The flat iron sex position is a spicy way to inject the kind of intimacy you get from face-to-face sex into a reverse position. Pro-domme Ruby Payne, sexpert for sex toy retailer UberKinky, calls it the “perfect segue from doggy into something shallower and less animalistic,” plus (if you’re not already convinced this one’s a must-try), it’s easy to do and has tons of sexy, sexy benefits.
For one, it can make the vagina feel tighter, “especially if the receiving partner’s legs are pulled close together, which may make penetration more pleasurable for both partners,” says sex educator Kate Sloan, author of the forthcoming book 101 Kinky Things Even You Can Do. The full-body contact also gives it a cozy element—like getting hugged and fucked at the same time. “And your faces are close together so it’s an ideal position for couples who enjoy dirty talk or just hearing each other’s moans,” says Sloan. (Is it…hot in here??)
To do the flat iron, both partners lie face down with the penetrating partner lying on top. (A flat iron is just another name for a plain old clothing iron. The penetrating partner would be the “iron” in this scenario.) “It’s like as if you were in doggy and then you both lowered yourselves onto the bed until you were lying flat,” says Sloan. If you want to kink it up, the flat iron is also fantastic for weaving in moments of dominance and submission. “The receiving partner is essentially ‘trapped’ under the penetrating partner, who can use their hands to hold down the receiving partner’s hands and arms, making them feel even more deliciously pinned down and submissive.”
Ready to iron or be ironed? Here are some expert-approved ways to get yours.
1. The Flat Iron
The receiver lies face down on the bed with their legs straight and hips slightly raised. The giver places their legs on either side of their partner and slips their penis or strap-on in from behind. “The bottom partner can use their hand to stimulate their own genitals while in this position, or you can slip a wand vibrator underneath and get the clitoris in on the action,” says sex educator Searah Deysach, owner of feminist sex shop Early to Bed.
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2. The Pillow Pet
Deepen the penetration by placing a pillow or sex wedge under the receiving partner’s hips, says Payne. It can change the angle so everything’s exactly where you want and need it. Kick the sensations up a notch with a pillow specifically designed to hold a toy in place, for optimal angles and vibration. (Behold, human ingenuity!)
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3. The Extra-Flat Iron
The flat iron is ideal for an extra-large penis or dildo, whether it’s long, thick, or super-sized. If this sounds familiar, consider laying all the way down so you’re both completely flat to provide a bit of a buffer from penetration that could feel a little too deep. “By raising and lowering the hips, the receiver can control the depth,” says Deysach. The receiver can also lie on top of a lay-on vibe to get bonus clitoral stimulation.
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Jill Hamilton is a contributor for Cosmopolitan.com and writes the blog In Bed With Married Women.
