Introduction

Congratulations on ordering this Guide and joining me on this incredible journey of sharing the truths of the Universe with our children and teenagers. I hope you enjoy The 7 Secrets to Teaching Your Kids & Teens The Law of Attraction. Please feel free to email me your thoughts and feedback. I would especially love to hear any success stories about how you have used this guide to help you teach your children Law of Attraction Thinking. If you would like to email me a testimonial, that also would be much appreciated. All the best to you on your journey, Rhonda Ryder Founder, KidsAwakening Rhonda@kidsawakening.com Orlando, Florida

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Secret #1: Take Your Cues From Your Children

When the Student is Ready, The Teacher Will Appear
Buddhist Proverb quotes

Ive been a student of the Law of Attraction since I was 17 years old. Way before the movie The Secret came out, I was reading books about how our thoughts create our realities. The first book that introduced me to such a concept was Sermon on the Mount by Emmet Fox. Heres a quote from page 14: Now we can choose the sort of thoughts that we entertain. It will be a little difficult to break a bad habit of thought, but it can be done. We can choose how we shall thinkin point of fact, we always do chooseand therefore our lives are just the result of the kind of thoughts we have chosen to hold; and therefore they are of our own ordering; and therefore there is perfect justice in the universe.
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The first time I read this book, I sat in absolute amazement after reading each sentence. You have to understand, this is the first time I was exposed to this kind of thinking, or ready to hear it in this lifetime anyway. And the thing is, I knew at a soul level that what I was reading was true: What you focus on is what you will create in your life. The reason Im telling you all this is because its the same thing with your children and teens. If they are not ready or interested in what you want to teach them about The Law of Attraction, thats okay, because When the student is ready, the teacher will appear. Besides, there are other ways to model the thinking that you would like them to learn, and I talk about some of those ways in Secret #7. The point is not to force this way of thinking on your children or anyone. There is no need to do such a thing. You can certainly take advantage of opportunities to share your insights with your children. For instance, when they share a particular problem or concern with you, you can offer insight from a Law of Attraction point of view. If they ask questions

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and want to take the conversation further, great. If not, thats okay too. The last thing you want to do is constantly preach this stuff to your kids. Nothing could lose their interest faster. The key is to continue nurturing and feeding your own understanding of The Law of Attraction. That is the best thing you can do for your children, because the more you understand these truths, the more you will feel comfortable sharing them with your children in a way that works for all of you. The most important thing is that you take care of yourself first. Feed yourself spiritually, and you can then feed your children. Do whatever you need to do to create a sense of peace and joy in your life. This is of most importance, because your children will simply mirror whatever it is you are experiencing internally. It is so difficult to tune in to our kids when our inner and outer lives are chaotic and stressful. Your first responsibility to your children is to yourself. Create peace and joy in your life and they cannot help but follow.

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How to teach resistant teens The Law of Attraction without sending them running for their ipods!
If youre introducing The Law of Attraction or the movie The Secret to your teenager for the first time, it is not unusual for you to come up against some pretty serious resistance. Perhaps you have a well adjusted teenager or perhaps your teenager is troubled and you find yourself worrying about him or her. Of course the first step would be to examine your own thinking, because remember, what you focus on is what you are creating. However, if your teen is not receptive to The Law of Attraction and you are guided to offer him the concepts, you can get creative about how you can introduce this information to him. Always check in with Source to see what you should do and then trust the guidance that you receive. Remember, the point is not to force this way of thinking on your children or teens, but if you are guided into action to do something for a struggling teenager, its time to get creative!

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Here are some ways you can introduce The Law of Attraction to your teenager:
Have someone else they look up to talk to him about The Law of Attraction. Allow your teen to catch you in the act of meditating every day. Have someone else they look up to invite him or her to watch the movie The Secret with them. Allow your teen to overhear conversations you are having with others about how you manifested different things/circumstances/miracles in your life. Focus on the things you love about your teenager, or rediscover those things and focus on them every day. Visualize every day, seeing your teenager joyously living life. Practice the other steps outlined in this guide.

