i'm goin' back to 505

i don’t… want this.

ive been seeing more regan truthing online .... finally. FINALLLYYY. my og toxic yaoi

commissions open :D

Holmes perching in Norwood Builder!

i think people should talk more about the unique sense of hopelessness which stems from the realization that “help” in the form myth promised you does not exist; there is no help coming and you must create from scratch the tools that will dismantle (or at least diminish) your own suffering, and do this not once but every day for the rest of your life

I feel like in the rush of “throw out etiquette who cares what fork you use or who gets introduced first” we actually lost a lot of social scripts that the younger generations are floundering without.

A lot of tough situations where we now feel like we “don’t know what to do or say” had social scripts just a couple of generations ago and they might have been canned phrases or robotic actions but they could still be meant sincerely and unfortunately we haven’t replaced them with any more sincere or easier new script.

a lot of people are giving examples in the notes of things they just find annoying like not using headphones in public, but OP is talking about actual literal scripts of things to say in awkward situations

if you have a date or two with someone and you don't see a relationship developing? most millennials / gen Zers just end up ghosting. but a social script that might have been taught and rehearsed in the past could be:

"I really appreciated getting dinner with you the other night and I enjoyed your company, but I'm afraid I didn't feel a spark. I wish you the best, and hope you find that special someone!"

like it sounds kind of trite but it was at least something to say and it can still be meant with kind sincerity. it also communicates in 2 sentences that you don't want to see them romantically again, but there aren't any hard feelings about that. that's it!!! that's all it takes!!!

Another example is that at parties a lot of people talk about how awkward it is to mingle or talk to people they dont know. But at old timey parties that was traditionally the HOST'S job, and there was a specific scripted way of doing it that eased the process! The host would bring you in, introduce you and maybe even a little bit about you like what you did for a living, and then guide you to a group you could talk to. They didn't just let you in the door and then ditch you to fend for yourself in a sea of strangers. That would be unthinkable and no one would be surprised if a get-together like that wound up being awkward.

I still do the party-host thing and yall can, too! (Thanks Mad Men for teaching me a lot of outmoded social scripts... no really tho)

Remember things about your friends! Ask people about their weekends, hobbies, holidays, studies, and jobs! Listen for the concerns people have and what they are working on! Draw connections between one person and another to get the ball rolling. "Oh, Maura, you just got your first cat! You should talk to Felix, he used to work at a rescue. Felix, please tell Maura all the new-cat-guardian pointers."

"Bill, Sheila, Xan, this is my friend Kale. Kale is really into Star Trek, Bill you and them should talk about it!"

Orrr whatever! After you make the introduction and draw the connection you just float on into the next interaction with someone else at the function. Just listen, care about your friends, get our of your own head, and think of how you can bring other people together and you will feel 100% less awkward.

Tumblr app should have a tinder esque feature where it shows you the blogs in a 3 mile radius. No it shouldnt

unavoidable that you will be the villain in someone else’s story. You will be painted in an unfavorable light. You will be the irredeemable one. and all of this will happen despite how nice you might usually be or how kind or how respectful or how warm. and you will just have to move on.

Some people need you to be a villian in their story so they can progress with their own character development.

I may not be your cup of tea, but I am somebody’s shot of whiskey

why is everything so big and round on my dash

tagged by @vamqiredollz <33

favorite color: blue! or seafoam green if we're getting specific

current read: the golden raven by nora sakavic

last song: last night by ricky montgomery

last movie: moana (my friends forced me to watch it after realizing i hadn't seen it lmao)

last series: sasaki to miyano (rewatching for the fiftieth time)

sweet, savory, or salty: sweet :)

craving: apple juice ...

tea or coffee: ... neither?

tagging @geospiral @k9punkout @bluemoonscape (if y'all would like!)

Thank you so much for the tag <33

Favorite color: Pastel yellow

Current read: Sunrise on the Reaping by Suzanne Collins

Last song: Ma Meilleure Ennemie from Arcane which is I’m sure unsurprising to several of my alien stage moots

Last movie: Star Wars: The Clone Wars (2008)

Last series: Yellowjackets

Sweet, savory, or salty: Sweeeeeet give me that pieeeeee I float towards it

Craving: Brown sugar piobtart…..

Tea or coffee: Tea, coffee unironically gives me indigestion and nausea. Listen (hands on your shoulders) ….I’m white

Let me think of moots I want to suck information from um um um @apriciticreveries @severely-gay @alien-til-i-stage @nottoonedin ok there I passed the challenge no pressure to those I tagged

tysm :DDD

favorite color: i love like all greens, so pretty

current read: not reading any books at the moment, just fics 😭 currently awaiting new chapters for like 7 different fics

last song: Skypager by A Tribe Called Quest

last movie: The Godfather

last series: School Spirits

sweet, savory, or salty: sweet every day

craving: steak ❤️ bro testosterone makes me crave red meat like crazy BUT I GET STEAK TODAY BECAUSE ITS MY SISTERS BIRTHDAY SO I AM BALLING

tea or coffee: can’t stand tea, coffee isn’t a favorite of mine either, unless it is overloaded with sugar and doesn’t taste like coffee (starbucks caramel frappuccino my beloved)

no pressure tags! (gonna try some new mutuals, or ones i’d like to know more about!!)

