Something Silly, Idk

Tarsal claws on tarantulas. You agree.

YOU AGREE.

Ok this might be a bit of a weird question but I keep arguing with my mom and sis about this so I need y'all to answer this

[For context my mom and sis keep telling me I shower for too long but my showers are usually 45 minutes to an hour]

(edit: *your showers not you showers)

turn up the temp on your water heater if this is you ^

the 16 year old puritan twitter user stuck in my head who yells at me if i don't conform to unattainably high standards of moral purity says it's ageist for me to imagine them as a 16 year old

Alright so first you gotta take them to a nice fast food place or something, get the tension down. Hear out what they have to say, you might not agree but it's best not to be judgmental about it. Let them know they're listened to. Let them know they're loved no matter what. Now open discord and type "pk;m new"--

Worldbuilding is fun, and you definitely need to think at least a little about how a setting Works for it to make any sense, but I sometimes get the impression that people on this website have forgotten the extent to which you can just kind of wing it.

You should probably have an explanation for why there are potatoes in your quasi-European setting, but you don't necessarily have to develop a five hundred year overview of the history of Fantasy Peru unless the story is actually set there. It's probably sufficient to say "imperial conquest that is a broad allegory for real world events" or "this world is filled with traveling bands of botanists" or "the world was a single supercontinent within living memory, and then some crazy shit happened, let me tell you about That" depending on the themes and ideas you are working with.

Much like using "said" instead of a more specific synonym, 90% of the time you can just have people use normal cusses and greetings and it's literally fine.

Good world building is about illusion. People don't need a 5 page essay on a particular throw away detail of the setting, but for the world to feel real they need to believe that you have that 5 page essay somewhere in your brain.

Its the secret to not wasting effort on world building.

"red-pill" "snowflake" everything about v for vendetta...fascists really do love to steal and bastardize culture from the queer people they are trying to destroy

"snowflake" was popularized in Fight Club, a novel by a gay man. "red-pill" is from a movie created by two trans women and is a metaphor for estrogen and gender transitioning. those same women adapted V For Vendetta from the original comic (written by a polyamorous man who may or may not be queer but certainly has something going on); in both versions the titular protagonist "V" is implied to be transmasculine, and a survivor of torture and imprisonment for the crime of homosexuality.

because that's what they see in us, these bigots who are happy to consume and quote and corrupt queer-created media, as long as they can erase every beautiful root. they see criminals, commiting the crime of being queer. and they are doing their damnedest to bring back the laws that made it so.

just gonna say it, squidward was right about everything

look spongebob is a terrible neighbor and an exhausting person. no one should have to suffer patrick star's lifelong dedication to ignorance & imperviousness to logic. put them in the same room and that's an automatic noise ordinance infraction (plus inevitably public property damage). they are lowkey domestic terrorists. squidward is a grump and a snob but at the end of the day he's a burntnout service worker with a shitty boss who just wants some peace and quiet during his downtime. he asks for so little honestly. all the other characters should be in jail

really good tiktok

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Researching something you have zero interest in for the sake of your oc who is balls to the wall obsessed with that thing

You can do this but beware. You will find yourself "balls to the wall" about it soon enough

Whatever you do, don’t do this with a bow!

(Bows are not firearms, and can’t be ‘fired’, but you absolutely should not dry-fire one)

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"Anything is fine as long as it's legal" is not the sex positive position you think it is. Anything can be criminalised. Anything can be decriminalised.

In some places it's illegal to consensually choke your boyfriend. In other places marital rape is not a crime. Develop a moral compass instead of expecting your government to tell you what is right and wrong.

No actually it's not weird for me to focus on my own sex life on my own post when I'm talking about how the things I personally participate in are criminalised in my own country. This post is SPECIFICALLY prompted by anti kink and anti sex work laws in MY country. It's about MY life. Like yes it applies to other countries to so please participate but do not act like me talking about my own fucking life on my own fucking post is "a bit weird". For fuck sake.

This is the fastest anyone has blocked me lmao

Bringing the choking into it actually makes it better by bringing in dignity of risk and how the same governments who love pestering people over their sexual activities also tend to loooove legally interfering with people's choices "for their own good." Which is also shitty a lot of the time.