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When youre ready to learn how to apply three easy steps that can break down walls of communication and help you grow closer to your children in a matter of days or hours. . .or even seconds, begin reading Secret #2

Secret #2: Be Present

One of the best things you can do for your kids is to be present or be in the moment. Being present with your children is truly a present to them. Just think of your own needs. How does it feel when youre talking to someone and you can tell theyre not listening to you fully. You know their mind is on something else or theyre worrying about something that has absolutely nothing to do with you. How does it make you feel? Do you start thinking the person is bored with what you are saying? Does it make you feel uncomfortable? Insecure? Think about how children feel when their parents are unable to be totally present with them. What kind of message is that sending? Sure we cant all be 100% present all of the time. If we are driving a car, for instance, we also have to pay attention to the street lights, traffic and pedestrians. Yet, being in the car is the

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easiest place to be present with your children. You have to pay attention to the driving, but you can also pay attention to them at the same time.

What about teaching my child good manners?

Being present doesnt mean you have to stop everything youre doing and give your child 100% of your attention every time they want to talk to you. If you are busy and cant talk, simply tell them so and say something like, I cant talk right now because Im busy, but I want to hear all about it. Can we talk later after Im through? For many parents working at home, dealing with interruptions from your children is a constant challenge. Children often think that because the parent is home, the parent should be totally accessible. The truth of the matter is, many parents working at home have established rules and boundaries with their children and the kids know that when Mommy or Daddy is working, Mommy or Daddy should not be disturbed. However, it is important that everybody in the house knows the rules ahead of time. If you have set up such rules and you are interrupted, make sure your kids

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understand that you want to hear what they have to say and give them a concrete time, such as after lunch or at five oclock as to when you will be able to give them your undivided attention. You may also remind them of the rules. Of course, if you have a toddler at home, all of this may be a little difficult. Good luck to anyone who is trying to work at home with a toddler wandering about!

Children are more naturally in the moment then adults.

In fact, thats all little children know how to do, is be in the moment. They havent learned how to worry about the future or the past yet.

How does my being in the moment relate to teaching my kids The Law of Attraction?
One of the steps of manifesting your desires is to match the vibration of whatever it is that youre wanting. When you are in a state of joy or happiness, you have opened up yourself to receive your good and you are a vibrational match for the good that you want. It is difficult to be in a state of joy if you are worrying about the future or the past. You are not in the moment.

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Worrying about the future or the past keeps you from being in the moment. It keeps you from feeling joyful. You want to teach your children to be in the moment so that they can learn how to feel joy in the moment. . .so that they can be a wonderful receiver of their good. That is why it is so important for you to model being present to your children. If you are being in the moment with your children, they will see the possibility for themselves of being in the moment with others. Being present also allows you to fully enjoy your children. You will feel so connected with them when you are present with them, and they will feel so connected to you that they wont be able to feel anything but joyful. They can then carry that feeling of joy with them throughout their day, knowing they are loved and cherished because they are important enough for their parents to shower them with undivided attention. Thats what being present with your kids can do for them.

In fact, being consistently, totally present with your kids and teens can break down walls of communication and help you grow closer to your children in a matter of days or hours. . .or even seconds.
Lets face it. Many of us live extremely busy lives. Our intentions are well meaning. We want the best for our children, but the demands of juggling work, family and taking care of the house can sometimes be overwhelming, not to mention the addition of financial pressures, if that is the case. We want to give our children our undivided attention, but sometimes it seems simply impossible to do on any kind of a consistent basis.

That was the justification part of the conversation. The part that lets us off the hook. The part we tell ourselves to help us take away some of the guilt for not

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being able to pay full attention to our kids. I know. I am a busy parent too. But I have found that being consistently, totally present with my kids has brought us closer in an extremely short amount of time. Being consistently 100% present with your kids is the key. You will be amazed at how quickly you can develop an even greater relationship with you kids by being in the moment when you are with them. (Again, remember. . .Im not talking about when you are working, or when you are on the phone or letting your children constantly interrupt you. If you are busy, communicate that you can talk to them later, and give them a time.)

Here are three easy steps that can break down walls of communication and help you grow closer to your children in a matter of days or hours. . .or even seconds.
1. Practice being present throughout your day. When you find yourself thinking about the future or the past, bring yourself back to this present moment, and focus on the immediate task or conversation that is going on in the Now.

