Silent Fun

I'm a bit tired of people calling asexuality 'not a big deal.'

Here's the thing, I never thought it was a big deal either. I didn't have a big angsty coming out about being aro or being ace. It was difficult in a sense to think of the future I'd imagined for myself not coming true, but I didn't mourn that future. I was happy that there were others out there feeling what I was feeling and going through what I was going through.

But it's become a big deal. It's become a big deal because as I have grown older, I have realised the future is still fucking blurry. I have no idea what to expect from it. Society was not built for those who do not or cannot follow its rules. I've realised just how MUCH people say aphobic stuff on a daily basis. I feel constantly othered by comments that carelessly remind us we are out of the majority. That remind us again and again that we are NOT the norm and will never BE the norm. I rarely see myself on TV and in books and in movies. People feel weird about it, so they just never bring it up like an unspoken secret. I'm constantly doubted and told I'm mistaken about my own identity, which causes anxiety and self doubt so many years later. People make a variety of assumptions about me and tell me it's 'sad' and I'm 'missing out.'

It's not just about 'not having sex.' It's about feeling like you're the only one at a concert that doesn't know the words. it about society making you feel like you're just a little bit off. My sexuality/romantic identity doesn't define me. I don't WANT it to be a big deal.

But it is. It is a big deal because all of you make it a big deal.

Finding a new favorite fictional character is like, will you be temporary or will you become a permanent part of my personality for the next 10 years?

“I think I understand a whole lot better than you do”

"what's your dream job??" Uhh to have 17 weird little hobbies that I don't have to be good at and hang out with friends. I get money via being the world's specialist little princess

Discovering you’re ace is wild cause like, you guys were serious when you said you wanted to fuck that character/celebrity?

We weren’t just exaggerating and being silly?? UH???

As an aroace person when I say 'I need him' I don't mean it sexually. I mean I need to keep him in a jar and study him like a bug.

Allos think demisexual and demiromantic are "just what everybody is like" because when they hear that we need to have formed a bond to experience attraction they think that just means "getting to know somebody over a few drinks at the bar or a couple dates" and not needing to have an established, long-term relationship that could take a significant amount of time to build,

I'm demiromantic and I've only gotten two crushes and they were on my best, closest friends that I'd known for months or years and saw every day at school, and I had to risk ruining my closest friendship to pursue it, which is absolutely not how alloromantics experience crushes.

some people out there really be typing fanfics longer than war and peace in their free time and then going on about their life like it's no big deal. how fucking incredible. like no offense to tolstoy but that was like. his whole job

i was born a biter, i identify as a biter, not my fault, maybe don’t be so biteable and you’ll be safe

Euripides (Tr. Anne Carson) / @wholeheartedsuggestions / Jenny Slate / Euripides again

thinking about how, as a child, kaz’s favorite trick seemed to be watching something disappear, and then he grew up and fell in love with a girl who could vanish into thin air, and how we’re told that when he looks at inej, he feels like a boy again and believes that there’s still magic in the world. imagine loving magic all your life, and then discovering that magic loved you too.

It’s so funny watching the Shadow and Bone series when I’ve only read the Six of Crows duology. Because here we have Magical Mussolini trying to establish a new world order by mansplaining manipulating and manslaughtering everyone in his way, and the only thing I care about is my found family of emotionally constipated idiots doing war crimes in the background.

Mmhmmm

and you're so real for that, steve

WERE ANY OF YOU GOING TO TELL ME THERE WAS SUPPOSED TO BE A PHYSICAL REACTION TO HOT PEOPLE??? LIKE HEARTRATE RISES AND ALL THAT. THAT’S REAL??

I’ve been dramatically exaggerating my reactions to hot people for YEARS because I thought that was what everyone did. For COMEDIC EFFECT. are you telling me all the squealing and people getting flustered and those ‘not to be a lesbian but oh my god’ tags were Not A Joke

At least dinosaurs. Are real

A small collection. Happy ace week you guys