i keep forgetting that knitting is generally seen as a gendered activity because that just seems incoherent to me. like, ah yes, the inherent femininity of wrapping string around a stick. everybody wants a piece of string and a stick to wind a string around!
Everyone wanted to be thicc but nobody wanted to be fat. Everyone wanted the dad bod but nobody wanted to be fat. Everyone wants fat mommy milkers but nobody wants mommy to be fat. Everyone wants to be a bear but not like, an actual fat bear. You get what i’m saying
Everyone wants the mistique of fatness or use the language of fatness to denote hotness without actually being fat or acknowledging that fat people or fatness can just be hot.
It's amazing how much of our knowledge of "animal behaviour" is based on very old studies that just went "we half-starved these animals and put them in a tiny box together and just assumed that whatever they did reflects their natural behaviours and social structures"
"Let's give ectotherms the same tasks as endotherms! And when they don't complete them on the same timeframe declare them basal and stupid!"
"Let's base 90% of our tasks on visual stimuli because we, As Humans, think that’s the most important thing ever!"
"Let's test social animals in isolation, thus extremely stressed and scared!"
"Huh, how convenient that animals most like us are 'smartest'!"
- signed, a very tired behavioral ecologist
Sometimes someone tells me "self-aware animals are ones that pass the mirror test" and it makes me so so tired. And then sometimes they'll even say something like "cat's can't pass the mirror test" and I have to just leave because cats absolutely do know what their own reflection is and how it relates to them as an individual and if they're not passing your test to determine that then frankly that's your test's problem.
And like, the sheer number of animals (especially reptiles and insects) that are just declared to have no social structure and no parental care and then decades later it's like "oh, these spiders do care about their babies!" Yeah i think the guys who wrote about how they didn't might've been somewhat intellectually lazy maybe. The amount of reproductive information that's awkwardly forced into a "males of all species go looking for mates and females of all species are passive recipients who just say 'yes' or 'no', all sex is for reproduction and any homosexual behaviour is one of them getting confused or deceived" is ridiculous.
The assumption that while humans have very mutable and contextual social heirarchies, all other social animals must have incredibly rigid ones and half of what they do is "for dominance", and then people get confused when they "show dominance" to their animals and their animals don't like them. (It's because you're being a bully! Dick behaviour!) The absolute surprise and joy when people document nonhuman animals playing, a normal thing that it's frankly weird that anyone would assume is exclusive to humans in the first place. It's fucking ridiculous.
Sharing this bumblebee playing with a ball video here because it's appropriate.
When this bumblebee study came out, the scientists did the sensible thing they were supposed to do and went "okay, how can we be sure the bees are playing and not confused? How do we know they don't think it's food or something?" and they took that into account and designed their experiments so they could be fairly sure in their conclusions that, yes, the bees are playing. They're not trying to gather food, they're not trying to fight off enemies, they are doing this because it is enjoyable for them."
And just. The sheer amount of people who Would Not Believe that bees could play. "They clearly just think it's pollen" read the paper, no they don't. "Well they think it's dangerous and they're obeying their automatic preprogrammed instincts to protect the nest" no they don't, read the paper. So many people just WOULD NOT accept that bees could choose to have fun.
Archive of Our Own (ao3), the internet
Fucking wild to be teaching about Rosa Parks at the same time as a trans woman in Florida does an act of civil disobedience to use a women's restroom in the state capitol
As far as I know, she is the first woman arrested bc of this law. The law requires that the trans person be warned to leave the bathroom by a state official, and then if they stay they are guilty of trespassing after a warning.
So like, me, my gf, others just piss and nobody asks or tells, but this young woman sent a statement about the law to over 100 FL lawmakers so they would know she was coming, the cops were ready for her, she brought a reporter and went in anyway and spent the night in a men's jail. She is out on bail, and is hoping this will inspire change of the law. But if found guilty, and the law is upheld as constitutional, then she could spend up to 60 days in a mens county jail.
I love all books but sometimes you read a book and you’re like so were all 21 thousand of you blindfolded and at gun point when you rated it 5 stars
how are you people alive.
theres an old cold war joke that goes like this: a KGB agent and a CIA agent meet up for drinks off the clock, and after a few drinks they start to talk shop. the CIA agent extols the strength of the Party's propaganda, "All your citizens believe the propaganda! it's incredible! So little dissent." and the KGB responds, "No my friend no, we are good at what we do, but you are the true masters of the art. No one at all questions your propaganda!" to which the CIA agent says, confused, "What do you mean? We don't have propaganda?"
my life with ADHD
This is very true and a great post.
But low key makes me think about how people with adhd have been raised their whole lives to value a day based on what they accomplished vs what they experienced
I think your point is excellent. But also consider:
That list might say things like “Paint a picture. Go birdwatching. Finish that great novel I started reading. Call my grandma. Learn to bake a cake. Visit my sister. Play piano.”
For me at least, the good/fun things are harder without meds too. I can have the best intentions, but following through is hard.
This addition is so important.
i like working at plant store. sometimes you ring up someone and there's a slug on their plant and so you're like "Oh haha you've got a friend there let me get that for you" and you put the slug on your hand for safekeeping but then its really busy and you dont have time to take the slug outside before the next customer in line so you just have a slug chilling on your hand for 15 minutes. really makes you feel at peace with nature. also it means sometimes i get to say my favorite line which is "would you like this free slug with your purchase"
@holyknuckled you get it. lterally what are we here on earth for if not to occasionally impose gastropods upon unsuspecting customers. this story is delightful
Guys I just refreshed the site and everyone's profile pics went round
someone could probably make a "who do you think took your boobs?" edit out of this with discord making its server icons squarer
hey sexy. I can tell by the frequency of your blog updates that you are once again avoiding it all
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canada lynx voted the animal of all time. Boy why are you so paws
put those thigns away
I know somewhere there's a hip grandma who survived breast cancer and her transmasc grandson who would love a matching set
official boob post
"Would you rather use the app? :)" I cannot begin to describe how much I wouldn't
It's all fun and games when people joke about Hungarians being obsessed with paprika but I'm here to tell you it is no exaggeration. We even use it as decoration inside our houses. When we need it it's right there hanging.
It's in (almost) every traditional Hungarian dish.
For those that don't know the paprika house is located in Tihany and it's a grocery store. Here's a closer look inside
yes it's a grocery store for paprika.
i noticed you from across the dash and i like your vibes. how would you like to be our discord server's 37th