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2. Begin meditating every morning before you do anything else, by sitting or lying down in a comfortable position. Begin to breath in as much air as your lungs could possibly hold and hold it for a few seconds before letting it out. Do this for 15 minutes. Every time your mind starts to think about other things, bring it back to focus on your breathing. (Tip: If the thought of meditating for 15 minutes sounds impossible to you right now, start out with five minutes and work your way up to 15 minutes. This is one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself and your children.) 3. Exercise: Practice being 100% present with your kids when you are with them. All you have to do is practice listening. You dont have to fix their problems, you dont have to offer advice, all this exercise requires is that you practice listening to them. You can ask questions to make sure you understand what they are saying, and repeat back what they are saying after you have listened to make sure you understood them correctly. When youre ready to teach your children how to ask for what they want, move on to Secret #3

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Secret #3: Teach Them to Ask for What They Want

Asking for what you want or desire can be done in many ways. Its just not the conscious act of saying, I want a brand new house, or I want a such and such video game.

Do you find yourself imagining things that you want?

Imagination is also asking. For instance, imagining new friends, a great summer at a gymnastics camp . .or a beautiful dress for the prom are all examples of asking the Universe for what you want. Your children know very well how to use their imagination. They are imagination-making machines! They are always seeing pictures in their heads of what they want which in turn creates lots of good feelings that they cant help but exude everywhere they go. Perhaps its a Halloween Party theyre thinking about or the fun theyre going to have with their friends when they all go swimming together or to the movies. They are often so filled with anticipation that they cant stop talking about what theyre imagining in their minds. Have you ever witnessed such behavior from children?

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Imagining or visualizing IS asking. Children are naturally visualizing almost all of the time. The Universe responds to those good, happy feelings and guess what: The Universe grants their wishes. You can take advantage of your childs natural ability to visualize by suggesting they visualize something they really want, but are frustrated because they havent manifested it yet. True, you might not use words like manifest and visualize if they arent used to that language. Use the words that work for you and your child. Example: Say your child wants better grades or more friends, and theyve been having trouble in those areas. You can say something like this, Do you remember when you felt so excited about the Halloween party and you kept thinking about it all day long? You felt so happy about it when you thought about how much fun you were going to have? Well. . .you can do the same thing about making more friends. Close your eyes if you want and think about how much fun youre going to have with your new friends. What kinds of things will you do together? What do your friends look like? Picture yourself laughing and swimming together or playing at school during recess. How do you feel now?

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You have just taught your child how to visualize, which is a form of asking. The important thing to note here is to help your child improve their state. By improving their state, I mean helping them learn how to consciously improve their emotional state by thinking about something that makes them happy. Because in order to manifest their desires, they, like the rest of us, need to be a vibrational match to that which they want. When youre ready to discover how to teach your children the magic of believing that helps them attract what they want in their lives, move on to Secret #4.

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Secret #4: Let Go

After you have asked for something, then what? This is where many of us get stuck. I asked and nothing happened. Why isnt this working for me? It works for everyone else, but not for me. Why doesnt God (The Universe, Source) love me as much as everybody else? Im just not one of the lucky ones. Now do you think this kind of thinking raises or lowers your vibration? Lowers of course. And with a lower vibration comes a blocking, if you will, of what you want to attract. Because you are always a vibrational match for that which you receive. And you always create what you are focusing on. So, if you are thinking Im just not one of the lucky ones, then you create the experience of not being one of the lucky ones. So how, indeed, could someone who is not one of the lucky ones attract what they want? They cant! We need to teach our children and teens to believe that they are one of the lucky ones. You can actually tell them, if you so desired, that the Universe loves them and wants to give them what they desire. Some parents tell their little ones that they are powerful co-creators of the Universe and of their own life experiences.
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Yes, some people actually teach their children these very concepts from the moment they are born. Imagine if you were taught these things from the time you landed on the planet earth, right out of your mothers tummy? It is up to you what and how you want to teach your children. However, it doesnt make sense to teach children about The Law of Attraction if you do not teach them to ask and then believe that their request has been answered.

