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lumalilies

@lumalilies / lumalilies.tumblr.com

polyfragmented mixed-origin plural system | endo-friendly | trans | neurodivergent | white | bodily 29 | 18+ only

i hold back from venting about trauma cause i'm not sure its whats best for me & we do care about it as a boundaries thing. but there's some part of me that wishes i was just doing it all the time. i do wanna at least acknowledge that. we do wanna shout our pain from the rooftops cause we're so so mad about it.

on some levels of our consciousness, we don't choose to be the way we are. for a lot of us, those decisions were made by other people, and for a lot of us those people made very bad decisions. we arrive in the world at the end of the previous page in our story, and there's no other way to land where we are than that. but it's us there, standing at the start of this page, deserving to be loved and respected for all we are - one end of a mutual agreement to show that same love and respect forward. for anyone who needs to hear it, there is no inch of who you are inside that could ever make you less loveable <3 part of your end of the deal is to let yourself be loved for who you are

advice from a polyfrag system that's taken a minute to learn but I think is the most helpful thing for us

if you aren't ready to use words to describe what's happening in your system or how it works, don't yet. it doesn't make you any more or less valid, only more beautiful for being who you all are. if it's not time yet then just let life be inside you and listen for it, be supportive, and sooner or later it will find it's way outside too <3

set out of office email to cuddling with headmate

doing small things to make bring specific alters joy is actually really nice. buying some more feminine clothes, downloading a totally girly game to our playstation, and putting milk in our evening tea for one alter. fixing our candle holder and lighting some incense for another. just doing little things that make you, whatever part of you, happy goes a long way

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