Then don't do it. This isn't about your preferences it's about adults being criminalised for consensual sexual activity.

Choking is not safe, regardless of whether it is consensual or not.

Like, kink communities ten years ago would *ban* you for breath play. It’s an escalation over the past ten years, as frameworks like SSC have been replaced with the “anything goes” RACK - where it’s somehow okay for the mentally ill 19 year old to let a stranger in his forties take a staple gun to their tits.

It’s more dangerous than any other kind of play. YOU CANNOT SAFELY CHOKE SOMEONE, FULL STOP. It is literally *safer* to cover your partners dick with alcohol and light it on fire. It doesn’t matter how light you are choking - you can hurt arteries, you can cause brain damage, you can kill your partner in all kinds of new and exciting ways that are being increasingly discovered as violent pornography teaches people that this *extreme* kink is a normal part of sex.

You cannot let “rough sex” be an acceptable defense to manslaughter charges.

And if someone reads all that and still wants a hand round their throat, that is their right, and it should not be criminalised.

should people have the right to kill themselves?

typically, when an individual expresses an urge to harm themselves, they are institutionalized for their protection. what is different when that individual wants someone else to harm them?

are you willing to face the responsibility of possibly killing your sexual partner? it will still be manslaughter, whether they consent or not

safe sane and consensual is a reasonable framework - and i don’t think asphyxia is at all *safe*

in general, we typically have regulations about activities which can (and in this case - very often *do*) kill people

even in a BDSM framework - someone being choked CAN’T safeword. how do you ensure consent is still given?

even if it doesn’t “seem” like it, it is causing brain damage. you cannot do choking safely.

did you even read that paper? it literally disproves what you're saying IN THE PAPER. there is no brain damage, there is evidence of slightly different brain functioning. also, just because something is correlated doesn't mean it's causative.

"being frequently choked by a sexual partner has been linked to worse mental health in a recent probability survey of undergraduate students, as women who had been choked more than five times in the past month were more likely to endorse feeling sad, lonely, anxious, and depressed compared to women without a history of being choked." any conclusion you could draw from this would just be assumptions based off of a personal bias. perhaps mentally ill people are just more likely to do weird things, or have weird coping mechanisms, or be more impulsive or reckless. are you stupid? this is like saying that having teachers dislike you in elementary school has been linked to having ADHD, and then implying that the teachers caused the ADHD. that's not how science works. you can prove almost anything by framing statistical evidence differently.

"More participants in the choking group indicated that they had been sexually active in the past 12 months, compared to the choking-naïve group, and the choking group had slightly higher AUDIT scores." support that these two groups are just two groups of completely different people.

"The choking group and choking-naïve group did not differ in terms of response accuracy across the three conditions for either N-back task"

"The overall pattern of group differences observed in the present study suggests that additional neural resources are allocated for demands of working memory maintenance in the choking group, while the choking-naïve group exhibits more neural activation for target object/letter manipulation throughout the task. "

"The results supported our first hypothesis that the two groups would not differ in behavioral performance." no brain damage, no functional difference.

"Fourth, we did not collect data on which or if any of the instances of being choked/strangled by a sexual partner were consensual, nor did we examine prior stressful and/or traumatic life experiences (e.g., IPV, adverse childhood experiences, sexual assault)." perhaps the proclivity for enjoying choking is due to existing mental illness that they did not even bother to assess. importantly, they did not even distinguish between consensual choking and nonconsensual choking.

"Fifth, we did not assess tendencies to participate in risky sex or sensation-seeking behaviors, which may be contributing factors to engaging in sexual choking. Indeed, sensation-seeking has been linked to engaging in risky sexual behaviors (Donohew et al., 2000; Turchik et al., 2010) and increased resting-state functional connectivity between the medial orbitofrontal cortex and the anterior cingulate cortex (Wan et al., 2020). Further, Hansen et al. (2018) reported that risky sexual behavior was associated with increased BOLD signal in the right dorsolateral prefrontal cortex during response inhibition (incongruent > congruent contrast; Stroop task) in adolescents aged 14–18 years old." who would have thought that people with similar tendencies or traits or interests would have similar brains to each other, and also have different brains from people who don't have those tendencies or traits or interests 🤯 furthermore, BOLD is extremely relative and doesn't inherently mean, well, anything other than what parts of the brain are active. and even then, the signal can be incredibly fuzzy and easily contaminated. given we know so little about how the brain works i don't think this is a claim that holds any merit at all.