But what if their request is not answered? Wont my child be disappointed?

What do you do when you ask and your request is seemingly not granted? How do you handle your disappointment? Do you give up or do you realize that you are simply not in vibrational alignment with that which you are asking? Do you get upset and think, This Law of Attraction stuff is a bunch of $#$%&! and Im not wasting my time on it anymore, or do you think, hmmmmm, What is it that Ive really been creating here? The Law of Attraction works all the time for everyone the same way. No exception. So whatever you are receiving is what you have created.
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So just how can you and your child overcome this kind of self-defeating thinking when there seems to be no evidence that your requests have been answered?
Of course things may not always look exactly as you have envisioned. You can point this out to your child if you see how his or her request might have been answered; it just looks differently then she imagined.

Practice asking followed by letting go.

You can explain it to your child in this way: If you went to a restaurant and ordered a giant breakfast because you were really hungry of French Toast and Chocolate Chip pancakes with whip cream, would you run to the kitchen and start cooking the French Toast and pancakes yourself? Would you sit there the whole entire time worrying that the cook was going to forget your order, and say things like, The cook never gives me what I want. Why is everybody else getting what they ordered except me? I guess Im just never going to get my French Toast and chocolate chip pancakes. . . or would you simply put in your order and sit in your seat, happily awaiting the delicious meal?

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Thats the same thing with asking. We ask, we place our order and then we act as if we have already received it. In fact, we give thanks as if we have already received it. In Mike Dooleys book, Notes from The Universe, one of the notes says: Heres a little workshop On how to manifest absolutely anything. . . 1. Ask once. 2. Give thanks often. End of workshop. Isnt that awesome? Isnt that simple? All we have to do is ask once? I often forget that one! I tend to ask for the same things over and over gain because I think reminding the Universe is somehow going to help. But I like to ask in my visualization and throughout the day, but its good to know that I dont have to ask more than once!

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Letting go is perhaps the hardest part. Face it, we want to control the results. Letting go requires faith blind faith for that matter. But how can I let go when I have a mortgage to pay and no money in the bank? Interesting question. How can your teenager let go when he needs the downpayment to buy a car so he can get to work or to place on an educational trip to Paris and he has three dollars in his pocket? Yes, hes taking the necessary actions. Hes looking for ways to earn money and he is in action, but he is falling short of the money. He asks the Universe. And then he lets go of how the money will come to him. Amazing things will happen when you learn to Let Go. Letting Go is where all the magic happens and it is the often forgotten part of The Law of Attraction. Because you are actually saying to the Universe, I believe in you. I trust you. I know I am not all alone here on this planet, wandering around like a lost puppy, hoping and waiting for the next, best thing. I am a cocreator with you, the Universe and I know I have asked and now I Let Go of the results. I know you will orchestrate things and circumstances for my highest good. . .in a way that I could never have imagined!

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Amazing things will happen when you learn to Let Go. Absolutely Amazing. Wouldnt you like to teach your children how to Let Go and Trust the Universe? Teach them to ask for what they want. They can write it down in a journal or make a dream board. Teach them to feel the emotions of how it would feel to actually have what theyre asking for right now. Teach them to say Thank You to the Universe for granting their wants before they have already received what they have asked for. Tech them to say thank you as if it has already happened, as if its already theirs. And teach them to let go. No need to keep asking. No need to keep doubting or wondering. . .is today the day? Is it going to happen? Does this stuff really work? Naaaaa, it doesnt. My brother was right. This is crazy stuff. Just let go and see what happens. You will be amazed and your kids they will re-learn the magic of their own creative powers. To discover the nuts and bolts of teaching kids and teens the importance of taking action in the direction of their dreams, then turn the page to begin Secret #5.

