be a slippery slope.

The worst thing I’ve laughed at all week

I’ve seen this almost a month ago and to this day this day I have yet to recover

This is honest to god the funniest thing I have ever seen in my entire life

This 1️⃣ goes out to all the horny 💏 couples out there who are thinking 🤔 of getting rowdy 🔞 this 💌Valentines💮 day evening: 👍 👎DO ❌️ NOT👍 👎 If you do your child 🧒 will be born 👏 a ♏SCORPIO♏ Now, why ❓️ don’t ❌️ we like Scorpio's♏? For starters, “Scorpio” has 7️⃣ letters 🔠. 7️⃣ letters 🔠: 7️⃣ deadly ☠️ sins ✝️ 🙅‍♀ Now, what are the 7️⃣ deadly ☠️ sins? Wrath, Sloth, Gluttony, Envy 👏👏 Envy is associated with the color GREEN 💚 What else is green 💚? Marijuana. Just 1️⃣ more pothead in the world 🗺️. LAME. Now where is pot 🍲 legal? Canada 🇨🇦, Washington, Colorado, Oregon, Alaska, airplane ✈️ bathrooms if the pilot’s 👨‍✈️ chill. And where can 🥫 planes ✈️ take you? California 🕶. And what’s on California’s state flag 🚩? A BEAR 🐻. Your child 🧒. Is gay 👨‍❤️‍👨.

World Heritage Post

Guys what if tumblr was a university

every time people wake up and realize that wearing red eyeshadow is cool again i always see all these articles and tutorials that are like "how to wear red eyeshadow so you don't look like you just crawled out of your own grave" and i'm honestly shocked and appalled because if that's not the look you're going for then what is even the point

there's no "skill" or "technique" to wearing red eyeshadow okay you just smear that shit all over your eyelids with your fingers or a brush you bought at the dollar store if you're feeling especially luxurious like god and gerard way intended

Just woke up from the anesthesia and the doctors put maraca beads in my balls as a prank. they didn’t even fix my appendix

no gratitude at all

Yo dude check this out tho *zip* *shhhchk schhhchk shhhchk shhhchk shhhchk shhhchk shhchk*.

Bluemink spotted a ladybug!

i n s p e c t i o n

this was nowhere NEAR what I was expecting

tumblr banned porn but i see it everyday on here this shit like alcohol in the prohibition era

i am a heron. i haev a long neck and i pick fish out of the water w/ my beak. if you dont repost this comment on 10 other pages i will fly into your kitchen tonight and make a mess of your pots and pans

Hey so did you know, that gender socialization has absolutely NOTHING to do with your actual gender identity?

If you’re AFAB, you were raised with the socializations that are given to women in your culture. If you’re AMAB, you were raised with the socializations that were given to men in your culture.

NONE OF THIS discounts or undermines your gender identity.

But saying to a trans woman “hey, maybe the fact you feel this amount of aggressive/impulsive instinct might have something to do with the people who raised you assuming you were a boy and thus teaching you the usual responses that they wanted cis boys to have? That experience MAY mean that you have a slightly different experience than AFAB people with regards to womanhood and shit.”??? if you say ANY of that, you’re somehow transphobic. Even if all you’re trying to do is start a conversation that acknowledges that some people react to things differently.

Socialization is a thing. It’s just not a thing in the way that TERFs want it to be. But bringing that socialization up does not immediately equate to TERF/radfem bullshit. And I would really like it if my fellow trans people would fucking understand that.

I’m a queer autistic trans man, and I’m here to AGREE wholeheartedly.

I am a man. Nothing changes that. But you know what? I was raised with the expectation that I was female, and that absolutely affects how I respond to situations and emotions, and even how I act!

