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Yasmin Benoit is a writer and asexual activist, btw. She often gets a lot of shit for dressing 'sexy' and people trying to say she's not valid as an asexual person for it, but she is 1000% valid AF and an ace icon. She's a model and enjoys clothes and outfits that are body affirming for her and feel good to her to be in, it is not sexy or 'trashy' to dress how you like to dress, nor is it her responsibility if other people find her sexually attractive. She's just living her best life and I freaking love that for her.

Also regular reminders that:

  • Black people can be asexual and are 1000% valid AF (racism + fetishization makes this necessary to point out)
  • People you find sexually attractive can be asexual and are 1000% valid for it
  • No one is required to indulge any sexual attraction you have for them regardless of your sexuality or theirs
  • Asexual people can and do have sex - there are asexual sex workers y'know & ace folks in partnerships with children
  • Asexual people who are sex repulsed and do not have sex are just as valid as aces who are sex favourable or indifferent
  • Allosexual people who are sex repulsed are also valid and it doesn't mean they're asexual by default. Attraction and action are two different things
  • Asexuality is a whole ass spectrum of identities and belongs under the LGBTQ+ umbrella

Today I accidentally knocked a monarch caterpillar off its leaf and it fell and immediately began oozing green liquid. I was devastated. I thought I'd killed it. Turns out they do that on purpose to defend against predators. Fooled by a fat little worm. Irrecoverable

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internalizedkryptophobia

Infighting only helps our oppressors.

Infighting only helps our oppressors.

Infighting only helps our oppressors.

Infighting only helps our oppressors.

Infighting only helps our oppressors.

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internalizedkryptophobia

You don't have to understand someone completely to respect them and fight for their right to exist.

a friend of mine has been saying "de-escalate all conflict that is not with the enemy."

we have real, life-threatening forces to fight back against.

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"it's all in your head" correct! unfortunately I am also in there

Mental illness is all in your head in the same way that prostate cancer is all in your ass.

this person wins everybody else go home

googling shit like "why do i feel bad after hanging out with my friends" and all of the answers are either "you need better friends" (i don't; my friends are wonderful) or "your social battery is drained, you need to rest and regain your energy levels" (i don't; i've got tons of energy, it's just manifesting as over-the-top neurotic mania). why is this even happening. it's like some stupid toll i have to pay as a punishment for enjoying myself too much

I actually, genuinely think social event aftercare would fix me. I need someone to put me to bed and say "you were fun today and no one hated you"

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