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Secret #5: Teach Kids to Take Action in the Direction of Their Dreams
Is taking action part of the Law of Attraction formula?
Yes! There has been much criticism about The Secret saying that it suggests that you can wish or visualize yourself into having something you want without taking any action. The movie is labeled by many as a watered down version of positive thinking. Just visualize what you want and Poof it is yours. I do not believe thats whats implied in The Secret. I think the message of taking action is integral throughout the entire movie. Most spiritual leaders will also tell you that you cannot expect to achieve your goals if you are unwilling to take action. If you want to start a business, for instance, you have to take the necessary steps. No matter how long you sit in your chair and meditate, nothing is going to happen unless you file the paperwork, make the phone calls or hire someone else to do it. Otherwise what you are doing is living some kind of pie-in-the-sky fantasy with which you are not willing to do the work.
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The Law of Attraction does not mean that you simply visualize something and it appears. Perhaps that happens for some and if you have reached a level of spiritual enlightenment that you can make something appear just by thinking about it, please let me know. Id love to interview you for my next book! But for the rest of us, I believe we need to take the appropriate actions in the direction of our dreams. The Universe will do the rest.

You Dont Have to Figure Out The How

The distinction here lies in the fact that while you need to take action, you do not have to figure out the How. In other words, you dont have to figure out How your End Result is actually going to manifest. Just do whats in front of you to do. The Universe will figure out the rest. Follow your guidance. Mediate every day so you can get in touch with your Source. Then ask yourself each day, what I am guided to do today? If your teenager is starting an Internet business, for instance, she would need to decide what the product or service is going to be, do some research, get the hosting set up, choose a url, get the website designed and then market the

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website. Like any entrepreneur, she might not have everything figured out. And thats okay. The important thing is that she visualizes her End Result. What is her ultimate goal? Here are some examples: Make more than enough money to buy a new car Become a world traveler this summer Start investing in stocks and live a luxurious lifestyle Buy my parents a nice gift for their anniversary Be the best dressed kid in school Travel to Africa with church youth group to help the starving children Help your child or teen identify his or her End Result, take the appropriate actions and not worry about how its all going to come together. Let the Universe work its magic! This is a valuable lesson for your children.

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Say your son wants to get into a certain college but his grades are low. Should he just close his eyes and visualize better grades? Yes, it will be most helpful for him to visualize, but there are also other logical, appropriate actions he needs to take. We must do all we can so the Universe can do all it can. But its not our responsibility to orchestrate the turn of events which will work in your favor. The Universe does that for you. If I think back on how certain things have happened for me, I could not have planned it out better if I tried. I had no way of knowing that attending a seminar in Atlanta and meeting person A would lead me to person B which would lead me to an interview with person C that would skyrocket my career. Just like your children wont know exactly how things will turn out, neither will you. And you can bet things wont turn out exactly how you envisioned or asked. Because your Higher Self knows whats best for you. You see, we dont see the whole picture. We dont know everything at our current level of consciousness. So how could we possibly do a better job at planning and

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arranging things to our own benefit than the Universe who does know the whole picture? We cant! Its that simple. Our job as parents is to teach our children to take the appropriate actions. If thats creating a plan, then so be it, but dont think for one moment that the Universe is going to follow your childs plan! The Universe has a plan of its own and it is far better than anything you or your child could have ever dreamed up. However, your child may still be guided to write a plan. The point is for us to do what is in front of us to do. Encourage your child to check with spirit and ask Whats next? What actions should I take? Always check in with spirit. As a matter of fact, it is a good idea to begin every day with a 15-minute mediation. Connect with your source and then check in with spirit all day long for guidance. Trust the guidance you receive and follow your instincts throughout the day. Your instincts are your guidance system. Teach your children and teens to do the same. If they have not grown up with mediation and they think its peculiar or not for them, allow them to catch you in the act of meditating every day. Even if you

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have to sit in the living room where it is noisy in order for them to see you meditating, do it. Allowing them to see you meditating is an important part of modeling behavior, which I speak about in Secret #7. This is all information you can teach to your children, but our job as parents is to first understand it ourselves. Then teach it to your children. A Bonus: Did you know that the best way to learn is to teach others? You will find your understanding deepening as you teach these concepts to your children and teens. And likewise, always encourage your children to share what theyve learned with others when they feel guided to do so. When youre ready to discover how to talk to your children about the benefits of remaining in optimum Receiving Mode so they can receive their good, then turn the page to begin Secret #6.

