this year my challenge for everyone is to unlearn the association between love and morality. love is not something that is inherently morally good, and the absence of love is not something that is inherently bad. sex without love isn't morally bankrupt, it's just an action. people without love aren't less kind or less good, they're just people. when we can get past this false (and often unnoticed) dichotomy of good love/evil lovelessness then i think we are going to be able to take leaps and bounds in sex positivity, aro advocacy, certain discussions of mental health...

lots of great points being made in the notes of this post always about how love can be bad and that's like. important to note. but i really do want to emphasize what the point of this post was about which is that an absence of love is Not Bad. sex isn't an inherently moral or immoral act. people aren't inherently moral or immoral beings. relationships aren't inherently good or bad. and the presence or absence of love changes none of that. we really cannot get past anything until we reshape our image of human connection into one that does not need love in any form (good or bad) to be fulfilling and good. i believe this so wholeheartedly

happy aromanticism and spectrum month. I know there's still 2 weeks until ASAW but if the world wants to shove valentines in my face I'm shoving lovless aromanticism right back at it

be loud, make art, write, talk about being arospec, take up space in real life and in fandom, be unapologetically arospec and don't let anyone take it from you

Loveless aro: I don’t really connect with the idea of love. Due to my personal experiences as an aromantic person, I find it uncomfortable to label what I feel as love, and I find it empowering to reject love altogether as a concept.

Non-loveless person: But don’t you love chicken nuggets? Don’t you love your friends and family? Don’t you love the sun on your face? Don’t you love taking a shit when you have a stomach ache? Why won’t you let me force labels onto you?

I don’t think people realize how wonderful and freeing a loveless life can be. You can just vibe with yourself in your own little world without needing anyone else’s validation to make you feel happy

Since people don't have any reading comprehension on this hellsite, I decided to make more alternatives to "Love Loses", because I like this idea. Loveless and/or Romance Repulsed versions.

(Because apparently "Love Can Win Without Me" doesn't get the point across of "I don't want to suppress other's rights to love others, but I don't feel love and I take pride in that, therefore learn to love myself and let my self-love win")

"I Don't Want Your Love"

"Love Someone That Wants It"

"Your Love Is Better Elsewhere"

"Love Where I Am Not"

For your loveless needs that want to support other's rights to love and fight against Amatonormativity.

happy pride month to the aros, the aplatonics, the loveless aros, everyone who is sick of hearing about love from everyone else. i see you and i appreciate you. your queerness is just as important and welcome and wonderful as everyone else's

Some art for all the Loveless Aros!

Not experiencing love, or choosing not to label your feelings as love, or whatever other reason you have for using the loveless label isn’t a moral failing, doesn’t mean that you are a "bad person".

Love is just an emotion, and just like every other emotion, it’s meaning and importance is different for everyone. You don’t need to love your friends, pets, family, or anyone, really. Actions matter much more than the feelings behind them.

We don’t have to justify our emotions or our way of expressing and wording them to anyone. I am loveless. Nothing you say will change that, no matter how much you try to convince me my way of labelling my emotions is "wrong" or that not experiencing love makes me an inherently immoral person.

How other people label their feelings is none of your business. Just believe us when we tell you our experiences, and don’t talk down to us or act like we’re stupid and don’t understand ourselves as good as you obviously do. It’s infantilising, and dehumanising. Stop doing that.

If you believe it or not, I know myself much better than you do, random internet person. And so does every other loveless person know themselves.

Just leave loveless people alone.

Happy Aplatonic Visibility Day!

[Image Description: A square graphic with a light green border and a white box of text in the middle. The text reads "May 4. Aplatonic Visibility Day. We welcome and value all aromantics under the aplspec umbrella." On the lower left-hand side of the graphic, there is clipart of a group of stick figures. Most of them are grey and have their arms at their sides, but the stick figure in the center is yellow and has their arms in the air. In the top right of the graphic, there is an outline of a person holding a mug and looking at an apple. In the right bottom corner of the graphic, there is a diagonal aromantic flag. Underneath the text is a graphic of the AUREA logo.]

Asking aros to put down the overly defensive "well I still love! I still feel! I love in all these different ways!" and walk away slowly. Yes, it's true for you, but you're still equating your love with your merit; you're playing the game of arophobes. I get what it's trying to combat, but I don't think the solution is to continue to use love as a weapon rather than completely disarming it. Why is love the metric? Why is love what your worth is?

Loveless Aromantic Hearts

Remember loveless aroallos when you discuss loveless aromantics! Not all loveless aros also identify as asexual. The loveless aromantic experience varies from person to person and based on what definition you personally use or like. If you, like me, are a loveless aroallo, you are part of the community the same way I and any other loveless aroallos are. Like any other aromantic identity, don't assume it's followed by asexuality, or that people have to also use the asexual label with their aromanticism.

me: the word love aint shit

me after scrolling on my tumblr dash: they’re making love every positive emotion

my loveless mutual, pacing: the posters are lying to us

@fixing-bad-posts Here's one I made!

one of my things with love is that i think it's probably like colors. yeah we have a thing that we all sort of agree is red. but we have no way to know if other people see red the same way as us. your red could be totally different from mine and we would never know because it has functionally the same relation to all of us and so we all just call it red. i have no way of knowing if anyone else on earth feels love the exact same way in which i do and in fact i think most people probably don't...

I really like this metaphor, because it includes everyone. It includes those who are loveless, those who are lovequeer, aromantic, alloromantic. It includes pretty much everyone and I like that.