let your colors blind their eyes

real people being partially closeted or ambiguous about their own sexuality while making Gay Art is not queerbaiting

Real people figuring out they’re queer through the process of making gay art is not queerbaiting either

#real people not telling you everything about themselves is allowed

Not-so-fun fact: Gideon's final episode was meant to end with him committing suicide, but Patinkin vetoed it because that was not how he wanted his time on the show to end. No doubt that probably would have worsened his already strained mental health from working on a show that ended up being much darker and more violent than he was led to believe it would be. Instead, the writers decided to give a little nod to reality and had Gideon's exit explained via letters. (Patinkin had written letters of apology to his castmates about leaving so abruptly.)

non sexual intimacy!!!! bathing together, washing each other, playing with each other's hair, kissing every inch of their body, writing love letters on their back with your finger, connecting their moles and freckles to create constellations on their skin, running your hands up and down their thighs, ugh just expressing physical love without it having to be about sex!!!!

Every once in a while twitter produces gems like this 😂

No because I was disgusted by the straight couple too but I am just now realizing that is because I am a lesbian. I was relating to him but as someone who does not have any interest in a straight relationship. I was like "gross, same page, man". BECAUSE WE WERE ON THE SAME PAGE. BECAUSE HE'S GAY.

aro & ace books: trans aspecs

trans rights readathon is on now, and I realised it's been a minute since I made a trans aspec books post, so here's some of the latest ones I've read!

previous posts: part 1 / part 2 / nonbinary YA / nonbinary A

#aspec books / aspec database / tumblr masterpost

info included here is brief! please see my database for full details of the books

WOULD YOU? WOULD YOU MOTHERFUCKERS?

I see this shit from so many "allies" and they're just really telling on themselves.

Telling us how they think we're poor things who need help and patronising allyship, but still distinctly "other". Telling us how they think the allyship they graciously give us is for good karma or something, but that in their eyes, we deserve only their breadcrumbs, not equality. That they want a world not in which we are treated fairly, but a world in which we are treated well if they see fit, like a pet by an owner.

The mask is slipping.

Remember that believing someone needs your approval to exist is still bigotry. Bigotry isn't always outright hatred, it's wanting people to be in a lesser social position.

“Accused” of being trans definitely implies something…

spoiler alert: he didn't take his tie off

I LOVE THIS. 👔👔👔

5 years ago, I was in Rehab.

10 years ago, I was watching my Potential and Opportunities dissolve and evaporate in an ocean of cheap gin and expensive whiskey.

But 5 years ago, I was in Rehab.

One of the exercises they had us perform was to imagine ourselves happy, 5 years in the future.

Many of us in that room had forgotten how to imagine nice things happening to them. A few snorted (well, I snorted), finding the notion that we’d even still be around in 5 years grimly humorous.

For about half of us, it was the last stop on the way down.

But I indulged the therapist. I was there, after all, because I did not want to die. So, I imagined myself, 5 years hence.

Happy.

It came to me all at once; an artistic remix on Norman Rockwell’s Freedom From Want, reframed with myself placing food at the table.

Sunday Dinner At My Place, I answered, when it came my turn to share my fantasy. I was asked what food I imagined eating.

It’s not the meal itself, I said, it’s the implications framed around it. Sunday Dinner At My Place means that I have a Place. It means that I have Family that will actually speak to me and friends who actually want to see me. It means money enough not just to feed myself but others too. It means having the time to spare to take the time preparing the meal.

A lot of nodding heads all around me. A struck chord. Many people with no Place, in that place. Nowhere that would lament their leaving.

5 years hence, as I lay down to sleep in my Home, with my Wife and my Son, surrounded by my Art and my Flowers, I reflect.

It was a long road. It was hard. We lost people. So many people. There were long days and long nights and hospital stays. Angry arguments with ghosts. I changed, in ways I never hoped for, or expected. Good ways, finally, for once. Slowly, against the backdrop of a world in chaos, I found my mind.

Sometimes, My Wife wondered aloud, what she did to deserve me. After some stumbling with my feelings, I eventually settled on an answer.

I’m a Rescue.