- I apply to jobs “like a woman”, e.g. only if I’m 100% qualified (I’m working on this)

- I have a much better handle on my emotions than my cis brothers, both because I’m older and because I was expected to regulate my emotions (this is very obviously a raising thing - my stepbrother and stepfather are way worse about emotional regulation because they didn’t have my mom helping them like my brother and I did)

- I am far more physically affectionate than either of my cis brothers because “women” are socialized to be more physically affectionate

- If a customer gets mad at me, my reaction is to defer and give them what they want, rather than stand my ground

- I “see” more of the mess around the house (I take over chore assignment when Mom doesn’t have time)

- I’m very aware of the emotional state of those around me

Now. Are any of these “female” traits? No, of course not. Are these traits emphasized in me because I was “socialized” female? Yes! We absorb the expectations and reactions of people around us as we grow and change.

Does any of this make me less of a man? Shit no. I’m a man, and that’s that. But ignoring my socialization undermines who I am, how I got here, and a lot of my identity struggles. We can’t have a complete, nuanced conversation without talking about that.

TERFs, fuck off. I’m quick with the block button, and I better not see any clowning in the notes.

Socialisation/raising is such a *thing*. And it’s a weird one for me to look at, because whilst I’d say that society wanted to view me as female, I feel like there was no difference between the way me and my siblings were raised by our parents. So I can vibe with some ‘raised female’ things but in general I’d say I was raised pretty neutrally. Whilst I see some of my friends (cis and trans, male and female and not and confused) grappling with difficulties related to the gendered expectations placed on then as kids.

Like, maybe being “raised neutrally” has some impact on the way I’m like “but what is a gender, I don’t have that box” now (side note: my mum’s gender is entirely tied to motherhood. Like, for her, being a woman is so tied to having and raising kids, and that’s kinda it).

Socialisation has ties to gender from how it’s pushed on us/tied to how people view gender, but it’s definitely not tied in to what your gender/identity actually is… It’s an exciting new aspect in this puzzle we call “but who am I”.

Saw a couple people misunderstanding in the notes, so let me clarify:

Op is not saying “trans women are generally aggressive/impulsive!” What they are actually saying is that if one trans woman were to find herself struggling with aggressive/impulsive instincts, it might be helpful for her to examine the relationship between her own behavior and the way she was socialized as a child, and that to suggest such a thing is fundamentally different from TERF rhetoric because it’s about acknowledging the potential impact of the way you were raised instead of defining yourself and other people by it.

We all experience socialization. That’s literally just the word for how we learn about society and, like, internalize our “place” in it (if you take a political science course, you’ll probably learn about political socialization, which is pretty much the same thing but specifically through the lens of political views). And the way we are socialized does affect the people we become. Like, when we talk about “gifted kid syndrome,” that’s socialization playing out. We grew up being told that we were “smarter” or “better,” as well as being isolated from our more “normal” peers, and that’s affected the way we see ourselves, the way we interact with society, etc. It gets a lot more complicated than that, but this is probably as much as I’m qualified to explain.

Obviously, your agab doesn’t determine your actual gender, your personality, or anything else, really, but it does affect the way you’re socialized because of how society treats you based on your perceived gender. Not all trans women are socialized as if they were men, much less affected in the same way by that socialization, but it’s not transphobic to suggest that some of the ones who were treated as men while growing up might pick up some of the traits that treatment tends to bring out. Just like ending up in the “gifted” classes, even by mistake, would probably give anyone some of the symptoms of gifted kid syndrome, regardless of whether or not they were actually “gifted.”

Op is also not generalizing trans experiences or assuming that theirs are universal. They literally said that “some people react to things differently,” and they made it pretty clear that while socialization affects everyone, it does not affect everyone the same way. Somebody was harping on the “your culture” thing, but that’s literally just? to acknowledge??? that gender norms are different in different cultures?? and therefore the gendered aspect of your socialization depends in part upon the culture in which you were raised? Honestly idk what else y'all want from them.

Anyway, I love that these people are eager to defend trans women but like. maybe work on your critical thinking skills before you go around calling people “morons” or “practically terfs” or whatever

So uh. Yeah, all the shit I was in NO way up to dealing with or able today to boil down? This post. Right here. If you have issues with my original post? Read this. THIS IS WHAT I WAS DESPERATELY TRYING TO SAY.