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Secret #6: Teach Them How to Be in Receiving Mode

Weve talked previously about how important it is to be a vibrational match for that which you want to receive, but what exactly does that mean, and how can we teach this to our kids and teens? Heres a quick true story that demonstrates how you can use real life circumstances to teach The Law of Attraction to your kids. One day my husband and I went out to the mall and to lunch with our two kids. My 14-year-old son was in a particularly bad mood that day and it was interesting how things proceeded for him. I kept teasing him (which I dont necessarily recommend doing) by saying, Honey, you need to Think Happy Thoughts! because one thing after another seemed to go wrong for him on that day. We ordered our food in the restaurant and the waitress brought everyones meal to the table except his! The waitress explained that they simply forgot to make his food. When his meal did finally arrive, it was completely the wrong thing and he was very frustrated once again. We were all done with our food by the time his

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food came. And then, to make matters worse, the waitress spilled a soda on his foot (and he was wearing flip flops, so his entire foot was all sticky!). I teased my son again, Think Happy Thoughts! Despite his resistance, I think he finally began to take my advice. Now, I wouldnt normally use the phrase Happy Thoughts to a teenager, but I was simply being playful with him that day and trying to help him out in a lighthearted manner. For a younger child, the term Happy Thoughts works real well. The point of the matter is, if someone is in a lower vibration (anger, sadness, depression, etc.) they are not a vibrational match to the things, circumstances or relationships that they want to create. Being in a negative vibration is like placing a shield around you, blocking all the good from coming in. The good is there, ready to pop into your life, but youve got to be able to receive it. Part of being in receiving mode for the good you want to attract is feeling good. If youre not feeling good, catchers mitt in hand, ready to accept your gifts by feeling Happy Thoughts, your gifts will most likely be delayed. You will be attracting things, but you will be attracting what you are focusing on. If you are
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feeling sad or angry, you cannot possibly be focusing on what you want. You are focusing on what you dont want which is causing you to be sad or angry. What will you attract? What you dont want, because thats what you are focusing on. Now little children can usually understand this much more easily than teenagers or adults. Thats why if youve been lucky enough to start your children early on The Law of Attraction thinking, you most likely experience less resistance from your children regarding the subject. However, if you are like me and have begun to teach your children The Law of Attraction at 10 and 14, have no fear. Everything happens exactly as it is supposed to, and there are no accidents as you know. We have all agreed on a soul level to join together as parent and child before we were born. The point is, dont worry about what age you are introducing these concepts to your children. The important thing is for you to focus on understanding these teachings yourselffirst. You cannot teach something that you dont understand.
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Explain to your children and teenagers that they can ask for what they desire, take appropriate action, give thanks for already receiving what theyve asked for, but theyve also got to do whatever they can do to put themselves in a goodfeeling place. In other words, if they are feeling down and at a lower vibration, they will have a hard time manifesting what they want. Instead of manifesting what they want to attract, they will be manifesting what they dont want to attract because that is what they are focused on.

What to do with negative feelings?

There is much debate over what to do with negative feelings or subconscious beliefs that might be sabotaging your ability to manifest your desires. The truth of the matter is we are always creating, whether we are thinking happy thoughts or not so happy thoughts. So whatever youre thinking is more of what youre going to get. If youre thinking, I dont have enough money to pay the bills, just like it says in The Secret, youll get more of that experience of not having enough money to pay the bills.

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However, as a parent myself, if my child is feeling sad, Im not about to tell him or her to stop feeling what theyre feeling because theyre going to create more negativity in their life. Instead, I ask them questions, just to get them to express themselves. Im not necessarily trying to solve their problem, because most of the time, all everybody really wants is to be heard. If you give your child the gift of really getting them and hearing them, that in itself will usually raise your childs vibration. However, it is helpful to explain the concept of how The Law of Attraction works and how if they want to attract something really good into their life, they will need to create those happy kinds of feelings. As Esther Hicks explains in her work, it is difficult to go from depression to happiness in one jump. But you can move yourself incrementally up the ladder. You can go from depression to anger and then from anger to sadness and so on and so on, working your way up the ladder to love and joy.

