assume that things will go well. don't let people be rude to you. maintain good habits. do things that you don't feel like doing. you can always take a moment to think before acting. on the other hand, you don't have to think about everything. everyone doesn't have to agree but we can treat each other decently. small talk can be pleasant and is often nonjudgemental. find interesting recipes. take out the time for pleasure. if you're tired of fiction, you can read nonfiction and vice-versa. no one is better than another for being louder, looking a certain way, or having done certain things—we're all people. you don't have to react or 'win.' look up cleaning videos, if needed. make lists and use calendars. a lot of things are not personal. it helps to not try to actively read people and to, instead, just meet people where they are. you learn a lot about others just by being present for them and listening.