this study had a sample size of 40 in one test, and 38 in the other. which is such a small sample size that it basically means nothing other than a request for more research. it also was not controlled for whether the choking was consensual, past abuse history, preexisting mental illness, impulsive or reckless tendencies, or drug use. all of those things could also affect what their brains look like, and may correlate with increased interest in risky or thrilling activities, such as choking. they literally mention in the article that the choking group has higher rates of drug use and mental illness. NOWHERE in this study does it mention brain damage, or imply that people who have been choked have worse functioning brains. they only identified a possible difference in what parts of their brains have activity in a memory game. by whose definition is "more brain activity" = "brain damage"? hello? this article does not support your point. i think you'd fall for this.

most importantly, your experiences are not universal. other people can revoke consent during a scene. other people have safeguards for choking. other people don't date people who will take advantage of them. sorry that happened to you, but that doesn't mean consensual activities between adults should be restricted. in a different reply you also linked an article by a man very active in the kink community who taught cpr and first aid, not a doctor or nurse. the article has no sources, was written in 1995, and is also paywalled. you're just googling keywords and linking websites that you THINK agree with you. it's incredibly disingenuous, and you're also a massive fucking idiot who wants to restrict bodily autonomy.

the fact that you don’t know who Jay Wiseman is and you think I’m just googling random shit reveals you know so little about kink that you shouldn’t be allowed to do it lol

are you seriously arguing that choking people is harmless

yeah i read the study, I didn’t just selectively read the parts that would let me pretend that choking someone is a totally harmless and safe activity lol

“altered memory function” of course has nothing to do with potential brain damage at all

(hey - how are you revoking consent if you’re passed out lol)

my experiences are not universal, which is why i should never ever talk about abuse and risks in kink EVER. talking about abuse and risk in kink isn’t sexy or fun, this is supposed to be about no consequences and none of our actions ever have ramifications or impacts on other people

the fact they didn't discern between consensual and non-consensual choking means it's hard to draw conclusions about consensual choking from this - most people who consensually choke partners who want that to happen are not doing it with the kind of intensity and force that people who want to hurt someone else do. That'd lead to different effects on the brain

Anyway. I don't think anyone is arguing it's harmless? I think people are arguing people should be allowed to do dangerous things if they want to. Our society lets people drink and skydive and try and climb mountains and play football and all kinds of shit with a reasonable likelihood of harm and permanent effects from doing so. If people know the risks and accept them, why not let them do it? That's the point being made

there are many young merfolk out there, so i felt the desire to create a badass elder for mermay :) she’s as much derived from as she is dedicated to the vuvalini of MMFR– i also sincerely hope she brings joy to my mutuals older than me who always delight and inspire me, and to all older women in fandom, really, who i continuously thought of while working on her

i hope it’s obvious but just in case: she’s beluga / inuit. and yes, a name and backstory eventually developed! haha

oh y’all this is my first non-fanart piece to break 1k notes and i’m SO excited it’s enthusiasm for this design in particular! thank you; i’m so relieved and encouraged by the warm responses 🙏🏻💙

blows up a random stranger with a rocket launcher for no reason then falls to the ground weeping histrionically & receives the tender attention & support of everyone present

as an IT person I would like to sue this screen for emotional damages

Thought this was the post, and was like “yeah that makes sense”

@ominous-signs

Official ominous sign

We gotta stop aiming for unique and interesting baby names we gotta start naming every single infant straight-shot middle-of-the-road ass popular common unisex names like Alex and Sam. By the end of 2031 I wanna see 100% of kindergarten children named either Alex or Sam and you know what, let’s make ‘em all Smiths and Johnsons, too. In an age of digital tracking give your baby the gift of total functional anonymity within the panopticon

If Elon Musk owned Tumblr he would nuke your blog for this.

And I would die with honour at the hands of a fool

Harry du Bois would say this.