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To a teenager, you can say something like, feel positive emotions. This doesnt mean they are to bury negative emotions or experiences and never talk about them. Encourage your children to share their challenges and disappointments with you, but teach them how The Law of Attraction works so they can have choices. Teach them that they have the power within them to change their emotional state. They have the power within them to attract what they want into their lives. Never invalidate your childs sadness, but let them know they have options and let them know that the sooner they work their way through it and move up the ladder to feeling happy, the sooner they will start attracting what they want. When youre ready to discover how modeling behavior is one of the all time greatest parenting techniques to teach your children just about anything youd like to teach them, turn the page to the final secret in this guide, Secret #7.

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Secret #7: Model Behavior

We inherit a lot from our parents. We learn how to be in the world. We learn what to expect. We learn what to attract. Should I expect good things or bad? Do good things happen to people in our family. . .or is that left for more privileged people? Are my parents generally happy people, or are they depressed? Teach you children to expect little and they will. Teach them to expect miracles and they will. So whats a parent to do when they themselves are going through a hard time? Should they hide their feelings from their children in fear that they might be setting a bad example? That is a very interesting question. I dont think a parent should do such a thing. Sure, you may not want to have a heated argument with your spouse in front of your kids, but you cannot really hide sadness or depression from you children. It is impossible to do so. They pick up on just about everything.

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Why not use the opportunity to be honest with your children and tell them that youre feeling sad and that you know you need to work your way up the emotional ladder to feeling better so you can start attracting what you want instead of what you dont want. This is a perfect opportunity to teach them. There is no point in feeling guilty about not feeling happy all the time. Guilt will not do you or your kids any bit of good. Be straight with your kids. Theyll know how you are really feeling, no matter how big of a happy face you put on because remember, we are all vibrational beings. Your children can sense what kind of mood youre really in. Again, your first responsibility is to take care of yourself. Do whatever you need to do to get yourself in a place of peacefulness and joy. Sure, things come up and we have challenges. Again, work through it and dont beat yourself up, but know that your first responsibility is to learn and understand the spiritual truths yourself and apply them to your life so that you can then teach them to your children.

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An Example of Modeling Behavior

I always had a hard time with the concept of marriage because I thought marriage was a terrible thing. My parents always fought; they were extremely angry at each other most of the time, or at least thats how I remember it. And so, I never really knew how to have a healthy marriage. That behavior was not modeled for me when I was young. And so I had several difficult relationships resulting in one divorce and one breakup with my sons father. Now I am married to a wonderful man, but at 46 years old, I am still learning from others how to treat a man in a healthy marriage relationship. I love to visit my in-laws because they have such a beautiful, respectful relationship. I watch them and I learn. You see, I am learning from modeling others who have what I consider to be happy, healthy relationships, even at my age! You are constantly teaching your children through your behavior. From the moment they are born they are looking to you for clues about how to act and what to expect.

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Your children will learn from you how to look at the world. Is the world a safe, exciting wonderful paradise or is it a scary, dangerous drama? Surely we can all learn new things and were not stuck with the viewpoint of life that our parents have modeled for us. There is usually a lot of re-programming that needs to be done to replace old beliefs with new ones. The most important thing you can do for yourself and your children is to constantly seek to raise your vibration. Many critics of The Secret say that the movie skips the ever-important step of feeling your feelings and healing them before you attempt to manifest your desires. They say thats why The Secret doesnt work for everyone because it cannot work if you are not allowing yourself to heal core beliefs in your subconscious that are blocking you from getting what you want. The trick is not to dwell in the pain forever. Feel it, heal it and move on. Easier said than done in some instances. Remember this, Do your best, and let the Universe do the rest.

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My point is simply this: get to feeling joy whatever way you can. If you just experienced a death in the family or you are feeling sad for whatever reason, then feel sad. Always remember (whenever you can) that you are modeling behavior. You want your children to be able to express their emotions, both happy and sad. Validate your childrens emotions, both happy and sad and teach them that they have the power to attract what they want in their life by using all the tools described in these 7 Secrets. Yes, there are more tools and understandings to discover on the path then outlined in this Guide. There is always more because the Universe is forever expanding. All the best to you on your adventure of parenting your beautiful children. You chose each other before you arrived here on Earth, so there is much that you have already agreed upon to experience together. Trust the process and know that it is all perfect and designed for your highest good.

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