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@tsundereace / tsundereace.tumblr.com

Dianne, she/her, 20 something, Aro/Ace, Neurodivergant AF If I'm not tagging a property its probably because I'm not a fan Mostly SFW but discretion is advised

Relevant XKCD: https://xkcd.com/2609/

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bralsra-deactivated20250108

theres ALWAYS a relevant XKCD for everything huh

I had a very similar problem when I ran a game, in that the players all noticed that most of the characters were women.

Luckily they didn't assume there was any plot reason for it. They just assumed it was because I'm gay and ladies were pretty.

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estrogenesis-evangelion

cuno doesn't give a fuck for your cat, pig. cuno's got a great big fucking slice of gruyere to eat, pig

PIGS ASKIN FOR IDEALOGICALLY DUBIOUS PASTORALISM LIKE ITS NO BIG DEAL

if parks and rec was still being made they’d do a bit where ron swanson has to wear a pronouns name tag and it’d just be “???/???” And it’d cut to a talking head of him going

“I’ve been a fool all this time. It’s bad enough the government knows my name, but now they want to know my gender? So I’m not letting them know my preferred pronouns. As far as I’m concerned, no one in this building should refer to me at all.”

Ron walks into the main area of the office like “Everyone, announcement! I notice that you have been referring to me with he/him pronouns for YEARS. As I do not think the government has any business knowing my personal information, this behavior may incline them to make conclusions that they have no business even thinking about. Therefore, I request that you switch it up from now on. Keep em guessing. That is all.”

He tries to turn around and walk back into his office, but Leslie starts crying and saying Supportive Things about how proud she is to see him exploring his gender and immediately switches to they/them; she instructs Ben and Ann to do the same. Donna and Chris go for she/her, for different reasons.

Tom assures Ron that he will use only the slickest, coolest, dopest designer pronouns; he sweeps in the next day and announces that he's put together a powerpoint of the most stylish and fashionable neopronouns to come out of Milan this season. The powerpoint includes the scarf, cologne and sunglasses that pair best with each option. Jerry is the only one to attend this presentation, which leaves him even more Big Confused about the whole thing than he already was. In Jerry's efforts to clumsily be an ally, he keeps accidentally "misgendering" Ron four different times in four different ways in every interaction and apologizing elaborately for every single mistake, thereby inadvertently doing the best job out of any of them at fulfilling the brief.

Andy does not know what a pronoun is, but in the spirit of himbo helpfulness, he's made a list of Words that he knows Ron likes, such as "sandwich", "woodworking", and "bacon". (Ron snatches it, tears it up, throws it in the trash, and sets the trash basket on fire, and firmly instructs Andy to never again mention anything that Ron likes while inside a government building.)

April, of course, keeps using he/him until Ron calls her into his office to re-explain the strategy of Operation: Muddy The Waters, whereupon she blinks owlishly at him and says, "I mean, isn't that just what they'd expect you to do if you were trying to hide something from the government? If you exclude one pronoun, then they know that's the one you care about. You have to double-bluff them." Ron squints at her for a long moment and says flatly, "Hm. Go back to your desk." The camera stays on Ron watching her through his window as his voiceover says, "April is a valuable employee. I look forward to one day when she leaves this hellhole and uses her strategic genius and insider knowledge to tear down the government."

asking "wait so what do you think I'm saying" mid-disagreement will replenish years of your life actually

PLEASE do this ohmygod. it's saved so many days of the silent treatment for me on both ends. yes there is the chance that the person is immature as fuck, and refuses to believe you when you explain what you're actually trying to say, but most of the time just hearing that explanation from both parties will make things instantly calm down.

Yes!! You can also say "okay hang on...this is what I'm hearing...is that what you mean?" from the other end. Especially if the message you're hearing is hurtful and coming from a person who generally does not try to hurt you. Words have so many connotations, and everyone brings their own perspective and baggage to conversations. Checking in that you're sending the message you mean or receiving the message they mean can stop so many fights before they even start.

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