@imsososolesbian @orangecatsmissingbraincell @ryjkowiec and literally all of my mutuals please feel free to join!!

Favorite color: Byzantine purple

Current read: A Good Girl’s Guide to Murder

Last song: Margaritaville- Jimmy Buffet (trying to get into the Summer mindset)

Last movie: Breakfast Club (don’t even know how many times I’ve seen it but it’s so rewatchable)

Last series: White Lotus

Craving: I need green curry so bad rn. I’ll take any curry really, but a nice bowl of Thai green curry and some rice would be perfect

Tea or coffee: uhhhh i really drink both a lot. I’d say more coffee though because i love all the different coffee drinks and probably have it more regularly

Npt: @before-it-felt-like-a-sin @baked-potatoes-rule @artificialroux @puppybutcher

favorite color: dark red like burgundy or maroon (duh)

current read: the virgin suicides & tuesdays w/ morrie

last song: rosemary by deftones (oops)

last movie: she's the man (one of my favorite ever movies!!!)

last series: yellowjackets, duh

sweet, savory, or salty: salty 100% i love salt so bad i put it on everything

craving: i really really want a juicy burger right now or very crispy dino chicken nuggets 🦖

tea or coffee: coffee but only frappes i hate the taste of actual coffee

no pressure tags of some of my fav moots :33 @dippindotties @logansdogmotif @rippedpatches @antlrrqueen

TYSM FOR THE TAG WHATTT ILY RAHH <3

favourite colour: fluctuates between dark brown, light brown and light green! also purple was always my ride or die colour as a child so i'm still very locked in with it

current read: a clash of kings by george rr martin mainly! i'm also rereading the first skulduggery pleasant (by derek landy) book and also jules verne's 20,000 leagues under the sea

last song: i'm watching shameless rn so technically it's the luck you got by the high strung but the last song i actually listened to intentionally was my lady of mercy by the last dinner party

last movie: i watched young guns (1988) for the first time last week bc i was on a wild west kick but it was kinda shit so <3

last series: shameless! watching 3x01 now! also i've been watching orange is the new black, yellowjackets (duh), and finally watching the last of us in prep for season 2!

sweet, savoury, or salty? SAVOURYYYY alllll the way i could down 3 family bags of meat flavoured and/or spicy crisps in under a minute TRUST (also pasta is my shittt, and stuffing balls, and croissants, and bread!)

craving: i keep meaning to get up from the kitchen table to make myself a hot chocolate so probably that (i've been meaning to make one for three hours... hashtag i love executive dysfunction!)

tea or coffee: blackberry&blueberry flavoured herbal tea because i can't have caffeine anymore bc of a stupid week long heart problem from like a few months ago

TAGS!!! @ag1rlandagun @griffinskullz @starkstiless @moonyvvamp @cryptcorpse09 <333

favourite colour: used to be blue but i LOVE red! or like a deep maroon or plum colour? its so pretty i would wear it on me all the time if i could

current read: a game of thrones, i'm ashamed to say paused indefinitely cuz i literally have very little free time to finish💔 , but i planned on rereading a thousand splendid suns because it's so heartbreakingly beautiful 😢 and there's a line i don't quite remember but am in desperate need to find because it resonated with me and itches my brain so well and it's been in my head for months now

last song: love me not by ravyn lenae on a total whim because i heard it on tiktok and i'm a basic bitch who wanted to hear the full version SHOOT ME, but otherwise i'm so tired by fugazi cuz it's been a rough week... someone pass me a fucking bottle

last movie: BYE this is so embarrassing but firelight 1997 early this month because i'm lowkey brainrotted over stephen dillane who played stannis my beautiful autistic angel and i'm also team dragonstone brainrotted so here we are

last series: GLEE😭😭😭😭 i lowkey miss it it's so funny so i'm rewatching but OH ive started yellowjackets YAYAYAY ITS SOOO GOODDD 🐝🐝🐝 and ive been trying to finish succession because im a serial show unfinisher

sweet, savoury or salty: I DON'T KNOWW its stuck between sweet and savoury

craving: idkk maybe just a good filling meal i'm so hungry i need to stop nibbling and scavenging

tea or coffee: i don't use my free will to drink coffee it makes my tummy hurt :( so that's tea from me🤗

@itsscottiesstark @lxvenderjewel @patoslover @jayvikyuri i know some of you its been a while but yall are still super cool 🫶

asoiaf characters + quotes

please god what am i tell me what i am

Imagine being the Yellowjackets and realizing that this whole time you put all your faith and believe in your friend who you thought was “connected” to something otherworldly and now you realise she’s just mentally unwell, the cries of the wilderness were just frogs, the hallucinations you took as meaning something were just hallucinations, there was no good reason for engaging in a cannibalistic ritual, there is no “it” controlling everything it was just you and you’ve just killed your chance of going home.

omg im only on s2 i can’t wait to find out what this means

brainfog girlies make some noise if you're fuckin uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

did you know you can do anythingh with your ocs and no one can stop you.. did you know you can make aus of your ocs. you should make aus of your ocs

working on an oc and going wild with them 🤝 overcoming shame and crippling perfectionism

so much shipping in asoiaf is like literally where are we going to have the time for that. there are zombies descending on the continent as we speak. sansa is locked in a castle with a pedophile who was obsessed with her mother rn. dany is dying of starvation. FOCUS!