And if you still have an issue with it, maybe take a look at your own bullshit before you try to harass me for what you think mine is.

Feminist fantasy is funny sometimes in how much it wants to shit on femininity for no goddamned reason. Like the whole “skirts are tools of the patriarchy made to cripple women into immobility, breeches are much better” thing.

(Let’s get it straight: Most societies over history have defaulted to skirts for everyone because you don’t have to take anything off to relieve yourself, you just have to squat down or lift your skirts and go. The main advantage of bifurcated garments is they make it easier to ride horses. But Western men wear pants so women wearing pants has become ~the universal symbol of gender equality~)

The book I’m reading literally just had its medievalesque heroine declare that peasant women wear breeches to work in the field because “You can’t swing a scythe in a skirt!”

Hm yes story checks out

peasant women definitely never did farm labour in skirts

skirts definitely mean you’re weak and fragile and can’t accomplish anything

skirts are definitely bad and will keep you from truly living life

no skirts for anyone, that’s definitely the moral of the story here

Now, a skirt that’s too long will be harder to work in–skirts brushing the floor may look elegant, but is also a tripping hazard–but that is not a problem with skirts in general, it’s a problem with that particular skirt not being suited to being worked in. Skirts are very practical. You can hike them up if you’re hot or need more freedom to maneuver (this is called “girding your loins”). If you need to carry something, you can lift up your hem and make a pouch just like the person in yellow in the bottom picture above. If you need to handle something hot, a skirt generally has enough material you can hold it out from your body to use as a hot pad. (Tight skirts were only used by people who didn’t need to work/move until the invention of elastic fabric.)

Long skirts were markers of class almost as much as gender. Both men and women in the European middle ages wore extravagantly long garments to indicate both “I’m so rich I can afford THIS MUCH fabric” and “I don’t walk in the mud, I pay servants to do that for me.”

Skirt hiking: Definitely a Thing. (Janet’s tied her kirtle green/above the knee and not below…)

Love this post, and want to add: another example of the “empowerment means shitting on feminity” is the bizarro way that this genre attacks basic survival skills like cooking and sewing as pointless, inferior or mutually exclusive with masculine pursuits (like your lady knight should probably know how to cook for herself and sew her own wounds and patch her clothes while she’s on her quest through the North to rescue her boyfriend, or this happy couple is in for a world of hurt!)

Or to quote one of my all favorite posts, “fuck women’s contribution to our survival.”

Historically, skirts have been the garment of choice for almost every culture, gender and class. Breeches, or pants, were created specifically for riding horses.

people: skirts are oppressive and inhibiting!

me: *stares in indian women working on construction sites and farms in sarees to this day*

Pants and the like are also better for chafing, and riding bicycles and motorcycles, but yeah. And since we already have pants and they’re common, I’d personally make a theoretical future just, not gender skirts/pants. Didn’t realize how practical skirts were though, thank you all!

If you were wondering: the thing that the studio doesn’t want depicted are unsafe activities a young child whose impulse control hasn’t grown in yet watching the show could feasibility imitate- not wearing a seatbelt, jumping off the garage roof with a pair of cardboard wings, throwing a proper punch at a peer etc. Because kids do imitate what they see around them as part of learning, so you don’t want to teach them something that could hurt someone or themselves until a bit more brain grows in.

Unsafe activities that are not within the scope of an elementary school student are fine- where’s a six year old going to get a missle launcher?

That genuinely answers a lot of questions I had about why kid-friendly media is as wonky as it is, and I love it.

…..it… didn’t work??

no no that’s a bop, i love it

“Woman!” cried I, somewhat tearsome,

“Who are you to stand so fearsome

With your wavy locks of auburn hair and eyes of emerald green?”

Quoth the woman, “I’m Jolene”