She gave me a Home.

And, so, I gave her a Family.

It seemed fair

This Sunday, my folks, which whom I have not had a shouting match in years, will come over for dinner. We will cook and eat together. My Friend became My Wife, and she took a piece of me and with it she made Our Son. There will be many hugs, and no violence. Good Things Happened.

I don’t know who needs to hear this, but you don’t know what the future holds.

don’t give up yet, ok?

It could get good, even.

@hopepunk-humanity

I was accidentally 15 one time and basically there’s Problems forever because of this

Your periodical reminder that cats love people just as much as dogs even if apparently the average person is too much of an emotionally stunted extrovert to get it. They don't feel spite or whatever fucked up emotions one would wanna assign to them.

Cats are little goblins who love parallel play, that's why they sit in front of your computer screen and paw at shit on your desk for attention.

not ignoring the sarcasm tag but I'm worried you're currently training your cat to shit on the floor when they need to ask for food

Too many people (at least one, so too many) in the comment going "well my cat definitely feels spite because of [anecdote]" it's stress. What you just described is stress. They're not doing it to spite you they're acting out because they're stressed out. That's not at all the same.

TOP TOMMY KINARD'S BEST LINES

15.

"It's a beautiful thing, isn't it? Having a crew like this behind you, even when things go wrong." - 8x05

56 votes

Just remembered Luke Former Army Ranger Alvez most likely has a fuckload of bomb related trauma and there have been bombs at least once a season from s14 to s17.

luke has the most overlooked/glossed over trauma and I'll die on that hill

No 'cause literally what the fuck. That's so BRUTAL.

I can't imagine how performing this scene must have affected adam who has two daughters

Awful. Horrible.

Fun story. When I was actively being stalked (both online and IRL), I contacted the police exactly one time. I showed them the physical notes that had been left under the wiper blade on my car after I blocked the man on social media. I showed them the previous Facebook messages this man had sent me that described, in detail, what he wanted to do to me.

The police said they couldn’t help me because the man had not actually physically done any of those things to me. He’d just talked about his desires. They even made excuses for him. He’s awkward. He’s lonely. You’re pretty. It’s a compliment.

So friendly reminder that when a man with a record and weapons makes verbal/written threats against a woman, there’s nothing police can do.

But when a frustrated woman being denied medical coverage with no record and no weapons makes a “verbal threat” against a corporation, she’s arrested immediately.

I literally had to call the cops on an EXTREMELY violent ex of mine who had tried to choke me to death back in 2015. He was showing obvious signs of being on drugs and had fresh track marks on his arms. When I called the cops on him and they finally showed up THIRTY MINUTES LATER they kicked me out of MY OWN HOUSE because he had lied and told them he was an Army veteran (the bastard never served he got kicked out of basic for *surprise surprise* testing positive for drugs). So like a rational human, I moved back in with my mother and went no contact.

LAST. FUCKING. YEAR. That same ex got caught soliciting minors and had CP on his computer hard drive and the entire case was plastered all over the news in my state. When the judge reviewed the case, he said it was one of if not the most heinous cases of a child predator he has ever seen.

AND IF THE COPS WOULD HAVE ARRESTED HIM BACK IN 2015 THOSE KIDS WOULDN'T HAVE BEEN HURT! So yeah. Fuck the legal system.

Just remembered Luke Former Army Ranger Alvez most likely has a fuckload of bomb related trauma and there have been bombs at least once a season from s14 to s17.

luke has the most overlooked/glossed over trauma and I'll die on that hill

No 'cause literally what the fuck. That's so BRUTAL.

Cleaning gets easier when you remember it's a thing you're doing to make your life less miserable, and not a thing you're doing as punishment

ID: #and a thing you dont have to finish! you can just take a break or say im done with this for now #and pick it back up tomorrow or when you have the energy #cleaning a little and stopping makes life better than not doing any because its overwhelming and you feel like you have to do everything #and do everything in one sitting at that. end ID

Plus, if you have friends or family that offer to help, accept the help! I know it'll be hard and feel unnatural and weird, but you gotta do it until it stops feeling weird.